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I have a boyfriend that's 18 who turns 19 in August.And I'm 16 and I turn 17 in October.Would it work out if I was going in Highschool and he went to college in the area.Or do you think he would get tired of me and get someone better who's in college or whatever.Or even I would find someone in highschool.I just want some opinions if you don't mind.
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It all depends on how you guys are together. If your boyfriend is more the cheating or player type, then it probably is not the best idea. If he is the sincere and loyal type, then I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you think that you might find someone better than him in your highschool, why would you even bother going out with your boyfriend when you know there may be a possibility of you wanting to get with someone else. If you think this may happen or if you think that he may get with someone in college, I would say break it off, because you will be happier knowing that you don't have to worry about that, rather than being unhappy and knowing that your boyfriend is cheating on you.
All in all, you should discuss this with your boyfriend, and see what he feels most comfortable doing. You should also plan to see him frequently if you decide to stay together, and also talk to him on the phone a lot. Best of luck in whatever decision you choose!
♥, lena
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You never know. A lot of people think they'll be together forever, but you're showing a lot of maturity by acknowledging the fact that it might not work out.
If it does, you'll have to deal with him not having as much time to spend with you. That can make it really hard.
Unfortunately, something I saw a lot in my first year of university was the 'turkey dump'. A lot of couples from high school will break up around Thanksgiving.
However, since he'll be in the area, it might be easier. I'd say that you have a shot, but don't necessarily count on it.
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Hmm becuase its only been 2 months idk how it would go .I know my friend who is going to college is going out with someone who's 16 but they have been together almost a year so they are planning on staying together. butt i also know my vousin was going out with someone going to college and when she left they broke up. It kinda depends on him. In college there will be a lot of parties and stuff probably and the distance he just might not wanna be with you anymore. You will just have to wait and see.
Jess<3
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In my experience, it's not a good idea, not if you've been going out for that little time.
I went out with a guy who lived in New York and went to college, and I live in CA. He had a bit of money, so he was able to fly out every few weeks, but it was still really hard. First of all, everyone else had boyfriends they could cuddle with and hang out with every day, and also, I didn't feel like I could trust him.
College is an entirely different world and you never know what will happen. You sound too unsure, ask him about seeing other people. Not breaking up, just not being stuck with each other.
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It all depends on the relationship. I honestly don't think so because your asking...which mean you have some doubt too. Try it out. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work.
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If he chooses to go to college in the area because that's where he wants to be, it's worth pursuing. If he chooses to go to college in the area because he wants to stay with you, I'd be a bit worried.
I know that seems odd because it seems to speak to commitment, but I would be concerned that he might come to resent you for "holding him back," or a similar sentiment. Even if he doesn't want to feel that way, he might not be able to help it. I could see that quickly destroying your relationship.
So, it depends on his motivation for staying near your high school. And it's good that you're considering the possibility that someone else might come along; that's realistic. In the end, it's what you want and what you feel is right.
Good luck.
-Daimeera/f/20
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Yes it can work out and it will work out just as long as the TWO of you want it. Actually..its not big deal at all...its as if 2 people from 2 different schools being together.
For as long as I remember...I only had ONE relationship that was from my school...and just so happens to be the worst I ever had. OK...maybe I had 7 relatioships from school...lol... but this one really sucked and its not really that important.
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Hi,
Your worried he might find some one else in collage or you might find some one else in high school - well your right that might happen or you may split up for any other reason but that's life and it's the same with every other relationship. If you like each other and if you want to be together you can't let the fear of what 'might' happen stop you! Just have fun and see how things go and you never know he could be 'the one' and if not then so what - plenty fish in the sea!
Chandler
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I was in a similar situation to this. I was 13, he was 17. It didn't work out because once he turned 18 he would legally be considered a pedophile.
Just to tell you, anyone who sees you together will consider him a creep/pedophile. He could even be arrested. So generally it's just not smart for minors and adults to be in relationships together.
But that's not to say that you two can't still see each other in non-public places.
And of course you will find plenty of other people in highschool, and he will too in college. But the question is when exactly this will happen. You two might be together for a long time! who knows?
I really hope I helped.
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Sometimes it works. More often, it doesn't.
You'll be in different places. He'll be meeting new people and learning new things, finding new freedom, and making the final transition into adulthood. It's not a matter of his getting "tired" of you, just a matter of change in his life that can lead to further change in the way he feels about your relationship.
I suggest that the two of you make it clear to each other that you will deal with the matter honestly and that if he feels the relationship with you is holding him back in some way, he needs to tell you BEFORE it reaches the point where he acts upon that. Likewise, if you feel that he's growing distant, tell him before you start growing bitter and resentful. And if either of you finds someone else, try to understand that sometimes that happens and that neither of you wants to be someone that the other feels "stuck with".
Communication is key in any relationship, and particularly in yours, considering how it's going to change in the coming year. If you "talked for months" before making it official, you probably already understand that, and that will be a point in your favor.
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**EDIT** With you turning 17, it is very HIGHLY unlikely that he would face any charges as a pedophile by dating you. You are almost a legal adult...
Well, if you care enough for each other and he is is attending school in the area, then I don't see why a continued relationship wouldn't work.
ygs-29/f
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