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I betrayed my best friend in the world, Cali..:[

So I'm friends with this girl, Holly. Holly really liked this kid named Jared...I was supposed to try and hook them up. In the process of convincing Jared to go out with Holly, I found out that my best friend Cali liked Jared..A lot. But I didn't pay attention to that fact..So Jared and Holly are going out, and Cali wanted to know if I knew she liked him before I hooked him up with Holly. I lied and said I had no idea. I feel like an idiot for betraying my best friend, but I don't know what to do...I know that what she doesn't know won't hurt her, but still...What do I do?

What this all comes down to is your heart's feelings. Deep down inside, I'm sure you feel awful and are really mad at yourself for betraying your best friend. And also the more that you think about it the worse it gets, and that even though you already told her you had no idea, you still feel awful. To tell you the truth, I think you should tell her what actually happened.
Considering the fact that you said Cali is your BEST friend, while Holly is just a friend, I think it's only fair that you sit Cali down, and let her know that you are truly truly sorry for everything. Tell her that life goes on, although she may not want to hear it, and also that there are plenty of other boys, even if she doesn't want to believe it now.
But seriously, I know this may not be what you want to hear, but you will feel so much better after you let this off your chest.
And tell her that you will never ever lie to her like that again, because it made you feel terrible - tell her that genuinely.
I have every ounce of confidence that you will do the right thing and make everything right again. Just take a deep breath, and know that things are definitely going to be okay. (:
If you need any more help, feel free to leave a message in my inbox. I'll gladly help you though anything.

♥, lena

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are dog's in the wolf fam?

It's more like, wolves are a branch off of the canine/dog family.

♥, lena

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16/f
i'm gonna start off by saying i'm NOT a whore
me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 9 months and he's fingered me once and we makeout alot thats about it ;; i kinda would like some more "exitement" and i give him handjobs all the time and was even thinking of giving him head (even tho i have NOO IDEA WHAT TO DO!) and maybe even sex! i've given him alot of time and i dont wanna like push him but do you think i should say something to him.. if so what?

btw he's one year younger then me
do you think that has much of an affect on it?

Depending on how ready he is to take everything to the next level, then I don't really think that the age has a big impact. Also, I wouldn't rush sex - you're 16 years old, and I know that you may think you're ready for it, but obviously you have to talk it over with your boyfriend first, and ask him how he feels about heating things up. If you're concerned about it being awkward, then you're won't feel comfortable doing whatever you will be doing with him. If things go over smoothly, and everything feels right and he agrees to it, then go for it. But remember - no glove, no love!!!

♥, lena

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I really like this kid. I havent really talked to him a lot. We have 2 classes together, which are gonna change on Monday. So, I dont know if we will have any other classes together.

But yeah,

In PE, we were playing volleyball. When we had to get into the lines, I wanted to stand next to him, on the front row. But, his friend got in between us, so i just went to the back line. Then i looked at him and he looked at me and told his friend he wanted to go on the back line. ( next to me ) Which made me feel grrreeat.

At lunch I can see him sometimes looking over at me. And same goes as with my other class.

But, is that like a sign of him liking me?
All my friends say it is. and that he does like me. and I should go talk to him and whatnot.
I think if i KNEW that he liked me, i could so totaly go over and talk to him.



And, Im also friends with his friend in PE. I talk to him all the time. And the other day i stupidly told him i liked his friend. So he said he was gonna go tell him. and I started to freak out. Cause i dont want him to think im a freak or anything. And i was almost sure that he did tell him, and today the guy i like didnt really look at me or anything. But then when i got to talk to his friend, he said he hasnt told him yet. Which made me a little happier. And that eh would tell him tomorrow.

SO...
In PE was that a sign? and do you think that his friend should tell him? I dont want him to think that just some random girl likes him. :/

Yes! I totally think he likes you!
You shouldn't be worried about his friend telling the guy you like that you like him, because he's going to have to find out somehow if you want to move this relationship to the next level, but it would probably be better coming from you. So keep flirting with him and make sure not to tell his friend anything that you wouldn't want him relaying to your crush! Smile & relax, and just have fun with it, you're only this age once so make it all worth while (:

♥, lena

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Hi! So, I have really big pale green eyes. I was wondering what color I should put on them to make them more noticible (or, pop as some would say).

Gold or mocha eyeshadow will make your eyes pop, but don't put too much on! Stick to your eyelids, or add more if you would like. Glaze on an orange or rosy lip gloss for your pulled-together-look. (:

♥, lena

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14/f btw. i really like this boy and he knows i like him. i sit next to him in a class and all my friends look at me and then i start blushing cause they laugh cause i am sitting next to him and he see's me blushing. we say a few words but not much. he also has a girlfriend but she doesnt go to our school she is a freshmen. i want to talk to him more but i dont know what to say. can you help me??

Well my dear. Since he already knows you like him, just work with what you've got and flirt with all you're made of!

Ask him/find a reason for you two to hang out after school, or hang out with him with a group of people so it's not so awkward, and talk about everything from anything in school, your interests - music, tv shows, movies, food, pets, teachers you both don't like, etc. Anything that you two can talk about together. If he likes cooking, you should bake cookies together! Or if you both like the same music, then burn a cd for him or share an ipod together. Instead of hanging out or talking to him alone, you can be with a group of your friends, and go to the movies, or go out to dinner, and then hang out at a friend's house afterwards. If you play your cards right, when the time comes, you might end up being his girlfriend if he really likes you! Just smile, and be confident, because every guy likes confidence on a girl more than anything. Everything is going to be great if you just be yourself, listen to what he has to say, and be confident!! I promise (:

♥, lena

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ok i tried to use a tampon this morning...and i never have before, but i just need to know everything you can tell me about then. when i put it in it kinda went in sideways and when i thought i had it in it hept sliding out. now i think its finally in but how far should it go up? im worried if it goes too far i wont be able to get it out!! and how long should you keep it in? and do you wear a pad with them and do they leak? or after a certain time do they leak.
anything would be appreciated!!
thanks xxx

Well, you should keep a pad or at least a panty liner on during your heavy points of your cycle, and you you should not keep tampons in for a longer period of time than 4-8 hours maximum, or else you could end up with TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrome.)
Here is a site that should answer the rest of your questions: http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html
Good luck! And remember, once you put in a tampon, your whole life will get easier. (:

♥, lena

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Not trying to sound snobby or all in anybodys face, but why is it that lots of people call me beautiful and rate me an 8 on a scale of 10 but i am single??? everyone calls me beautiful and i dont really see it but neither does the people i want to see it...they seem to just look at me then walk on...its really buggin me so i thought i would ask you as to WHY!?

Perhaps they don't know the real you, and they only know you on the outside which they percieve as beautiful. Take the compliments, but if you want people to sayyou're beautiful on the inside and outside, you need to BE that way on the inside, and show people the real you. I'm sure they'll love you for everything you are :)

♥, lena

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alright, so i love my boyfreind a lot. and well the only weird thing is when it comes to like sex and everything like that. he's not prude, but he's a virgin, and well im not. its just awkward between us, like i feel like i really know what im doing and really doesnt have a clue....so what should i do?


i mean at the same time i dont want to make him feel uncomfortable, i mean i wouldnt ever even thing about making him do something he didnt want to do

If you really love eachother then you will ease him into being more comfortable with the situation, and you should keep telling him that you love him, in case he feels awkward. If he does right now, you should just take things slow and wait it out a little bit before taking things to the next level :)

♥, lena

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Does anyone ever get that feeling that like EVERYONG has a boyfriend except for you?? I mean like how do I get a boyfriend? How do I try and get a guy I like to like me without being too forward???? I hate thisssss

When you're single, it doesn't mean that everyone is too good for you. It means that you are too good for everyone else.

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im fifteen years old and i dont have a regular workout plan. im average weight but i feel like everyone else is working out often. what can i do that wont take up too much time that will get me in better shape?

Every night you can do 50 crunches, and take jogs or runs as often as possible. Eating healthfully and drinking plenty of water will also be helpful little guys when you are trying to shape up quickly. Also, dancing around randomly with pump - up music is a fun and easy way to burn calories and increase your stamina.
Have fun!!! (:
♥, lena

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does anyone have AIM applesauce

does it work to change colors for aim versions like 5. something

Yes, it is amazing! I have always used it and I have always had AIM version 5.7 or whatever the classic version is. Have fun with it!

♥, lena

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Is there any good hair products for scrunching hair like gels or hair cremes i heard bedhead was good but is there any others?

I suggest two brands - Got2Be and L.A. Looks. Got2Be is mousse, and L.A. Looks is gel. I use both of them together, which is something you should deffinetely try. Here's the deal on them though: If your hair is straight or wavy with not a lot of volume, then use Got2Be kinky. If your hair is naturally curly or is wavy with a lot of volume, (like mine), then you should use Got2Be Sexy, and then scrunch with the gel. The gels you should use should be either Curl, Wet Look, or Party Hard. Then you will have amazing scrunched hair! And sorry this was such a detailed answer for such a simple question! Have fun!!! (:

♥, lena

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oooook.so..i have this one friend..i've been friends with him for as long as i can remember..&& every single flipping year i always get the biggest crush on him..i've told him before but it was just like blah..but anyway.i'm really starting to like him again.we flirt like non stop whenever we're together.he's just the type of guy that i can just be chill around.but my problem is that he's kinda shy && i dno.he acts like he likes me.like today he wanted me to give him a low-five so i did && he kinda just held my hand there..so i dnooo.i'm wondering what i should do.i don't exactly know how to tell him.you know??but i dno.can someone please help me??

I definetely see a relationship working here! You should tell him, or ask him if you guys can hang out, and then if it goes really well, then keep hanging out and to the movies, and mall, and other fun places. If it turns out he doesn't like you, then he's a jerk and doesn't deserve you at all. So smile and be confident, and go for it!

♥, lena

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hey everyone if your reading this i so totally appreaciate it.... so im 13 this boys 16 i really lke him and i mean alot ive had crushes before and stuff but him,.. he lasted for about a year but you see everyone tells me that he takes me more as a sister i mean you see tehe thing is we hang out alot and he really likes me alot seriosuly and everyone thinks he really cares about me and that we are really close and you see people also say that he has this flirty things when it comes to girls and i dont think he notices it i mean its not my fault i started to like him you kno hwat i mean anyway so the people that told me that he takes me more than a sister i came back and i asked them im like "how would you kno he took me more like a sis " they told me because one time i was standing with him and i told him that i take you as a close sister and he told me same here " that acually didnt make me angry it made me sad that i kno he probably doesnt like me more than a sister.. or a friend.. but it made me feel good that he cared about me and took me real close to him as a sister.. i just dont know what to do.. people are always tellin me get over the guy before your get hurt again and i really do! wanna get over him.. but i just cant.. its to hard.. its not like i can get over somone like that so quickly
what do i do??

Okay. The way that I always get over guys is in a routine. You choose ONE DAY and only 1 day, to be your "sob/weep/be depressed over" day. That means, that for one day (because guys don't deserve to be upset over for more than one day.. they're just boys, remember?) you listen to breakup songs and eat chocolate ice cream right out of the container and all the stuff that people do to get over guys. Then, you must go out with your friends and make sure he's not there, and party and have a great time! Also, focus on your friends for now, and I'm telling you the moment you stop looking for or chasing a guy, they come right to you. But for now, mourn for only one day, then party and have fun!

♥, lena

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i am 14 and i havent started my period yet i thnik its because i am to big. but i was just wondering can u get pregant even though you have not started your
period

No my dear, you can not physically get pregnant unless you are taking part in sexual activities, and every girl is different in terms of when they first start with their period. Relax, you're fine (:

♥, lena

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there's this girl. she's absolutely amazing. and i am in love with her. i'm 16 and shes 15. i absolutely love her. she's the most important thing in my life and i can never stop thinking about her. i cant believe i found someone like her. just thought i would share.

Max, you are amazing beyond words can describe. I love you so much baby.
♥, lena

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I have a boyfriend that's 18 who turns 19 in August.And I'm 16 and I turn 17 in October.Would it work out if I was going in Highschool and he went to college in the area.Or do you think he would get tired of me and get someone better who's in college or whatever.Or even I would find someone in highschool.I just want some opinions if you don't mind.

It all depends on how you guys are together. If your boyfriend is more the cheating or player type, then it probably is not the best idea. If he is the sincere and loyal type, then I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you think that you might find someone better than him in your highschool, why would you even bother going out with your boyfriend when you know there may be a possibility of you wanting to get with someone else. If you think this may happen or if you think that he may get with someone in college, I would say break it off, because you will be happier knowing that you don't have to worry about that, rather than being unhappy and knowing that your boyfriend is cheating on you.

All in all, you should discuss this with your boyfriend, and see what he feels most comfortable doing. You should also plan to see him frequently if you decide to stay together, and also talk to him on the phone a lot. Best of luck in whatever decision you choose!

♥, lena

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I know it's wrong to fall in love with your teacher, but I mean, I can't help my heart can I? Recently I've caught a lot of feelings for one of my teachers, who is by the way only in his early or mid 20's (i'm 16). I tried to make myself not like him, but as days go by and I have to see him everyday, there's nothing I can do except like him even more. It's getting to the serious point where, I think about him almost all day and at times I get really depressed just for the simple fact that I know I'll never have him. Plus, he's one of these strict teachers who is very conscious that he is handsome, so he keeps a barrier btw him & his students, which only makes him less attainable. Sometimes I catch him looking at me, & I also understand before a teacher he's a man, but I also get paranoid because he knows embarrassing and/or personal things about me that no one else does...i have problems i know, but It's really not my fault...I'd appreciate the help & concern...Thankz

Loving your teacher and knowing that you can't have him will just depress you, as you already know. Therefore, you need to try as hard as you can to take your mind off this teacher, and focus on the things in your life that you enjoy the most. Perhaps a sport, or a club that you regularly attend. Although some age in the 20s and 16 are not TOO far apart, it's the fact that he is your teacher, and that is just not okay. So hunnie, have fun with your life, and smile. (:

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14/f
is it true that if you dye your hair while on your period that your hair turns green or yellow or whatever?

No way. That is the most absurd myth I have ever heard of! Go ahead and dye your hair and enjoy! (:

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