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Hmm.. What kind of advice can I give? Any kind you'd like. Advice on relationships (all types) Getting out of trouble(my specialty) Sarcasim is always fun.
Giving advice is something I do best, I'll awnser any question you'd like, unless they're stupid and extremely pointless ones.
About me?- I like playing basketball, I'm still in Highschool, doing things that will get me in trouble, but always being good enough to get out of it.
My friends mean the world to me, without them I don't know what'd I do.
I could go on, but I don't think I will.
Anyways, if you do ask me questions, try to hold back on tYpInG lyK diZ N sTuFf alright. Other than that Anything you want to know I'll do my best to help with :)
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Does anyone know how i can find a distance between one place from another like hackensack NJ to garfield NJ?
The only thing that I could even think of is to go to some place to mapquest.com, if you just type in an address from backensack NJ and then type in one in garfield if'tll give you the exact miles to the location.
Ok, my boyfriend and I were literally making out for 35 minuets now when I came inside I had white stuff around my mouth what in the world is this?
Unless ya'll went any further, my guess is that it's mixed spit. Plus 35 minutes is awhile, you might like start to get cotton mouth and then all that mixed might have accumulated something like that.
My daughter does not want to know me and is trying to exclude me from the rest of the family i am heartbroken she cant see that i love her and my other children she is married and has children of her own please find me some answers as to why this is happening
If that's the case then she's probably dealing with some old resentment issues. I don't know your family situation, but maybe she's still having issues to things that might of gone on when she was younger between the two of ya'll. The only way anything will ever get solved is if you step up, and let her know that you want to be apart of her life, and you want to know why she's trying exclude you from her's. It might start a fight, but sometimes things have to get worse before they can start to get better. You'll know how to handle it much better if you confront her, and you actually know the reason for her acting the way she does.
well im in basketball...And im like not too good whats a way to help me not think about bein nervous...or somethin...plz help me out !!
Of course the thing to do would be practice. But it's more than that, you really gotta learn to love the sport, I've played since I was 4, and basketball is probably one of the best sports out there. Learn to appriciate the game, if you're really determined practice EVERY chance you have spare time. When you're out on the court you NEED to feel confident, not OVER confident, but confident enough to where you lose some of the nervous feelings. They'll go away soon enough, you just gotta practice at the game. If you want it bad enough, you'll get better. Practicing will gain you confidence. And if you miss a few shots, or get frustrated, try not to let it discourage you, it happens to the best of players. Also, try taking some summer camps, or winter camps for ball handling skills. Depending on where you live, a good one for the summer would be the Don Eddy basketball camp. I hope you stick w/ it, basketball is A GREAT sport.. good luck
I was thinking about asking this girl out. The only problem is ... Shes my cousin. I mean shes not like my first cousin. Shes my grandmothers nephews daughter. Shes such a hottie. I love her. Is this wrong? Would it be considered incest? please give me your opinions about this.
K, I'm sure I'm not the first to say this since a lot of people have responded. But yes, that would be like insest. Think about it this way.. You go to a family reuinion and you're all over her?? The family is sure gonna think something of it. If she's your grandmother's nephew's daughter, then that would make her your 2nd cousin, which doesn't fall far from anything. If she wasn't related to your grandma's nephew, then I guess it'd be a lttle different. That would make it akward for the WHOLE family.. she's your 2nd cousin, which still means ya'll have blood that you share. One, if ya'll were to actually pursue somehting like this, you'd have an extremely high chance of one of your kids coming out with mental retardation. It's just not right, I don't mean to offend you, you can't help who you like, but it's about doing what's right. And you would CONSTANTLY get picked on at school for something like that, too. Your family would torture you both. Just think about doing soemthing like that before you actually do, seriously.
I just found out that my dad has lung cancer and things are not looking good. he lives 2 hours away and I am 24 with a family of my own but I was just wondering: What are some positive, inspirational, and supportive things I can say to get him through this time no matter what the outcome...how can I help him through this? I have so much passion and emotion inside and I know what to say in my head, but I am so bad at expressing how I feel in the moment. This is the one time in my life where it's extremely important to say and do things right, but I still seem to only cry when I'm alone or think of good things to say only AFTER a situation. I feel I'm not being what I want to be for him to my full potential. Thank you to anyone who can help!!
First off, I'd like to say that I'm soo sorry to hear that. Right now there's no right words to say, YOU alone, and not your words will be his only inspiration at this time. His family is all that's probably going to be keeping him going at this point and time. Enjoy doing hobbies with him, enjoy his company. By doing that you'll be making his time on this Earth all worth while, and a very happy man. If you keep him happy, and in high spirits, I beleive it will make all the diffrence in his road to recovery, no matter how far that recovery will go. Think positive at all times, and try not to acknowledge that he really might be dying. That seems like the wrong advice in times like this, of course acknowledge it, but don't let it keep you from doing things with him that he'd want to do. By making him feel llike he's still the same man, it'll help keep him going. He's now at a point in his life, where the main thing he probably wants to do is spend time with the ones he loves. That's the best thing to do in this time. And if the subject of his cancer does come up, keep nothing but positive things about it. Show him how much he means to you, and it'll make all the difference. I really do hope good things turn out for you in this situations, your dad will be in my prayers.
Okay hey
well, I have this really big crush on my chorus teacher. and this isnt one of those eww god these ppl have problems kind of things so dont think that. But anyways. im 16 and he is 26. He is really really cute and he is just so sweet and funny, and REALLY flirtatious. A lot of my friends see that. I even tlak to this guy online and stuff. and he blocks EVERYONE unless they are on his buddylist, and he put me on it. Anyways... I think about him non stop. And if i have a problem, then he is always there to help me out with it and everything. and if i am faking a guy problem thing, then he is always there to help me out. A lot of my friends say that they seriously with no doubt in their minds, think that he likes me but he just wont say or do anything becasue of his job. And everyday it seems to get more and more serious about him. And now he's all telling me to stop hanging out with my friends and everything becase they are bad influences( he said this after i asked him to help me with singing lessons) and that felt like soemthing a bf would do. And i would do anything in the world for this guy and its really serious... What do i do?
-Shakenya
Probably the thing to do is just continue to talk to him. Make him feel more and more comfortable around you, stay after school, get "singing lessons" that cause you to have to stay after alll the time. He probably wouldn't confess it to one of your friends, just because they're young too. Wait a little bit longer, hang out with him some more, and then make a move. This is an interesting story! Let me know if he does anything after awhile. He's probably scared to go forth with something like this, it could mean his career if he gets caught. So don't tell too many people who you can't trust.
I am having my 17th birthday party on friday and the theme is pink. I invited guys and they don't care that the theme is pink lol. But this is my first party where guys can come and I am worried something bad will go wrong or that my mom will stay downstairs or something. And what are some games we can play or things we can do that will be fun for both guys and girls? thanks and any other ideas will be great thanks
Yes board games would be good, you might want to talk it out with your mom before hand if you don't want her watching your every move. Another cool thing might be to make like a slide show of pictures with all of your friends, you know, things that'll bring back some good memories. Music of course is always good, and lots and lots of junk food. Also, movies is a no-brainer and let the party flow from wherever it takes you. Make sure the parent's aren't around and try to get it started immediatly. Have the music playing when the first people walk in. It should be a success! I hope it goes aLright for you, happy birthday!
Ok, before I get to my problem I'm going to kind of explain the situation so you get it. So at my high school we have to share lockers with one person because there’s like 2700 people and there are not enough lockers. I am on the cheer team and so is my locker partner, I’ll call her Sarah. And there is this other girl that is on the cheer team, we’ll call her Molly, her locker is upstairs and all her classes are downstairs, so she started keeping her stuff in our locker. Now I don’t have a problem with her being there but were not the best of friends. Anyways, I got a bunch of pictures of hott guys in magazines from my house and put them in the locker. Sarah and Molly really liked this one picture of Chad Michael Murray.
Ok so at cheer practice this other girl comes up to me, I’ll call her Kelly, and she asks me what my locker com was. I asked her why and she said because Sarah and Molly hid your poster of Chad and they’re gonna take it. I said ok well I'm not going to give it to you so tell me where it is. And they said they would just go with me. So I go to my locker and sure enough, the posters gone. So we start going through everything to try and find it. We found it taped underneath one of the shelves. So I just took all the posters out and threw them away so then they can’t have any of them. Then Kelly starts going through this whole explanation. She said, Molly came up to me today and was like were gonna take Kylies poster of Chad. And Kelly said she asked her why and Molly said because she wanted it. My problem with her story is that why would they take the poster if they can see it every day in the locker?
So, after cheer practice I went up to Molly and I asked her why she wanted my poster so bad that she thought she needed to steal it. She said what the heck and was telling me that it wasn’t even her that was trying to steal it. She said that Kelly was with her at the locker while she was getting stuff out and Kelly was like can I have that poster and she told her no so Kelly tried to grab it but Molly closed the locker. Molly said Sarah told Kelly our locker com and she had it in her planner. So she said that’s why they hid it so that if Kelly tried to take it she couldn’t find it. Now my problem with this story is that if Kelly had the com already then why would she come to me and ask for it?
I know that I sound like a complete idiot getting all worked up over a stupid poster that I got out of a magazine but its not about the poster it’s the fact that they were gonna take it without asking me. Like really if they had just asked I would have given it to them because I really don’t care. But they didn’t so I'm mad.
So you see I'm kind of getting the same story from both people but the names are just changed. I really can’t base it on who I trust more because Molly tends to be very fake (like I’ve seen her go up to someone and be like oh hey I love your shirt and then she’ll turn around and be like what the heck is she wearing???) and I've caught Kelly in a lie before. My question to anyone who decides to read this whole thing (I'm really sorry it’s so long) is who should I believe??
It wouldn't matter. The point is that they both kknew about it and did nothing to stop it, on both sides. Nor did they even bother to tell you for that matter. What you should do is simply tell them the next time something of her's is missing that they'll have to find another locker to put their stuff in. Of course they'll still have your combo which could be bad, but if they can't put their stuff in there, then that should leave them with a small delimma. Ohh well if you have to continue to share lockers with Kelly, then you both should just kick "Molly" out if something like that happens again. IF by chance something gets taken from your locker again, then I would start to suspect your friend Kelly. Either way they both have no right to take your stuff, and you should tell them that you don't want it to happen again or Someone's getting kiked out. That someone being Molly. K, I hope this made sense, It was kinda difficult for me to type it than it was to think it up in my head.
My friends and I have been in this fight for like a long time. And we havn't really gotton over it. And its not just any kind of group. Its the popular group and we ALL know how that is. There are rumors flying everywhere and I want to be nice to them because most of them arn't really mad at me. Only if I hang out with my friend who 'was' in that group. I have done everything! Anyone have any suggestions without being rude to any of my friends? Or is it just totally HOPELESS
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Ah, that's the worst. Really, there's nothing you can do. I feel sooo hopeless when things like that happen. The only thing you can do is tell your friends who are "in' the group so to speak, that you're going to be friends with everyone. Eventually it'll blow over, once the rumors stop and everyone calms down over it. Just TRY to not get in the middle, and if you're already it in, I'm really sorry. The only thing you can do is talk it out. That's it. And that's horrible advice I know because that would be the obvious choice, but what more coudl you do? You could try to get them to "meet" up accidently, but that might end up getting them pissed off @ you. Which wouldn't be any good. YOU just keep being friends with everyone, don't get trapped in the "If you're friends with her, we're not friends anymore," game. Good luck, I hope it blows over soon.
ok, my parents, dont smoke..or say they dont. when theyre in their room, and they leave and let me go in there..it smells horrible..like smoke, but not cigarette smoke. ive been to a concert...and smelled mostly everything there is to be smoked, and one of the smells is what i smell in my parents room. last year i was looking for presents around xmas(hehe) and i had heard of looking in btween the bed and the mattress, so i tried there. i found a couple of baggies with something in them..and no it wasnt a cd or anything.. well everyonce inawhile, i see a pipe stickin out from under the bed.the othr nite it finally hit me what the smell was..pot..so jus a second ago, i went in(theyre not home) and lifted up the matress, what do i find?the pipe i saw, and some baggies with the same stuff. so i went to freevibe.com to see what it could b..and i think it is pot. if they are, i need them to tell me, even though i noe that wont happen. if they are i wanna get out of the house and go stay with my aunt. the thing is, i love my parents, and theyre BOTH sunday school teachers.do u think they are? and if they are..how can i stop it or let them realize i know?
Yeah so it's probably pot. If you love your parent's then don't leave them over something like that. It's just pot, there are a ton of worse things they could be doing in this world. It's weird that they'd be doing it and they're Sunday School teachers. Well, of course the only way to get them to confess, is by showing them the evidence with you. That way they can't deny it, it's under THEIR bed. Then the only thing that would be left to do is tell them that you want them to quit. That's all you really can do. It can only be their choice, and just let them know how much it'd mean to you if they stopped. But seriously, don't go live with your aunt, that could cause some SERIOUS problems for your parents. Smoking pot doesn't make them bad people. If you go to live with your aunt one, CPS could be called, which is just NO good. You don't want that by any means. Or two, your whole family could trash them and cause hardships on them, they coudl lose their jobs. Just before you do that, think about it. It's a serious matter when you want to leave for something like that. But yes, show them the evidence, tell them you're not stupid, and ask them to stop and be willing to back them up if they want to.
i have a friend who cuts, she hasnt since the summer but today she came into shcool and told me one of my other really good friends and one of her really good friends and made us sweare we wouldnt tell anyone or shed kill us type of thing.....the whole thing is me and my friend dont know exactly how we should help her we know she wants the help but we cant figure out how to...is there anyone with any experience with this that has any sugestions that worked? were all really confsued as to how to solve this and we know that we cant force her to get help but sugest it and jsut be there for her and tlak to her but there has to be somthing more we can do
The thing is, you can't really stop her from doing it. It's a hard hard thing to overcome if you're doing it. The only thing you CAN do, is be supportive of her. Hang out with her as much as possible, and build up her self-esteem. Keep her occupied so that she doesn't have time to do thigns like that. I know you won't be able to watch her every move, but the only way she'll overcome it, is if you tell an adult who can get her some counsling, or you take the hard task on of lifting up her self-esteem on your own. If you absolutly CAN'T tell someone w/ a higher power (Just try to make sure it's not the school, they suck with this sort of thing) Then like I said, make her feel special, hang out with her as much as possible until you can tell she's calmed down w/ the situation, and support her a 100% whenever she needs ya'll. Continue being FRIENDS. That's what she needs most. She wouldn't of told you if she didn't want help from doing it. Best of luck to ya'll.
I feel lately that I am a fake Christian. I say I believe in Jesus, God, etc., but I just am not very knowledgable about Christianity on the whole. All I know is, when I'm talking to God, or the few times I go to church, I am very happy, because I do know that God and Jesus love me. And my family - they all believe and everything, we're just not the most religious people, I guess. But I realize that we need to truly accept Jesus into our hearts in order to enter Heaven, and I don't even feel truly like I've done that yet. I've never brought it up with my family, but I really want all of us to get to know God and Jesus so that I can expect to meet them in Heaven, because this is kind of a priority. But how do I do this without basically saying, "Okay, here we go, we are going to believe in this whether you like it or not"? I know that sometimes people get kind of offended because they think I force my ideas about religion upon them... Sorry for the long question - I rate!
It's all about faith! If you believe in God, that's all it takes. Although I do understand about wanting to know more about him. You know, you could totally get to know him on you're own, you don't have to have anyone else if you truley want to get to know Him better. You shouldn't feel like you're a fake Christian. I've felt like that before sometimes too, but if you have the faith, and you truley believe in Him, and Jesus, that's all it takes and you have EVERY right to call yourself a Christan. None the less, that's not ALL it takes. Showing it is another thing in itself. Once ytou accept Jesus in you're heart, when you're ready, as stupid as it may sound he's already ready. But it's the best feeling in the world, nothing can ever beat it. It's GREAT that you're trying to get your family involved. If you want to approach them about it, don't say "We're going to do this," say somehting more like "Mom/Dad I think we should do this, and I want to get more active in our faith, and I want to do it as a family." but like I said, if they don't follow through, don't, DON'T let that stop you from pursuing a relationship w/ God, and learing more about your faith. Best of luck to you.
okay ive been dieting for the past like 3 dayz...ive been eating about 3 healthy meals a day and stop eating around 6. but today i dunno if i ruined it. I have an orange, an apple and a banana for breakfast, then for lunch i had a portion of turkey and a turkey sandwich with wheat bread, and then for dinner i had a bowl of chicken soup..But inbetween the meals i had another orange, a boiled egg, another apple, and another banana, and a bite of a pickle... it sounds like alot but it was through out the whole day..is this gunna affect my diet because i kinda over did eating the fruits?? thanks!
You haven't failed. It's actually good that you eat a little bit of something you like in between. Depriving yourself will only allow it to build up and when you DO give in, you might tend to binge... so it's good to have like a day of that every once in awhile.
Where can i buy a du rag??
You could just go to like.. Sally's.. or some girl shop that sales products for your nails, hair, ect. Sally's is the best awnser if you have one around you. They'll carry du rags
I've been "going out" with this guy ever since this party where we had to kiss for truth or dare...
we liked each other and talked every day for several days.
when we were talking on the phone, I asked him about the things he didnt like, and he said his siblings and gays.
His mom had made this one kinda racist joke that i heard abot african americans, and his brother had called me a name (I'm Jewish)
Could it just be a coincidence about his family? (I'm not gay or anything, but I believe in rights of minorities, being one).
Should I break up with him, or what?
(sorry for it being so long)help!
(his family is kind of the rich white christian type but he seemed sweet)
-HeLpMe-
If you're going out with the boy and HE starts to make fun of you becuase of your minority, then the best thing would probably to break up with him. If it's his family, then you shouldn't do it over them. This is a relationship between you and him, not his family. Also, you shouldn't feel uncomforable around him because of it. If he makes you feel uncomfortable, then I would probably break up with him also. But what's up with him not calling you in 4 days? That's something that should be looked into. Maybe you should call him. His family might make it hard for him to be with you, they might tease him a lot for it, because they're jerks. The best thing to do is talk with HIM about it, and let him know that you don't know what should be done and ask him to tell his brothers to shut their mouths. If the problem persists and it just keeps on making you feel even more uncomfortable, then you might consider breaking it off.
oh gosh i dont konw what to say now.....
ok my friend and i like a same guy he is so fine and all but he can not decided that who does he want to date and all should i quit between him and my best friend? i think i should give up on him and contiuned the friendship between me and my friend so help me out guys
I went through the exact same thing. It won't do anything but bring hardships when something like that happens. As much as you want the guy, you can't forget that this person is your BEST FRIEND. It does nothing but bring hardships on a freindship. It took me until AFTER it was all over that it totally wasn't worth losing a friend, a good one at that. Yeah I got the guy, but it didn't feel good at all, it actually made me stop liking him. When things like that happen it just brings trouble. If I were you, I'd surrender, no matter how hard it is. Keeping your best friend will be far more worth it in the end.
Well here's the thing, my best friend(23) has just recently gotten engaged. She has asked me(19) to be her maid of honor and I have said yes. But come to find out she has been lying to this guy(20) the whole time they've been together. I didn't realize what she's been doing until all of us started to hang out with each other. He's really nice and really loves her. But I don't believe she feels the same about him. She is what you would call a user. If you have something that she could benefit from she attaches to you and try's to get you for all you have. She has cancer and is getting a divorce from her present husband now, there goes her medical, this new guy is in the airforce and is form a family with money, (lots of benefits and can take care of her). My question is, should I tell him about all of her lies, cheating and sneaky ways or just leave the whole thing alone and let him find out for himself.
Woah, what a best friend. It doesn't sound to me like she's much of a friend if she does that kind of stuff. The thing to do would first talk to your Best Friend, and lether knowthat she needs to come clean with him, and if she doesn't, then you will. I mean, if it's your best friend you probably wouldn't want to lose her as one right? Well telling him without her knowing will do the trick. Try to get her to tell him first, he'd MUCH rather here it from her probably, instead of another person.
I really need help with puttin a music playlist on my xanga. Someone who can explain it well please help me!!!
Okay first go to your site, and when you click on Look and Feel... and then you scroll just about all the way down and it says..MUSIC URL.. NOW from here you go to www.xanga.com/xanga_music ... They'll provide a list of songs for you.. when you find a song you want RIGHT click it and click properties... then there will be a long list of words numbers, copy ALL of it.. and then insert it into where it says MUSIC URL...
I know most answers are going to be to talk to the person.. but how am I supposed to know whether or not the guy I want to confront is gay or not? If you are gay.. please IM me lol Striker6909 I'll rate you a 3-5 if you answer this question well thanks!
That's something hard to deal with. I have a really good friend that's gay, and honestly, it didn't really help him to talk about it. I know it's probably killing you inside to know, it was me too. But that's something that you'll just have to wait on his terms, till he's ready to tell you. I knew my friend was gay for about 4 years, but I never dared asked him if he was, a few other people did, and he always replied with a no. Finally, he came out last year. It's something that he probably won't tell you until he's ready. If you just can't stand it, of course there's always "talking to him," but if you want to find out in a better way. Get a gay guy to talk to him, see if he goes somewhere with it. It's manipulative though, so if you were desperate enought do it, be careful. Other than that, he'll come clean with everyone on his terms probably, as much as it sucks.