14/f
Ok well theres this guy,"A", and I really, really like him. He is so sweet, funny, & attractive. I found out that he liked me!!! I was so happy, but it doesn't seem like he likes me and ask me out. I think he's flirting but just in case heres what he does:
1. I'm his top girl on myspace, even before his best friend thats a girl
2. He always talks to me on myspace, and even calls me on the phone
3. He invited me over to his house a couple times just to hang out
4. He always insults me, and i'm like awhhh ur meann, then he smiles
5. He has had only 2 girlfriends before, so i dont think he has a problem with asking me out, although he is a little shy
So, i just wanted to see is he really into me? & Is he going to ask me out?
thanks!
=D
Yup, it sounds like he's interested =)That being said, I doubt he's going to ask you out. You are the one posting questions regarding a potential relationship, not him. That being said, why don't you take the initiative and tell him how you feel? If you want a relationship with this guy, I suggest you tell him that.
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15/f
This is going to be a very confusing story, please bare with me haha.
Ok, so last weekend i hooked up with this guy John. John and I had been sort of a thing for like a couple weeks and this was the first time we've hooked up. Things were like fine between us for a few days but then he started excessively calling me and i got really annoyed and decided it was time to move on and be nothing more than friends with him, though he doesn't know that yet. This past saturday we were all out and john and i werent talking that much because he was in a pissy mood. so i just flirted alot with my good friend james who i like now, and he likes me. Later that night i was talking to john and he snapped at me about how i wasnt paying attention to him, and we kidn of worked things out. I have no idea what to tell john or even to follow through with things with james. what should i do?
ps. sorry its so confusing if you need me to explain further let me know. thank youuu
John is obviously a much more serious individual than you are. It is obvious that you are looking for someone to have fun with, not necessairily someone who calls you 24/7. John on the other hand, seems to want someone who is always "paying attention to him", or alwyas talking to him. It makes sense that you don't particularily have a thing for John anymore - you have opposing views on relationships!
Let him know that for this reason, you should just be friends. Then, go for James!
Good luck =)
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I need to lose 20 pounds in a week in a half but I don't know how please help me.
No one should lose 20 lbs in a week and a half. It's just not healthy. I suggest you aim for about 6 lbs. Anything more than that, and you are putting your health at risk. Since losing weight should all be about health, this would of course make no sense.
Now, here's how you can go about losing those 6 lbs:
1) Jog: not for hours and not super fast. Just go at your own pace for about fifteen minutes in the morning and then again at night.
2) Situps: try in the morning, fifty at night and fifty during the day.
3) Pushups: try fifteen in the morning, fifteen at night, and fifteen during the day.
4) Eat right: don't eat unhealthy foods. Eliminate fatty foods and desserts as well. Also, control the amount of food that you eat. Don't have seconds at dinner, and don't snack throughout the day.
These are just tips, of course. I encourage you to reject what you don't like or don't think would be fulfilling for you. There are also many other ways of losing weight, such as doing an active activity (such as dance, swimming, sports, etc.), or just plain going on more walks! Whatever you decide, make sure it's something you find enjoyable.
Have fun getting healthy =)
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I am a 32 year old female. I have recently lost my grandmother, and broke up with my boyfriend of six years, (my idea). I love him very much, and he is a good man. I have wanted to get married for a long time but he has not asked me. I have however talked to him about it, and told him how I feel about getting married. He is not outward with his emotions, but I know he loves me. Our sex life if very grim, and we hardly communicate. I feel that we are very close as friends but I want more from him. At the same time I am afraid I am loosing the most special thing in my life. I am afraid that I am making these decisions and dealing with this to cover up the real pain of loosing my grandmother. She raised me and we did everything together. I just dont want to loose something special for the wrong reasons. Please help. Thank You
I do not believe that it is the death of your grandmother that is causing these feelings. Most people do want to be married. It should be high on your priority list! Perhaps the death of your grandmother did heighlight this desire, but that's good.
All of that said, the fact that you "hardly communicate" is a bigger problem than the fact that he hasn't asked you to marry him yet. I know that you have talked to him about the fact that marriage is something you really want, but is he aware of how badly you want it? Does he know that the reason you broke up with him is that he wouldn't get serious?
If yes, then good riddence to him. You don't have forever to wait. If no, then you may want to get back with him and give him another chance - communicate your desire for marriage in a clearer way and see what happens.
Either way, I wish you luck. I also send my condolences with regard to your grandmother.
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I'm 14 and female.
Lately I've been having these weird sex dreams. I thought it would pass but its been 2 weeks and I keep having them.
I'm still a virgin and my last boyfriend was over a year ago (who I am so over). And while I'm awake I don't feel 'horny'.
Is it hormones or am I just some sort of perv?
What is wrong with me?
Having dreams about sex does not make you perverted at all. Yes, it is just hormones, and yes it is normal. Humans are designed to think of sex - it's in our genetic makeup. I can promise you that you are completely normal. =)
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Alright, I am about 5'2 , and I weigh over 150. Yes I know I need to lose weight. But here is my question,
- I have a treadmill, and I was wondering If I ran about an hour everyday on it, would I lose weight ?
- I'm looking to lose all of it in my legs & stomach.
- I DON'T eat healthy. I don't like salads or most healthy food, so don't tell me to eat healthy.
- Sits up never seem to work for me. But I do them probably three times a week.
- Please help me here. I don't have enough money to go buy a new machine to work out with, and cardio I could try but I don't think I will enjoy it.
Please answer all of my questions. Thanks in advance.
I applaud your efforts to have a healthier lifestyle (even if you won't eat healthy). It's always good when people get more active. So, kudos to you!
Your treadmill idea sounds great. If you ran an hour on your treadmill everyday, you would most definitley lose weight. As far as the situps go, keep doing them. They actually are working (even if you can't tell). Doing situps does not burn off fat, it builds muscle. Even if the results aren't visable, they are probably still happening (provided you are doing the situps correctly).
Also, it's good that you know what you would not enjoy. It's really important when trying to get fit that you do not attempt to lose weight in a way that is not comfortable for you. This should all be about having fun making your body healthier.
That being said, it is unfortunate that you don't like healthy foods, because it obviously helps to eat them when attempting to be healthier. Still, there are alternatives - why not focus instead on making sure you drink eight glasses of whater a day? This will help to fill you up with something that is good for you, without forcing you to eat foods you don't like.
Good luck! =)
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 3 yrs. And he has never acted this strange. Lately he has been very mean and he hasn't been thinking about my feelings. This morning he started being nice to me again and that lead to sex.. After that he was being a total jerk. I talked to him about it and said that it bothered me and it felt like he has been using me. He then yelled at me and said "It's because....NEVERMIND!" I asked him what he was going to say and he just said forget about it i'll talk to you when i get off of work (which is in 12 hours). He then walked out of the house and slammed the door. He turned off his phone too. I just don't know what to do because now in this relationship anything he says goes. I feel like i don't have a say in anything anymore. I feel really used and i also feel like he doesn't trust me and i haven't done anything to destroy that trust. One time he accused me of cheating on him because i felt "loose". When i have been sooo loyal to him. And it hurts my feelings when he says that because i haven't done anything wrong. I really don't know what to do to prove to him that i'm not cheating. I'm also really frustrated b/c i feel like i need to talk to him now and work things out. But it's so easy for him to just ignore me. At the end of all our fights i'm always the one apologizing, even when i didn't do anything wrong. What should i do?
You need to talk to him about everything - all of the bad feelings, uncertainties, etc. You guys clearly have some issues that need to be worked out. The only way to work them out is to communicate.
Oh yeah, and you should also stop aplogizing when you haven't done anything. That will never help you to feel valued.
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almost 16/f please read whole thing before answering:
I have only had boyfriends. I have had many times. I don't find men attractive. I think they usually have something about their faces that make them unattractive. I look at s a lot more than I look at boys. I love the feeling of a man's arms around me and I like to cuddle with them and stuff. BUT: I don't enjoy it doesn't do anything for me and I giving head/handjobs and stuff. Male genitals do not turn me on at all. I would much rather m@sturbate with my vibe. I also like being eaten out.
As a young child I was only attracted to men. At age 12/13 I started to notice s and I would develop crushes on them. By the time I hit 15 i was completely turned on by the idea of s3x with a woman. That is what i think about when i m@st. Does this make me bis3xual?
It looks like you've got a lot of thinking to do. That being said, you do not need to figure out your sexuality right away. You have loads of time to experiment.
Try focusing on love as your primary objective. Try not to focus on the gender of the person, but more so on their personality. This may make the strain to discover your true sexuality less demanding.
You need some peace of mind. Just relax, because you won't be confused forever.
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I have three sisters. Two of them are older, but we were always close when we were younger. The thing is they go out and they drink and smoke and stuff, and I don't tell my parents anything. I always keep their secrets. One got a ticket for drinking and had to go to the hospital, and she is only 18. My parents don't even care! They lowered her curfew and took her car away for like, a week. The other one isn't so bad. She is 19 and goes out all the time and drinks.
Now, my parents know we drink, just as long as we aren't a sloppy mess. I don't smoke, but last night I was hanging out with my boyfriend and his friends (who are my sister's friends as well) and I tried salvia. It was horrible and I did not like it and I will never do it again. But I'm guessing my sister told my mom I did something because my mom came downstairs and was like, "So I hear you aren't good when you go out." And she didn't tell me what she ment by it. I am sick of keeping my sister's secrets when they won't do it for me at all. It is such a pain, but I don't want to be a snitch to them. Talking to them is a big waste, because they will just lie.
GAH! It's so frusterating, and I have no idea how to handle it.
Any help will be apperitiated, thank you.
In my opinion, none of you should be acting this way.
Reality check: you are getting in trouble. Your sister had to go to the HOSPITAL for crying out loud. A little respect for your bodies and your health is probably a good thing.
Consider it a compliment that your sisters are telling on you. It can be annoying when someone adopts the "do as I say, not as I do" attitude, but it's better than pretending that it's okay to act like an idiot.
The real shame here isn't that they told on you. You are lucky to have people looking out for you.
The unfortunate part of this situation is that your siblings are not setting a good example for you, and see nothing wrong with jepordizing their own health.
I suggest you take a step back, and re-evaluate your own decisions. Maybe you shouldn't do things that are harmful to you. Maybe you shouldn't make it so easy for your sisters to hurt themselves either. Maybe it's time to start taking responsibility for your life.
You act like your siblings are wrecking your fun or something. Really, none of the stuff you guys are doing is fun. It's just immature.
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I am a 30 yr old female who is currently in a relationship with a man who is 41 yrs old. We have been together for 1.5 yrs and have known each other for 3 yrs. Our relationship is healthy. We have things in common and love each other very much. We have discussed marriage briefly and he has said that he wants to marry me. He asked me to move in to his home in January of 2009. Last year in July I told him that I would not consider moving in with a boyfriend again unless I was engaged. I want to do things right and I am having doubts about moving in with my current boyfriend in January since he has yet to propose. I can't help but look at his past realtionships... He was with a woman for 9 years and a woman for 3 years and never proposed to them. I have asked him in the past as to why, and he said that they grew apart and he never really loved the 3 year realtionship partner. So what makes me different? Should I not move in with him until I am engaged? Most importantly, how do I approach this subject? Thanks
I think you need to be blunt about this. You obviously love this man and value your relationship very highly. Do not do anything you believe will destroy your chances of marrying him. If marriage is your primary objective, then go for it and don't let anything stand in your way.
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I have had a crush on my best guy friend since 5th grade (I'll be in the 11th grade next year)... We went to the Sadie Hawkin's Dance together last year and I don't know if I should ask him again or what because We had lots of fun and he was teaching me to dance... What should I do?
I say, go for it! Nothing ventured, nothign gained. Besides, if you think it will be fun, why not? =)
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i always wanna have sex but im a virgin so i dont know how it feels what should i do? what is wrong with me?
There is nothing wrong with you. You sound like a perfectly notmal, healthy teenager =)Hormones on parade!
Just relax.
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Im 28 yrs old female. Everytime my bf leaves (we dont live together he lives outta town) he gives me a big hug and a kiss on my forehead on my lips only once in a while. I want to know if this is a good thing, or if this is a bad thing. Hes not one to show his feelings, he loves to cuddle in bed and when we go dancing he'll hold me in front of him and dance with me. I dont know how to read him sometimes!!!!!
sincerely
confused
I don't think it's a bad thing. I think it 's sweet.
That being said, if you would like a kiss on the lips, you should go for it! Next time he kisses you on the forehead, smile and go for the lips. =)
Good luck.
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Sometimes when my boyfriend and i are just sitting around he will go up my shirt some like around my back. How do i get him to go where i want him to?
You need to take the initiative! Like everybody else is saying, go for it =)
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well, at camp, this kid asked one of my really good friend's out, and she said no, and then he asked me out, and I said yes, and so now, we're going out! But, I think that he still likes her, while he's going out with me. It's like they're always flirting and stuff. It makes me so mad! And, I asked his best friend, who is my really good guy friend, if he could ask my boyfriend if he likes my friend, while dating me, and so he asked my bf, and my bf goes, only as a friend, but now, it seems like he is mad at me because I asked him that! And, my bfs best friend likes me, too, so, i mean, if my bf likes my frend, and we break up, would it be wrong if I went out with his best friend? How do I find out if he likes my friend, how do I find out if he's mad at me, and if we break up, would it be bad to go out with his best friend? ahh please helpp !?!?
It sounds to me like you and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a very long talk.
Ask him everything you are wondering about with regard to your friend, his anger, etc. Do your best to work things out. I'm sure you can work out your problems.
Of course, if things do not work out between the two of you, you can always ask him if he would be okay with you dating his best friend.
Good luck =)
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16/f. We broke up a month ago. Went out for 1 1/2 years. We were really close- we talked every night and did something every weekend. I really did love him. I wasn't expecting the break up either (he broke it off.)
I keep thinking about our relationship too... when he kissed me, or held me, I just loved him so much (I still do, even though he's being mean) and I'm having a hard time.
To make things worse he's started ignoring me. I was finally able to start the "I'm not going to IM him thing" and it's working... except he's not IMing me. I'm still in love with him but I want nothing more than for him still to be my very best friend (with the way things are going that will be over soon, and I'm upset.) I know I can't change his interest in me but it hurts so much.
Problem: I leave on vacation Saturday of next week. I'm thinking I need to see him before then (and he knows this) because it would make me feel better. But we haven't talked in 2 days. At this rate we'll never be doing something before vacation. So do I stay miserable and try to get over it, or do something fun and (hopefully) feel better?
I just love him so much and he's my best friend and I'm losing him. Should I ask him (again) to do something before Saturday?
PS. He's a hypocrite too, a year ago on advicenators he gave an answer saying that "a bf/gf being clingy is not a good reason to break up" whereas I think that's the reason he broke up with me. Let me add that he's changed since last year (and this whole "clingy" situation reinforced this thought). He used to send me random letters and flair on facebook... the past few months it seemed like he was losing interest. So a year ago he said "clingy" doesn't matter but now he does?
But what do I do? Do I IM him? Do I ask to see him? But I want to so bad!
Thanks,
a girl desperate to see her very best friend but he doesn't want to (?)
There's nothing you can do except communicate your feelings to him.
I find that people are always saying "get over it" when a couple breaks up. I cannot for the life of me figure out why. If you still have feelings for the guy, and he is still willing to see you, why not hang out with him?
I say you remind him that you want to make plans with him before you leave for vacation.
Oh yeah, and the word "clingy" is just stupid. Who in their right mind ever said that wanting to spend time with someone was wrong?
Trust your feelings.
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So, my friend has liked this guy for ages, and he knows it. It is so funny to see them around each other because he is totally not interested but shes always blushing when he looks at her. Anyways, me and her got into one of those wierd silent fights ? basically, we grew apart and she now has this intense hatred for me. I dont really care either way if im friends with her or not, but we were really tight last summer. So, me and her crush have been hanging out a lot and i think I'm starting to like him. But I'm afriad that she'll notice me flirting with him and get mad at me, even though its nothing personall, I just like him too. Im in such a sticky dilemma. Any suggestions?
Well, first of all, you need to decide if she is your friend or not. If she is, your friendship could clearly use some sprucing up, and you should probably find another guy.
If on the other hand, you feel like the two of you are probably grown apart for good (or at least for a very long while) and no longer feel responsibility towards her as a friend, then go for it!
This all depends on how much you value the friendship.
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ok so i was in love with this guy. Lets call him Zach. So i loved zach for like 5 weeks. But now that we have been going out for awhile...Things arent the same. And i need a guy who can make alittle more time for me. We have been together for 6 weeks. And we have hung out once. So im not the clingy type. I just need someone whose there more. Also...we have never talked on the phone. He will only text me. But he says he loves me. But as things go on...I start to feel bad saying i love you. I like him....But its begining to be less and less. Also im kind of a commentmentaphobic(sp? i dont even know if thats a word) But i cant stay in a relationship for very long. This is my longest. So do i break up, give it time, or what. HELP PLEASE!
Seeing someone once in six weeks is completely unacceptable. If I was you, I wouldn't even consider that a relationship. From what I can tell, it basically consists of text messages.
You are definitely NOT clingy, and it makes sense that you would actually want to see the guy you are dating. I think it's time you talked to him and set some things straight:
1) You need to actually go on dates in order to be dating him. Tell him you need more time together. Decide on an amount of visits that seems reasonable to you - maybe once a week? Let him know what you want.
2) You cannot possibly love someone who you don't see. This is why you feel bad about saying it. Tell him you are uncomfortable with saying those three words before you completely mean them without a doubt.
Good luck.
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Okay a couple of months ago I had to choose between three guys: a cheating redneck, a gorgeous and thoughtful foreigner, or a loving and very cute hippie. Now I had already taken out the redneck, but I was stuck between the foreigner and the hippie. I chose the foreigner after not talking to my hippie for a couple of weeks, and the foreigner is now all different, not like bad and evil, but just odd. Now that he has this thing going on with another girl, I felt like I chose the wrong one.
Well, the bad news is, if the foreigner does have a "thing" with another girl, he obviously wan't the right one. However, he was probably the most interesting option, and it's good that you gave him a shot.
The good news is, it doesn't matter that you chose the wrong one. There are plenty of guys out there. It's time to go fine the right one! Who are you most interested in now? The hippie? Or someone completely new? Decide on someone else and see what happens.
Good luck =)
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Okay hey, im 15/f and i'm single. I really want a boyfriend, but not just A BOYFRIEND.Someone that isn't all judgemental. Because i thinks thats bullshit. My type is preferably emo, and if anyone (guys) reads this please give me a chance. Thanks in advance :D
If you want a boyfriend, why not try to meet someone in person? I'm not saying online relationships don't have any merit, but if you know the guy personally and become friends before dating them, everything generally works out better.
Good luck =)
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