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Hi! 22 F

So my mom keeps telling me i need to use something to clean my face. I have really good skin i have never broken out before... Once when i used a cream from origins and after that i was like screw this.. I never ever wash my face i never take my make up off. So i figured i would use something in the shower? Does anybody have any suggestions

Neutrogena has a lot of good products ranging from different skin types to specific problems you're trying to tackle. And you can easily just leave in your shower and use as part of your shower routine. I also like Cetaphil which is really gentle and amazing!

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whats a nickname for my name kayla .?

Kay, K, Lala, KK.

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so me and my boyfriend are I guess sexualy active...I mean he hasn't penetrated so I guess it doesn't count its mostly fore play and making out any way its heating up and you see im a virgin.. I want to have sexs with him but im afraid of pain and I know fore play makes it hurt less and I know I have to communicate with him but im realy shy

I've been in your situation before, where being shy was an issue for communicating. You may not like my answer but if you're that shy around your boyfriend, maybe you should just stick with how things are now until you're more comfortable with him to express your feelings. I'm SUCH a shy person but trust me, if you both are serious about each other you will eventually feel comfortable around him enough to tell him what you want and need. Stick to the "oral stuff and hand stuff" until you've gotten over being shy.

Also, if you really are set on taking the next step just remember it probably will hurt more than not. My first time, we couldn't even finish because it hurt so bad so we had to go a different route... But I was sooo comfortable with him and we dated for awhile that it wasn't embarrassing and I made it clear I was a virgin so he knew what to expect. It took a few times before I enjoyed it. I'm telling you that because sometimes if you build enough trust and communication and it'll pay off in the end. It will also be a better and memorable experience.

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I'm moving to singapore next year from the philippines, and I have no idea how things will go, like, I'll be attending college there and do they discriminate foreigners? And with the china-philippines conflict going on and almost 70% who live in sin. are chinese, would this affect our stay? I have tons of other questions but I would greatly appreciate if you share some of your experiences there :)

Hi! I may not be much help with the conflict situation but I've been to Singapore twice and I love it there! I'm from the U.S. and once went on deployment there and the other time I flew there to meet a friend. I've gone to a few different countries (including the Philippines!) and Singapore was so interesting and beautiful! I had never flown to a country by myself and my first experience in Singapore made me comfortable enough to fly, land and make my way around the country alone in order to see my friend. I didn't do too much sight seeing but I did a lot of shopping and took the train system (very awesome!) and just got off on different stops and explored Singapore! To answer your question if they discriminate foreigners, I didn't get that vibe at all.

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The last two months I have gotten my period on the 16. I've had it for a year now. But the 16 of June I will be 15 hours away from home for 5 days at a church camp. Not to mention, it's on the beach. Is there any way I can induce my period or delay it without any birth control or hormones? Also, I use tampons. I sleep with pads. I'm going to be sharing a bed and even with over night pads I leak sometimes. I'm very anxious about this, especially the car rides, sleeping, disposal of pads and tampons, swimming, and everything else!

I don't know of any way to delay or induce without birth control pill. I know they say a lot of stress or change of environment can change your cycle but this isn't definite, it all depends on your body. When I was in Basic Training some girls didn't get their period because of both factors (stress and change). With that being said, I would just like to remind you that (with the assumption) you will be around a bunch of girls... you will all be in the same boat or they at least know how you are feeling! Don't be afraid to say you need a bathroom break its completely normal. I would say thats the important thing because that will help you avoid leaking or feeling uncomfortable or extra paranoid. I don't know about you but sometimes when I'm with my girl friends and we're out I'll ask one that I feel super comfortable with to "check me" to make sure I'm good and haven't gone through. I think that takes a certain level of openness and being comfortable so if you have that one friend, use her!

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i have been confused about what i should be, i am a female that is more comfortable dressing in male clothes, i act more masculine then i do feminine however i do have certain female traits that keeping coming out (maternal - from when i was a step mum). i have been reading up and considering going through with a sex change operation. the only thing that is holding me back is i want kids and want to be able to conceive naturally.

Hey! This is really tough to give advice on and after thinking about what to say, all I can come up with is "Do whatever makes you happy!" It seems like right now you have the best of both worlds: you can appear how you're most comfortable with and what makes you happy AND you can still do what you want to do, which is conceive naturally. If you go through with an entire sex change, the latter will be out of the question. In my honest opinion if you're in the middle and hesitant, I would say don't do anything drastic. I've never looked into the process of gender changes and if/how they're are reversible but I would imagine if it was, it would cost money and a lot of time for your body to transition. Stay with how you are now, dress in what makes you happy but if having kids naturally later on down the road is what you want, you don't want to give that up just yet.

Good luck and just remember your happiness is what matters the most!

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So I had a boyfriend and I told him that I did not want to have sex because I want to wait and im a Christian. So he said okay, but then preceded to pressure me into doing other things such as bjs, hjs, fingering, etc amd they were things i really didnt want to do, told him i didnt want him to do but hed take out his take and be like please just touch it and please just finish for me and put your mouth on it and id really hate it and didnt want to but i did. Hed also tell me like dont you love me? Cause by you not wanting to have sex with me and all that its like saying you dont love me. And he just pressured me into doing all those things. And one day, and please dont judge me cause its so embarassing and I hate to think that it happened but he pressured me into having..anal. And told me at first it wouldnt mean me losing my virginity and i said i really really dont want to and that its weird and he begged and begged and begged and wouldnt let me put my clothes back on and told me just once and we didnt have to do it again and itd make him really happy and its a normal thing and eventually i broke and was like okay once and no more. And he did one thrust and i told him to pull out and he just pushed deeper in and say you just need to give it a chance and i scratched him trying to get him out of me. And before he had also forced me to show him my ass and i really didnt want to and hed try to flip me over and id struggle against him and even said rape rape and hes like its not rape unless im inside you silly. And idk. Is what he did rape? Or sexual harassment? Or what? My friend thinks its both. And im just angry at it all. I mean i blame myself for not just breaking the relationship off but i was fooled into believe everything we did was normal and sure maybe but we had only been together for like two weeks before i had to start giving hjs and ugh:( and i even knew what i was doing didnt feel right..afterwards id feel like sobbing cause i felt like i was just being used for sex and being dooped like every other 16 year old girl whos tricked into believing their 17 year old bf loves them. And ah:( so what is this called? Rape? Harassment? Being forced or constantly persuaded and begged into doing something i really didnt want to do..and then doing it and feeling awful? And if he ever finds this post by some chance, fuck you:(

I may not be much of help but felt the need to answer anyways. One of my side jobs in the military is helping victims/survivors figure out what to do when they are put in an unwanted situation like this. I would consider this as sexual assault. Its more of a broad term but what he was getting you to do was unwanted and you may have consented but I personally feel he was abusing his \"boyfriend\" role. Additionally, the second you say stop during the act and the person does not stop, it is considered rape.

Your options are going to the police but sometimes they\'re a little insensitive about things like that. You can also go to a medical center to get an exam done. If all you did was anal, chances are you\'re not pregnant but with everything else he wanted I would say this definitely wouldn\'t hurt. Some states have a law where they are required to report any rape situations to the police, known as \"mandatory reporting states\".

For the military we have our own hotline but I googled a civilian equivalent and this is what I came up with https://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-hotline they may be able to give more advice on how to handle it and tell you your options and what you want to have happen. Good luck and keep your chin up!

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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do?

I\'m sorry to hear what you\'re going through :( to an extend my parents were like this as well when I was growing up. I got a little privacy and I always made sure not to take advantage of that which meant maintaining or earning more privacy. Even in private, I still had integrity because I knew if they caught me in some shit I would lose their trust and be miserable. But at the same time, I had to be home by a certain time (until I started driving) and I hardly went out with friends, which was mainly my own decision because I knew some of them weren\'t a good influence so I steered clear at times.

The best thing I can tell you at this point is to talk to your parents and ask them what you have to do in order to get some privacy. Maybe have friends come over to your house so your parents can see that they\'re not bad kids you just want to have fun. Either have a pizza/movie night or go to the movies and invite them to stay over or something.

I can easily tell you, normally kids in your situation tend to rebel once they reach 18 or move out on their own which is never good. I don\'t think your parents understand that and its hard to tell them without having them freak out any more than they already are. I would definitely express that you want to make them happy and you don\'t want to let them down because you know they just want what\'s best for you. But at the same time you\'re growing up and need to learn to live life. I know you\'re only 14 but maybe start looking for jobs or see where you want to start applying to when you reach the age of work. Good luck!

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I am 19 female and i have a boyfriend of a year and 3 months. i have always seemed to mention things like "you wouldnt ever cheat on me right?" and a bunch of other annoying things. he has yet to prove me wrong, so i dont know why i keep on feeling this way. i am constantly worrying and wondering what he is doing when we arent togethor. one of the reasons i think i am like this is because i know he loves to have sex with me a lot and is a very horny kind of guy so it makes me extremely nervous that when we dont see eachother for a couple of days, he will do something behind my back. i know he loves me and truly does care for me and wants to see me happy and cant stand to see me upset. so part of me thinks he wouldnt do such a thing. but the other part of me is so full of anxiety and worries that he is doing stuff behind my back..because i know one of his good friends has had a girlfriend for a year also that he claims to be in love with but then my boyfriend told me that when the girlfriend has her period, he cheats on her. that is extremely messed up and i cant bear the idea of my boyfriend doing that to me. it breaks my heart. i also feel like ive seen and heard of people cheating everywhere..media, friends, etc. so why would it stop him? when i was in 6th grade apparently my dad cheated on my mom and that is why they got a divorce, i didnt find out that reason until 2 years ago. but i wonder if thats also why i am so scared. this is getting overwhelming. i know my boyfriend is getting fed up with me acting this way.

I have gone through this before. Its so easy to look around you and point out all the reasons why you shouldn't trust a guy. With all the unfaithfulness going on around you, its really hard to have hope. I have addressed my issues to numerous amounts of people and they all say the same thing "Do you think *boyfriend* would do that to you?" and I stop and take a look at how my boyfriend treats me compared to the guys that claim they are "in love" with their girlfriends. I think about how often we see each other and his level of commitment to me.

If you can sit here and evaluate all of that in your life and still say that you have a good boyfriend, you have to have faith. Otherwise it won't work... it just won't. Love is such a complicated emotion. Its probably the most complicated I have felt. Its all about taking chances, thats it. And you have to give it your all. That way if it doesn't work out, you can honestly tell yourself "I gave it my best. I gave it my all. It just didn't work out." versus "I wish I could have done X, Y, Z better". Always remember, no relationship is the same but for the most part someone has once been in your shoes--whatever case that may be. Strive to have a good relationship, get to know each other and support each other.

Good luck! If you have any more questions on the topic, feel free to ask. Like I said, I've been there before.

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i was texting my boyfriend last night, and he texted me so i texting him back, and after i texted him back...he didnt text me back for an hour...i waited and waited but i fell asleep. he texted my bestfriend shortly after(shes our wingwomen) and told her that i was ignoring him, when really i was just asleep, i woke up with 6 new text messages and 2 missed calls, i told him this morning that i wasnt ignoring him and that i fell asleep...he hasnt texted me back and i'm worried...do you think i'm over reacting?

Nope, he is. I'm not sure how old you guys are but he'll get over it. And if he doesn't then he isn't the guy for you, especially if he can't trust you with something this small. Trust is huge for a relationship.

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hi, okaay so im 13 and a female,im really nice and pretty(not to sound self concieded)and i have exactly what i want all around me. Unfortunatly, kids in my school are all picky about what u wear and how fat you are. i have a boyfriend. and i have over 225 friends. i'm one of the more social (popular) kids in school, but for the first time today i was called fat. it bothers me so much now that, i cant wear anything but yoga pants without feeling fat. i hardly ever eat, but when i do its soup salads chicken and healthy stuff. i'm not anorexic, i eat 3 meals a day, i just dont eat anything in between. it keeps getting to me, and now i wonder alot more often, why i have such a good boyfriend, so many good friends, etc...i dont know what to think of my self anymore. how do i go back to the old me?

Ick. DO NOT listen to whoever said that, trust me. If you are as great as you say you are you do not have anything to worry about. People obviously like you for you, not for what you look like--which I am almost positive cannot be that bad.

Its good that you are not anorexic and do not even think about going down that path. You are doing the right thing with eating healthy, you should be doing that anyways. I highly suggest working out on a regular basis and if you play sports, thats great too. If not, either power walking or jogging can only be a good thing for you. Working out helps with the body, mind and spirit. But don't do it because someone called you fat, do it because you know its good for you and you will feel great after. But I will repeat, DO NOT do this for other people or for the person who called you fat. Everyone should do some sort of physical exercise 3 to 5 times a week. I'm in the military so of course I'm going to push some physical fitness on you :P

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What is the e-mail or regular mail address for Disney? i want to know this because i have a complaint about a certain Disney Princess. also i was just wondering because it would be sooo cool to know Disney's e-mail/ mail address!!

Are you talking about one of the Disney's princesses in general or you went to Disneyland/Disneyworld and had a bad experience with one of the characters? Either way, you can go to the "Contact Us" portion of either parks' website or disney.com and "Contact Us" if it is in regards to just a Disney princess in general. Hope this helps and good luck on getting your issue solved!

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So..
Theres a guy in one of my classess I like. We've only spoken twice and the last time was 6 months ago now!
He's shown sign of liking me (looks at me, laughs at things I say) and I overhear him say things to his friends about a girl-the things could easily apply to me I you get what I'm saying.

So, bearing in mind I'm really shy and he's two years older than me, is it abit random to add his as a facebook friend? We have no mutual friends on facebook either :/

Most likely he will totally add you, why wouldn't he? He at least knows who you are in person. Sometimes, thats all it takes for someone to add someone on FB or even accept a friend request. If you like him, this is definitely a way to show him. Good luck!

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I'm 11, and I already say I love you to my boyfriend.
We haven't kissed, and we've been close friends for a year before we started dating. We've been dating a month now, and we say 'I love you.' all the time.

Is that bad?

Its not bad. But I bet there is a 95% chance that in about 5 to 10 years you will realize that what you are feeling is a different kind of love than what you will feel later on down the road.

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I'm a girl and I like this other girl at my school. She's a senior and I'm a sophomore. 15(almost 16) to be exact. She's 18. I'm not sure if she's too old for me because I've heard that liking her is a lost cause.

The age difference isn't that big of a deal. People could be saying that "liking her is a lost cause" probably because of her personality, her "type" when choosing boys/girls, etc. Don't give up but on the other hand, keep that piece of advice in the back of your head. It will help prevent you from getting crushed later on down the road if things don't work out.

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I'm 16 and I'm a female my boyfriend just turned 29 and we have been together almost 7 month on the 18th and we are both Christians so we believe and agree that we shouldnt have sex til we are married but my friends hate him because he is white and is 29 they try to tear us apart and sometimes they tell me that its Either them that I let go of or my boyfriend but I don't know what to do?! By the way my boyfriend promised me and my mother that he isn't in this relationship to get in my pants that he wants to wait until marriage... what do I do? How do I keep them both?!

Its not unusual for one person in a relationship to be a lot older than the other but the fact that you are so young is what people find so shocking. You both are on different levels mentally now than you would be, say 10 years down the road. You both would still be 13 years apart but by then you both will be of legal age, independent, perhaps be a little more stable, etc.

If you think that this relationship is for you and worth losing your friends and family over, then the decision is ultimately up to you and no one else's. However keep in mind, since you are still a minor and your parents have control over you, this could turn into a legal issue if taken that far. You would really need to keep that in mind.

Do not rush anything and keep your relationship as slow as possible, that way you get to know your boyfriend a little better and what his intentions are. Be careful and good luck!

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I have a problem! I love to organize, but don't have good ideas- but the big problem is that I hate to clean, and the term 'can't see the floor' REALLY applies to my room- and I can't find anything! I tried the 'put everything in a giant pile and attack the pile' but when I see the pile I get overwhelmed, push it to my floor, and it stays there. I hate it! I love being clean, but I just can't get there! So I need:

A) Organizing Ideas (I enjoy it, remember!)
B) HOW THE HECK SHOULD I CLEAN MY ROOM??!!!!!

Thanks, and I KNOW ITS WEIRD!!!

1) For cleaning, start with your bed. Wash the sheets/make it, whatever. Put all your pillows on it and arrange it the way you want it.

2) Then do all your clothes. Whatever clothes are lying out and NOT in the drawers/closet or wherever it needs to be, PUT IT THERE. If the washer is free, start up some laundry.

3) ANYTHING is on your floor, that doesn't need to be, start putting it on your bed (this should clear off your floor and now you have a clear idea of what you need to put away because it is all on your bed).

4) At the same time you're doing that, start throwing away trash/shred papers (if you have a shredder, its good to shred old documents that have any important info on you--I don't like throwing away old mail, etc. I always shred it).

5) Don't limit it to just trash. Anything else you don't want/need. Find a place for it, make a pile in the living room (its better to keep it out of the space you're trying to clean) and decide what you want to do with it. If its old pieces of furniture, give it to the goodwill, etc. If its something a sibling may want, give it to them, etc.

6) Now go back to the pile of stuff on your bed and start putting things away.


As for organizing your room, I always concentrate on the secret spots: under my bed and in my closet. I'm a big fan of plastic drawers, baskets on my shelves. If you have shelves, try to use those too and buy cute basket/drawers and organize them accordingly. Under my bed, I keep things I don't usually want or need access to on a daily basis. Also, if you have a top shelf of your closet and have room, you can probably buy and put together a mini shelf and stick it up there to help you organize.

Remember your door too: its good for a shoe organizer hanger.

Organization consists of "storage". So next time you go to Wal-Mart, Ikea, etc. Take a look at the storage section and you'll find tons of organizers and nifty things such as the shoe organizer that utilizes the back of your bedroom door as storage; as well as closet organizers, etc.

I hope this helps. My room is pretty clean/clutter free and I love to organize as well and these are just tips on how I clean my room and organize it. Any other questions, feel free to ask.

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okay i need advice to give to my best guy friend.
He likes this girl A and loves this girl B. well A likes him back and B loves him to. Me and Him are so confused because he doesnt know what to do. Weather to be with A or B. B told him that shes loved him and would b there when he was done with A. I told him if B really meant what she said then go with A. But then he said that he really loved B and then i said it sounded like hed rather b with B. then he said he didnt know because he really like A too. so i dont know what to do im stuck, hes stuck. Hes is also wanting to lose his virginity to one of these girls. please help and im sorry if its long. thanks

It sounds like he likes B better. Go with B.

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sometimes when we're making out he'll pick me up off the couch and put me on his lap and i was just kinda wondering is he getting hard? do all guys get boners? how will i know if hes getting one? thanks

If he's getting hard, you'll know it. Or you'll feel it if you're in his lap.

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Very long story, but here's the extremely short version. Well, I was going to break up with my boyfriend last monday. But apparently he was suspended until friday. I didn't have his number, so I couldn't do it over the weekend. Now he's back and completely ignoring me. I think someone told him we were over or that I was planning to end it, but I have no idea. He is completely ignoring me. Should I talk to him about it to make it "official" or just leave it? Thanks!

If he is ignoring you as in, you go up to him he walks away, then I would probably just find another way of telling him. I'm not a big fan of messengers but maybe tell one of his friends to tell him, or maybe e-mail/instant message him.
The reason I think you should do it is to save yourself completely. If you started seeing someone else, you don't want him getting in the way of him thinking you two are together, you don't want to be labeled a cheater, etc. So yes, I think you should make it official.

♥ steph.

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