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my bf said is psychotic when hes drunk
so ive been dating this guy for almost 2 months. i knew him 2 yrs prior as my sisters friend. but weve always had a thing for eachother during those 2 yrs. infact we dated a couple times for maybe a day or two but this time we wanted to really give it a try. well id like advice on what to do. the other day we celebrated a friends bday- when he gets extremely wasted he becomes another person. not physical but very mental, he will bring me down and call me names. im not defending him but i do use the same game back until its like a hurricane hit us and were left with the aftermath to clean up. well this time i had enough so i broke up with him. he said something ill never forget and i cant believe im sharing it online becuz i cant even tell my friends in real life but i have to get this off my chest. he said outloud (and i really dont think he knew he said this, he really was out of his mind)...he says "quit embarrasing yourself your f***ing a fat obese person".
im a big girl, so yes hes talking about me. first i was shocked, he wasnt facing me when he said it its like he just blurted it before his brain processed it. after a minute i said "are you serious did you just say that?". he didnt realise what he said you can tell, he changes the subject asks what hes supposed to do and goes home. i broke up with him before his comment and he called me 9 times in a row the next morning to aplogise that he was "real drunk", i yelled at him and told him it was completely and officially OVER. i havent spoken to him in 2 days but his myspace page clears hes depressed about the break up. i dont know what to do...ignore that he said that becuz i want to be with him, but i dont know i havent even cried. please help?
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If that comment had hurt you really bad you would be crying your eyes out. I think that you really like him and you have strong feelings for him. But on the other hand being drunk is no exuse for him telling you that. I think you should talk it over with him and your the one that should know how much that comment hurt you and if you really want to get back with him. Think of all the great and bad times you've had with him and think if it's really worth giving him another chance. Hope everything works out. Please let me know.
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princessita
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It's obvious that this guy cares for you...but what he said is hurtful and can never be taken back. If you trully, honestly, belive that he can change then give him another chance but tell him if this happens agian its over. He needs to know that drunk or not drunk saying something hurtful like that is rude and you don't like it. Tell him you'd like it if he didn't drink so much. Only you can trully decide what to do. I hate to say this but he may not be that great of a guy if he thinks that. Sorry, but most people say the truth when their drunk. But your probally not fat...trust me unless you weigh over 5646513161lbs your NOT fat =]
i hope you make the right choice.
But if any guy has the nerve to say that to any girl you should dump his a$$ on the spot! lol.
Cuz, then it proves that hes not a gentalmen and who would want a mean guy in thier life?!
hope i helped
-E
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uhm
i think you should move on,
i mean, unless he's going to give up drinking
but i mean,
what if it gets worse
like hitting.
or what if he has a gun,
a person can do anything if they're drunk,
so i think you should let go.
stay friends.
bc i don't think you should stop being friends,
if you stop dating.
but stay away from him dating wise.
i really hope things get better
i hope i helped.
:D
destiny
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Well, You have to acknowlage that alocohal is a hard drug. Nothing more, nothing less when you decide you indulge to the point of "wastedness"
And if he`s showing these behavoirs at this time. How long will it be until he`s over it? Will it get worse? It could be 4 months, could be 40 years
I think that best Path for you would be to move on
Dont lower who you are for a lay from a asshole who could be a pig for all you know. Man`s world is a very different place as im sure a girls life is from guys life.
And add these factors, drunk+drugs+party=guy to high to know who he`s with.
These relationships always crumble honey. Only someone who is also a druggie can be with a druggie. A druggie wouldnt mind the abuse, shes to high and basicly doesnt give a shit aboot life to the fullest.
You have to ask yourself. Who are you and what is this man to you, Really, REALLY!!!! I mean, MEAN REALLY! 2 months? And all your saying is bad things. Plz put 1+1 together friend.
And as for your weight, I lost 40lb easy! its really simple if you want my secert. Just send me a qustion stating what you want.
Truth will set you free so your soul can Soar
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