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ok so i am f/17 and i want to become closer to God i mean ive been baptizted before bt i really want to become closer to the lord i guess i just got baptized because i felt i had to at the moment i was close to the lord before i got baptized though.bt after that everything went down hill =[ i just want to be closer to the lord because he is my confort bt im scared to talk to him for some odd reason
soo how can i become closer to the lord like i was before?
what can i do ?
and will god be angry at me because ive changed? (link)
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Well being baptized isn't really being close with God, it's just a symbol to show that you have accepted him as your savior.
But anyway, it's great that you want to become closer to Him. I would say just get into your Bible. Even if it is hard to understand, it is for me alot of the time, keep reading it cause that's what God wants you to do.
Like you heard before, find a good church, if you don't have one already, and get involved. Praying is one big thing to be close to Him. Just talking to him about anything and everything.
He won't be angry because you've changed. He'll be happy that you came back to Him.
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Girls Out There, Do you all notice when a guy is staring at your boobs or butt? How do you feel about that,do you just want to smack him on the side of the head or do you care at all?If u don't care would you show them off on sometimes just to get a guys attention?I just want to know how girls think (link)
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It depends on the girl and the guy. Some girls may like it and some girls will think it's disgusting. If the girls don't mind if a guy is staring at them it sometimes depends on what the guy is like. If they aren't interested in them then some won't mind.
I don't like it when guys stare at me like that unless it's from a distance or if it's my boyfriend, but that's just me.
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your advice on suicide was great the usa is the worst most fuck up peice of shit place to live im ashamed to have been born here your exactly right is compleatly fucked i live in pittsburgh and have to serve 1year in jail for having 6drinks in 5hrs its complete bullshit but yet my cousin has 13 dui`s in another county and doesent get one day our goverment is so croupt and wack out it is insain this country does make me wanna kill myself i cant stand it here the only way your life will be not that bad is if your born into money or otherwise your fucked the only thing this country cares about is one thing and one thing only ( money) money could mean shit to me norway here i come cause ide rather die than spend another day here fuck you united states you lieing sac of shit there is nothing free in this junk bullshit sorry piece of shit of a country i feel bad my fam has lost lives and fought for what you call freedom if this is freedom than i dont want it all the usa is is fucking lies! (link)
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Wow, you are definitely free to leave anytime. Seriously, if you don't want to be here then just leave. This country is amazing, you could have it so much worse. Be grateful or just leave.
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There's this boy who I have known since third grade. We are both now 15 and in eleventh grade. I am a girl. We are friends, we talk all the time in and out of school. But next Saturday will be the first day we are hanging out outside of school. We are going to the park to watch a movie with my two best friends and two other boys. Everyone says it's a date. We say it's not, just two friends hanging out. It's not a date unless we say it is, right? (link)
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Yeah, it does seem like two friends just hanging out. I wouldn't call it a date unless you both decide it's a date.
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You can love in a lot of ways. you can be with someone so amazing and say you love them; the next, and scariest step, if youre serious enough, can be saying youre in love with them.
(lets make sure we know the difference between loving someone & being in love with someone. i always believed you can only be in love so many times.)
For example, my story.. i met this guy in the beginning of sophomore year. we began to talk but we didnt get close until early 2010. we were best friends for months & then he admitted to liking me. I began to like him back and weve been together officially for nearly two months.
when someone's your best friend, is it faster to fall in love? how do you know? what's the differnece between loving someone & being in love with them?
i know they say youll know when you know. but maybe there are some little factors that everybody catches on.
thank you!
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You'll know when you're in love. You can love pretty much anyone. Like how you love your family, friends, ect. So pretty much you care about them.
Being in love is different. You know that. My opinion it would be loving them no matter what, like unconditionally, can't picture life without them, would do anything for them.
I'm not sure if it is faster to fall in love when you were best friends before. I guess it depends on who you are. Honestly, you should be friends with someone before dating them so you know what you are getting yourself into beforehand.
It really is difficult to define. But you just want only them and would care for them through it all, would respect them, and love them. Love isn't just a feeling, its an action too.
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i know this is kinda long but if you help me out thank you soo much.
18/f
so me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago (we dated 3 months). he just blew up at me and made me feel like shit so i said i don't need this and ended things with him. a few weeks later he messeged me telling me that he can't stop thinking about me and cried over me and really wants to get back with me and blahblah. i won't get back with him for a few reasons: 1. i can't forget the reason why we broke up and how miserable he made me feel. 2. he doesn't drive and he doesn't have a job so he never can afford to take me anywhere, i don't even think we've been on an actually date. and i have to drive EVERYWHERE 3. he's a year younger than me (i know this is a bad reason but i just feel that the maturity level is different) 4. i have a bad past about giving second chances to guys. i told him that i wouldn't get back with him because i rushed into a relationship with him too soon that i wasn't ready for. however, we've still been talking and hooking up, he's been alot better since we broke up, but i have a feeling he's the kind of guy that wants what he can't have. i like hooking up with him, like he's really cute and everything but i can't picture myself with him.
now i just met this guy at my friends party. he is everything i want in a relationship. he has a job, a license, a car, an amazing personality, athletic, he knows how to have a good time and i just think everything about him is attractive. i really want to date him but what do i tell my ex? i can always just stop talking to my ex but i like him as a friend and i wanna stay good friends so i don't wanna go down that path. soo any advice about this whole situation? thanks soo much (link)
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If you can't picture forever with your ex, he isn't worth it. If you ever decide to get back with him, you will never forget the things he said and did to you. You may be able to try and push them out of your mind but they will always be there.
This guy you met sounds like a good guy. I would try it out with him.
Tell your ex that you would just want to be friends. Don't rush right into a friendship, since he isn't over you, it's going to be way harder for him. So don't be too surprised if he doesn't want to talk with you so much for awhile. Tell him just friends. If he can't take that, then let him be and let him get over it.
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Okay... I have a question. I am fifteen now, but I was fourteen at the time, and my bf was sixteen. When we were dating I was what you would call "whipped". I basically let my bf do whatever he wanted, except when he asked for a hand job. I kept telling him no, no, no. But one night we were hanging out and making out on the couch. We were getting pretty into it and all of the sudden he just pulled down his shorts, grabbed my hand, put it on his you know what, and started moving my hand with his hand. It happened so quick, it took me a second to realize what was going on and when I did I pulled my hand away and started crying. I never even talked to him about it after that... but now that were broken up it keeps coming back to me and I don't know why. It wasn't that bad was it?? I don't know what to do... why is this bothering me so muchh??? (link)
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It's bothering you most likely because it was your first time ever doing that. He hurt you and it's going to be on your mind for awhile. You'll never forget it but eventually it won't bug you as much. That guy was a jerk so forget about him and don't go back to him. I hope everything goes well.
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My boyfriend is going camping this weekend with a group of friends.. part of that group of friends is his ex girlfriend..I can't go because i have to work. should i be worried? (link)
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If you trust him, don't worry yourself. If you know for a true fact that he does love you then you really don't have anything to worry about. If you're still bugging yourself about it, just talk to him and tell him you're just a little nervous about it. Good luck!
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15/f
hi. so this my be a weird question. but hey, this is what this site is for right?
well i hate hair (besides on my head).
well i was wondering if girls (but mainly guys) thinks its weird to shave my arms
i have before, but my step sister thought it was kind of weird.
well i would like opinions of this.
please and thank you. (link)
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It's not "weird" but if you don't like it or self conscious about it then you can. I know a few people who do. I don't, since my arm hair isn't like guy arms and then it'd just be a hassle to shave my legs and arms. Most guys don't care either.
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I was shopping with my friend. When we left the store we were stopped by two lady loss prevention agents. It turned out my friend was shoplifting, which I didn't know. She fessed up right away. I didn't steal anything. They said we both had to go with them to the security office. I tried to leave but one of the LP agents grabbed me and handcuffed me, hands behind the back. They separated us and tried to get us to admit we were in on it together. My friend and I stuck to the truth which was that I wasn't involved. We were both taken to jail and charged with misdemeanor theft. My friend pled guilty later and the charges against me were dismissed. I spent three hours in handcuffs and a night in jail. Why would they do this to me just because I was with someone who shoplifted? Any ideas on whether this kind of thing is legal? If not, does anyone think I have a legal remedy against the store for false arrest or something? Opinions on whether this is worth pursuing? (link)
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It's legal. Since you were with her whether or not you stole anything you're still in trouble. At least your charges were dismissed. You know, its that whole, you were at the wrong place at the wrong time kinda thing. You didn't steal anything but you were there.
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I have a question about getting my ears pierced. So I'm gunna get my ears pierced this friday and im 14 which is kinda lateish for a girl my age i guess but i got them done when i was little but let them close up ..ok ahah whatver. anyways when i get them done does it hurt? I remember it hurt maybe cuz i was just little or something. And one more thing would it be bad to get like your first and second piercing done at the same time? will it hurt? THANKYOU (link)
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It kinda feels like a pinch but it doesn't hurt afterward or anything. Make sure you keep them clean though, you don't want them infected. I was told getting them at the same time wasn't a good idea. Infections and such so I'd just get the first done. I got my second piercings with a gun, so I barely felt it. They'll explain it all when you get it done.
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My crisis is that I'm 12, my parrents don't know anything that I do at school or who I like. I have been crushing on this guy named Sam since 5th grade when I moved to his school and he asked me out. I said no because I just moved to the school and I didn't know about his reputation. Now that I just finished sixth grade I realy like him. He I quarterback of the football team and is a really good student. He has dated a lot of popular girls just to think he is cool but yesterday his friend came up to me and said that my bestie Christina told him that I liked Sam. I said no because I want to tell him in person and I knew my friend didn't tell him because she has no way to tell anyone because she's on vacay. Sam is moving at the end of this summer and I don't know what I would do without him in any of my classes. I think about him all day. It's not very easy to just come out and say that I like him because I don't know his cell phone or a facebook, but the worst part Is that he lives 5 houses down and he walks home from going down town with his friends and walks right past my house and dances right in front. He has been showing me signs that he likes me but I don't know what I should do. I'm thirteen and I'm a girl just to be clear. The bag of lies part is that I pretended to date this other guy to make him jealous. I know it's wrong but Sam was gettting on my nerves and dating a popular girl just to make me jealous. Help me please
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Just be outside when he goes walking by or something. Then try talking to him and maybe getting closer to him. You don't want to move too fast. But he's leaving so much won't come out of it. Maybe just let him know how you feel, either write it in a note or tell him before he leaves. Don't act all obsessive and in love with him. Just say simply how you feel. It'd be hard but you can do it! Good luck!
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Hello I am a 13 year old girl I like this boy and his brother told me that he likes me and I want to go out with him, should I give a hint, or ask him myself or wait and see if he would ask me? (link)
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If you are bold enough you could ask him yourself. But if not you should hint around that you like him and if he doesn't pick it up let him know how you feel and if he feels the same he should ask you out. Good luck!
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I'm a thirteen-year-old rising female freshman.
Back in September, I got my first boyfriend. Let's say his name was Tyler. Tyler verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused me for almost six months before I finally broke it off. The thing is - I know I was wrong to give in to this - I lost my virginity to Tyler. I thought I loved him, and adults around me believed we were in love too, so I don't know, I just felt like I could trust him. I know I was stupid, losing my virginity at thirteen to someone I no longer care about, but I've learned from my mistakes and won't do this for many years.
Now I've got a new boyfriend. Let's say his name is Aaron. I've known Aaron for almost two years now; we've always been close. I'm Aaron's first girlfriend. I love him a lot, and he's the person I trust most in this world. Recently, I accidentally let loose the fact that I have a deep dark secret (that I'm no longer a virgin). He got curious and asked what exactly my secret was, so I told him I trusted him enough that I would tell him by the end of the summer.
I have no regrets about saying I'd reveal my secret to him. I know he'd never tell anyone. What I am scared of, however, is what he'll think of me afterwards. What if he calls me a whore or something? I know that means he doesn't deserve me, that he isn't worth it. But unlike a lot of other people, his opinion means so much to me. I guess I kind of need some reassurance in my decision to tell him. D: (link)
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Well since you trust him alot and you know for a fact that he wouldn't tell anyone then it is fine for him to know as long as you trust him. Just let him know you totally regretted it and all that. Just so he doesn't get the impression that he HAS to and that you expect more out of him.
You learned from your mistakes and thats a good thing as long as you don't make those mistakes again.
Secrets bring people closer together too. Just make sure you KNOW for a fact he won't go around telling people a bunch of stuff, even if things ended badly between you two.
If he calls you a whore then you know he's not worth it and you'll learn more about him because of that and ended it sooner before it got worse. Most likely he won't since you guys are close. Good luck!
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I've been dating my girl for 6 months now, and I'm so in love with her.. but before me, she hooked up with a lot of guys and wasn't a great kid.. but then she met me and became an angel. i've done everything with this girl, and she promised me i was the first to finger her, eat her out and i was the first she gave a blow job too (sorry if this is too detailed) but then her ex boyfriend told me other wise.. and there is a rumor that she gave another dude head, and had sex with him, and that she gave another guy head. i've never cheated on her and i'm in love with her, i give her everything she wants. she tells me to put her on a lie detector test, so what should i do? believe her? or rumors?? (link)
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Even if she did do anything, it was her past. Maybe she doesn't want to tell you cause she may think that you might expect more from her or she doesn't want you to judge her. You never know, she may have a reason. If she was cheating on you then you would have a problem. So the most I can say is give her the benefit of the doubt. There is nothing really you can do to make her tell the truth. It's her choice and its all if you trust her. So if you're in love with her, you'd trust her. Just tell her to be honest with you and that it won't change anything. If she seems like a girl you can trust then there shouldn't be much of a problem. Good luck!
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hey guys, so i haven't been on this site in a while, but i would really appreciate the help.
i'm 17/f and enjoying life right now.
about 7 monthhs ago, right before my birthday, new job, license..etc. my boyfriend/ex (of a a year and ahalff) broke up with me. it was a horrible break up, and we've talked on and off, but now its horrible. he hates me so much, and never wants to speak to me again because i called him out. he lied to all of his friends and i told him he doesn't have to , to be accepted. he now hates me. the past 7 months have been so bad, i would hate myself, and not think i was good enough.
but now i'm almost there, almost over him and the whole thing. there's this new guy ( not really tho because he was my first kiss in 7thh grade and boyfriend, etc.) i honestly don't know where this is going, but i don't know what to do. has anyone ever felt confused about what to do, which direction to go? i think i just need a slap in a face from someone who's been there and who knows what'll happen. i just wanna have hope.
thanks! (sorrya bout the novel i just wrote) (link)
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I would say go for this guy that you're into. Cause apparently the last guy is a jerk so you'd want to get over him right? I don't know anything about this other guy but if he seems like a good guy then go for him. Even if things work out you know there are plenty of guys out there who would be lucky to have you. You still have your whole life ahead of you. Don't waste it on jerks who'll keep breaking your heart. Good luck!
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Is it a bad sign to feel discouraged in a relationship to the point where you just don't feel like you should be obligated to put any effort into a relationship anymore? My boyfriend and I haven't physically been with each other since two weeks before school ended (finals, APs, ect.) because there just wasn't enough time. I suppose I just feel like it's not the same if we're not able to see each other daily and live together like we do normally during the school year (boarding school).
This feeling has only recently occurred to me and I think the fact that I see a girl he used to be in love with who messes with his feelings and head all the time is flirting with him. He doesn't seem to be reciprocating the same exact vibes as her, but I still feel completely powerless because they're the same age (four years older), and it's discouraging and slightly intimidating, I'm not going to lie. Also, I feel like after this entire year where he's taken me for granted, it'd just be nice to take a break. Not that I don't love him, but I suppose it's just that I feel completely worn out.
So my question is, is it normal to feel like this after a while in a relationship? (we've been together around 7 months) He says he loves me, and I believe him but I feel like, at this point (while he should technically be a freshman in college), that because of my age, I'm not really worth much to him. And although this may sound ridiculous , I have to ask honestly if guys really do tend to value the girls they're with differently depending on age? I'm just trying to be realistic here (I acknowledge the fact that it would be completely understandable, with our age difference, for him to inadvertently establish some type of officious attitude towards our situation at times) but believe we have a good and healthy relationship, but I've become completely incredulous to the idea that he really values me.
So I was just wondering if this feeling just a normal occurrence/phase or if there's the possibility of it being some type of ominous sign that things would be better off if we were to revert back to simply being nothing more than friends. (and yes, we have had sex once)
So, yes, some advice would be greatly appreciated. :) (link)
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It is normal to feel that way, especially when there is an age difference cause you don't know how he feels about it. Right now would be the best time to talk to him about it so you know where he is act and if he is still willing to put effort into it and you don't have to discourage yourself on what is going on in his head. If you talk to him and you are still feeling the same, decided to take a break. It might be for the better. So best thing to do right now is talk to him. You'll see if the age difference is bothering you and tell him to be completely honest. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the better!
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i feel suffocated around my family because i ALWAYS hang out with them and it is boring and whenever i hang out with my friends my mom WOULD keep calling me and annoying me about what time im coming home, always worried about me even though i dont go out with my friends that much because of my mom and my family, im already 19 and its still like this and thats why i dont feel happy when i hang out with my family because i always hang out with them anyway, is there anyway i can hang out with my friends longer? sometimes i cant enjoy hanging out with my friends because my mom would call me asking where i am all the time. (link)
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If you haven't already, sit down and talk to her about it. Try explaining that you want to hang out with your friends more but without interruptions being called all the time. Just say she could maybe check in every once in awhile. My friends parents are the same way. We even went for a walk and her parents just drove past us to check up on us and she gets calls all the time. Hopefully she'll understand since you're 19. Good luck!
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me and my friend always talk a lot, we're really good friends, we may argue but only playfully, she would always call me and talk to me a lot, but lately she doesnt call me and she doesnt really talk to me that much anymore and when i joke around with her like we always do,she somewhat plays along with me but after a while she just gets mad at me, she is acting kind of distant around me, and im not doing anything about this at all, i dont know why but im scared to tell her that why she hasnt been acting the way shes been acting and im just letting things happenened and its making me sad but i dont have the guts to tell her, why am i not doing anything and why is she acting that way? am i overreacting? (link)
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There could be lots of reasons why she's acting like that. Maybe she's looking for something different, different people, different things. She could be getting bored or maybe tired of the jokes? Who knows. I'm not saying this is what is happening but there are lots of possibilities. Maybe you are looking into it too deep? But either way you should just go talk to her. You guys seem close so I don't think it'd be a problem if you were like, "hey, I want to ask you a question" Then be like, "Are you mad at me or is there anything thats going on with us?" If she tells you its nothing, explain to her why you feel that way. She might clear some things up and maybe you might fix it. Just try and talk to her. Good luck!
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ok, so im 14 and i really want a boyfriend but im not sure if im ready. i feel totally ready but then when i see guys in person and talk to them, i can't imagine kissing them because i feel nervous and sort of not ready. it's like an easier said than done thing, you know? so, am i ready or what's up with me? (link)
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You are always gonna be nervous so don't worry about that. If you both like each other then you should try it out if you want. Tell him you want to take it slow and then your first kiss will come naturally and you will be ready. Good luck!
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