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Well my boyfriend wants to take my virginity im 14 and he 15. Should i let him or no ? I feel were to young but he says i dont havet to if i dont want to but i dont know what to do. (link)
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if you are not ready to have sex then you shouln't you are still very young and before you have sex you should know all the facts about it. like std's and pregnancy different types of protections. what do you do if you think your pregnant. take all these things into consideration. not to mention that sex comes with many many emotions its always special to be so in love with the person then have sex with them. its something you share with that one person!
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can i get pregnant if my boyfriend fuck me from back side ?not to my front hole?
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your ass hole? and not your vagina? no you can not get pregnant.... you should know more about sex before you go ahead and start doing it.
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My brother and father have a problem with my boyfriend.I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 18, I don't see the problem here.My boyfriend is best friends with my brother, but my brother doesn't like the fact were dating.My dad doesn't think that i'm old enough for him.Me and my boyfriend aren't into anything sexual.What's the problem with us dating? (link)
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your not into anything sexual yet! thats the problem guys at 18 want more than just a cute romantic relationship. they want freedom and to do what they want when they want. your 13 you dont know half the things he does yet. its a big age difference right now when your older and out of highschool it would be ok to date someone who is 5 years plus older than you. your not ready for things he is now and your dad and brother know that and if your brotheres friends with him then he knows the intentions this kid has with you.
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My best friend and I have known each other for years now, I think that she might be dating my boyfriend behind my back, lately he's been acting weird, and not texting or calling me back. My best friend has also been quite busy all of sudden with homework,family,etc. I have heard people tell me that my boyfriend is cheating on me,but i don't want to lose my best friend, and i don't believe in what people say, how do i ask my best friend without hurting her feelings? (link)
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go to ur boyfriend and bestfriend and talk to them ask why are people telling me your cheating on me? and talk to your friend ask the same question if she seems weird then i guess you know your answer
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My boyfriend always ignores me. He complained I was clingy and we argued for about three days over it. And then made up. But still, I felt weird when we hung out, scared almost. I was scared to say or do certain things in case I came off as clingy. We went through the day just fine. And afterwards he didn't even call or text and every time I give him space he doesn't bother to answer.
I mean first the relationship was perfect. And then it just went downhill... He said we'll fix it but he isn't doing his part and whenever I text or call to talk about it, he ignores me. My mom said to ignore him even if he ends up contacting me, but I just wanna get it over with. Should I break up with him or go with my mom's plan? (link)
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mothers know best!
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so my boyfriend of 2 and a half years cheated on me.first with my cousin and then with his best friend who happens to be a girl.he blamed me for him cheating.i told him it was over and i broke up with him but he stood there and cried and said he was sorry.what do i do?..2 and half years is a really long time.im LOST. (link)
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he cheated on you twice and blamed you? really he wants you to feel guilty about his actions. dump him yah you had great two years with him and some cheating going on and he wont stop there think about how you found out about this and how he reacted if its not what you like dump him you will never forget this the trust is almost gone you will go phyco trying to keep him on a tight leashe. if you think you can trust him again and stay with him but once you take him back you cant bring this stuff up or youll fall apart get over it and trust him if you want him
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It was about 2 months ago when I got my belly button pierced. It hurt for a few days after, but it didn't really puss. The ring my piercer used was a circle one that looks something like this:
http://www.cocobulbodyjewelry.com/Captive-Bead-Rings-Lip-Rings.html?gclid=COGyrKHx_KkCFUff4AodJ21Zxw
After just a few weeks my piercing didn't hurt to touch, it didn't puss, and it wasn't red.
My piercer told me to wait at least 3 months before I changed it, but I planned to wait longer.
So it's been more than too months now since i've had it done, and suddenly one day, it started to hurt a lot to touch, and bloody looking brown puss came out. Now the middle part is swollen and brown puss is still coming out often. I am very concerned and I don't want to take it out yet, please help me!
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i got mine in november and i have had so many problems with it i think my problem was changing it not even a month after getting. big mistake and then i kept changing after it would hurt and bleed all the time and i had to change it back to the original ring i got. i read that if it is infected then your best bet is to leave it in because the puss will come out and if you take it out it will close and the puss will stay inside and it can become much worse so leave it in. dont touch it to much and use H2o go to hot topic or back to where you got it peirced and spray it on that all the time not to much but everyday twice or three times a day and dont change it too soon and youll be fine.
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i just want to know what can be the most unpainful way to commit suicide , I know some of u will try to convince me not to do it … but i’m afraid a won’t change my mind .my life right know is a living hell I really can’t bare it anymore , the thing is that I have a mom who’s driving me mad even though I’m really sensible and a kind of mature no drugs no drinking and certainly no smoking cause I’m really interested in sport , school report aren’t bad at all I don’t know why I have to stand all these things , I’v been really patient but it’s just getting worst I’v never thought I’d end up like this …. However I just want some answers because I can’t afford a gun or anything like that so… by the way I’m 17 years old ps: sorry for my bad English (link)
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sorry but no one is going to give you tips on how to kill yourself with out pain, because no one has done it. you need to constantly remind yourself that what ever is going on in your life right now wont last forever and nothing is worth taking a young and bright life away from the world. think about everyone who loves you and cares. what ever is going on is not perminant things will change for the better and if things get worse it will only make you a stronger person. if i was you i would talk to a councler about this its really not healthy.
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I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We have been dating for four years he has younger sisters one is my age and the other is 17. Anyway when me and my boyfriend first started going out we would always go out with them and i would notice him staring at their butt but i didn't think much of it since i really liked him and he would stare at mine too. We stopped going out with them as much due to we all work and go to school so now we don't have time.But i always notice him looking at their butts when we go to their house they wear really short tight shorts
(sometimes part of their butt even comes out a little when they walk) all the time and their butts are like amazingly big, like kim kardashian im not kidding haha. Mine is just normal size and it has recently starting to bother me, because i noticed he never stares at mine anymore but always checks out theirs, is this normal, and what should i do? sometimes i let us walk in front of them purposely but feel foolish its starting to make me feel insecure. (link)
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well if i was you i would ask him straight up if hes checking out his sisters because if he is that is just wrong and gross like they are realated its not right.
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so this is a complicated story, but try to understand, where im coming from. So im in middle school this popular girl, sarah has been dating this guy james for like some monthes maybe 5 the max.? but anyways he doesnt like her anymore, and they broke up like back in dec, and she is still emotionally attached, and acts like they are still together. and i am friends with this girl i sit at her table, and talk. he is just good friends with her. he has i think more classes with me. he is rly nice, at least to me. and she is so the melodramatic and jealous type, and that is so not me, that is also why they broke up at least not in a relationship. So we talk like evryday and in every class because we sit next to each other in every class...and we didnt pick our seats (weird right?) he is always poking me, we have a friendly handshake, etc. right now we are friends, but all im saying is that i could see us as a happy couple. and i could easily say i dont care about sarah, and im going to flirt with him. but i dont becuase i dont want to hurt her, and the last thing i want to do is start drama, i know your problly like "how is that starting drama?" but it is becuase shes gonna start crying and what not and i really dont want that to happen, if only she was with someone else it would be a lot easier, and if she didnt like him. i like him we see each other alot, and idk it want to be happy at the same time, but dont want to stir shit up. and i just came out of depression, so its really important for me to go after what i want. and if i were to flirt with him im sure he will like me back, its just her standing in the way. what do i do?? thankss (link)
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well you said yourself that they are broken up if your friends with this girl which kinda sounds like it keeping in mind that you said you guys talk and sit at the same table everyday you should probally let her know if you and this guy want to date. she probally wont realize for a while that you two are talking so do what you want right now and if you guys are going to date then tell her. me and james want to date and i wanted to let you know because i know you guys dated in the past and i hope that we dont have a problem with eachother.
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im 16 years old girl. me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year and 2 months. we used to be the best boyfriend ever! but here lately, it feels like things are changing. hes just been so rude to me. when he asks were i am, hes like were the fu*k are you and stuff. i love him so much and dont want to end it. i just dont know if being with him is worth it anymore. i dont know what to do if i should just end it or not (link)
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the next time hes rude to you either walk away from him and go home and dont talk to him or when he calls u or texts u that ignore him and when he keeps asking be like i wont asnwer you when you talk to me that way if you want to know something you can ask nicely and probally be nice about it other wise we are through.
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ok so i have had my period and i humped my bed and im rly rly rly rly rly scared can i be pregnant????plz help u dont understand!? (link)
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no. you need a penis and sperm to touch your vagina
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Okay, Well before you answer my question I want you guys to know My mom had bought me four new phones in one month and she had to pay for 50$ each because three of them didn't charge like a week my mom paid for the replacement, And The last one broke because my friend accidently broke in water at a skating rink, That was a month ago and now i am ready to be responsible for a cellphone again..But everytime i mention a new phone for me she just laughs or says "Not gonna hapen"! I really want to have another phone to keep in contact with my friends cause im moving soon..HWAT DO i DO? i AM 13 (link)
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when i was your age iwanted a cell phone so bad but my dad wouldnt let me have one or get me one so with my own money i got a prepaid cell phone and bout minutes for it when ever i could. the way i got the money was doing extra stuff around the house or going to my aunts house and cleainging for them its 15 or whatever your want a month. and it will show your mom you are responisble and get you one or help you out!
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When I woke up today....iCouldnt move nor could i really speak...And after I had an image in my head vanish I was again able to move,So What is this called and should I be alarmed ? (link)
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i have heard about this when your sleeping and then wake up but your body has not woken up yet you know whats goin on around you but you cant move or say anyting and to everyone else they still think your sleeping it can last for a while or only for a few seconds you should see a doctor about it but i dont think they can do much about it.
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My daughter is 13 and I'd like for her to start paying for her new clothes, accesories, and basically everything. Of course I would still pay for her food and keep a roof over her head. She doesn't have a job but she gets $5 a week for allowance. Do you think it's okay to make her start paying for stuff? (link)
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considering she does not have a real job and she is only 13 maybe not. if she wasy 16 i would say yes. with the amount of money she gets if she wants say a candy bar or a certain food or wants to go to the movies one day i would say yes to paying for that but for clothes i would say no clothes are expensive i being 18 if i need new clothes my mom would give me some money and i have a job so if i want more clothes then ill use my own money. if she wants to do a certain activity with out the family like go ice skating stuff like that then its approiate that she should pay save up if she wants to do something or get a certain thing.
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I am 21 and my boyfriend who I have been with for 3 years now is moving interstate coz he got offered a job. He will be about 12 hours driving away and we already had a year apart when he was traveling overseas last year. It is so hard on us and I don't think I can do this again since he will be away for 3 years and by then we will be 24 and that is a massive part of our lives if we don't end up staying together anyway. I always thought we would end up married and having babies in a few years time. He is leaving in a month and I love him so so much like he loves me but I can't wait around for 3 years for him. It's just too hard. When do I tell him and what do I say? I don't want to break up with him but I think I'll have to I have no choice. I don't want him to not go because I will break up with him either. I have no idea what to say. It's our 3 year anniversary in 10 days as well :( please help me. (link)
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situations like this are never easy i myself is in a similar one my boyfriend of three years is moving and after we are done with school whoknows if we still want to be together. the thing is i have to take life as it comes to me if we are meant to be together it will be. all i can do now is do whats best for myself. yah i want to go with him but thats a huge step for a "maybe we will stay together" i need to be a 100% sure that this is a forver deal and putting forth all of me into this and for maybe him to give up. your still young and its hard really hard and i dont know what to do myself. ill have to visit him once or twice a year if he decides to come over where i live. hey if it works then im happy love is supposed to be strong and i want him forever and if he feels the same way this will work out, maybe not all good times but it will. if your willing to be with him then you will find a way for this to work out. this could be an excellent time to find yourself youve been with this man for three years make sure you want to be with him find other ppl to date but thats it. its your decision and no one can make it for you.
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19/f
my bestfriend lives with me and my mom and dad. she got kicked out of her house and shes been living with me for about 7 months. im put up with it and now im just getting annoyed very easily. She is that type of girl where whatever she says goes. if something doesnt go her way she will not be happy. im one of those girls who cant really stand up for herself. ive told her no before but she gives me the guilt trip. ive just started always saying yes to her just so i avoid her being mad at me. shes also stolen things from me but i dont have the mouth to open up and say anything. i want her to leave but i could never say no to her. she knows what buttons to push to change my mind to make herself happy. we usually go out on the weekends to party and i mostly do it because she wants to. i have a boyfriend and he hates the way she treats me and i put up with it. shes told me that she feels like i put my bf before her but thats not true because i drop everything for her. she tells me drive here i drive there for her just to make her happy. so my boyfriend asked me on monday if i wanted to go to the movies on friday. and i said i wasnt sure because im not sure if i can go out because my friend wants to party. which is very stupid because i cant hang out with my boyfriend because i have to party with my friend? she is not a understanding person if i ever told her i already have plans she would freak out and thats what i try and avoid from her. so i want to go out to the movies and dinner with my boyfriend because its my last weekend here before i go away for 2 weeks. my friend wont stop talking about the party she wants to go to tomorrow and i dont have the balls to be like No, i dont want to do that i have plans, find a ride. (she doesnt have her license, shes also 19) which makes her depend on me for her ride everywhere. i drop everything to come home and drive her. for an example i was sleeping over my bfs and she called me at 4 in the morning to drive her home because she had no other ride. i ended up getting up and driving her which is stupid. i don't know what to do about tomorrow because im afraid to talk to her. i cant tell her no. and i want to go with my boyfriend. i almost want to leave her a letter and be like "i know your going to get mad but i can't tell you this to your face. ive had plans since monday to go out with paul for dinner and a movie ive just been afaid to tell you" or something on that affect and not come home and shut my phone off. im afraid of what she will say. please help or any suggestions !? thank you! (link)
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OMG can i just say that this is seriously the SAME EXACT SITUATION that i have only its my boyfriend and his friend everything that you just said here is exactly how i feel about his friend. except that she doesnt bring her boyfriend over and locks your door so you cant get in your own room. here if my boyfriend had balls that would make our relationship better but i guess i just dont understand if you can tell me how it really is so i understand i would apreciate that. anyway in my opinion your friend is taking advantage of you you need you time and its only goin to get more annoying as time goes on if you dont say anything she is going to think i can do what ever i want because they arnt really my parents and shes my friend and we are great together she has an easy life living with you and loves every second of it. thats not fair. you should be able to do things on your own with out her in the picture if you want to go to the movies you should be able to go with out a problem you shouldnt even have to ask her if its okay. thats so stupid you have her running your life and going to partys evey weekend isnt a great life you need to do what you want not what she wants and yes maybe it is fun but you dont have to do it every weekend of your life beacuse she thinks its the only thing to do and she cant go with out you???! you should NOT be afraid of her really what is she going to do except pout and get mad at you and you know what if she says that you say i dont want you to make me feel bad because thats the way i feel and if you dont like it then dont live here and we dont need to be freinds. friends dont steal from eachother by the way. she needs to grow up and get over herself quick because when you guys move on from life its going to kick her in the ass. and you need to get balls and tell her off and it doesnt even need to be in a mean way unless she starts making you feel bad which you shouldnt feel bad at all if shes a real friend then she would understand and not get too mad.
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My boyfriend of 2 years has been accusing me of cheating since the beginning. I have more guy friends than girls because they back stab. He gets jealous if I talk or look at a guy that I help at work for their schooling in placement tests. It all started when a friend that I have known a year and a half before him was changed to a girls name in the phone because I noticed he was deleting guys off my phone. I completely forgot that I changed him to a girls name because I give my boyfriend the phone while I'm at work. The guy called 8 months later and asked me for money. He lives in another state and my boyfriend got angry over it. After that I deleted it. Now he won't let me use my own cell phone that I pay for. I can't drive to work, he has to drop me off from my own car. He calls me at work to make sure I'm not cheating at the college while working. He thinks our 1 yr old is not his and that I'm secretly having sex with the neighbors. I don't know wat to do anymore. Counseling is not working (link)
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okay wow he is so abusive hes controlling and i gotta tell you i would not put up with that tell him listen if you cant trust me and if you think you need to control me then we are over and go from there its not ok for you to deal with this hes phyco over you cheating and if you have not cheated on him before then why is he so paranoid? you need to end it so that he knows he needs to stop and if he starts stalking you then you need a restraining order this is serious and he needs more then councling he needs to go more often.
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'kay so basically I live with my boyfriend, R. we've been together for a year and have lived together for 6 months. we've been having a hard time for at least the last 4 months.. fighting ALOT. we honestly just can't seem to help ourselves. but I got pregnant by him, about 3 months ago. at that point we were trying really hard to stay together and make things work, for the sake of the baby which we wanted to keep. while I was pregnant, I found a bunch of things in his e-mail between him and his ex-girlfriend. nothing TOO overtly sexual, and she lives a world away in Australia (we live in Canada). But she was his first love and last girlfriend. They were together for 2 yrs. There were lots of messages between them where he said he 'loved' her, they always would finish there messages to eachother with xoxox, they talked about their sex and love lives to eachother regularly, had pet names for eachother, ect. I was furious, just given the way he conducts himself with me and the fact that he really isn't half affectionate in the way he talks to me. he hadn't even said 'I love you' yet to me, and here he was saying it to some other girl like it was the most natural thing in the world. gross. at first I freaked out, and he wouldn't even admit that there was something wrong with it. he took the stance of she was part of his life, he was doing nothing wrong and I was just going to have to deal. I should have left then but like I said, I was pregnant. eventually he switched his attitude completely around and said that he was willing to stop talking to her, and that he could see how it would make me uncomfortable. but the whole time he maintained that he never ever flirted with her, and if anything had a sibling-like relationship to her. so I accepted his apology and everything went back to normal, until I found a fairly recent message (although he HAS NOT spoken to told me he would stop) where he called her 'sweetcheeks'. I just didn't think that was a typical non-sexual thing to say to your 'little sister', no longer believed what he had said and again was furious. one has to keep in mind that they primarily talked on instant messanger and whatever he said in an e-mail, I'm sure he'd said a thousand times over in chat. when I had agreed to forgive him and let it go, the last thing I asked him before agreeing, was "but it was a sexual thing, right? please, please just be honest with me." he fully denied it. anways so when I spazzed on him the second time, he did cave, he said it was flirting and he was sorry, but I definately had to fish for him to say that alot and basically force the question. he did not want to discuss it and it seemed just wanted it to be over and for me to shut up about it. it's hard to believe he meant anything he said, and he really didn't say much anyways. but he was definately just of the mindset of wanting the fighting to stop, I know that much.
anyways since then I have supposedly 'forgiven' him, I don't bring her up anymore and everything is normal. we are working on fighting less, and have been doing a little better.. for the last couple weeks anyways. it comes and goes. but when I'm away from him, I DO still sometimes brood about all this. I DO feel second choice. there was a long, long time where we were arguing about this (a period of weeks) where he refused to quit talking to her or admit any wrong doing and it seems entirely possible he was just sucking it up and doing what he had to in order to calm me down. we have argued about this tirelessly and I know bringing it up again would end our relationship, but even now when I type about it, I'm crying. I do feel like I mean less then her. I have never really gotten the kind of attention from him that he was giving her. talking to her in that cutesy goddamn way. and talking to her about all her problems, her family life, her sex life, and all his intimate feelings and thoughts. like that's normal. he never opened up to me like that, or asked me intimate questions like that. But I mean he DID quit talking to her, she's no threat anymore, he said everything I wanted him to say. although the day after he blocked and deleted her, which was about a week after I actually asked him to, he flipped his decision again and tried to talk me into letting him add her back but just having him watch what he says. and we had both agreed at that point that it was a trial run and not to fight for two more weeks.. and obviously we did fight about him asking that. maybe I should have just given in but I honestly don't think I would have been okay with it ever. it would be easier to move on now that we've lost the baby but.. should I? or do I just need to learn to be more forgiving? he's a wonderful guy, I love him, when we aren't fighting he makes me deleriously happy. but when I met him he did kind of try to project this image of being a 'good guy', like he was on moral high-grounds compared to most of the guys I might have known. and I did fall for it, he has a mormon upbringing, and when you meet him he comes across as this incredably polite, friendly, likable person. polite above all else. he had me convinced me that he was very uniquely dependable and always did the right thing. I really did think he was like completely innocent of anything and placed him on a pedestal, and fell in love with that image. now I'm just dealing with the reality and the fact that he could have never lived up to the image I had for him. Is this just part of the process when it comes to making a relationship last? will it get better? even when we aren't fighting, like the past few weeks, I still feel upset when he isn't here. I cry. I distract myself so I won't cry by blazing alot, but I'm quitting today, so we'll so how that works out for me lol. am I eventually going to stop feeling this bad? do I just need to focus on the positive and work through it? I've been through alot with this guy and I wanna keep him around if possible. one thing I learned from my pregnancy, is that he is the kind of man who I would want to raise a family with because he does live up to his responsibilities. and he was really supportive and great throughout the whole pregnancy and miscarriage, other than this particular fight which seems to keep coming back. I dunno. What do you think I should do? (link)
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this all sounds like its not a good relationship to be in he continued to talk to this girl after you said that it makes you uncomfortable. so will this relationship last problly not, not the way its going. its better to leave someone then keep up with the fighting. if you guys break up he may find that he does actually love you and that he needs you and thigs will be better or hell just do what he wants. i would want better and if you guys keep fighting about the same things then maybe you should call it quits. loosing a baby is very traumatic and maybe you should seek help. into talking to someone its probally for the best your in a stressful time in your life and very confused really think to yourself alone if you should be with this guy or not you know the answer.
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18/f.
Okay, so there's this girl Sara that my boyfriend used to have a RIDICULOUS crush on a couple years back. It didn't work out for him; they have been and are still just friends. He claims he's over her and stuff, but who knows. That's not what bothers me, though.
Apparently one day, he and Sara were hanging out and she was wrong abotu something/lost a bet/ etc. and now owes him a blowjob. Note that this (apparently) isn't something she agreed to; he just declared it. And now, every so often, he brings it up and nags her that she "promised".
How do I know about this? Obviously he never mentions this to me; I once saw him say it to her on Facebook on my news feed, and another time I read a VERY lengthy aim convo about it (I was bored, on his computer, and creeped on his conversations). I know the AIM thing was an invasion of privacy on my part, but I was bored. I didn't read it out of suspicion or anything.
My problem is that I feel EXTREMELY jealous and hurt. But I don't know if I have the right to. First of all, Sara's my friend, too (we're not good friends, we haven't talked in a while, but we're friends nonetheless). I know for a fact she wouldn't ACTUALLY agree to it for that reason (and also because she never saw him as more than a friend). And my boyfriend's the type of person who jokes about sex 24/7. But there's just something different about telling your best guy friend "don't worry about it. you'll just suck my dick later" vs. sayign to a girl you've had a huge crush on for over a year that you want a blowjob from her. No?
Anyway, what do I do? Should I do anything at all? I feel like I should tell him how uncomfortable this makes me, but how can I even bring it up without admitting to reading his messages? I feel like the second I bring up my problem he's going to turn the privacy thing around and make me the bad guy. (link)
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okay this is not okay if you are feeling not okay about something from what your boyfriend is saying then you need to talk to him about it maybe you shouldnt mention that you went through his aim conversations if you know he was going to be very mad at you about it just say hey i saw this conversation on facebook that you guys had a bet on her giving you a blow job and it concerns me a bit because i know you liked her before and im feeling a tad jealous and i dont like it i just need to know that this is nothing but a joke and you would appreciate it if this stoped! there is flirting and joking and then thats where he went wrong and went a little bit over board if you know she wouldnt do anyting then dont bother talking to her but more your boyfriend and tell him if you find that he doesnt stop with this overboard flirting and joking then its no longer healthy for you to be together.
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