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confused with everything
hey guys, so i haven't been on this site in a while, but i would really appreciate the help.
i'm 17/f and enjoying life right now.
about 7 monthhs ago, right before my birthday, new job, license..etc. my boyfriend/ex (of a a year and ahalff) broke up with me. it was a horrible break up, and we've talked on and off, but now its horrible. he hates me so much, and never wants to speak to me again because i called him out. he lied to all of his friends and i told him he doesn't have to , to be accepted. he now hates me. the past 7 months have been so bad, i would hate myself, and not think i was good enough.
but now i'm almost there, almost over him and the whole thing. there's this new guy ( not really tho because he was my first kiss in 7thh grade and boyfriend, etc.) i honestly don't know where this is going, but i don't know what to do. has anyone ever felt confused about what to do, which direction to go? i think i just need a slap in a face from someone who's been there and who knows what'll happen. i just wanna have hope.
thanks! (sorrya bout the novel i just wrote)
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Hello, firstly please dont hate yourself, there is no need too, I honestly beleive you did the right thing by calling your ex out. You werent doing it to hurt him you were just saying what you felt. I know it can be hard to have someone that you were so close to at one point hate you but unfortunaltey it happens. I know exactly where you are coming from, I have had a few guys in my life that I was rather close to be very hurtful to me just for something I said that unintnetionally made them upset.Its a real bummer to loose someone that way but hey there is really nothing you can do now. You just move forward with your life and try your best to forget about them because obviously they dont want you in there lives anymore. Your ex seems very immature for treating you this way, he was not the guy for you..this immaturity would have shown up further along in your relationship if you guys were still together eventually, so it was probably for the best that you guys broke up.
As for the new guy, if you are still trying to get over your ex you could just keep the relationship you have with him at a friend level.You have been through alot and maybe you arent ready to be involved in a relationship yet. However, if you feel like you may be ready to dive back into the dating seen, this guy might be a good distraction for you to get over your ex. If this new guy seems like he has potential to be a start to something great then you should go for it. Go with your gut feeling, if you feel you are ready go for it, if you dont then continue to be friends, there will probably be no one on this site that could tell you exactly what would happen based on the decision you choose because life can be very unpredictable. But if you go with your gut everything is sure to work itself out eventually.I really hope this helped, if you have any idea what decision you are leaning toward you can leave me a private message and I could give you further advice if you so need it. Goodluck with everything, im sure you will make the right decision for yourself :)
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I would say go for this guy that you're into. Cause apparently the last guy is a jerk so you'd want to get over him right? I don't know anything about this other guy but if he seems like a good guy then go for him. Even if things work out you know there are plenty of guys out there who would be lucky to have you. You still have your whole life ahead of you. Don't waste it on jerks who'll keep breaking your heart. Good luck!
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