My name is christine and whoever wants to write to me please don't hesitate. I really appreciate you trusting me with your problems. I hope everything works out. I will try my best to not let you down. Let me know if you have any other problems or if I helped cause that's what im here for. xoxoxo princessita!!!!!!!
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My mom and I have had issues for a long time and I dont think she understands it at all. Tonight she was talking to me with her sister and it just agravates me so much that they both jump down my throat when they don't understand me at all and still try to put their advice in. I would love to tell my mother everything, but it's just so hard. She thinks my "bad mood" is from a new high school Im at or hormones.
She drinks (not to the level of an alcholic, but I would perfer she drank less) and makes me promises but doesn't remember them the next day.
My brother is autistic and can function normally and many people wouldn't be able to tell he was challenged, but it's still been a struggle for her. I understand and I help, but it's put me on the back burner. If I have a problem, it seems petty and selfish compared to him. She's extra sensitive to him.
She suffers from a form of depression and hasn't told me about it. I found out by looking at her pill bottles. Two years ago before she was diagnosed she would lash out at me for no reason, and it hurt so much. I built up a wall and became just as nasty and defensive. It's stuck. Im afraid to tell her things that anger her, and if she insults me I return the favor. It's become instinct and she thinks Im a nasty bitch. Im not at all what she sees me as and I just want her to understand that I want her to love me and be proud of me!
I just don't know how to tell her. I can't get her attention. I talk to her and I become closed in and defensive. I can't handle her being mad at me, I can't handle confrontation.
I want her to understand how she hurts me and how much I love her. How can I do this? (link)
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Hey! Well first off all I think your mom needs help. She should try going to a psycaiatrist or something(sorry for my bad spelling)I think think that she can handle all her problems by herself. And the drinking doesn't help her all that much. Since she is depressed she's gonna want to start drinking more and more and it could become into alcolism. Try to tell her that and sit down and talk to her when she's not drinking and when you or your brother has made her mad. She needs to be in an okay mood in order for her to listen. Also try not to answer her back all the time because that will just make her madder. I really hope I helped and good luck.
princessita
xoxoxoxox
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second hand smoke worse then first hand smoke (link)
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Well second hand smoke is not as bad as smoking but it's still pretty bad.
xoxoxox
princessita
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My family is going to the movies this weekend and I was wondering which movie is better for little kids? I know Iron Man is in the lead in the box office but I was wondering which would keep him more occupied watching it? (link)
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I think that speed racer or the chronicles of narnia. Hope you have fun!!!!! :)
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Tonight was the last straw and my Mom said tomarrow morning she's calling someone for me to talk to because she's done with my crap. I did explode tonight... but Im not going to someone to talk to "because they care" when they obvously dont considering there gettying paid awesome money. Why waste my parents money for my to sit in a room... and listen to some guys words. She would rather send me to some guy so she wont have to deal with the facts SHE SUCKS AS A MOTHER! I told my Dad off tonight because he was being an asshole and I told him he didn't love me because if he did he would atleast try to quit smokeing. He's reocvering from a heart attack but has changed nothing in his life. Im not goign to some fucking therapist because "I bottle my emotions" how to I convince my Mom i dont need to go and to stop botteling my emotions because i eventually explode
even tho i dont I justdnt tell them anything because they suck at listening (link)
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Okay so I know you may not want to read this im but your parents are right. It's not good to keep all the feelings to yourself. You could get very ill and one day you may just burst and that could get sent to the hospital. Going to a therapist is not that bad. They listen to you and make you feel comfortable talking about your feelings.Therapist are not for people who are crazy they are for people who need advice. Thats kind why im here to cause I like to help people. The least you can do is try it and if you don't feel like you need it explain it your parents without fighting because if you start screaming they will get angry and won't listen to you. Plus the therapist can help you to make your relashionship better with your parentsand to make them understand you. I really hope everything turns out okay and that I helped you make the right decision.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
xoxoxoxo
princesssita
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My boyfriend has cheated on me 3 times..We get into argue ments a lot over dumb things its usually about him not likeing me going anywere with my frinds or out..its funny because he doesint start arguements with me when im stuck at home its when i tell him im bout to go to the mall with my home girl then thats when he starts saying smart things that make me mad like yea you about to go meet with other guys or yea you about to look at other dudes..like i get so irritated and its like in my head i think you are the cheater okay and i dont even question anything about you or who your with..damn!!...when we argue and he hangs up on me i dont call him back, he gets mad at me for that. i dont call him back bcause i feel like im not wrong and i feel like he just disrespected me over the phone so why should i call back..So he tells me that if i had your support and if you were there for me then i would have never slept with other girls or done anything with them...IS THAT AN EXCUSE??...like he can never realise hes wrong for anything!! he can never say hes wrong...all his wrong doings he says that he did what he did for a reason and its because of me all the time...so hes not wrong...ughh! (I HAV NEVER CHEATED ON HIM AND WHAT KILLS ME THE MOST IS THAT HE HAS CHEATED ON ME 3 TIMES AND ALL HE CAN SAY IS THAT.. "MAN WE STILL DONT KNOW WHAT YOUVE DONE" WHEN HE TELLS ME THAT I JUST WANNA SLAP HIM BECAUSE I HAVE NEVER CHEATED ON HIM..AND EVERYTIME I TELL HIM I HAVENT HE GETS MAD AND SAYS YEA WATEVER... THE TRUTH IS THAT I NEVER DONE WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ME I NEVER CHEATED ON HIM...BUT KNOWING THE TRUTH HE DOESINT BELIVE IT. IN HIS MIND I CHEATED ON HIM..IT HURTS ME SO MUCH TO KNOW THE REAL TRUTH..AND BEING LOOKED AT AS THE CHEATER BUT REALLY ITS ALL ON HIM..WHAT DO I DO...? (link)
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OMG girl what are you still doing with him. He has no right to talk to you like that. Your the one that shouldn't be able to trust him since he's the one that's cheated on you THREE TIMES. When he starts telling you that your the one that's also cheating on him tell him that your not a liar and a cheater like him. You really deserve better than him. You don't have to put up with that crap or his sick mind. You should finish with him now because the most important thing in a relationship is trust and respect and clearly he's got neither of them for you. I really hope you make the right decision and that I helped.
xoxoxox
princessita:)
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me and my best friend have been friends for a while we do everything together but here lately she has been telling me that my boyfriend was making out with his ex girlfriend and that he was cheating on me and when i ask him about it and my other friends they tell me that they havnt ever seen him kiss another girl and that he would never cheat on me but because of what my best friend it caused me and my boyfriend to break up so i dont know what to do any more. (link)
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You should believe who you think is telling you the truth.Who do youu trust more? Think about who has ever lied to you. And im not saying that your bff is right but maybe you've been spending to much time with your boyfriend and she's getting jelous.Or maybe your boyfriend is right because like you say that all of the other people say they have'nt seen him with anyone so how come the only one is your friend. doesn't that sound weire dto you. Hope I helped and that you make the right decision. I think tha tif you really love your boyfriend and you trust him thendon't be afraid to take a risk. If he was dating someone else I think you would know by now.
xoxoxox
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so ive been dating this guy for almost 2 months. i knew him 2 yrs prior as my sisters friend. but weve always had a thing for eachother during those 2 yrs. infact we dated a couple times for maybe a day or two but this time we wanted to really give it a try. well id like advice on what to do. the other day we celebrated a friends bday- when he gets extremely wasted he becomes another person. not physical but very mental, he will bring me down and call me names. im not defending him but i do use the same game back until its like a hurricane hit us and were left with the aftermath to clean up. well this time i had enough so i broke up with him. he said something ill never forget and i cant believe im sharing it online becuz i cant even tell my friends in real life but i have to get this off my chest. he said outloud (and i really dont think he knew he said this, he really was out of his mind)...he says "quit embarrasing yourself your f***ing a fat obese person".
im a big girl, so yes hes talking about me. first i was shocked, he wasnt facing me when he said it its like he just blurted it before his brain processed it. after a minute i said "are you serious did you just say that?". he didnt realise what he said you can tell, he changes the subject asks what hes supposed to do and goes home. i broke up with him before his comment and he called me 9 times in a row the next morning to aplogise that he was "real drunk", i yelled at him and told him it was completely and officially OVER. i havent spoken to him in 2 days but his myspace page clears hes depressed about the break up. i dont know what to do...ignore that he said that becuz i want to be with him, but i dont know i havent even cried. please help? (link)
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If that comment had hurt you really bad you would be crying your eyes out. I think that you really like him and you have strong feelings for him. But on the other hand being drunk is no exuse for him telling you that. I think you should talk it over with him and your the one that should know how much that comment hurt you and if you really want to get back with him. Think of all the great and bad times you've had with him and think if it's really worth giving him another chance. Hope everything works out. Please let me know.
xoxoxoxoxo
princessita
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A crush I've had from probably November last year knows that I like him, because I told him, and was really nice to me, although he was probably quite shocked haha.. but nothing happened because he liked someone else, a friend of mine, actually, but now they're not close anymore, and I've noticed we always seem to be the first people to notice each other walk into the room, or accidently catch eye contact.. there's been other people for me, but I'm kinda crazy about him, more so than I have been for anyone else in my life - do these little things that happen very often mean anything? What should I do? Or am I being paranoid, and should just get over him? Any help HUGELY appreciated! Thankyou so much in advance!!!!! xx (link)
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I know boys ARE really confusing. But we really can't do anything to change them. Well anyway I think those things that your feeling means your in l.o.v.e!!!! I think you shouldn't be to obvious. Boys pretty much get scared when you seem to eager. You should try to let him know you and be his friend. Who knows maybe you'll be the next girl in his shoulder. Hope I helped. Let me know how it goes!!!!!
xoxoxoxo
princessita
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there are two little ulcers on the inside of my top lip. i dont know wehther its from rubbing on my braces or what, but i've put wax on the top brace where the ulcer is and it still hasn't gone away. what else can i do? i've tried salt, and i've taken some lythozine pills. any other ideas? (link)
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You could try some baking soda. That is guaranteed to work(hopefully,lol)Let me know how it goes.
xoxoxoxo
princesita:)
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Hello Everyone:
I would to ask all of you something. Why does it seem like it's hard for good guys like me who dosen't, smoke, drink or do any of that bad stuff to find a right girl for him? It seems like there are a lot of girls out there who are nothing but trouble and always want want want all the time. I do not like girls who are always wanting stuff all the time. And it seems like all the good nice looking girls already have boyfriends. What is up with this? (link)
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Well you know what? I think that's just life. I'm glad that you've made the right choices so far and you know there has to be a good girl out there for you so just be pacient and the right girl could be closer than you imagine. Don't give up. Hope I helped. Please let me know.
xoxoxox
princessita
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Okay, so I don't have a very good fashion sense. I'm only 13, but a lot of my friends have really awesome outfits. I don't know how to mix and match very well. When I get older, I want to live in the city. (I live in NY.) I really want to know how I can learn to dress in that chic kind of way. I really like the way Blake Lively dresses on Gossip Girl. I'm not into doing anything to over the top the way Leighton Meester does in GG, but I really like Serena's look. How can I learn to match clothes well and choose the right ones? (link)
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You could probably try to look at fashion magazines to see how they match. Or you could look at t.v programs like (style) for example and just see how they choose the right look and everything. You could even look at how the manequins in boutiques are dressed. Hope I helped!
xoxoxox
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before i get into this, yes i know, i'm probably a slut. so sorry.
ANYWAY.
so this guy has been my best best friend for about two years, he's so nice and he's always been there for me.
last summer he asked me out and i said yes.
we've been going out for 9 months.
he was my first time having sex, and i was his.
...but during that 9 months, i hooked up with 4 other guys.
not in a row, not even in the same week.
yeah, again, really wicked sorry.
he doesn't know about them.
no one does except the guys.
i feel awful.
but the truth is, the guy i'm going out with now, while he's super nice to me, is a dick to everyone else, allergic to cats (so he can't ever come over to my house), allergic to lettuce (i'm a vegitarian), not very attractive, listens to mostly different music than me, gets terrible grades, can only talk about things he's interested in, and is militantly straight-edge and i'm totally not.
i really do want to go out with someone else.
i have for a really long time.
i've tried breaking up with him 5 times but i always feel bad and like an hour later get back together with him.
it's so so hard for me to make him upset.
and even though i don't want to go out with him and i know that if i drag this out any further i'm just going to resent him more and he's going to get more attatched.
he says things to me like "i love you forever, please don't leave me" and "you complete me" and "i need you, i love you more than anything"
and i just feel awful, i hate being mean to him.
but i really really want to get out of this relationship without completely hurting his feelings.......
WHAT THE !@#? do i do?! (link)
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wow I can understand your concern. You know what. I think it's better if you just break-up with him now because imagine if you keep feeling sorry for him your gonna probably end up getting married with him(and I know you don't like that). That's why even though it'll be very painful it's best to do it now. I hope everything turns out great and that I helped you make the right decision.
xoxoxoxo
princesita
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Okay I am so big. I weigh 186 pounds! But I'm tall so that helps. But the doctor says I should weight 145. What do I do. I am going to 4-h camp in ONE month does anyone know what I can do to lose my stomach and leg fat? (link)
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Hey I know you probably don't want to hear this but the key to losing weight in a healthy way is extercising. You could probably go for a walk or ride your bike instead of watching t.v. You also have to try eating more fruits and vegetables. Also something that may help is dancing.That is great extercise. You could put your favorite song and just dance.You could eve try dancing while doin your chores or cleaning your room or something. Let me know if I helped.(I hope I did)
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princessita!!!!!!!
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Okay so I have 2 bffs, Kenzie and Bri. Bri and I have been friends since 4th grade, Im in 6th now. All of us are. Kenzie & I just met this year.. but anyway
well we all had this major fight for a really stupid reason and it really effected our relationship, even after words. Kenzie and Bri were never mad at eachother, so their relationship didnt suffer, just the one with me. They were all ganging up on me and stuff, and it was really annoying.
Well now they ALWAYS have plans together, and I feel left out.. It is really upsetting me and Ive tried telling them how I felt, but they just say "Well maybe you should make plans FIRST" But that is hard to do, considering they always have plans. And then on the bus they use MY phone to call and make plans for themselves, not even asking if I want to be part of it. It is really upsetting me. Ill ask "Hey can I spend the night tonight?" And shell say "No I want Bri to" and It just makes me want to cry. Today Im going to Alex's (youve heard about him, lol) birthday party with Kenzie. Its fine when kenzie and I are by ourselves, and its the same way with Bri and I. Bri always says we used to be like this *crosses her fingers* But now we are like this *sticks thumb and pinky finger out, all others down* and it makes me sad. They take it as a joke or get mad at me when I try to talk to them, and I dont want parents involved.
Thanx in Advance!
ALSO. Bri gets mad at me for stupid things like rolling my eyes. I dont know if that helps *laughs*, but w/e
P.s. I know this is off topic, but what should I give Alex for his birthday considering I have no money, at ALL.
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I think you should try to talk it out. Make them listen and tell them how you feel. Tell them it makes you feel left out and it really hurts your feelings. You should probably also try apologizing even though it may not be your fault. If that doesn't work you should probably not be friends anymore.I mean I think it's better not to have friend at all then have bad friend. They really don't deserve you.Plus I think it's very childish and just plain mean what their doin two you. Hope I helped. Let me know how it goes!!!!!!!
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princessita
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My best friend and I are thinking of starting a babysitting business, since we're both certified in CPR and First Aid, and have taken a bunch of babysitting courses, too.
We were wondering how we could go about this.
Like what should we charge, should we baby-sit together, or on our own, how should we advertise, .etc.
Thank You :)
-Mariah-
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I think you should put some fliers or something in your neighborhood. I think if it's just one little kid then one of you should baby-sit cause then if they pay little money you will have to split it with your friend if you both baby-sit. You could probably also ask your teachers to write recomendation letters saying how responsible you are and everything. That helps. You could charge like 5 an hour. Hope i helped.
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so i babysit this six year old 3 times a week.
he lies to me all the time about what he can and can't do.
one day he told me something he could do and his mother got mad at me.
i can tell she really doesn't like me now, but she has no one else to babysit for her.
her and her husband both smoke a lot.
when i come home from her house i REEK of ciggarette smoke.
it's disgusting.
i have to scrub myself in the shower to make the smell go away.
but it's still stuck in my jacket, so i smell it everyday.
one day i had my boyfriend pick me up and he was gagging on the smell.
the mother and her husband are both getting new jobs and i'm also afraid i'm going to have later hours, which just can't happen.
it's already effecting my grades because i'm always so tired after.
i just don't know what to do.
i'm one of those people that feel guilty about everything too.
i need a lot of help, please. (link)
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Well I think you should list the good and the bad thing about that job. The good thing is that you get paid butthe bad thing are that you smell like smoke, you get very tired,the kid lies and makes you get in trouble, and most important thing your lowering your grades. I mean I really don't think any job is worth all that. I bet you don't even get paid well. I think you should quit. I hope you make the right decision. Let me know how it goes.
xoxoxo
princessita
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i really like this family im babysitting for they pay me $5 an hour. i relly want them to keep using me what can i do to make them like me.me and their child get along great they're always saying how much she likes me babysitting her what can i do to get them to like me even more? (link)
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You should reward them once in a while like if their good you can give them candy or something.
You can play with them or just do stuff that will make them have fun. Let me know if i helped
xoxoxoxo
princessita
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I'm fourteen years old, and I volunteer at the elementry school, with the after school children.
Lots of them seem really attached to me, but I'm worried they think of me more as there playmate... When I tell them to go stand in line, they won't listen to me, only the adults.
I want to be there friend, I love kids. But, I also need them to listen to me. :)
Any advice is great. And thanks in advanced. (link)
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I think you should act just like the adults. You have to punish them and talk to them like any adult would. Don't let them answer you back or something. You have to stand up to them and let them know your the boss. I hope I helped. let me know please. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
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princessita
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I am 15 years old and I have 3 nephews and I have 2 neices and 1 on the way so I have babysitting experience my 1 nephue has special needs and needs meds and stuff so I can deal with that. I want to know if you guys think I am able to babysit and I think if people would hire me thank you. (link)
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I definetly think they would hire you. Some people hire babysitters ages 13 so I think you could do it. You could even ask your teachers to make you letters of recomendation saying how responsible you are and everything. That would really help if you should it to them. Hope i helped and that everything works out. Let me know
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well i wanna babysite kids cause i like doing that so what age do you think i can babysite at?i already have experience with my neice and nephew (link)
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Well to me you would be ready at age 13. I think that is old enough but for some people that is to young. Usually thy hire 15 year olds. Maybe it would help if your teachers made you letters of recomendation saying how responsible you are or something and then maybe they would hire you. Hope I helped . Let me know how it goes. Good luck!!!!!!!
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princessita
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