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Boyfriend bother - lying.
I love my boyfriend more than anything, and last month I realised that he lies. Quite a lot. But he only lies about the insignificant things? For example, what time he got up that morning (to avoid sounding lazy). We argued over the matter, and ever since I've been unsure as to whether or not he's changed. I haven't caught him out but that doesn't mean he isn't lying. Should I be worried?
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His insignificant lies could mean he's trying to please you.."to avoid sounding lazy.." Haven't you ever lied to your parents about making the bed, walking the dog, or how late you stayed up last night? It's totally normal, everybody lies. Me, you and Obama. So give him a break.
BUT if his lying turns out to be something like "I went to see my parents last night" when really he was out with friends doing heaven knows what, then I would be worried.
To break it down insignificant lies are innocent, often material: chores, losing something, what he thinks of your look, what he thinks of your friends, time he got up= don't worry.
Serious lies: who he was out with, where he was, something he did, a very odd time of day (got home at 1am instead of 10pm), being hypocritical, something he claims he didn't do, but did= be worried
Otherwise sounds like he's trying to please you
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You never really can trust a person who lies. I had a boyfriend too. We recently broke up. I loved him a lot and he used to lie about insignificant things too. I thought it wouldn't be a problem and really didn't bother. But then I found out he was cheating on me and since he was so good at lying I came to know quite late. I'll say just be aware and talk it out with your guy.
You don't wanna be with someone who doesn't tell you the truth, do you?
A relashionship is based on trust and you do need to tell your patner the truth how much ever insignificant it is.
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Ending a relationship based on assumption isn't really something you want to do. Trust me, I've been in a relationship and I've made some pretty bad assumptions about my boyfriend which led to anger issues and trust issues I had with him. Why can't he just be honest with you about it because lying about that shouldn't be a big deal, but if it is a constant, then its kinda strange.
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You shouldn't be with someone that you don't trust. If you don't have any real solid proof he's lying, you need to explain why you think he is and find a way you guys can either work together or break up.
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