Hey! My name is Kaitlyn, but you may call me Katie. I give advice on topics such as friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, family, and pet trouble. I give very good advice, and I am very nice. I'm one of the best! All of my friends say i give good advice!!! I have had a lot of experience in the areas i put above.
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Hey guys!!
Im stuck between two guys. They are in the same group of friends. and i really dont kno what to do.
guy number 1: Bob: Bob is a player and hes really flirty and stuff. and i really like him. i think a little more than i like guy number 2. but since hes a player he can flirt with all the girls and stuff you know? and im not even sure if he likes me but i can relate to him and he can relate to me and we can talk and talk for hours without even realizing it. and my two best friends tell me that he really likes me but i dont even know. like today we went to see lady and the water and both guys were there. and bob didnt stay in the movie so i was with guy number 2 and he comforted me and stuff. but i still felt a little guilty because i knew there was someone else. and when bob was talking to me guy number 2 got mad and wen guys number 2 would talk to me bob would get mad.
guy number 2: hes really a sweet guy and all. but he sometimes trys to hard and hes a relationship type of guy. he was talking to my best friend thats a guy and was telling him how he really likes me and stuff. and i really dont kno what to do because i dont feel like i have that connection with him. but its just that i dont want to hurt any of them.
but bob said that hes not looking for a relationship and this was like a week ago. and everyone thinks guy number 2 has a thing with me and that im pretty much taken bye him.
ugh helpp
sorry its longg.
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I think your best bet would be guy #2. You may not like him as much, but he could grow on you. HE seems a lot nicer than "bob".
Of course, the important thing is to follow your heart and do what you think is best.
do you really want to go out with a player, who might just be pretending to like you so he can have multiple gf's, or do you want a guy who wouldn't do that, like guy #2?
It will be hard, but in the end i bet everything will be ok!
HOpe i helped,
Katie
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i'm usually really shy around guys and im going into my first year of high school.how can i start conversations with guys. I dont know what to say or talk about. how do i strike up a conversation. how do i know if they will want to talk back? i really could use some tips. please help (link)
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I am going into 8th grade...but ih ave the same problem. Just be yourself around guys. Just start by saying hi to your crush/guy friends in the hallway, and if a guy that is friendly is standing in teh hallway after school/at lunch, say hi and ask him something about a certain teacher....ask him about the homework you two had if you are in a class together.....it can be nerveracking at first.....but if you concentrate on getting less shy with a couple guys at a time, it will get easier!! Also, strike up similar conversations with guys who have lockers next/near to yours!!!
HOpe i helped...
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okay so theres this guy [ my boyfriend ]
and we've been going out for about 2 months and i dont really like him anymore. we never hang out that much so its kinda pointless to go out anymore and schools starting again and i wanna keep my options open.we've gone out before and i broke up with him that time and he was really sad. i dont know how to break up with him again. help? (link)
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I had like the EXACT SAME situation....well....i emailed my bf the second time and we kinda agreed to break up.....we are still great friends though. Just be gentle, and not too harsh. you can say it straight to his face, email him and tell him, or call him. Yes, he may be upset for a while, just continue to be there for him even thoguh you aren't going out anymore. Just because this is the second time you broke up doesn't mean you can be friends
I wish you only the best!!!
Katie
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ok so my little brother is 9 years old and he always wants me to play with him. he doesnt understand that im older and have things to do. whenever i try to explain this to him, he gets upset and thinks i dont want to play with him so i feel really guilty. how can i explain to him that im busy a lot and dont really have that much time to play with him?
btw 15/f
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set aside one time every week to play with your brother, a game, or with some of his toys. If do this, he might not bug you as much, and you will have more time, and not feel as guily, to do stuff by yourself.
Hope this helps!!
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i need a way to cope with stress i have no one to talk to know one gets me im emo and im 14 female and all alone i'm a cutter and i hate myself and it seems like im the only one thats like this because everyones so preppy help also i get depressed alot (link)
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Hey, if you ever need to talk to someone who understands, my email is sweet_kandies123@yahoo.com, my yahoo messenger id is sweet_kandies123, or my icq # is 327105176 !!!
A good way i cope with stress and depression is to exercise, or do what i love to, swim and bikeriding. you can take out your stress on your bike by pedaling really fast and hard, and swimming can help with your depression. I don't know how, but it has always helped me.
See a counsler/friend and have them get you help for the cutting. one day you could end up in the ER one day if you cut yourself badly enough.
Hope this has helped....
Katie**
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I got my first period yesterday and when i look in my underwear they were all ruined because of the blood. So I was wondering what am I supposed to do every month on the day when the period starts and I look in my underwear and they are alll ruined or they leaked to my pants to make sure I can be ready for it without wearing a pad 24/7? (link)
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well, if you have your periods reguraly every month, then if you keep track of when they start and end, you could maybe wear a pad a few days before you think your next period will start.
Wash your underwear in cold water and soap, cold water is good at getting blood stains out.
If your underwear leaks, just put clean pants on, and wash those.
Periods are annoying, but you can't do anything about them until menopause....
HOpe this helped!
Katie***
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how do i get rid of ants in my bathroom? i dunno where they originate. must be a hole somewhere (link)
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buy ant traps at wal mart....kmart.....meijer....where ever......or buy ant poison and put it on a small sqare of cardboard, and it should kill them soon. If you have pets, put the traps/poison where your pet can't get them.
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see, im affaird of letting come back into my life. i mean we were really close. and we started getting on each other nerves. and he didnt know what to do, so he just ignored me everytime i tried to talk. he meant a lot and he knows that.
now that were starting to somewhat talk again. im affaird of bring the past back all before the fights.
both of us want to forget the past.
and it kinda feels like were not gonna have anything to talk about, since we want to forget the past. and move on.
a few things are still the same with him when he jokes around. but the rest feels a tad dead. like there is no connection between us anymore. as if we dont share any interests in anything at all. as if were just strangers or something. (link)
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Its normal for friends that got back together to get on each other's nerves for a while. Don't try and push him to talk to you. If he continues to ignore you, give him some time.
Think about the happy times when you two do talk. I know you will want to forget the past fight...don't mention the fight...what about when you first met....your first date, etc.
Hang out as much as you can. Hang out where you did before you fought. That might help bring back happy memories, and bring you back together close again.
If you still aren't quite sure about trying to be friends again, don't rush back into being great friends again. If you do that, that could just make things worse for the both of you.
Hope this helps!!!
Love,
Katie***
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ok so i have alout of friends who are very pretty and mean so much to me but alout of guys thing they are so hot im happy for them and all but it makes me feel sad becasue out of the group im the one they all call ugly the guys you now i mean its bad enough i think im ugly and fat and all these things i just dont feel pretty and i hate the feeling of being the ugly one in the group i have alout of friends and everything even a lout of guy friends but they like to tlak to me about my friends and how to get them hooked up of caorse i dont let my pain show and try to help the guys out but i just feel like crap at skool a guy made a hot girl list and every one of my friends was on it except me it crushed me but i kept it to myself i need help thanxs
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every school has mean, rude people. don't let these guys get you down! You are beautiful in your own way. Don't look at the negatives, look for what you really like in yourself, wether it be your skin, hair, lips, eyes, nose, etc.
Don't give into those boys, some guys are just plain jerks.
It is good that you are happy for your friends. Just wait, i know it may be hard, but the perfect guy for you may come along someday soon. Just because guys say your ugly, doesn't mean you are! Focus on having fun, and don't worry about what people say about you.
Just be yourself, and have fun doing it!!!
Hope this helps!
Love,
Katie
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ok.. like.. i get really hyper. & like yesterday, i was at the carnival, & i was like idno, fulling around. & like, my one friend is so quiet, & shy. & im more outgoing & everything. soo, should i change? & be more like her? or should i stay the way i am? i dont want to like annoy someone. & how can i stop acting so hyper sometimes? (link)
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Keep being yourself!!! Encourage your friend to be less shy, but don't force her. You should try relaxing a little when you are hyper.I know, its hard! Just when you feel a rush coming on, take a deep breath and try and control it. Of course, it is ok to be hyper in moderation.
Hope this helps.......
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okay here is the thing. me and my friend where really close for an year and we got into these fights and decided to ignore me for 5 months. 2 days ago and IM's me and says he was sorry for what he did. and that he'd like to talk again but not turning back to close friends we were.
and the thing is im not sure if i should give him a chance..or forget it. because it feels a tad akward.
anyone know any good songs for this kinda thing.?
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Go ahead and talk to him if you want to. don't push him into trying to be close friends again, or he might rebel again. Don't start any fights, or do anything that might upset him if you truely want to try and be friends again. (im not saying you started fights in the first place.) Just take it slowly, and you might become good friends again.
Hope this helps,
Kaitlyn
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I have a major crush, You see im going in the 8th grade next year and my crush is going into 10th, im best friends with his sister who is in my class. He knows that i like him and i always try to say hi to him in the halways. I have only talked to him a messenger but otherwise i cant talk to him in person, i just freak out when he comes up to me and i think he likes me too but how are we supposed to be gf and bf when im too scared to even look at him? And last week i blew it cuz he was going to talk to me but when i saw him i ran away cuz i was just to scared. I dont know what to do? what do you suggest? (link)
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Call him, give notes to your friend to give to him (make your friend promise not to read them if you don't want her to)When you go over to your friend's house, make a point to look at him in the eyes and say hi. When you are in the same room as him, just act yourself. The more time you spend around him, most likely the more comfortable around him you will be. I had a boyfriend once when i was still really shy around guys like that, but we stayed together for a long time. YOu don't have to ask him out right away, that could make you even more nervous around him. Just ACT NATURAL!
Hope this helps.
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ok so theres this kid in my class, kevin and lately hes been iming me a lot and i talk to him more often than usual and i think i sorta have a crush on him...but im really confused about how i feel but the thing is, my friends and i we pick out guys in my class and tease eachother about liking one of them anbd usually the guys are ones that my friends think are, well ugly and kinda losers, and kevin is one of them. Plus i also have a huge crush on kevins best friend michael but im not sure if that is love or lust. Im sorry if im confusing anyone but help!!1 need help! lol...♥ (link)
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The biggest thing everyone always tells me to do is to follow my heart. Wait a while to let yourself sort out your feelings. Don't let your friends keep you from going out/hanging out with Kevin, if you really do like him. Sometimes you have to hang out a lot with or go out with a person to really see if you like them or not. Do you get butterflies in your stomach whenever Kevin/Michael walks by/walks in the room? if you do, that most likely is love. IF not, its just probably just lust. Of course, you can love a guy and lust for him.
Hope this helps!
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do you think that a best friend you've had through middle school can remain your best friend in high school if you are very close right now? (link)
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of course! I have a friend right now that i have been freinds with since elementary school.....we are both gonna be in Junior high.....in two years we will both be in High school.....unless something major happens, I assume we will still be friends. (she is a grade behind me) there is also my friend's friend that i met in 6th grade (she was in 5th) and we are inseparable, and now im going into 8th, and her into 7th.
So as long as you stay close, You can be! Just remember as you go through middle school/junior high,she might change, and if she does too much, she may decide she doesn't want to be friends. DOn't fight, just let her go. She might come back later!!
Hope this helps.....
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okay well my friend is going through a rough time right now. her boyfriend just told her that he is gonna kill himself cause he wants to but he wont tell her why. he was starting to but then he just stoped typing ( it was on AIM ) the ages are 12. do you think he seriously could of meant it. cause he said he really wanted to cut himself also. & she is so worried about him because she loves him so much and she doenst want to loose him. any advice that i could tell her to do. that would be helpful thankks
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tell your friend to call/go over to this guy's house and talk to him!!! Some people really do mean it, and he could. Usually hearing a loved one's voice will help the person realize that someone does still love them, and they won't try to kill themselves, or they will admit to taking pills if they tried to kill themselves that way. Your friend really needs to talk to him. If he still isn't willing to stop trying to cut/kill himself, then you need to tell his parents if they don't already know
HOpe this helps!
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im 15, and i am a size d bra, i was wondering if i have any growth left, cause i have a lump in each of my breast, what are they? (link)
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You need to see a doctor RIGHT AWAY, or tell you mom and dad and have them take you. Lumps on breasts could be a sign of Breast Cancer, and the earlier the doctors know about it, the better.
I wish you only the best!
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does anybody know what love is? i have my own ideas about it, but i want to hear everyone
elses oppinion. So give me your definition of love, because i want to put them all together and come up with one definition!
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My definition of love is when a boy and girl truely care about each other, and are passionate. They don't hold grudges, and they are honest with each other. They confide in each other, and trust each other with their whole hearts.
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Okay, to start things off, my cat is a little on the weird side. She doesn't sit on people's laps or anything. She's just ... weird. But my problem is, my cat won't poop in her litter box. She'll pee in it, but she won't poop in it.
my two questions are
1. What's the cause of this?
2. How can I fix it.
If this helps, she is 9/f, a purebred persian, & we live in Georgia. Oh & i've had her since I was 2
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Depending on how often you scoop the litter box, you may need to scoop it every day/every other day, if you haven't been scooping it that often. Cats hate to be dirty. My cat had the same problem. If you got another cat, you may need another litter box, because you are supposed to have one for every cat and 1 more. If you don't have another cat, you may want to see the vet for tips and professional advice.
As for the not sitting on laps, If your cat wasn't handled much during the first few weeks of life, then she wouldn't be very willing. DO NOT try to force your cat to sit on your lap. Also, not all cats like to sit on their owner's laps. Let your cat come up to you by itsself. if it does jump up on a chair/couch with you, praise it and pet it, and maybe even give it a treat. Pet your cat a lot, but don't use force. Eventually, your cat may become more social.
The problems may appear more also because your cat is gettin older. One of my cats wouldn't use the litter box because she had an infection, so we took her to the vet and she got better. Then she started up again not using it, so we got anoher litter box.
HOpe my advice will help!
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I would like to say my family is like the families you see on TV, but i would only be lying. I have a sister who was born with something called HPminus. NOw before you go looking up on what the heck that word means ill just explain.My sister is missing half of one of her hormones making her so she cant speak,(no she can make sounds)and isn't supposed to walk but she learned.NOw the point of this question is that im very emotional to some things.I would really like to talk to someone who has a brother or a sister like mine.I'm sick of people always saying that they "understand" when they really have no clue.I'm tired of talking to people who just don't get why im so tired of the word retard and im so emotional spmetimes.All i want is someone whohas a sister or brother like mine please tell me why i am feeling this way! (link)
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I will not say i completely understand, because i don't because i don't hvae a sister liek that, but my brother does have apraxia, a condition that makes speech very hard for him.
I can understand though why you are emotional. You love your sister. YOu are mad because people say they understand and they really don't. Just be strong for your sister!!
IF you ever need someone to talk to, which im sure you do, go to my Advice Coluumn and IM me on yahoo messenger or ICQ, or emial me, ok?
Love,
Kaitlyn
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I'm in a difficult situation at work. Well about a month ago I got invited out for drinks with some coworkers. I was too shy to go alone so I invited along a girl that I've been friends with for a couple of years (who originally was not invited). She also works at the same store. Well one of the guys that was there kept staring at me and smiling when I was dancing. I also recently found out he has a secret crush on me (and I like him too). The problem is that this friend of mine that I invited along that night keeps saying that she really likes him and that SHE wants to date him. She has been really vocal about it and now a lot of people; including him know that she likes him. He has been nice to her because he knows she is my friend and she's misinterpreted it that he likes HER. I am very shy and have not told anyone that I like him; he is the only one that knows.
Now what am I going to do? I actually even think that night I was invited out may have been a setup to get us hooked up. Remember that girl was not originally invited? Please if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it! (link)
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If you know for a fact that the guy likes you, and is just being nice to your friend, he is rightfully yours. If he also has feelings for you friend, you both should just forget about him, or it could wreck your friendship.
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