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Reassurance. Long question.
I've been with my boyfriend 3 years in June. We recently even won the "Cutest Couple" category in Senior Superlatives. A while back, maybe January, we had quite a large fight. It started when we were planning our senior trip to the beach, and I asked if he minded that we slept together in a bed (because we don't have sex, but we do everything else). He said he'd rather not, which was fine, so I simply asked why. He said it didn't "feel right" and that he wasn't ready to share a bed with my overnight, even though we take naps on our couches sometimes. So I said that, and it eventually lead to "I've had a confusing week, I don't want to hurt you", even "I'm not in love with you anymore". We both cried, almost broke up, etc. But I told him to give me another chance, and for a week, we were weird. But after that, things kept getting back to normal, and now, we're happier than we've ever been.
Now, here's the thing.. a few couples that have been dating around the same amount of years we have have been breaking up because they've gotten "bored", and so I tell him often that I don't want that to happen. His answer most of the time is "Yeah, a lot of people don't". Yeah, what the heck? I would think his answer would be "Me either, it won't happen to us" or something along those lines. When I tell him this, he says that should be "implied." Many of his answers to other questions are long these lines, and he tells me they are "implied" too. And another thing- I feel like I always have to say "i love you" first so he will say it back.
I need reassurance a lot, because of the fight we had. I love him more than anything, and he feels the same. Just the way he says those things makes me feel like he doesn't want to say what I think he should at this point in our relationship. Don't get me wrong- we are very much in love and we even talk about getting married every now and then. I just need to be reassured every now and then. I'm sorry if this is confusing. I just need advice- am I worrying way too much, or should these things be something to worry about?
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well you are kinda worring alittle too much... let things just go along... also sometimes it can be something to worry anout but right now to me it sounds your worring too much
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Hey girl, i admit you should wonder about these things, but don't stress too much about it. After a while just wait and see what happens,see if his attitude changes, and if it doesn't maybe saying i love you and talking about marriage shouldn't be your main priority.
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Hello Anonymous,
the same exact thing happend tome. except i`m i guy. when i told her that would never happen to us she just said "yea, whatever" so gave her alot of time. so, in a while we got closer together. now were still together after a long time.
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well it sounds like something is bothering him a little bit and you might want to try and ask him if everything is ok....it also sounds like he's scared you're going to leave or that you are just saying you love him because his answers sound skittish.it may just be him but at the same time with everything thats going on it sounds like the relationship may need a break so you both can think and clear stuff up.i hope it works out
ASHLEY L @};-
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