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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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I am 15/f and I have a bit of a weight problem. First thing, does 170 pounds sound like im fat to you? Anyways I asked my friends about it they say I dont look that big or anything but when I look in the mirrior I hate what I see. And when me and my friends all go shopping i get really sad. Because all my friends are like toothpicks and fit into size four at the biggest. i am always missing out on trying on cool dresses or tops because I would never fit. And whats worse is that when my friends say there is something I should try on, I have to say no because they wouldnt even come close to fitting me and my friends dont understand that I hate my weight. So to work on this problem I have tried twice to go on a diet. Throughout it I never once broke it. The first time it was for the whole summer and a month, so four months in total, but lost NOTHING! I stayed the same wait. Then the secound time I tried to lose wait I did it for three months, with no sugar or excess fats, and I watched the calories. I even exercised once everyday three days. AND I GAINED WAIT! TEN WHOLE FRICKIN POUNDS!!! I have no clue why. Does anyone have any ideas? Also does anyone have any advice on losing wait fast? I would like to drop weight by the time I go into highschool next year. So I have around five months, even a few pounds would be nice. ALL ADVICE IS APPRIECIATED!!!
It depends on your height, if you are very tall, you probably have an average weight. But, everyone carries weight differently, I myself had your problem whn I was younger, ever since 6th grade I began to have more curvier body. All the other girls were little toothpicks, but I actually was starting to have a figure. I am 5'2 and weigh 125/130 pounds, most people would probably consider that a little bit overweight. But I just have bigger boobs and a bigger butt but I have a very small waist. Maybe you are like this too...?
You weren't eating right, to not have lost any weight. Ha. Stay away from meats and processed foods. You should eat mostly all fruits and vegetables with small amounts of other food groups, to stay healthy. Exercise! Try for an hour a day, at least 5 times a week. Stay away from beverages with "zero" calories, those artificial sweetners make you hungrier. When you feel like eating, drink water. Sometimes you aren't really hungry, you just need some water.
Good luck!
okay i am in 6th grade and i have ADD and ADHD and an autistic brother with asperger syndrome and ADD and ADHD and my mom get mad at us a lot for stupid things and hurts us.... physicaly!!she grabs me hard and shakes me to death and pulls my hair or sits on me and yells till i cry and once me and my brother woke her up and she took our heads and banged them together and make us do chores the entire day! she doesn't have a job and doesn't want one, we live with our nana and papa, she doesn't drink, and only cleans... i know she loves me but i don't remember the last time i hugged her or kissed her...she doesn't let me :( so idk if its child abuse or parenting?ya she cares but when my dad is gone she is hard on me and my brother but she got hit with a belt when she was small so it may be her past but i dont want to lose her i just want to feel love and no pain...
No matter what your mothers past is, that gives her no reason to hurt you. It's one think if she hits your hand or slaps your butt. But, if she is really hurting you badly, and this happens frequently, you need to tell someone. What do your grandparents think about this? And your father? Hav you told him? Tell your dad. Or does he do this too?
If your father and grandparents are not helping you, and your mother continues to abuse you, you should tell a teacher or another adult you trust.
I'm sure your mother is under a lot of stress if you both have ADHD (sorry I don't know much about that, but from what I remember in school is those kids were a little more wilder.. Had trouble focusing? Am I correct?)
Try telling your mother How you feel. I'm sure she loves you.
I'm going to try to make this as short as possible. Its a very long complicated situation. Basically, i was dating this guy. he never acted like he cared about me though. I was talking to this other guy on facebook, right? Ok. my bf didnt go to my school, and this other guy does. Of course, I started falling for him. I talked to him for five or six hours one night. as my status, i put part of a song, and he liked it and sent me the rest of it through chat. we had been talking about how everything happens for a reason, so as my status i put "sometimes its the smallest decisions that can change your life forever." then he said "do you like my status?" and his status said "....but its the biggest things that can ruin your life forever" I loved it. And he actually seemed into me. Two nights later, I ended up telling him that i was having a problem deciding between my boyfriend and this other guy. he asked who the other guy was, and i told him i wouldn't tell. so, when i told him he was like "ohhhhh." so I told him basically, that if he wasnt into me like that, then i wanted him to just tell me the truth. he told me that he was kinda into me, but having an "in school" girlfriend would distract him. I thought it was just an excuse, right? He told me that he was being completely honest about it though. He also said that he needed to get to know me better as a person before anything would happen. His exact words: "dont get me wrong i mean having a cute face and a hard body is fucking hot, but i need to get to know you better first, you know?" So, that made sense to me. then when i had to go, he said "goodnight cutie(:" The next day in school, he looked at me everytime we saw eachother in the hallway. He does this cute nod/smile thing when he sees me. (hes so cuteee!) He also kept staring at me in lunch, to the point where his friend asked "what are you staring at?" then turned and looked at me. I mean, I thought he liked me. So, after school that day, I got on facebook, and he was online. so was my boyfriend. long story short, my bf broke up with me. i was upset, obviously. so i was still talking to this other guy and i said "i dont know if you're busy or anything, but i need someone to talk to. could we talk? please?" he said nothing. he completely ignored me for the rest of the night. the next day in school, he still looked at me and everything, just like he had always done. on facebook later that day, he ignored me again. then finally, today in school he looked at me maybe... once or twice in lunch, and ignored me in the halls. maybe he was having an off day... maybe not. I know it sounds like hes not that into me, but i told him to just tell me the truth, and he did. He swore it was the truth. I dont know how to confront him about this, if i should at all. I really like him, and at one point, he really liked me. Also, sorry if you cant understand this too easily.. im in a HUGE hurry.
I think he was being honest, and I think you might be coming across a little too pushy. It sounds to me, like you guys were just in the very beginning of getting to knowing eachother and you were pretty forward it sounds like. He was obviously attracted to you, but I think you kind of freaked him out.
Basically, back off. Don't IM him or text him first, wait for
him to talk to you. If he likes you, he'll make the effort to talk to you & get to know you.
I know what it's like to be in this situation, a matter of fact, I was just last week. I know it sucks, waiting & you just want to ask to see what's going on, but it's just better to wait!
Good luck :)
hello everyone. i am a 19/f who has a lot of problems. i can't begin to describe my life. i've always had problems making friends, and i have no self esteem. in high school i was this girl who people made fun of, i started crap with people, got in trouble etc. now i am a sophomore in college and I've come a long way. i still don't have friends though. tomorrow is my 20th birthday and i really wanted to go out to a club but i have no one to go with well besides my brother who is in town, but i am sure he would rather go with his friends than his little sister. well anyways i know everything starts at home, and for a long time I've had a bad attitude. i have ADHD so that doesn't make it any better. I've been taking medicine and i am on a small dose because of my weight. i am also taking medicine for that. well anyways at school a lot of people think i am rude, and last semester i barely talked to anyone because i could tell no one wanted to, well besides my English class. but I'll admit i was super rude even to the guy i liked, i was joking but i said some hurtful things to him and other people. i say things jokingly but most people don't realize i am joking and i feel bad i hurt them. my therapist has been working with me for almost 3 years and i feel like my social skills suck, because no one likes me now or when i was in middle or high school. my ADHD makes me impulsive but there were times when i didn't take it. but i have started taking it again, and i did skipped a few days because i forgot. i don't like myself either, and i want to change my ways and be nicer to people. i haven't started school, it starts in two days and i am nervous i still won't make any friends. i mean last semester i had one friend in English class and we hung out like once, and we barely talk now.i did have a best friend but she's really controlling and i am getting sick of her so i don't hangout with her anymore, but i am desperate to make friends, so desperate that my stupid self went on facebook and messaged this girl i went to high school with and didn't get along with and said sorry and she just said she didn't care really. she said she was over it, didn't care for my apology, and said it had nothing to do with me but the situation, and to just drop it, and ended the conversation with a goodbye. i felt really stupid because i am getting more desperate to make friends like also outside of school before it starts on Tuesday. but where and how? i feel so crappy and like a total loser.
I know what your going through. Actually, a lot of people do. Friends come and go, you get sick of people, you change. First of all, what you MUST realize, is nobody looks at you and goes "I don't like her" so stop thinking that way it's not how it is. For people to like nd respect you, you must first like and respect yourself. Stop focusing on the negative. Look at all the positive things about you. Are you athletic, smart, funny, atristic, pretty, fun, creative..etc.? Remember, nobody
is perfect, we all have flaws. Some are more noticeable
then others.
To make friends, you have to work at it. Smiling whenever someone looks at you is a start. When someoe says something like.. "wow that test was hard!" say back "I know! I didn't do well, what is you grade like in this class?" and then you'll respond, and just keep asking question, keep the conversation flowing. Laugh when approiate. Lean forward when talking (when it's approiate) friendship takes awhile to build. You really have to work at it. Once you find
people you hav similar interests with, like music, ask them to go to that concert with you, or to come over and listen to there new album.
People will like you, believe in yourself, be confident in who you are. Good luck:)
I have been seeing this guy for about a year. It all started as a drunk hook up with him, an acquaintance back then, and after that we started seeing each other more and more, until we became best friends and developed feelings for each other. I have had a rough year and he has stuck by me through it all. During the summer, I wanted to start a relationship. I told him that I didn't want to just be friends with benefits anymore, I wanted to take the next step and make it official. He was hesitant, but he agreed. We were official for three months. During that time we fought a lot, so we decided to take a break because it seemed like things were better when we weren't officially together. He told me that the reason he agreed to a relationship with me was because he didn't want to lose me, but I could tell that he didn't truly want to be in one. So we did the unofficial thing for another few months, nothing changed except we stopped fighting and grew even closer. Yet in the back of my head it really bugged me that I was not good enough for him, that he's just using me for the benefits of a relationship without having to put in any of the work himself. I talked to him about that a few times, and he said he just feels more comfortable being what we are now. So last night I finally decided to end it because I was beginning to resent him for that, I don't like waiting around and catering to him whilst he finally decides he wants to be in a relationship with me again. I told him that we should just be friends without the benefits. He said alright let's go for it, that he understands.
I do really want to remain friends, because we do have a really beautiful friendship, but its painful at the same time because at the end of the day I still love him and want to be with him (I'm not sure if he knows that though. I've been pretty emotionally distant from him the past month or so). And I know he still cares about me but he just doesn't want an official relationship.
Did I make a mistake? Should I have stayed and waited some more? I really saw us getting married and having kids someday (he was even vaguely bringing it up), and I feel like I screwed it up. Should I tell him I think I've made a mistake?
When I've asked him why he doesn't want a relationship, he says its because of the obligations. He feels like he's obligated to spend time with me, so its forced on him. However, when we're not in a relationship, he spends time with me because he wants to. And what he said held true: when we were together, I rarely ever saw him and he didn't really pay attention to me. When we're not official, he's obviously happier and loves spending time with me. But what bothers me is that he's had girlfriends before so obviously that wasn't an issue in his past relationships.
The biggest reason why we fought while in the relationship was because I rarely saw him because we weren't taking any classes together, and I didn't have a car. Now we see each other every day because we have a class together and I got a car. So I feel like we won't have the same problems if we get into a relationship again.
Ugh. What should I do? At the end of the day I'm happy with him regardless if we're official or not, its just something that bugs me and eats away at my self esteem and makes me resent him. Did I make a mistake? Should I just talk to him about it some more?
We are both in college, and we have been exclusively seeing each other since we met.
No you did the right thing. If he truly cared about you, if he respected you enough abd liked you enough he'd want to be in a relationship with you. If he wanted to have kids with you one day, then he'd want to be dating you and only you. He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you because he wants to see other girls. And what kind of bullshit answer was that.. "I feel obligated to hang out with you." ummmm yeah, the reason people get in relationships is because they wantto get to know that person better and spend significant time with them. And yeah of course he is happier when he's not in a relationship with you he's happier because he hooks up with you and then goes over to another girls house. Honestly, I don't belive him. He's getting with other girls. But, I think when you guys are official there is some kindness in him not to cheat on you.
You deserve better. I'm sure your really pretty an have a great personality, abd lots of guys would love to really date you. He's playing games with you. And I think you realize all this too because it's been bothering you.
I know your worth more!
19/f i've been best friends with this girl for 4 years. Ever since she became super religious she would try to get me to go to church with her. And it worked for a while but then i realized that i didn't want to convert to Christianity. We have this other friend who my friend thinks is controlling , but i think she got that from her. Like Whenever my friend of four years wants to hangout she never wants to come over. See we're on winter break and she goes to college away from home. and i am always the one going to her house. We hangout with other people and she's rude to them to. but when we were working out she commented on how bad my shoes were like a million times. i was wearing vans canvas slip ons. then after wards we were buying drinks at the cafe and she wanted me to buy hers and i was like i am paying separate and she made a big deal, but i wouldn't buy it for her because she wouldn't shut up about what i was wearing. but later on we were talking and she was being nice and asking what kind of shoes i wanted from the store to workout in. but before Whenever i went to her house and im just like wtf why are you so rude? but anyways she asked me if i wanted her to do my eyebrows. and im stupid and i let her do it. and then she goes and messes up my eyebrows. i am really sick of her. should i stop being friends with her completely? and find new friends, or should i just hangout with her less?
It sounds to me like you have already made up your mind about this girl. You obviously don't like her. Just dont talk to her as much as you do. If I were you I wouldn't cut her off completely if you still enjoy her company. Which you must somewhat if you still put up with this. Instead of hanging out every weekend, make it every other weekend. Eventually, you'll drift apart. It's never good to have enemies.
okay, im a little worried. ive missed my period almost 4 months in a row. i am too embarressed to tell anyone (even my mom). is something wrong with me? what should i do? please help me! if it helps im 15 and i started to get my periods in june of 2008
Have you had sex? If so, you could be pregnant.
Anyway, don't freak out, I missed mine for 6 months abd the doctor said it was normal. However, you should still tell your mom. I know it may be embarrassing, but that is something you really need to tell her, you'll want babies one day. It could be anything, so don't worry about it and just see what the doctor says. It could be as simple as if you've changed your eating habits or if your under a lot of stress.
Good luck!
Hey you guys I just wanted to know if you think I am freaking out or not! ok so everytime I text a boy (that I like) and he don't answer or when I say heyy and he says hey but than don't answer back I freak out and I think he don't like me. Am I over reacting? I also freak out and think they don't wanna talk to me when I say hey and they reply hi, am I over reacting about all of this? -thanks Madison 13/f
I mean, your quite young, so boys are very shy at that age and don't really know how to talk to girls just yet. Next time you say hey and then they say hey, say like what's up or whatever you want to talk to then about. If they dot really respond or it's a one word answer and you think they should have answered more, then they probably aren't interested.
so to answer your question, yeah your freaking out for nothing ha see what happens after you try to make conversation.
Good luck!
Heyy
everyone cant stop going on about 2012! its scaring me, they say world will end. because all the weird stuff is happening.. the illuminati is becoming exposed through almost all the celebrities, 1000 blackbirds have dropped dead, over 100,000 fishes have just randomly died. Alot of people have started to sell their soul.. whats going on!!?!?!
Nothing going on. The birds and fish dying has probably nothig to do at all with '2012.' it's probably from all the chemicals we have and toxins in the air that's killing them. The media creates a lot of anxiety for people to, don't listen to it.
A meteor could come down right as your reading this, and kill you. A crazy killer could come into your home right now, and kill you. You can die at any second, worrying about dying, is just preventing you from living your life. Live your life and don't worry about things out of your control.
I'm 15 and I'm pregnant. I know it's not ideal. I know it's a bad situation. I'm not happy or proud of what I did. It's something I know I have to deal with though.
I told my mom two days ago that I am pregnant. She was really mad at me and told me that we'd get rid of "it" soon enough then.
I tried to tell her it's not what I want. I want to take responsibility. I know it's a hard road. I don't want to kill my baby or "get rid of it." I want this baby and I want to do my best with him or her.
My mom says I'm being stupid and on Monday she's going to call the clinic to schedule an appointment to have an abortion done.
I get where she's coming from, but it is NOT what I want to do. I want to give birth and raise my kid the best I can. I'm not perfect. Nobody is. I just want to try my best.
They always say it's 'my body and my choice' but I feel like my mom isn't giving me a choice here. It's my mistake and I want to do what I think is best. It's my baby I am carrying. I don't want to have an abortion. What do I do? How can I get help so she doesn't make me get one?
The doctors won't abort the baby, if you tell
them you don't want that. Did your mom say that she wants you to get an abortion shortly after you told her? It could have been heat of the moment and she isn't 100% on that choice. Do you have a father? If so, what does he think? Maybe get
him on your side.
Raising a child is a lot a lot a lot of work. It's also a lot of money. Think about all your options.
Abortion means that you would be done with it.
- Pros of abortion is you would not have to care for a baby, possibly drop out of schools or have to be home schooled, nobody would have to know about it, and you could continue on with a normal teenage life.
-cons of abortion is risk medical problems now, or later on in life, emotional damage. Possibly giving up your values and morals.
Keeping the baby
-pros is you get to keep your child, raise it and love it. Having a child is the greatest gift and you will never love anything more.
-cons is it will be difficult, you will have to grow up fast and miss possible opportunities. Money may also be Tight depending on your family.
Giving it up for adoption.
Pros- you get to deliver the baby and can ensure a safe and happy home. Maybe even possible for you to visit it. See your child grow, while not having to give up your childhood and oportunities for your future.
Cons- someone else is raising your child and you have to give the child up.
So, there's a lot of options, only you know what's best for you. Male the decision you want, because overtime your
mom will get over it and respect your decision.
I hope everything works out for you.
My friends have been excluding me out of their plans lately. when I'm around them they say that I'm their favorite because I'm so nice and I never make them mad but I don't get invited anywhere. Maybe this is just a phase but now I just hang out by myself :(
It does sound like they ate excluding you. Perhaps youdid something to offend them. Talk to them and say something like "for the past few weeks you've been excluding me fr
hanging out and it's made me feel really sad, did I do
something wrong?" that's a really good way to find out what's going on in a covized manner. Don't fight them or anything, just say the facts and then how that makes you feel. It works really really really well.
Also, if these aren't your best friends, they may not feel
obligated to invite you all the time. Remember, sometimes people get sick of eachother. I'm a senior in high school and I'm sick of mostly all my friends, to the point I barely hang
out with anyone anymore because I can't stand them.
It's plain and simple. I am a young teen girl and for Christmas, I really want my OWN puppy, but I donno if my parents will let me. We already have 2 dogs and i love them both, but i think i want my own too. But I alwaays lose things so my parents dont think I am responcible.
Please help me! How am I going to show my parents I would be a great dog owner?!
Ah, been here, done this:)
When I was 14,I really wanted a puppy, more then anything. I begged. For weeks. So, my birthday was that month, and I got my first dog, a westie. She was more of a family dog though. But I got her by begging and saying I would help take care of her. She was more of a family dog.
That dog, became more of a family dog. So for my 18th birthday I wanted my own. My moms main arguments were.,
-who will take care of it, I don't know if your respnsible.
-dogs are expensive, I don't really want to pay for that.
-where will we keep another dog?
For the first question, I responded by saying, it's my dog and I will takecare of it. I showed her I was responsible by keeping my room clean, doing things whn she asked, arrived home on time.
For the second question, I said I would pay for grooming and vet bills or help out ad much as I can.
Forthe third question, I responded with, in my room of course!
Just begggggg and show how responsible
you are, play with your dogs, feed them, tAke them
for walks, cleAn your room, do the dishes when nobody asks.
Do this for a month or two and you'll get a dog:)
I just started dating this boy and we were talking about sex. We're both virgins but both really horny and interested in doing it some time. The thing is I don't want our relationship to be all about doing it. I want to have something strong and lasting. How long should we wait to have sex then if we do actually end up doing it? When is a good time to have sex? He said I should ask around the question of how long should you date before having sex and I told him I would get some opinions so...
For the first time I think 6 months to a year. Then you know for sure there not just in it for the sex. 6 monthsish is how
long most people wait. But I think it also depends on your age and when you truly feel ready.
I am trying to eat healthier and my mom made tacos today and I was thinking that maybe tacos are actually healthy for you to eat because they have stuff like cheese, meat (hamburger or chicken), lettuce, and tomatoes inside a thing tortilla thing. So, does that mean tacos are actually really good for you and you can eat them when you're on a diet?
Cheeses and meats aren't the best thing for you if you want to lose weight. If you want to lose weight eat fruits and vegetables, grains, and small portions of dairy abd meat. Plenty of exercise is always important too.
Lately I have begun to lose faith in my religion and it's starting to bother me because I feel less protected, less comfortable. Kind of alone? What do you do when you lose faith in your religion? Any tips?
(I won't say my religion because I don't particularly think it matters... I'm sure a lot of people from a lot of different religions lose faith after a bit, but come back to it.)
I think everyone loses faith or questions it as you get older. I
know I did, when I lost a friend. I think it's really good to question your faith, your religion. I'm one of those people that dance to a different drum, I do things my way and I'm an open thinker. I don't really follow any specific religion I've actually mixed a bunch of beliefs together from christian belieft to Wicca. Do you think your athesist.. Or agnostic?I think you should question your religion, open your
mind to other belief systems and see which one works for you. Maybe it's the religion you have, maybe it's tottally different kind, or maybe it's no faith at all.
19/m.
I'm currently taking a year out. After this year, I'll be going to university. Right now, my plan for this year is to re-sit some exams to boost my grades. I also have a full time Job. I work 8hours a day, from 3pm-11pm. These hours are soon going to change to 8am-4pm.
I find it really hard balancing work, with studying, plus I have to work on my university application, and I want to do some voluntree work. However, when the weekend comes around, I find myself lounging around, tired from the previous week of work. I can't qut my job, because I need to save money for university. Can somebody please tbs me advice on how to manage my time so I don't totally screw up my studies (which is my priority?!)
I don't go to school, I just only go in for exams, and have to study at home(which I find difficult) or the library.
Any advice is appreciated, and thanks in advance :)
I used to have a really hard time balancing my
time to! And i was always so confused where my time was going. I made a chart of a typical week from
the time I woke up to the time I went to bed. It's a really good way to see where you time is going and what
your wasting time on. I spent way too much time listenig to
music and talking to friends. Put your priorities first and multi task. My day is similar to yours, so my typical day is work 7-4. Get home at 415, do whatever I want till 5, then do y
homework until 630, eat dinner, then exercise to 8. And then do whatever I want after that. I'm tired on weekends too though, from doing the same boring thing every day. So Friday, I don't really go out until way late, if I do decide to go
out. On Friday after work, i usually sleep till like 7 and then get ready and maybe go out. And then Saturday I go
out and then Sunday I do all my chore stuff like buying groceries and cleaning. I hope this helps:) just try not to procrastinate and get stuff done
My mom always said to brush you teeth twice a day with toothpaste and then brush once with just water. I don't really know why she said that but then I saw on TV it said brush three times a day. Technically I do brush three times every day. But do they mean 3 times with toothpaste or what? we do use floss and mouthwash too when we brush if that matters.
Your suppose to brush morning, night, after every
meal. When you brush your teeth, it's puts a protective layer on your teeth and keeps them healthy, when you eat or drink something with citrus acid in it, it immediately takes away that protective layer and little holes form in your teeth and little bugs get in there. Brushing with just water seems pretty stupid to me, I don't get why you would do that. Flossing is even more important then brushing. Mouthwash is good too.
Should I go to the school homecoming dance? I am a senior(12th grade) and I don't know if I should go to the schools homecoming dance. All of my friends are going and I didn't by a homecoming ticket, which was about $15. If I go, they will charge me $20 for entrance. Also, the majority of my friends have girlfriends and they will be dancing with them and all of my girl friends have boyfriends which they'll be dancing with them. I don't know how to dance, I don't have a girlfriend and I'm going to be lonely bored and left out because I have no one to hang with.
I'm a senior this year and I've never gone to my homecoming dances, I was really skeptical about going too. A good majority of my friends had boyfriends and I just didn't want to look like the only girl there without a date. I went though and iit was like the funnest thing ever. Also, your a guy and there will probably be a million girls without dates there. I would go. It's your senior year, might as well go, you'll never get to again. And you could offer to drive, then if Iit sucks, just leave. I hate dancing and at first I felt awkward and didn't dance but once you get into it, it was a lot of fun. Go:) have fun :)
ok. so last week i went and attended a gig in a club, in which a small local band was playing. i had been talking to the lead singer since the week before the gig and he told me to make sure i came up and said hello. but once i got there, and he was on stage and we were looking at each other i realised just how nice and gorgeous he is. i kept saying to my friend "hes so out of my league.." anyways i went up and danced, he came down off stage and high fived me ahaha not even high fiving my friend next to me who had her hand up. anyways we went to the bar and we were standing there looking and smiling, but i started blushing so i turned around. nerves get the better of me i guess. Then my friends came over and i went outside. i told myself if he comes outside that i will go up and talk to him. i was in direct view of the staircase leading to the outside. The guy walked halfway down the stairs, looked at me and walked back inside. he continued to do this 3 times. i was confused as to why he didnt walk down. anyway we left, me still not having said a single word to him. i sent him a message on twitter that night saying "sorry i didnt come talk, i was waiting for you outside" to get a message back saying "aww im sorry too, i was trying to come outside and say hi but i get to nervous around pretty girls hehe next time for sure though?" now im going to his gig tonight and i am absolutely freaking out! because i dont know if hes interested and what not. it will be interesting because i told him i couldnt make it but now i can, i havent told him ill be there now so im using the element of surprise. so when i go up and get the guts to talk to him atleast i can say i had a change of plans and could make it :) do you think i should go for it? he seems so nervous and set on me making the first move. but im even more nervous! help?
Aw band guys are my favorite!:) anyways, it defineitly seems like he is interested in you and wants to get to
know you! Be confident and talk to him, it sure seems like he wants to get to know you and is a shy nice guy. I've felt with band guys before. Since he's local, he isn't realy famous yet and probably doesn't really have a large fan base or groupies yet, and band guys who are only looking for sex, are straight to the point. They'll tAlk to you for a little bit, and then be like "hey wanna come check out the tour bus" sadly, my friend and I have both had this happen to us, but it's whatever, it happens. Usually only bigger bands will have the balls to do that. Bu local guys usually they don't. He seems nice, go for it:)
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Hey, well.. what kind of things are on this facebook group? is it sexual things you've done? or just secrets you've shared?
Sometimes the sex stuff they don't realize its even a big deal. I mean maybe instead of like playing games with him, just tell him that you know about the facebook thing and whatever else he is hiding, & just come out and say it. If i was in this situation, I would be mad too but I'm not sure if I would break up with him. I think you should just try talking to him, and just telling him how you feel about everything, and see what he says. If he doesn't come clean or doesn't apologize, then I think you should consider ending the relationship.
Hope this helps!