Hi my name is Ashley i'm an aspiring writer,poet,and photographer. I don't know if anyone has heard of Brashai Griffin on this site but alot of my friends are mourning her loss, as am i. I still want to help other people though so ask away i have nothing but time. I'm not an expert but people say i'm pretty good at giving advice.I just want you to be happy with the advice i give and help you the best i can.
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before i get into this, yes i know, i'm probably a slut. so sorry.
ANYWAY.
so this guy has been my best best friend for about two years, he's so nice and he's always been there for me.
last summer he asked me out and i said yes.
we've been going out for 9 months.
he was my first time having sex, and i was his.
...but during that 9 months, i hooked up with 4 other guys.
not in a row, not even in the same week.
yeah, again, really wicked sorry.
he doesn't know about them.
no one does except the guys.
i feel awful.
but the truth is, the guy i'm going out with now, while he's super nice to me, is a dick to everyone else, allergic to cats (so he can't ever come over to my house), allergic to lettuce (i'm a vegitarian), not very attractive, listens to mostly different music than me, gets terrible grades, can only talk about things he's interested in, and is militantly straight-edge and i'm totally not.
i really do want to go out with someone else.
i have for a really long time.
i've tried breaking up with him 5 times but i always feel bad and like an hour later get back together with him.
it's so so hard for me to make him upset.
and even though i don't want to go out with him and i know that if i drag this out any further i'm just going to resent him more and he's going to get more attatched.
he says things to me like "i love you forever, please don't leave me" and "you complete me" and "i need you, i love you more than anything"
and i just feel awful, i hate being mean to him.
but i really really want to get out of this relationship without completely hurting his feelings.......
WHAT THE !@#? do i do?! (link)
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well heres the thing you have to be honest and tell him you don't feel the relationship is working any longer and you would like to be FRIENDS....and it will hurt but you have to be strong for you because if you aren't you're going to be stuck in something you don't want to be stuck in....Its not going to be easy but it will work out eventually definitly not right away. Good luck
ASHLEY L@};-
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if im into photography wat collages would be good for me? (link)
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i'm also into photography and these school have the BEST outlook...
The Art Institute
Brooks Institute of Photography
Harrington College of Design
They're the TOP 3 BEST PHOTOGRAPHY SCHOOLS IN THE UNITED STATES!!! good luck
ASHLEY L @};-
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I've been with my boyfriend 3 years in June. We recently even won the "Cutest Couple" category in Senior Superlatives. A while back, maybe January, we had quite a large fight. It started when we were planning our senior trip to the beach, and I asked if he minded that we slept together in a bed (because we don't have sex, but we do everything else). He said he'd rather not, which was fine, so I simply asked why. He said it didn't "feel right" and that he wasn't ready to share a bed with my overnight, even though we take naps on our couches sometimes. So I said that, and it eventually lead to "I've had a confusing week, I don't want to hurt you", even "I'm not in love with you anymore". We both cried, almost broke up, etc. But I told him to give me another chance, and for a week, we were weird. But after that, things kept getting back to normal, and now, we're happier than we've ever been.
Now, here's the thing.. a few couples that have been dating around the same amount of years we have have been breaking up because they've gotten "bored", and so I tell him often that I don't want that to happen. His answer most of the time is "Yeah, a lot of people don't". Yeah, what the heck? I would think his answer would be "Me either, it won't happen to us" or something along those lines. When I tell him this, he says that should be "implied." Many of his answers to other questions are long these lines, and he tells me they are "implied" too. And another thing- I feel like I always have to say "i love you" first so he will say it back.
I need reassurance a lot, because of the fight we had. I love him more than anything, and he feels the same. Just the way he says those things makes me feel like he doesn't want to say what I think he should at this point in our relationship. Don't get me wrong- we are very much in love and we even talk about getting married every now and then. I just need to be reassured every now and then. I'm sorry if this is confusing. I just need advice- am I worrying way too much, or should these things be something to worry about? (link)
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well it sounds like something is bothering him a little bit and you might want to try and ask him if everything is ok....it also sounds like he's scared you're going to leave or that you are just saying you love him because his answers sound skittish.it may just be him but at the same time with everything thats going on it sounds like the relationship may need a break so you both can think and clear stuff up.i hope it works out
ASHLEY L @};-
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ok well me and this guy have been friends for like 2 yrs now we r kinda beast friends but not really.i started liking him at the begining of this yr.some of my frinds know and so does he.he told my friend he likes me but he also dont but didnt tell her why he didnt. he said he might ask me out.one minute he asks like he likes me then he acts like a friend the next also he is with his friends he acts like he does like me but when he is with other people he acts like he does.im really confused and i was wonder what you think i should do (link)
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All guys act that way...They're ALWAYS embaressed about girls when they're with their friends.Maybe spending more one-on-one time with him as friends will help it along. Also it is okay for the girl to ask the guy out....i know its hard to get the courage but be confident and YOU for sure. i hope it all goes well and....
I hope i helped
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Me and my group of friends were at a fast food place out side. we were having a blast by doing truth or dare but didnt do the dares because we chickien out. anyways...one of my friends dare me to kiss a guy who walks pass me i laughed and said no and one of my friends Alice shouted out "ha yeah right!" in a serious tone....um okay why she say that?
she knows i am bisexual and that i liked her but she isnt that way. (link)
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she was making a joke...but even if she wasn't you shouldn't worry about it. People who talk about you are making you stronger...You shouldn't listen to everything people say.no one can make you feel inferior with out your consent so don't give them your consent.
Hope i helped
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Hi! I have a friend whose daughter is 12 years old and is 5'2 inches tall. She weighs 95 pounds and wants to lose her fat in her thighs and stomach. What kind of exercises can she do to lose that fat? and is it normal for a 12 year old to be 5'2 and weigh 95 pounds? she does not think she is over weight but she is pretty self- concious about her body. so what could she do to have a better looking body with her characteristics? (link)
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crunches and sit-ups work for the stomcahe....for the thighs try sprints that works too....i can't really think of anything else..i'm sorry.
Hope i helped a little
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how to get on myspace when at school (link)
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you can't get on myspace at school its a blocked site.The only way you could do it was if you had the school's password.
SORRY
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I dont know what to do, My husbands mother in the last 4 yrs has lost a son and this past october, her husband.. now shes in a big house all alone, and whenever we go over to visit, she cries and says shes lonely.. I want to stay and sometimes I do, but my heart breaks for her and I dont know what to say or do, and I sure dont want her to give up her will, she is quite elderly.. (link)
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maybe....i know this may seem childish but you and your husband move in with her or her move in with you. If she's that lonely she may just give up her will....my grandpa just died christmas eve...he lost his wife and after that stopped eating and got really sick.I'm not trying to upset you but some people get that way.They feel they have nothing to live for even when they have EVERYTHING to live for.
Hope i helped
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how can i make my boyfriend for almost a year in 2 months be a little more affectionate not only when we are by our selves but when we are around others too but WITHOUT making it seem like i want him to change who he is.
I just want a little bit more affection i guess.
but he is REALLY good to me so dont get the wrong idea. (link)
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you can't make him show you affection...but you could tell him you would like more affection. In a realtioship you have to be 100% honest with your partner....so try that and if it doesn't work i don't know what you can do.
Hope I Helped
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i went on a calorie less diet. i only take in more or less 1200. soemtiems i take in 1400 but i do a lot of exercise if i do that.
on saturday i ate soooooooooo much and gained 2 pounds do i went form 112 to 114'!!! i want to weigh 100. i need my stomich to be flat.
any ideas.???? i do 30 min abb exercises an kcikboxin (link)
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well maybe doing the calorie count isn't goign to work...i lost 5 pounds just changing from regular pop to diet pop...so watch your sugar intake and stuff instead of you calorie intake that might help alot more.
Hope i helped
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for about 2 years now i haven't been able to feel the emotions im supposed to. i know what im supposed to feel cos its there in my head but i cant feel it in my body and heart.
for example last night i was sad and crying a lot but didn't feel sad i just felt normal like numb.
it works the other way as well. like your supposed to feel happy but i still feel numb.
my thoughts are happy and i know im supposed to feel happy but im still numb.
it scares me a bit that ive stopped feeling all these emotions.
i don't know what to do about it either
call it numb, emotionally stable, heartless or what ever you want.
but i want it to stop.
i want to feel again. even if its pain or sadness.
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Well i've been having this same feeling lately and i know why i feel that way...you're just overwhelmed with feelings and you can't experiece them because its too much.It will pass when everything cools down for you but you can't force yourself to feel anything it has to go on its own
Hope i Helped
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ok so im a freshman in highschool
and my boyfriend is a senior
and yesterday he came over and stuff
and he asked me if i wanan go to his prom with him and i of course i said yes
but im like freaking out now cuase my parents dont really see me like the type of girl to have guys over all the time and do that stuff when i really am and if they find out hes a senior idk what their reaction is gonna be and im scared to tell them. and idk what to say
cause it would be differnet if my brothe wasnt a senior also and if i wasnt only a freshman so i really need help on what to tell them and stuff
because is less then a month away
and normally on prom night you go to a hotel and yeahh hah
and i know there not gonna let me do that soo
im hoping they will say i can go but i need help on what to say to them (link)
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Well you have to first understand your parents definately want you to be happy and safe, You do have to tell them and set up a good way to do so.
you might want to definately list the reasons you should be able to go and that you'll act as responsibly as possible so that you'll have there trust.As for the whole hotel thing...your parents won't go for that....but if it does happen make sure you're not forced to do anything you don't want to. Just be honest and upfront and if they do say no its because they care. Be Careful
Hope i helped
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lately ive been having such random dreams about this guy who i used to be friends with.
we havent talked in about a month though, we have just gone our seperate way. i know that i miss him a lot, but im not sure if he misses me.
my question is why do i keep dreaming about him? could that be a sign that he may be thinking about me too and that we are going to make up? please help (link)
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most dreams mean something about how you feel...recently my friend Brashai passed away and i keep having a dream i see her disappear...that means i wish i could have saved her.You keep dreaming about him because you want to be near him and be friends and talk like you used to...You're missing the friendship
Hope i helped
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15/f
- - What are some things to change your appearance to look more attractive, you know attract boys? lol
I dont want to look like a slut or anythign either.
i've had boyfriends beforee so i know im not ugly, but i dont think im beautiful either.
just "ok" looking.
i havee no boobs, and a skinny tiny body.
=/ help? maybe what kind of clothes to wear as well?
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ok well any change of hair color or style will definately change it up i had a perm last year to make my hair curl and dyed it blonde this year and made it straight so that helps.You definately don't want to overdo it on the make up cause guys don't like that type of thing all that much.As for the cloths you want to keep your personal style but edge it up so if its a plain color thing wear bright edgy accesories and if its and edgy outfit try and wear simple jewlery and stuff...you always want to go for the smoky eyes definately and thats usually with browns and balcks
Hope i helped
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welll this boy and i have liked each other for like 2 yrs off and on. we have been best friends the whole time. then this yr since like the beginning of summer he really, really, liked me. he and i decided to date and we fell in love. we onl dated for 3 months tho. the last month we have had a lot of problems because im moving and he feels God wants us to break up and is calling him in another direction. he told me he doesnt love me anymore and lost interest in me but still wants to be friends. i am leaving in 2 months. at first i told him i hated him because i did but then we talked and i understand. i do think its good to do so but also bad because we had so much planned. i hope we can still be best friends because we have always had that and he told me we could still be friends. the thing is even though i do agree would should break up because fighting with him is hell. i still love him. please what should i do? m not like completely depressed because i know God will make it ok and hes not the right one for me but if you can understand he and i were in love. we have ALWAYS flirted and had attraction to each other. he was my very best friend. and i do still love him. how should i get over him and now that he and i r 'just friends' what should i do and not do? this is so hard and i just need some help and to get through it. as well as leaving my friends, church, school, and everything now im leaving him and our realationship before i even leave. but i still really want to be close friends. how do i show him i can do that? he didnt dump me btw we kinda just broke up. i dumped him then he told me he lost interest in me then i was like no we can make it work then i agreed he was right.
its just so hard because he is the first boy i truly loved and we were only together for 3 months and im leaving and me moving ruined everything. we had so much planned and so many memories to make and so many sweet times i keep looking back to. and he always told me how much he loved me and cared for me and that he would always remember me and i believe those things but its so hard now because now he doesnt love me. i agree with breaking but i still, at least love him. oh please help me and thank you so much in advance.
and i tried so hard to be the best girlfriend i could be. i would do anything for him. it just hurts. a lot. because now its over. forever (link)
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Well the thing is you still have the friendship and thats a good thing...most people can't pullthat off.Its going to hurt for a while untill you finally decide that moving on is the better thing to do.You always have to be honest since you are still friends you have to tell him you still have feelings for him and that its going to be hard to stay 'just friends' for you....if he cares about you and he's a good friend he'll understand.I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out
Hope i helped
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he is very skeptical, and things changed with him, though the second chance didn't last that long, by my own fault and his patience...yeah.. hopefully so, but i'm unsure if i want to be friends again. the feelings are slowly breaking away, but i want to try to make this the best of it. since im a senior and hes a junior..i wont get to see him much after this year..but helives 1.7 miles away but yeah...i think u get what i mean. thanks! (link)
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no problem i'm here to help
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The only thing is..he thinks everyone deserves a second chance.. but getting a third chance..all depends on how he feels. He never gave someone a 3rd chance before. Knowing that the chances are slim..I don't know what to do. =[ (link)
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Well getting a third chance may be slim but if cares about you enough to give you a second chance tgird times the charm. Only time will tell if you two will work the whole thing out, and its going to be hard with the feelings still being there. I wish you the best of luck!!!
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I liked my best friend for over an year now. In July I fell in love..Febuary we ended the friendship to agreement we needed a change, we needed to figure things out, and to give me time to let go. Over time we could be friends again, so after 3 1/2 weeks we became friends again. It lasted 2 1/2 weeks, we discovered we weren't meant to be friends. So we are done. I didn't feel any pain or emotion in the last 1 1/2 weeks that this happened. Wednesday I got a slap in the face, and realized I may have hurted him more than he had hurted me, and that hurt. But as of tonight, I found it extreme painful that the chances of getting a 3rd chance at being friends are 1 out of 1000...I have only known him 15 months, but we became really close, I was able to trust him more than I have ever trusted anyone. He knows more about me than anyone. (We were never together nor did we ever do anything intimate) It really hurts to know that, that was probably the last of our friendship. None of my friends understand, because they aren't exactly expierenced in the level we were at. They just think it was junior high crap. Though he's 17 and i'm 18. Anyways, how do I find closure in this? Is it possible? Why does it all of sudden hurt when the last almost 2 weeks, I was fine with the whole thing I didn't cry at all?
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Actually this is normal for any friendship that turns into a relationship. The only closure you have is the fact that now the friendship won't work because there are other feelings involved. You were fine at first because you weren't really sure of what you had lost but now that you fully understand it it hurts ALOT more. All heart breaks heal in time and maybe you guys will be friends again but till then you have to deal and know everything will turn out better in the end
HOPE I HELPED
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ok so everytime i eat anything, i bloat like crazy. but its not even bloating, its like my stomache seriously gets bigger instantly and i gain more weight.
im so scared of eating anything besides like fruit or something healthy.
i hate that it does that, especially since summer is right around the corner.
i really dont want to look like a whale when im at the beach.
does anyone know what i can do to keep weight off and not look so huge?
any exercises i can do at home that are fun and easy?
thanks so much everyoneee (link)
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Junebug93 is right...my dad has diabetis and our diet changed alot so we eat alot healthier...Diet pops and flavored waters work really good too when we switched from regular pepsi to diet pepsi i lost five puonds so that will help.Also if you must have sweet stuff like candy or cake either get sugar free or splenda made stuff that will help too.As for the execise none of them are all that fun but maybe grab a cd player or an mp3 player and take a run or jog and little changes wil help alot!!!
Hope i helped
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ok so me and this boy have been dating for a wile... except he is my brothers friend so we have been dating in seceret and he always talkes about how hes going to tell people which i would love him to do he really is the love of my life but and i want to be with him forever, he is quite a few years older than me so for the rest of our lives is different and dont want to be tied down to someone i cant even be with in public... i want to be with him i just dont think now is the time i just dont know how to say it without hurting him or i just dont really know what to do... i know its a mess but any help would be great.. thanks in advance
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Well with the age difference you'd have to be really careful because you don't want him to get in trouble for sure...and you don't want to completely tie yourself down because your still young and you want to be able to experience everything and anything you can. Just tell him that you honsetly aren't ready for a really serious relationship...like you can do the whole dating thing but you don't want to get wayyyyy too serious.
Hope i helped
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