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dating coworkers
I'm in a difficult situation at work. Well about a month ago I got invited out for drinks with some coworkers. I was too shy to go alone so I invited along a girl that I've been friends with for a couple of years (who originally was not invited). She also works at the same store. Well one of the guys that was there kept staring at me and smiling when I was dancing. I also recently found out he has a secret crush on me (and I like him too). The problem is that this friend of mine that I invited along that night keeps saying that she really likes him and that SHE wants to date him. She has been really vocal about it and now a lot of people; including him know that she likes him. He has been nice to her because he knows she is my friend and she's misinterpreted it that he likes HER. I am very shy and have not told anyone that I like him; he is the only one that knows.
Now what am I going to do? I actually even think that night I was invited out may have been a setup to get us hooked up. Remember that girl was not originally invited? Please if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it!
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You found out he has a crush on you and he knows you like him, so what is the problem? Are you going to let the fact that someone else is interested in the same guy prevent you from starting a relationship? Unless he is confused about you liking him, I don't see what the game playing is about. Do you think he might be interested in both you and the other girl? There is a possiblility that this guy is not sure whom to pursue. Why didn't you say anything to your friend about your feelings when the subject came up? The grade school antics are not working, so start thinking and acting like the woman I know you can be. Ask yourself if two guys liked you and you only liked one back if you would be hindered from going for the one you liked or not. See my point? No guy would back away from a chance to be with the girl he wanted to be with, just because there was competition. Next time your coworker makes a comment about this guy being cute or whatever, tell her that you have actually been too shy to admitt it, but you have had feelings for him for a really long time. However, don't wait around for her approval to begin talking to this guy or you may lose your chance!
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If you know for a fact that the guy likes you, and is just being nice to your friend, he is rightfully yours. If he also has feelings for you friend, you both should just forget about him, or it could wreck your friendship.
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wow that's really tough. well i think that, if you know for a FACT that the guy likes you, you might want to talk to him about the situation. he has every right to tell your friend (in a really nice way) that he is interested in someone else. she might be really upset for awhile, but everyone moves on! i would advise you not tell alot of people that you like that guy, it might get out to your friend before you tell her in person, which is pretty bad. i hope i helped!
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