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Well lets start off by sayin I'm lesbian and I'm 18. I have a huge problem I've dated a lot of people my age but I found this girl that is also gay but is 4 yrs younger than me. I think I'm falling for her she's everything I look for in a girl not looks but personality. The problem is how can I ever make it work because I think its against the law to date anyone under the age of 18 when u are 18 or older.People have told me maybe I should wait but its hard. I don't wanna lose what I have for her. And by the time she's old enough we prolly won't be friends. I honestly think she's the one never had that feeling for someone. I need help what should I do!?
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It's not illegal to date someone who's 14. Depending on the area you live in, she may even be within the age of consent. If you're not sure, though, don't have sex with her.
My concern comes from the statement "by the time she's old enough we prolly won't be friends". If she's everything you look for, personality-wise, wouldn't you remain friends no matter how old you two are? Is it worth going into a relationship that you have already predicted failing once she's older?
Also keep in mind that when she's 16, you'll be 20. That's a big difference in maturity levels. However, I know a couple where the girls are 35 and 22, and they're perfectly happy together.
She will change a lot over the next 4 years, and hopefully, should you choose to start a relationship, she would grow with you rather than apart from you. The choice is yours; just make sure you stay within the bounds of the law. Safely within.
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You need to move on, She is a 14 year old child. At 14 she probably is in a phase. It IS illegal for someone over the age of 18 to date someone who is a minor and if you ever do and get caught there could be serious consequences. You can wait, However I would again remind yourself she is just a child and is exploring her sexuality. It is not only illegal to date someone under 18 but it is VERY WRONG.
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