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ridiculously awkward situation.... long long story.
before i get into this, yes i know, i'm probably a slut. so sorry.
ANYWAY.
so this guy has been my best best friend for about two years, he's so nice and he's always been there for me.
last summer he asked me out and i said yes.
we've been going out for 9 months.
he was my first time having sex, and i was his.
...but during that 9 months, i hooked up with 4 other guys.
not in a row, not even in the same week.
yeah, again, really wicked sorry.
he doesn't know about them.
no one does except the guys.
i feel awful.
but the truth is, the guy i'm going out with now, while he's super nice to me, is a dick to everyone else, allergic to cats (so he can't ever come over to my house), allergic to lettuce (i'm a vegitarian), not very attractive, listens to mostly different music than me, gets terrible grades, can only talk about things he's interested in, and is militantly straight-edge and i'm totally not.
i really do want to go out with someone else.
i have for a really long time.
i've tried breaking up with him 5 times but i always feel bad and like an hour later get back together with him.
it's so so hard for me to make him upset.
and even though i don't want to go out with him and i know that if i drag this out any further i'm just going to resent him more and he's going to get more attatched.
he says things to me like "i love you forever, please don't leave me" and "you complete me" and "i need you, i love you more than anything"
and i just feel awful, i hate being mean to him.
but i really really want to get out of this relationship without completely hurting his feelings.......
WHAT THE !@#? do i do?!
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quit being a pansy and be honest with the man. You have already cheated on him so you aint doing him no favours. Tell him the truth and stay away from him so he can heal.
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it wont be easy
i'll tell you that right now
no matter how many times you run the "break up" through your mind it will always be harder when you actually decide to do it. and you will feel bad.
but guess what?? you have two options :
you date him and feel bad that you're wasting his time when you dont love him and you're wasting your time because you rather be with someone else who's better for you
or
you feel bad for breaking up with him but eventually find someone who's amazing for you and you finish with this guy who's a dick.
IM me if you wanna talk or you need help of how to tell him you don't want him anymore
xxes25
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Unless you see your feelings for him changing in the forseeable future, dump him now, quickly and permenantly. The longer you put it off, the harder it will be for the both of you when it finally does happen.
The best way to break up with a person is to give them the complete and total truth. The worst part of a breakup is the uncertainty and confusion. If he's certain where he stands with you and why he's being broken up with, he can get over the pain and self-pity faster and you can both get on with your lives--which is the point of a breakup.
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well heres the thing you have to be honest and tell him you don't feel the relationship is working any longer and you would like to be FRIENDS....and it will hurt but you have to be strong for you because if you aren't you're going to be stuck in something you don't want to be stuck in....Its not going to be easy but it will work out eventually definitly not right away. Good luck
ASHLEY L@};-
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wow I can understand your concern. You know what. I think it's better if you just break-up with him now because imagine if you keep feeling sorry for him your gonna probably end up getting married with him(and I know you don't like that). That's why even though it'll be very painful it's best to do it now. I hope everything turns out great and that I helped you make the right decision.
xoxoxoxo
princesita
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