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I feel left out
Okay so I have 2 bffs, Kenzie and Bri. Bri and I have been friends since 4th grade, Im in 6th now. All of us are. Kenzie & I just met this year.. but anyway
well we all had this major fight for a really stupid reason and it really effected our relationship, even after words. Kenzie and Bri were never mad at eachother, so their relationship didnt suffer, just the one with me. They were all ganging up on me and stuff, and it was really annoying.
Well now they ALWAYS have plans together, and I feel left out.. It is really upsetting me and Ive tried telling them how I felt, but they just say "Well maybe you should make plans FIRST" But that is hard to do, considering they always have plans. And then on the bus they use MY phone to call and make plans for themselves, not even asking if I want to be part of it. It is really upsetting me. Ill ask "Hey can I spend the night tonight?" And shell say "No I want Bri to" and It just makes me want to cry. Today Im going to Alex's (youve heard about him, lol) birthday party with Kenzie. Its fine when kenzie and I are by ourselves, and its the same way with Bri and I. Bri always says we used to be like this *crosses her fingers* But now we are like this *sticks thumb and pinky finger out, all others down* and it makes me sad. They take it as a joke or get mad at me when I try to talk to them, and I dont want parents involved.
Thanx in Advance!
ALSO. Bri gets mad at me for stupid things like rolling my eyes. I dont know if that helps *laughs*, but w/e
P.s. I know this is off topic, but what should I give Alex for his birthday considering I have no money, at ALL.
<3
Sam
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what a quinkey Dink. I've had the same prob. in the past. You can even check my column but one of the replies to my prob. really helped me. They told me to talk to my friends tell thim how I feel. So here is my advice for you:
Tell Bri and Kenzi how you feel. Tell them you don't like being treated this way, and that if they want to be friends with you then why don't they start acting like it, because your fed up with it.
BUT if they don't take this seriously or they just say "well we don't need you" Then they aren't a true friend. And I know everyone says that but it's sooooooo true. Try finding other people to hang out with. Who knows Bri & Kenzi might turn around and apologize, or they might be jelous but either way your shouldn't put yourself down, cause it's there loss. IF they aren't gonna treat you like a true friend then don't waste your time on them find someone else
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hey i know girls can get a little bitchy but you need to talk to them about it, one on one so they dont have each other to hang up on you. then they might really listen.
try a different approach like instead of asking if you can hang out with them and what they have planed, make plans and invite both of them like "im going to the movie you guys wanna come, we can go back to mine after" see if that works.
you could write them letters.
tell bri that you two have always been like this *cross fingers* she just didnt know it everytime she does that and it will soon change her mind.
you could make your alex a mix cd of his fave songs or fave band...
hope i helped xoxo
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I would talk to your friends. Talk to them both seperately though, or else they might try to gang up on you or something, which wouldnt be good.
Also, try to make plans with both of them. YOU need to make plans, with both of them, and with each of them seperately. So say on Friday night you go to a movie with Bri, and then Saturday go to the mall or something with both of them.
Or when they make plans, just ask to go with them. Say that you want to spend time with them and you feel left out when you don't.
And about Alex, you didn't mention an age, but how about:
- a giftcard.
- a cd.
- cologne.
- a book.
- a shirt of his favorite band.
-Laura. (15-f)
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I think you should try to talk it out. Make them listen and tell them how you feel. Tell them it makes you feel left out and it really hurts your feelings. You should probably also try apologizing even though it may not be your fault. If that doesn't work you should probably not be friends anymore.I mean I think it's better not to have friend at all then have bad friend. They really don't deserve you.Plus I think it's very childish and just plain mean what their doin two you. Hope I helped. Let me know how it goes!!!!!!!
xoxoxoxo
princessita
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