I know they say getting over one's first relationship is the hardest but it can definitely be done. Why do I feel that the only true way to get over a relationship is to find someone else? Even if it's not love in the beginning, it might be later. Though it is so wrong, why does it seem so right?
My ex broke it off with me because we lacked communication issues from the start. I had trust issues with him, as well. Being my first relationship, and not his, I was very picky about the way things were but I always thought honesty was the best policy. I am also going to move cities away from my home soon enough as well. What should I do? Sometimes I miss him like crazy and other times, I'm alright. We don't really talk as much, at all, or anything. I tried occupying my mind but sometimes, the pain keeps coming back.
I won't say it is very easy getting over someone. But at long as you maintain a positive outlook you won't really get depressed. Keep telling yourself that it wasn't going to work out anyway. And think about the faults because of which you guys broke up.
And to avoid thinking about him occupy yourself with something .. Something that will keep you busy for most part of the day.
And dating someone else is not a solution at all. How can you give your best into another relashionship when you're not over the first?
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I'm a highschool student and this year has been rough for me. I have very few friends. I have low confidence, low self-esteem, and i am really insecure. I'm always feeling like I'm being judged by everyone I walk by. I feel like I'm not important and no one cares about me or of me. I don't feel accepted at my school. What can I do?
Don't worry.
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I love my boyfriend more than anything, and last month I realised that he lies. Quite a lot. But he only lies about the insignificant things? For example, what time he got up that morning (to avoid sounding lazy). We argued over the matter, and ever since I've been unsure as to whether or not he's changed. I haven't caught him out but that doesn't mean he isn't lying. Should I be worried?
You never really can trust a person who lies. I had a boyfriend too. We recently broke up. I loved him a lot and he used to lie about insignificant things too. I thought it wouldn't be a problem and really didn't bother. But then I found out he was cheating on me and since he was so good at lying I came to know quite late. I'll say just be aware and talk it out with your guy.
You don't wanna be with someone who doesn't tell you the truth, do you?
A relashionship is based on trust and you do need to tell your patner the truth how much ever insignificant it is.
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well im getting braces and i was wondering eat u can and camnot eat
I had braces too. Well, I still have retainers. When you have braces you can eat anything which is not TOO hard to bite. You shouldn't have a problem with the braces on leaving aside the occasional pain you face when your dentist will tighten them!
Have fun :D
and you can experiment with different colors too :)
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So there's this guy I text. We've texted for awhile on and off and we have a class together. Well lately he's been telling me to text him after school more. He has a girlfriend and something happened to where we don't openly talk anymore like we used to. We give subtle hints about things but we mainly watch what we say I know he likes me and I'm not looking for advice on that or criticism on him texting me and flirting when he has a girlfriend.. I just want to know what are things that can keep our convo interesting. I try to think of things to actually get him to really talk to me. He's kinda private.
PLEASE & THANK YOU
You could talk about anything happening. or something you both have intrest in.
Or maybe play a truth and dare kind of a game on text! (it's actually fun) and you get to know a person much much better by doing that!
try it out..
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I like this guy and he did like me but now he dosent I still like him he is in my class and it is so hard to fet over him today wen we were in line I had to go stand bye him and he was like mannnn and the. Went behind his friend it makes me sad wen tht happens but how do I get over a guy I like but dosent like me back im 13 and in 6 grade im female
SEE I won't say it is easy to get over someone you like. I have been through your situation and am going through somewhat a similar situation right now too.
Just try spending time with your friends and other people. Try getting to know other people. Make new friends. Find some hobby. Just try to keep yourself busy all the time with something or the other. Eventually you will stop thinking about him. And if the guy has no intrest in you, there is no point holding on to him. I am sure there are much much much better people out there who would reciprocate your feelings :)
Try finding them!
Hope I helped.
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Yesterday as I was getting ready to leave the gym, I saw a note sitting on my car window. It read "Hey, saw you going into the gym as I was leaving. You are beautiful! Life is too short to miss an oppurtunity. If you are available or interested shoot me a text: (phone number). Have a great evening- (His name). " Obviously, I was/am flattered! There are 2 ways to take that though, it can either be really creepy or really nice. I am debating wether to text him or not. If I do, when should I? Wait a few days or now? Don't want to seem desperate. But also don't want him to think I'm not interested.
If I would have been in your situation, I would have been flattered too. But the only thing that would have worried me was, If this guy is even worth taking a chance on?
Leave texting.. Why don't you call him up(from some random number I would suggest, not yours) and just shoot a random conversation? Try to tell him you want to find him on Facebook or something and then check him out?
Be sure he is a good guy before actually meeting him up or giving him your number.
But yeah, It is worth taking a chance on! ;)
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With my cousins and my siblings, it's always revenge. Whenever we do something bad to someone, whether accident or not, we always do something worse to that person. All except me. I think what they're doing is wrong. What can I do?
You could maybe try to make them understand that revenge is not the only solution.
Try to talk it out.. And figure an alternate way. I feel sometimes forgiveness works better than revenge.
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I'll start out by telling you.. my sister and I have never got along, my parents haven't really been there for me growing up either, with saying that.. I am 18 years of age.
I met my bf "C" through my sister in January of 2010. They met in the marine core, and he came to visit her at our home for a few days, me and him didn't really speak.
She was engaged to Alex her bf, at that time, and now married to him.
So while she was engaged she cheated on Alex several times, with other guys..
Well I've been "dating" C for 8 months now, since the 1st of July.
We haven't really been on a date or everything, so call it what you want, we've been talking on the phone for these 8 months. We've had our arguements and such as normal relationships do, we've skyped plenty, sent each other pictures, videos.. etc I've stayed faithful the whole time, and so has he.
My parent's dont like him...
literally last week I found out, he and my sister madeout... back when they were friends and he came to visit her, before he even thought about talking to me.
I had a idea because my sister puts out with every guy and I've asked "C" before if anything happened between them though and he denied it.
He has lied before, about drinking. He has a drinking problem.. once he starts, he doesn't stop.
My parents know about this situation, my mom says its digusting that hes kissed my sister and wants to be with me.
"C" is 20 years old, and I have told him my most personal kept secrets that nobody else knows.. we've talked basically everyday for 8 months now.
He's supposed to come see me in two weeks from now, and stay for 3 weeks in a hotel, just so we can see each other, rather than go see his family.
I'm really just not sure what to think, should I leave him because he used to like my sister?
The way we started talking was, he called my house asking 2 talk to my sis or my mom and they weren't here, so we started talking.. and from then on, we talked everyday...
Should I leave him because of something happened between him and my sis before he even talked to me?
My sister and I are not close in any way and I cannot stand her.
Thanks to all answers and anyone who takes the time to read this.
I think you shouldn't break up with him just because he used to like your sister before you guys started dating. He didn't know about you till then.. And anyway you sister is married now( so it's not like he can go and be with her anymore) And why would he want to be with her also? If he has been talking to you for the past eight months and is coming too see you and not going to visit his family.. He definately must be liking you a lot..
And maybe he didn't want to tell you the truth because he was scared about what you would think of him? I feel you should meet him and spend some time with him.
As far is your mom is concerned, it is natural for her to hate him. Any mom would dislike a guy who tries to make out with one of her daughters and then goes out with the other. It is, but natural. I think she is just concerned.
I feel this guy deserves a chance.Try him out and try to forget about the past.
Hope I hepled!
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Ok so I'm 15, in highschool,I'm about 5'3 I'm thick I have brown hair with blondehighlights medium length it's straight,and brown eyes and very few breakouts, I have alot of friends and they all tell me I'm gorgeous,but Im always telling myself I'm not I like this guy and he likes me back were tLking Nd I figured since I have. Bf I'll think of myself more positively,but no o still think I'm ugly and I want to do something about it,can anyone please help! I want both teenage boy and girl advice but mainly boys advice...Please help!!!!((;
You are beautiful, trust me :)
brown hair with blond highlights is amaziiiiiing :D I wish I could get highlights too. And trust me brown eyes are sexy ;)
You just need to be more positive. Don't critisize yourself this much! You are beautiful and you have friends to remind you that ..Just try not to overjudge your beauty!
Hope I helped.
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i liek this guy but he is 16 and i am 13 and when we made out he told his friends ((their my friends too))and now they make fun of us and i like him a lot and he likes me im sure but i thnk he is restrained from goign out wiht me because he is embarrassed from our friends what should i do?
If you think he is embarresed then just keep talking to him and hanging out with him.. your friends can't govern your choices. Its your life, and your choice. Live it the way you want to live it.
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So, I am a 16 year old girl, 11th grade. There is this really cute boy that I see in the hallway quite frequently. We don't know who eachother is so I can't say like "oh, I think he is slightly interested" he is just cute and I would like to get to know him but since he is a senior we don't even have classes together. I think it will be weird to just see him in the hall and strike up a conversation. So guys, if a girl you didn't know did that, what would you think? And girls, if you were in my situation, what you would do? Thanks everyone!
The same thing happenes with me SO MANY times!
You should realise its your life. And this life is short.. so do what you feel like doing, girrl because its not going to come back!
It doesn't matter if he is a senior or in your class just go and say 'hi'and strike up a conversation and if you feel ackward about striking up a conversation like that ..just go and take advice about some common subject you have!
Just be confident. There is nothing wrong with going and saying 'hi' to someone you don't know properly..
If you are lucky enough then you will have the guy in no time ;)
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So theres this boy I like--- Story of my life I know--- but I dont know if he likes me too. We make effort to talk, buts its mainly about school. To drop a hint, I told him how I thought dark blue eyes were really cute (he has blue eyes) and he caught on, but thats it. Sometimes we walk to class together, but does this mean he likes me too?
(((I am a 13 year old girl)))
The guy may like you and he might be shy to drop hints.
You can may be ask him to hang out with you after school? You could go somewhere and just sit and talk about things other than school. That might work out and make it clear to you if he likes you or not!
Contact me if you need more help with this!!
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I like this guy, but I'm not sure if he likes me. I told him that I like him in February, but all he said was oh. I'm trying to find out if he likes me or not. I met him four years ago, and I've had a crush on him ever since. Now i REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY like him, but I don't know if he likes me. The week before I told him, he told me he liked someone else. What do I do? How do I know if he likes me? PLEASE HELP!!!
Okay. Well, are you both good friends? Try to talk to him and spend time with him. I am not very sure from his reply if he really likes you or not. Maybe it wasnt a very good time to tell him because he had just told you he liked someone else.
Try finding out what he thinks about you through your mutual friends thats the only thing you can do here if you REALLY like him!!
And if you need any further help feel free to contact me.
Many times I've been in the same situation and it gets very confusing when you can't figure anything out. Just try to strike up some conversation with him and try to get to find out what he thinks about you.
And do update me on what happened, I will be ever ready to help you =)
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Me and my boyfriend of a year and a half have been going through a really rough time in our relationship. We have been trying to take some time apart in hopes that it will help. Unfortunetly it has done the exact opposite because he has been thinking that i am going around with some other guy. I haven't though, i have barely left my house. And now I have permanently destroyed the relationship i think because I completely freaked out and lost it. i told him that i did sleep with some one even though i didnt. i dont know why i even said that to him but now i dont know what to do. Is there anything at this point that i can even do?
Go tell him you only said it cause you were mad. try to make him understand you hardly went out of the house and were quite busy for cheating on him. If he doesnt trust you then I think you should not be with him anymore. If he doesnt trust you then how will he love you unconditionally??
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there are so many personalities that i wish to acquire. but when i look at it from a big picture, i think its impossible. it might be a little confusing, sorry. i talked to my mom about it and she said i should just be myself and be who I am and not try to be anyone else.
i GET THAT. i'm not trying to change myself and be somebody else.. i'm just trying to try different personalities out and be different.
for example. i want to have multiple personalities like bad-ass, innocent and shy, loud and social, artistic.
i'm so sorry if this is confusing. i just dont know how to put it in words. maybe this will help. i love people watching. i love observing things. (doesnt just have to be people) when i see someone interesting, i pick out the things i like about them. In the movie "i am number four" i saw the "number 6" girl and thought wow she is so bad ass i want to be just like her. i started looking for leather jackets and tried to have the same attitude as her. i really like the quality of bad-ass. i want people to see me as bad-ass. I see other girls in my school who look pretty, girly, and innocent. I think to myself- i want to be like her. I want to have a girly side and look innocent and beautiful. then i wake up earlier some days and put on more makeup than usual and wear girly clothes. i feel good about myself. I'l see another girl who is very artistic and loves photography and kinda like a hippie with the whole peace look. I bought a bag with a peace symbol on it and i even bought a new camera to motivate me to get interested in photography. (which i am interested in)
do you get my point? I feel like i want to have all these different personalities. I dont want to be seen as just one personality girl. I want to be different things. i want to be bad-ass a few days and then have my girly side, but still be artistic and geeky.
also, i wouldnt be changing who i am FYI. i'm still me. i still have my personality which makes me up. i would just attach more personalities to me. its not like i'm removing who i am. its still there inside me. i just want to be diverse and get involved with different personalities.
this isn't really a question haha sorry. i guess i'm just asking for advice? any opinions on what you think? thanks!
It is perfectly normal. I do this too. You dont need to worry. I happens when you get inspired by this certain character and you wanna be like that!
It is perfectly normal but just be careful about not doing something that will cause you harm in this process..
Like people can go into the wrong direction too when they try to copy someone they have seen in a movie or something.
Take care.
Hope I helped!
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okay so like how do u no if a guy likes you? or like how can you tell if hes flirting or likes you or wants to kiss or be more than friends? guys confuse mee helpp!!
It shows. He will call you up to check on you. He would want to meet you up and hang out with you. Keep texting you all the time even if he is out or in a party. Some guys are shy and dont really open up and show thier feelings. But you get to know if they like you or not by the things they do.
If he wants to be friends with you and considers you a close buddy, he will always seek advice from you to guide him or just be playful around you. He will treat you like any of his buddies.
If he likes you, he will keep telling you, you are gorgeous and pretty.. And keep complementing you. The things he will do will show that he likes you. And as far as kissing goes, it will happen. Its meant to be natural and not planned. I know it seems unnatural but its better if it just happens and is not planned.
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So last night I was at a dance it was kinda boring but the my group went to dinner and around ten I decided to text the guy I liked who said he couldn't come to the dance bc he switched schools like a week before the dance and so I went some other guy but I couldn't stop thinking about the guy I liked so I texted him and the whole night no response and I felt stupid now this morning I wake up and it says he texted me back at 2 am well I fell asleep at one so now I feel even more stupid what and when should I text him bc last time a while ago I texted him back in the morning around 12 and he didn't respond after that should I wait till tonight or what?
Maybe he was just caught up with something. And if you really like him, why dont you just call him up to check on how he is doing? and how is new school is! Just strike up a random conversation. Talk to him.Maybe you will grow close in a while, and then you can start hanging out and stuff. And as far as texting is concerned, reply when he does.
Hope I helped.
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So i have a boyfriend and i dated someother guy on the internet like 8 times & we r friends now, we haven't met like hang out only have seen eachother like 3 times and he said he wants to go back with me but i dont know because i love both of them.. /: help! i dont wanna hurt anyone :(
i know distant relation ships arent worth it but im in love with him and my bf /:
First of all, you should be faithful. Trust me if your boyfriend knows about this he will hate you forever..
Second, Ive been in a few long distance relashionships and they really dont work out because whenever you have a fight or disagreement, meeting up and sorting it out is way better than on the phone. And long distance means meeting up very rarely. But some long distance relashionships do work. My best friend is in one since the past year.
But if you really like this guy and the feeling is mutual from his side too then you should leave your current boyfriend. But please dont cheat on him, that would be terrible :(
You have to pick ONE. Sit down and think about it. I was in a similar situation and I gave up my boyfriend for this other guy because I did not want to hurt him. That is much better than cheating. Because I still talk to him and we do meet up :)
I am sure you want a happy ending to all of this.
Hope I helped.
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I saw a few weeks ago that my ex finally joined facebook, but I never friend requested him since I had the fear of him hating me or something. The other day I decided what the hell, why not. If he accepts me, he accepts me; If he doesn't, he doesn't.
Well, he did accept me after all. I didn't say anything to him, I just left it at the accepted friend request. Then he wrote on my wall several minutes later saying "Wow this is crazy, I swear I was just looking for you on this the other day".
And he asked for my number in a message.
So what does it mean ?
I should take it slow, right ??
First of all, you have to tell me why you had broken up in the first place and what had happened?
Are you keen on getting back wth him?
Maybe you are interpreting the whole thing in a different way. Maybe he doesn't hate you but just wants to be friends with you for old times sake.
But maybe he does have intentions of getting back with you and maybe he still likes you and never got over you.
I feel you should let him do whatever he wants to do and sit back and watch. Accordingly you will be clear on what his intentions are in a while. Dont think about this too much. And let him call you and message you first. If you even talk to him or meet him up just be your usual friendly self. And dont start liking him just now. Make sure he likes you too before letting go.
Hope I helped.
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