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I NEED ADVICE SHE'S not telling the truth
Well here's the thing, my best friend(23) has just recently gotten engaged. She has asked me(19) to be her maid of honor and I have said yes. But come to find out she has been lying to this guy(20) the whole time they've been together. I didn't realize what she's been doing until all of us started to hang out with each other. He's really nice and really loves her. But I don't believe she feels the same about him. She is what you would call a user. If you have something that she could benefit from she attaches to you and try's to get you for all you have. She has cancer and is getting a divorce from her present husband now, there goes her medical, this new guy is in the airforce and is form a family with money, (lots of benefits and can take care of her). My question is, should I tell him about all of her lies, cheating and sneaky ways or just leave the whole thing alone and let him find out for himself.
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if this is a serious as you think and she is leading this guy on you need to go to her first.tell her that you are going to give her a chance to come clean and if she won't you are going to come clean for her.
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No.. talk to HER about it.. tell her she better stop or your GOING to tell him. dont do it behind her back, not after she asked you to be the maid of honor. dont accually tell him though. but make sure that you point is clear
later,
tif
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woah.. maybe you should tell him about it all.
he deserves to know she has cancer.. i have been there with family and close relitives if he doesn't find out now he will be more broken when she has an attack.... you should make the right decision. you don't need my help.
xox manda hope i helped
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NO! lol that's the worst thing to do because then the guy will end up suing her and it'll just be a total mess... before they get married you need to talk to her one on one and then talk to him... after that you need to get them to take counceling because one person can not do everything but it's good that you're concerned, it shows that you are a real friend
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i understand you want to help a friend but really this is thier issue and you should stay out of it. sometimes friends wont believe you and just think your trying to get into the middle if thier relationship so just let it go. but i can tell your a great friend and thats really good. xoxo angie
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I cant tell you what to do and expect you to obey. This is just my opinion. You have to look at it at all perspectives. If you were her would you want some one telling someone something like that. The answer would most likely be no. and the other side would be if you were a guy would you want this to happen to you? the answer again would most likely be no. so i can see how hard the decision would be for you. I think i would rather know about it in advance rather than finding out after it was too late. so maybe just give him some type of little warning about her in someway or another. But try as much as possible not to get your self in the middle of it. By saying this i realize that you will have made yourself a part of it but this way you wont be in the middle of it for say as much as if you were to tell him exactly how she is word by word infront of her and to break it off between them for him. This way just giving a little warning will let him see how she is and too notice the little things she does before they get married and too maybe set a date a little later than he had actually wanted just to get to know the REAL her. If he does realize for him self and see that she is all of what you say she is then he can choose whether or not he would really want to go through with this wedding.
i hope this all makes sense to you and i wish you the best with whatver you choose to do.
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as much as you feel this is really wrong , which it is , its really none of your business why she is really marrying him . if he is happy with her let him be happy , if you really dont like what shes doing i would tell her that you couldnt be the maid of honor because you feel that she is being a user . if he's smart he will realize that shes using him because after their married she wont really want to be around him or act like she does around him because she will be married and her medical will be taken care of .
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Woah, what a best friend. It doesn't sound to me like she's much of a friend if she does that kind of stuff. The thing to do would first talk to your Best Friend, and lether knowthat she needs to come clean with him, and if she doesn't, then you will. I mean, if it's your best friend you probably wouldn't want to lose her as one right? Well telling him without her knowing will do the trick. Try to get her to tell him first, he'd MUCH rather here it from her probably, instead of another person.
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i would have a heart to heart talk with your best friend. She needs to know that what she's doing is wrong! Not to mention all of the hearts she could break (and maybe already has). Hopefully you can talk her into apologizing to her fianse and never doing this again! LUCK
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I have to wonder why this person is your friend at all, let alone your best friend! You have nothing nice to say about her. According to you, she is a horrible, selfish person who fools people in order to get what she wants. That doesn't sound like a friend-- that sounds like someone you should stay away from. That being said, you are not responsible for her relationship with her fiance. He has chosen to get involved with a married woman, so he is already making foolish choices he is responsible for. My advice is that you say nothing to the fiance-- that's none of your business. What is your business is whom you choose to have as friends. If you can't trust this woman, why are you friends with her? Have some self-respect and get rid of this "user".
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dude if i were u id tell the guy. he needs to know so hell know if its comming or not. i mean id rather know the past then to find out hwen its already happend
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If I were you, I wouldn't try and get yourself in the middle of this situation. You can maybe warn him to watch out for her..but I would't jump to conclusions and tell him all the bad stuff about her. You learn when you have a chance to experience things; good and bad. This guy needs to find out for himself that this girl isn't being true. Plus- alot of the time you tell people things they don't wana hear and they will just ignore you. The best way to learn is from past experiences and finding things out for yourself. So just give this guy a hint to watch his back- and leave it there. Hope I helped!
-Jenn
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