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feeling like giving up all efforts on a relationship...
f/15
Is it a bad sign to feel discouraged in a relationship to the point where you just don't feel like you should be obligated to put any effort into a relationship anymore? My boyfriend and I haven't physically been with each other since two weeks before school ended (finals, APs, ect.) because there just wasn't enough time. I suppose I just feel like it's not the same if we're not able to see each other daily and live together like we do normally during the school year (boarding school).
This feeling has only recently occurred to me and I think the fact that I see a girl he used to be in love with who messes with his feelings and head all the time is flirting with him. He doesn't seem to be reciprocating the same exact vibes as her, but I still feel completely powerless because they're the same age (four years older), and it's discouraging and slightly intimidating, I'm not going to lie. Also, I feel like after this entire year where he's taken me for granted, it'd just be nice to take a break. Not that I don't love him, but I suppose it's just that I feel completely worn out.
So my question is, is it normal to feel like this after a while in a relationship? (we've been together around 7 months) He says he loves me, and I believe him but I feel like, at this point (while he should technically be a freshman in college), that because of my age, I'm not really worth much to him. And although this may sound ridiculous , I have to ask honestly if guys really do tend to value the girls they're with differently depending on age? I'm just trying to be realistic here (I acknowledge the fact that it would be completely understandable, with our age difference, for him to inadvertently establish some type of officious attitude towards our situation at times) but believe we have a good and healthy relationship, but I've become completely incredulous to the idea that he really values me.
So I was just wondering if this feeling just a normal occurrence/phase or if there's the possibility of it being some type of ominous sign that things would be better off if we were to revert back to simply being nothing more than friends. (and yes, we have had sex once)
So, yes, some advice would be greatly appreciated. :)
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Well it's prety normal I felt the same thing me and my bf hav been together for 8 months and well it's summer already and i feel like ts not going to work out because I'm not going to see him especialy since he leaving to Mexico for the summer I'm not going to see him and well he 15 I turned 13 and well I feel like how you feel an also he gets to see his ex more often and she also messes with ma bf head she is still in love wit him my bf tells me no I don't love her no more your the one I'm in love with and I belive him I your bf tells you that well belve him until you have proof he doesn't I think he loves you anyways you to might work out you'll never no till you try don't give up on your relationship and he shouldent ether I think you to should talk and work it out it always helps Im shyto talk to my bf for certain things but when I do I can see he understands so mabey your bf will understand and it will go good :)
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It is normal to feel that way, especially when there is an age difference cause you don't know how he feels about it. Right now would be the best time to talk to him about it so you know where he is act and if he is still willing to put effort into it and you don't have to discourage yourself on what is going on in his head. If you talk to him and you are still feeling the same, decided to take a break. It might be for the better. So best thing to do right now is talk to him. You'll see if the age difference is bothering you and tell him to be completely honest. Good luck and I hope everything works out for the better!
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