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i think i just made one of the biggest mistakes of my life. me and my best guy friend have always had a friends-with-benifits relationship. he was fingering me today and ended up sticking his penis in me. we were going for a little, but we had to stop because he had to leave. he didn't get to cum and we did full out have sex. but knowing that his penis was in me... is that enough to count for losing my virginity? (link)
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Well, he wasnt all the way in you but sorry.. you're not a virgin anymore.
If you were nervous you should have definitely told him no.. with anybody. Even if he was your boyfriend and you're not comfortable with it you STILL have the right to tell him no.
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Alright- so my best guy friend might like me. How do I let him know that I sort of like him too without being vulnerable to rejection? Or I guess how can I hint it to him in a subtle way? (link)
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That happened with me too. One of my really good guy friends liked me, and I finally realized I liked him back and I was just about to tell him how I felt, but I was too late. He dated someone else, then afterwards he dated someone else because that girl cheated on him. (grr to her) Then I told him how I felt and we just clicked and we felt the same way because we shared the same interests, personality and we just had a connection. Now we're dating and I've never been happier. =)
SO MY ADVICE WOULD BE TAKE A CHANCE AND TELL HIM!! If he really cares about you he wont reject you. If he's not ready for an intimate relationship yet, then you could still be close to him and you will both know that the door will always be open.
Just try it out. What do you have to lose?
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My friend just apologized for blowing up at me and getting really pissed off. She said it was totally her fault and i forgave her right away because i wanted her back as a friend. Things went okay until my sexuality was brought up. She acted okay about it and said whatever i decided was okay but she wouldn't support it. Now whenever i talk to her she barely says anything and it really hurts. I thought she had forgiven me but it's almost like she said all that just to get it off her chest. She even said that this next school year she planned on making no enemies so i guess i was first on the list for her to apologize. I dont know what to do. She's really confusing me and i feel like i'm just annoying her. What's happening?!?!? (link)
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You know what.. if I were you I'd totally leave it alone. I mean shes not even worth being your friend if she cant accept your sexuality. I'm not saying start a cat-fight or bitch at her or ignore her or anything. Just stay civil with her but at the same time just leave it alone for now. If she doesnt take the initiative to talk to you.. she's not even worth it and theres a whole bunch of other people who will accept you. Those are the friends that should mean something.
And dont worry.. your sexuality isnt weird so your friend has to get over herself. Most of my friends are bisexual or have girlfriends or something like that. I still accept them. (even though im totally straight)
but yeah.. my point is there is still a lot of people out there who wont turn you down or turn away from you. Just look for them. Get to know people and whoever accepts you even after they know are the only ones that matter.
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I'm going to high school as a freshman.. and I was just wondering, what will the first day be like? Please help, I'm so nervous! (link)
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Wow.. when I was going into high school I was like that too. And now I'm just like "wow why was I like that?"
Just remember.. everyone else is nervous too (whether they show it or not)... you'll be fine. People arent any different in high school. The only difference is most people are more mature then in middle school. (which is a good thing) because they wont point out little stupid things like they used to.
As long as your nice and be yourself you'll find the perfect group of friends. TRUST ME on this.
*luck*
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ok i do about 300 sit ups a night and im not feeling "the burn" lol that sounds kinda weird
i was just wondering if there is any other way i can work my abs...
i kno they're machine for doing sit ups...but i dont have any of them and i dont really feel like buying them...i just wanna do something i can do right in my room...on the floor...in minutes....
i just wanna work my abs more (link)
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crunches... you dont go up all the way.
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My boyfriend just broke up with me because he said' " i dont think it will work because, you know im going into to high school & your still in middle school" because im in 8th grade and hes in 9th. Plus insead of me being in his profile now its about another girl. and im really reallly sad because i think hes cheating on me. is there anything i can do to make me feel better :( thanks. xoxo (link)
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Awww. Think about this - You're going to high school in a year right? Fresh start right there. You can find someone your age and totally forget about your jerk of a boyfriend (if he was cheating on you that is)...
There will be PLENTTTYYY more chances to get a boyfriend. Don't worry, you'll find someone whose worth it. Most other guys in high school are more matured. So you'll be able to spot whose right.
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15/f if that helps..
The other day I was changing because I had just gotten out of the shower. My best friend (a guy) was coming over. I was just in my bra & underwear when he got to my house. My mom let him go to my room, because there hasn't been anything going on with us in the past, so she's not concerned. Well, he opened the door and saw me in just my undergarments. It's really not a big deal. but he's acting all weird about it like "hehehe i saw your underwear" and won't let it go. he didn't even apologize when he saw me he just like stared for a minute. SO how can I get him back to acting normal?!?!?! He is being such a jerk and won't cut it out.
If anybody has any advice as to get him to stop acting to stupid please, do tell!!!
thanks (link)
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It's just his way of expressing the uncomfortable situation. I mean maybe he thinks if he didnt say anything at all it'd be too awkward, so joking around about it a little (or a lot at first) will kind of lighten the mood. Even if it's not a big deal that he saw you in your under-wear to you, it probably was uncomfortable to him so he's just trying to get past it by joking kinda. Don't worry, I'm sure it will end.
If it bothers you just joke around back and call him immature. That should shut him up. ;)
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When my boyfriend & I started dating, naturally things were a bit weird at first. Then we became more comfortable around eachother & it started to seem like it was more about touching then talking. Now we talk on the phone more since we're back at school & don't get to go out as much. The day before yesterday, everything was fine & we were having a great time on the phone but yesterday he didn't call me. I texted him & we had fun texting back & fourth but then when I signed on he didn't IM me. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting (please don't be mean if I am, it's my first relationship). I'm hoping he's just overwhelmed by school because I really care about him & I would hate to think that I felt stronger about him then he does about me. What should I do?
xox kelly (link)
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omg you sound like me. With the worrying. Thats how I was at first and still am sometimes and I dont even mean to be. I mean you probably are overreacting. If you know hes not like that and he's a sweet guy then I'm sure he had a good reason for not being able to IM you at first. IM him next time or else he's probably thinking the same thing like: "Why didnt she IM me?"
hehe
Just relax.. let the relationship flow. Don't worry, that just will wear you out, Trust me, I'm a worrier.. I know.
Good Luck.
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i wrote earlier in the week about "army boy" (look back to refresh your memory) i was thinking of writing him a letter, tell me what you think...
Dear "James",
I am writing you this letter because I know if I try to say this out loud, it will just come out a jumbled mess. I don’t know what is going on between us right now, I am so confused and it’s not fair for either of us. You know that I love you and that I would do anything to be with you. I have been practically begging you to come back to me. I am not trying to make this into some poetic tragedy; I just want to know how you feel. Can you honestly tell me that you feel nothing when you kiss me; you feel nothing when we make love? I don’t understand how you can be so casual about this whole thing. I’m not mad at you and I am not upset, I am just simply asking you to tell me how you feel. Is there a chance for us at all, because my heart is on the verge of breaking. I know you are probably going away for a while but I am willing to be there when you come home. I want to be with you James, and if you don’t feel the same, then I would expect you have the decency to tell me so; after all we have been through together I deserve at least that.
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oooh! THAT WORKS.
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I currently have long hair, I love having long hair, but what type of cute do you suggest me getting with it still being long. I will ask for a trim, but what else? I already have side bangs, I don't know whether I should get layers or not. Please advise. (link)
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I'd get layers if I were you. I haev very full hair and they cam out fine for me. Even if you have thinner hair it will look awesome.
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ok well im 13/f and i still havent made out with a guy , like ive had the opertunitys (cant spell sorry) and ive wanted to but it just doesnt feel right and i feel that if i did make out with a guy that i would be known as a slut . everybody calls me prude to and i want to make out im just scared that the person i do make out with will think im a bad kisser . is this normal? should i make out? pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee help!!!!!
(will rate high for good answers)!!!!
thanks! (link)
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wait fro someone special you really care about, dont care about what others call you, and if you real;ly make out with a person you care about you'll be so comfortable you wont feel embarassed. Happened with me. I got my first kiss as a freshman. Why rush it? It will happen on its own time and dont care what people think like I said before.. it will just screw with your emotions when theres no need.
Oh, and you're not prude..
and you're not a slut.
Just make sure you stay un-slutty. ;)
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hiya
recently i feel like ive been loosing my self.
ive beeen moody, snapping at my parents and self harming, ive also been considering suicide because i dont see any reason why i can continue to live. my parents split up about a month ago, im overweight, and i just feel useless. i lost my first love over ago because i realised how much i wanted to be with him after he left. i just dont know what to do any more. im 16/f and i just feel like ive lost my life already. i dream about love falling asleep under the stars with the person i love but i cant find that person to be with.
any ideas why im feeling like this and how i can stop it will get 5's.
thanx
emma
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You are soo young, and suicide is a permanant problem to a temporary solution. Y
ou're going to find someone. Don't worry. Waiting will just make it worth the wait once you do find that special person.
Please don't throw your life away by suicide, I'm sure you have so much to offer (whether you deny it or not). I self-harm (trying to stop) I know how it is. I've been snapping at my parents and moody lately too. Just so much going on.
Just dont commit suicide. Honestly, it's no way to go. Doing this will just rid you of all your future experiences that are planned for you. You have so much good in the future, you just have to live first to find all this out.
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Ok i just turned 13 and im not matured yet.. all my friends are .. but they are all turning 14 soon .. there is hair down there and i see some white stuff in my underwear but at that docter checkup thing they said i would when im 14 or a freshmen , well im going into 8th .. im really small and flatchested soo whats goin on? (link)
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Your period is coming soon.
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Why do atheists believe there is no God? I hear a lot of arguments against organized religion but I don’t hear many actual ‘reasons’ that there is not or cannot possibly be a God? So what are thier reasons? (link)
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For some the concept of an invisible spirit is just hard to grasp.
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Okay me and my boyfriend have sex but the thing is we have never used a condom and I'm not on birth control. I talked to him about it before and we agreed to start using them. But that never happened...I really wish we would but I dont want to say something about it again.....what should i do? (link)
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SAY IT AGAIN. Do you WANT to get pregnant!?
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hi im a 13 year old 5"2 or 5"3 girl and i weight 125. Am i overweight? (link)
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nope. Perfectly fine.
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ok, well my ex girlfriend and i just got done breaking up with each other cause we aggreed on it and stuff on saturday night, well today i was hangin with this girl and i really like her (ive only known her for 2 days, but theres somthin about her) and i dont know if i should go into a relationship with her, or if i should still think about it, cause really i dunno
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I think you should make sure you're really good friends with her before you officially begin to date. It's honestly much better that way. There's no need to rush. Just ask her to hang out with your friends or even alone sometimes. (It CAN be a date if you want or it can just be two friends hanging out).
Either way make sure you know her well before you get into anything serious. It will last that way.
Good Luck.
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I've been working out a lot for sports, and now I have so much muscle. I used to be really skinny, but now my abs push out my stomach even more, and my thighs are huge. How do you get rid of muscle without not eating? (link)
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Omg I hate that I have thighs with a lot of muscle too. What you want to do is make your muscles lean. Pilates can do this. Also, gym memberships. If you go to the gym, going on the treadmill can help. You can set the treadmill to the body type your aiming for. Whether it's lean muscles or like really defined muscles.
Don't be self-conscience about it though. Most people would kill for your body type.
good luck though.
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Hi, I'm the one who wrote about my boyfriend who so rudely dumped me without as much as even TELLING me, and then saying that I didn't have feelings and desserved my heart broken as much as people wanted too. Now I am a generally nice person, but this got me so upset. :( Well now hes going out with this other girl, and they keep iming me to tell me what a "loser" I am and how I can't "get" any boys. I blocked them but I still have to see them at school. By the way, their screennames are pyroboy9977 and XoCheerQtXo3222, if anyone would like to talk some sense into them.
Sorry for wasting your time, but I'm really stuck here. And I feel like there is something seriously wrong with me. :( (link)
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I talked some sense into your ex-boyfriend but blocked him before he could type back just to piss the hell out of him ;)
dont let them bother you. Honestly, not even worth it. You have friends you dont need them if they dont even show you respect.
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My husband is often up until 2-3 in the morning using the internet. I am curious as to what he is looking at. It's usually video game message boards, but I have a feeling he is hiding something. I may be completely wrong, it's just a feeling. I tried reviewing the history, but it is set up to atomatically delete on our computer. Is there anywhere else I review the history. Or am I stepping over the line even trying to find out? (link)
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Just talk to him. Best way to go about it. I'm sure its nothing to worry about. But talking is the best way to go.
good luck
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