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29 year old boyfriend
I'm 16 and I'm a female my boyfriend just turned 29 and we have been together almost 7 month on the 18th and we are both Christians so we believe and agree that we shouldnt have sex til we are married but my friends hate him because he is white and is 29 they try to tear us apart and sometimes they tell me that its Either them that I let go of or my boyfriend but I don't know what to do?! By the way my boyfriend promised me and my mother that he isn't in this relationship to get in my pants that he wants to wait until marriage... what do I do? How do I keep them both?!
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Its not unusual for one person in a relationship to be a lot older than the other but the fact that you are so young is what people find so shocking. You both are on different levels mentally now than you would be, say 10 years down the road. You both would still be 13 years apart but by then you both will be of legal age, independent, perhaps be a little more stable, etc.
If you think that this relationship is for you and worth losing your friends and family over, then the decision is ultimately up to you and no one else's. However keep in mind, since you are still a minor and your parents have control over you, this could turn into a legal issue if taken that far. You would really need to keep that in mind.
Do not rush anything and keep your relationship as slow as possible, that way you get to know your boyfriend a little better and what his intentions are. Be careful and good luck!
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they aren't friends unless they agree with you're choices and if they leave you that's them not you...you're life you're story don't let someone else write it :)
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You're boyfriends being the good guy here. Age is just a number and race is just a factor of pigments on the skin, what rubbish criteria to judge someone on, right?
You're friends are being unfair to you, they want to break you up because they don't agree with your choices, and I've been there, but just point out, a true friend would stand by you, even knowing full well where it'll lead, just so they can catch you and hold you up when they get to be proven right.
(I'm not saying they're right, just that's how a friend should be regardless.)
Now for some honest truth. You're 16, I have lost touch with almost ALL my friends from when I was 16, just because we went to different universities, got on with our lives and met other people. If they say it's them or your happiness, the choice is obvious, don't sacrifice yourself for other people, especially when they clearly won't do the same for you. Talk to them and explain why they are wrong, tell them they are not being good friends and if they don't change, YOU walk away.
Best of luck x
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Definitely keep the boyfriend as he's 100% right for you. Next, and pardon my French who gives a shit what your racist friends may think of him. It's they who have a problem to fix and not you. Whether he's white or a different race really doesn't matter. They have no business causing you problems over this.
What you have to do is tell them that their business ends at the tip of their nose and that if they have a problem with him they have one with you and kindly shut the hell up about him with your negativity and leave it at that. If I were you I would chuck these so-called friends permanently and find better ones. They're replaceable a guy like him isn't. He's a perfect gentlemen and that's rare especially with what he told your mother. Keep him. Ditch them.
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