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should i quit?
so i babysit this six year old 3 times a week.
he lies to me all the time about what he can and can't do.
one day he told me something he could do and his mother got mad at me.
i can tell she really doesn't like me now, but she has no one else to babysit for her.
her and her husband both smoke a lot.
when i come home from her house i REEK of ciggarette smoke.
it's disgusting.
i have to scrub myself in the shower to make the smell go away.
but it's still stuck in my jacket, so i smell it everyday.
one day i had my boyfriend pick me up and he was gagging on the smell.
the mother and her husband are both getting new jobs and i'm also afraid i'm going to have later hours, which just can't happen.
it's already effecting my grades because i'm always so tired after.
i just don't know what to do.
i'm one of those people that feel guilty about everything too.
i need a lot of help, please.
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Well I think you should list the good and the bad thing about that job. The good thing is that you get paid butthe bad thing are that you smell like smoke, you get very tired,the kid lies and makes you get in trouble, and most important thing your lowering your grades. I mean I really don't think any job is worth all that. I bet you don't even get paid well. I think you should quit. I hope you make the right decision. Let me know how it goes.
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princessita
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first off never belive the child! go with your instincts, if this mom is a big neutitionalist which i'm guessing might not be the case but it's still a good example, the kid might not be allowed to have chocolate or soda. also if you're not comfortable with the family maybe it is best you should quit, you have to take care of yourself first.
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Don't sacrifice your grades for a job, especially one like this. I don't know your economic status, but if you can afford to go to school without having this job, then do it. I would advise you to keep the job only if it was necessary to pay things so you could go to school. Study, study, study! And there is no reason for you to feel guilty about anything. Before your job comes you. If nobody else can baby sit for the family then that is their own problem and responsibility, not yours. You get paid after all your work, but the money won't keep your grades up.
Talk to the family about it and let them know that you won't be able to babysit as much or even anymore because you need to focus on school. Honestly, no job or employer is going to tell you not to quit because of school. If they give you a hard time about it, then even more reason to leave; they should realize the situation at hand and not risk your grades. It doesn't seem like an enjoyable environment to be in anyway, with all the smoking in the house. I wouldn't suggest going out right away to find a job, unless you really do need one for money issues. If you can, get back on track with your homework and grades, and then look out for another job. There are still plenty of jobs for your age available, that will offer a cleaner, safer environment, probably won't put you into super late night shifts, and if your lucky has good pay! But remember, your education comes first, so deal with your jobs later and get back to work now. Hope that helped and good luck.
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find a job that pays u more then quit the babysiting or just babysit some othere kid.
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If it's effecting your school work, then quit. Your education is worth far more than a few spare bucks.
As for them smoking, well, I'm sure you had a general idea of that when you started there. Even if you didn't, you don't like it, yet have continued to sit for them.
They have a right to smoke. You have a right to not expose yourself to it.
The next family that asks you to sit, say you only sit kids in a non-smoking environment.
For future reference on lying kids- I've been there...
When they try to tell you "Mom said I can do this or that" tell them "If your mom said you could do this or that, she would have informed me, so the answer is NO."
Of course, they will protest and beg. That is when you tell them "Next time remind your parents to inform me of any activities you are allowed to do that are out of the ordinary."
I promise- problem solved. They will realize that they can't trick you into allowing them to do what they aren't supposed to.
Don't feel guilty for doing what you think is right for the kids who are under your supervision. By no means feel guilty for doing what is right for you.
If you don't want to sit for a kid who lies to you and gets you into trouble in a smoke filled home that tires you to the point your grades suffer, then by all means, DON'T.
You have nothing to feel guilty for.
They found you, they WILL find someone else.
ygs-29/f
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I agree with the others: quitting would be a great idea. Your schoolwork should come first before anything else. Not to mention secondhand smoke is the WORST for your health.
Plus, if the mother is too stupid to make a list of things her son can and can't do, she's hardly worth working for anyway.
There are plenty of other babysitting jobs available anyway. There is no reason to feel guilty about quitting. It's just not working out. Plain and simple. If you're nervous about quitting face-to-face, call them on the phone a week before you plan to quit, just so they can have a heads-up.
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i usually dont quit anything and
i never like to qutitt. but in
your situation i would tell them
that you just cant do it because
your school work is more important;
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I think you should quit, but do it nicely.
Tell them that you can't babysit because it is interfering with your schoolwork.
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