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Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 4 months. I love him so much but when ever he says I love you to me I dont belive it. He knows I dont. He kind of gets angry because I wont belive when he says it. Why wont I belive it? Is there something wrong with me?

you've only been with him for four months. Maybe he thinks thats what you want to hear, so he's giving it to you. Give him a while, he may not be in love quite yet. Eventually he will be.

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14/f
summer is coming up and i am going to be swimming ALOT. i got my period at the very end of last summer so i didnt have to worry about swimming. but now that this summer is getting closer i am considering tampons so i can swim whenever i want. my questions are what brand of tampons are best and should i start now so i will be more confortable or will it matter?

thank you.

tampax definately. Start with the lowest flow, and now. Then after a few periods you'll figure out which levels right for you and you'll be all set for swimming!

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well i think im really in love and at the movies this guy that i'm gong out with touched my boobS and i think it was by acident. but than he did it again but he sqizzed them and .. i liked it . than he touched my pussy... and when i say this i mean he went into my pants and fingerd me during a movie than we started making out. He soon took me out of the movie and we had sex. i'm 13!
i'm a A/B student i have lots of freinds and i'm a good girl. (When this happined 3 weeks ago, i hadn't even had my 1st kiss yett... so that made it ever weirdr)
wut should i do?

Well, thats moving quick. But whats done is done. Next time, make sure its what you really want to do before you do it.

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im 13 and ive never had my period but ive ad the white stuff that comes before it for like 2 years. is this normal? and how long after the white stuff does your period come? thanks a lot.

the white stuff says around ever after your period starts, though its not as heavy. And don't worry its completely normal. Plus, rejoice in the days before it starts, its a bugger when it does

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what if you like somoone but they think ur just a friend

hmm.. thats a tough one. Well, what you should do depends on how much you wanna risk. If you want to act on your feelings, you have to know that he might freak out, and you won't be friends, or it'll be weird. If I were you, hint that you like him. Smile, at him, flirt, touch his arm, then, if your pretty sure he has similar feelings ask him out.

hope I helped!
some girl

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what is the difference between foundation, concealer, and powder. and are u supposed to use all three at once (i have acne) and i rate 5's

concealers mostly for individual spots. Foundations to give you an all over even skin tone, and powder i use to get rid of shinyness. Anyways I had acne too, but I went to my doctor, and now I only get a few pimples now and then. If you wanna know the stuff I use, write me back if you want.

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Ok there is this kid at my school and he likes me but he is just EW!Well he always tells his friends all theese stuff like I want to touch her ass and all and his friend tells me.Well I have told him over and over that I dont like him or get lost and all I started out rejecting him really nicly and all I didnt want to hurt his feeling but now I just cant help to be mean.. He is really nice and all but he is ugly and to nasty for me he alway can find 1 word and turn it into something sexaul

Well, you shouldn't judge by looks, but he's a jerk. Try to find him somebody else to bother. Or, well i'm not saying this will work, but maybe try actually accepting him for a minute. Like, freak him out. He probably just thinks its a game now, he'll never expect you to actually respond to him. I dunno, something to think about.

some girl

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My boyfriend wants me to kiss him before he kisses me. At least I think so. It seems like it because after we go somewhere together...for example we went to the movies. When I got home i was talking to one of his friends online and he said hows come you didnt kiss him? And I think he should kiss me first!!! What should I do??

kiss him. It's 2005, girls have just as much right to iniciate a kiss or ask a guy out as they do. However, personally I find it funner if the guy goes first. Anyways why don't you kiss him, and then the next time, it can be his turn. He'll get the hang of it, he's porbably just nervous.

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I have many friends that live in Belleville, Illinois. They all miss me when I am in St. Louis, Missouri. I go to Belleville with my best friends father and all of us are really close. I go there maybe 1 to 2 days every week. Maybe every other week. Should I leave my friendships behind over in Belleville? I hate missing them so much and I have went out with a couple of them. And of course I still have major feelings for a few of them. I want to forget the past and go on with the future. Hard part is that I dont know if I want all of them in my future.Can you help?

KEEP YOUR FRIENDS!! I've moved around a lot, so I try to keep in contact with my friends. Its great when you get to visit them. But, it doens' mean that you can't make new friends where you live now. Visit your old friends once a week or once every 2 weeks. The ones who stay your friends are going to be your friend for a long time.

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well i guess i have been sort of seeing this guy for the past like month or so but we arent bf and gf. im 17 hes 20 if that matters...anyways he usually texts me while im in school and picks me up and we hang out every monday and we also hang out on like friday and other days too but the point is every monday i believe since i met him we have hung out well todaii he didnt call me or text me or anything so im not quite sure.. the last time we hung out was on friday and he didnt act any different and what not but im confused on why he didnt call me today maybi he wanted to see if i would call him ? so basically my question is do u think he still wants to keep hanging out and maybi he didnt call cuz hes busy and should i call i him even tho its too late to hang out today?

I would wait till thursday and call him to ask if he wants to do something on friday. Its okay for him not to call you ONCE. Unless it happens a lot, its okay. Je probably just had to work on a project or something. Anyways hope I helped!

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well on friday night i went to the movie with my best friend and we saw a scary movie, and well i was like leaning up against him and i would always hide my face in his hood whenever i got scared, and well his mom picked us up afterwards, just me and him, but we went with like 10 other people, like 5 girls, 5 guys, but they were going out and we werent, only 2 other people werent, so i walked inside and my dad was like, so which one was your date? and he was like hastling me all night. and then i went over to my best friends house on saturday and he told me that his mom was doing the same thing, and then she took us to the movies again that night, but this time it was just me and him, and she was like, "you know i think you guys should consider it because your really cute together" and personally i think so too because we both have brown hair and he's a tiny bit taller than me, and well i didnt say anything, but anyway we saw another scary movie, and i dont know how it happened but we ended up kissing? and my brother was there and he saw it and he got us a ride with his date's parents so while we were in the car his date was like, aw guys come on i swear you two are so cute together. well we didnt think anything of it. but yesterday i went bowling with my brother and we had to take our baby cousin so our other cousin who's our age went too, and my best friend called me and he asked me if i could hang out and i told him what i was doing, but my brother was like, "no you should go hang out with your boyfriend" and my best friend heard it, so he asked me out today, and in school we were hugging and we got in trouble?? but anyway i'm REALLY afraid we're gonna break up, i mean, he tells me he cares about me and he loves me and his mom has always liked me, but i dont know im really scared our friendship wont last. do you have any tips how i can get over this??

sorry its so long.

nothing ventured nothing gained. Think of it this way, your already going out with him, if you tell him you don't want to go out with him anymore because you want to be friends, it'll be weird between you, and if you just break up in a couple months or whatever it'll be weird. SO RELAX. he likes you, and unless something drastic changes he will for a very long time.

hope I helped, some girl

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My mom is the biggest blabbermouth of all time. She can't keep her secrets to herself. She can't keep MY secrets to herself. She tells everyone the details about my life. She humiliates me infront of everyone. She makes up lies to exaggerate the truth. I really don't know what to do. Should I just stop telling her things? I can't stand the way my life is out there and availible to anyone that wants to hear about it.

Either confront her about talking to everybody about you, or find someone else to share your problems with that you know is going to keep it confidential.

hope i helped!
some girl

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Okay now I dont want to sound too sluty but yesterday I went some where with my friend and when we got there it was this really cute boy there. Now he was flirting with me(rubbing my leg and holding my hand) but the bad part of all this is he was doin gthe same to my friend, when we went outside, we actually made out. When we got back to my friends house she told me that they made out! Now I don't know if that is true or not because they were never really alone together bu twhat if it is true? I have to see this boy every thursday, and I think we both like him, but who does he like??? PLEASE HELP ME

Just talk to your friends, ask her about yesterday, dont' sound like your diliberately looking to see if they really made out or not, just see if she mentions it again. She might be just jealous that you've hooked up with someone and she didn't, or this guy may be just a jerk. I'd find out if I were you though, because if it true and you get serioud with this guy you may have some problems with cheating.

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hi, remember me? I talked to you guys about this guy I like and I wasnt sure if he liked me back.
Anyway. I went to a party last night and I was shocked. I felt like I was shot twice : he smoked and he dirty-danced with a girl, you know with her butt all over him. I really thought he was different, that's why I liked him in the first place.She's not his gf cause she danced with other guys.
I really need some help...Should I ignore all this and try to get to know his personality better? Or should I move on and forget all about him?
Please don't delete this question, the answers are very important to me.

Don't bather unless your comfortable with him treating you like that. You haven't gotten to know him that well yet, just find someone better to spend your time with.

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Prom is coming up next month. I decided a few months ago that I wouldn't go because I am at a new school and don't have any 'real' friends here (like I did at my old school), but now I am starting to think that it might be fun. I love to dress up and dance. No one has asked me though, but I know I can go alone (which would suck though). Do you think I can crash someone else's table? Should I go?

Well, you can always ask some one! If not only go if you know that your going to have fun, or you'll get there and wish you didn't go. Don't crash somone else's table though. You don't even have to go with a guy, If you know a girl without a date, you could meet there and hang out together, you'd know then that you'd have someone to talk to

some girl

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Hi...
I am about to get my braces off and i dont know why but my orthodontist does a lot of stuff to your teeth like 3 weeks beofre you get them off and they are so sore and i am having to wear 5 different rubber band in 5 different places and they are just really sore and i was wondering if anyone knew anything i could do to make them feel better besides eating ice cream because i am on a diet.
Also, anyone who has had there braces off, i have heard it does hurt and i have heard it doesn't hurt. Does it? Does that polishing thingy feel weird?

Thanks for any advice!

It doeen't really hurt, It's more of a weird feeling, you finally get to run your lip over your teeth lol. Anyways, take advil or tylenol or whatever before you go to get them tightened, then by the time you get in there, the pain killer has already kicked in

hope i helped!
some girl

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ok i just moved to this new skool in another country. it has about 250 total kids. and i've heard that like all the girls at my new skool like me. and i dont know if i like any of them, and i'm only goin to be here until the end of the skool year. and i dont know wat to do about this... should i like just ignore them or sumthin?

I've moved around a lot, so I know what your saying. Should you even bother to make the effort. YES!!! theres always that few weeks of awkward get to know you faze, but after that it's better to say goodbye to some good friends at the end of the year than to have a year of misery. Get to know them, then pick which ones you actually want to be friends wiith.

hope I helped
some girl

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well today has been very odd for me. my face has just been so itchy! it cant be anything that i put on my face, because everything i put on is daily. well my cheeks are very itchy, as well as my forhead and chin. my eyes too! but i have allergies...any thoughts of what may cause this?

try washing your face with just warm water, and patting it dry. It may get rid of anything that is irratating your skin, or it may be some sort of allergy

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..........theres this girl in my class who is really hot,has a great personality,smart.and athletic. she just recently had a boyfriend but she dumped him.i like her alot and she sot of likes me.....im not absolutely sure,but she talks to me alot and i think she likes me. i need advice on how to figure out how much she likes me without snitches snooping and telling everyone i like her. please help

Well, since she dumped her boyfriend and he didn't dump her you don't really need to worry about giving her time to get over him. To figure out if she likes you, when you talk to her, look in her eyes. If she stares flat back, with no hint of emoction, shes probably just interested in what your saying. If she find of looks away and smiles, or looks back at you in a flirtatious way she probably likes you. Also watch for her touching your arm when she talks to you, or her looking at you when she doens't really have to. If she really wants you to know she likes you she'll find a way to tell you. If not, you can always ask!

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Have you ever thought that you liked someone when you were going out with a different someone (that you love soooo much!) and sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with the other person?

I know its wrong, and i told my boyfriend {of 1yr and almost 2mos.} but i dont know how to stop. because I don't truly like these other people. I Love my boyfriend tho. I hope this isn't too confusing!!

Anyone experienced this?

Help me to stop please!

Oh, I would never cheet on my boyfriend or break up with him. So your probabaly wondering, "whats the problem them?" well I still dont want to think these things. i mean i know im a teen (freshman/female) but I have a great boyfriend and I know this isnt right! so, anyone??

Thanks In Advance!

-*KeLs*-

p.s.=if this doesnt make since { how i worded it or if you need to know something else}, say so in your answer, and i'll re-ask the question to you differently!

Thanks!! :)

Don't worry, it's normal. Even though you love what you have, you might just be naturally attracted to guys you can't have. There's nothing wrong with imagining, just don't follow through on it.
Just remember how good you have it whenever you want to go out with someone else.

hope I helped!

some girl

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