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Internet history
My husband is often up until 2-3 in the morning using the internet. I am curious as to what he is looking at. It's usually video game message boards, but I have a feeling he is hiding something. I may be completely wrong, it's just a feeling. I tried reviewing the history, but it is set up to atomatically delete on our computer. Is there anywhere else I review the history. Or am I stepping over the line even trying to find out?
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talk to him about it. ask him what hes looking at or doing. if he says he isnt doing anything u wouldnt approve of you should belive him. he is your husband after all.hope i helped XoXo
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Umm, video game boards are filled from 2-3 in the morning...i think. Just ask him. If you still get suspicious, tell him that you are suspicious. Good luck.
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Just talk to him. Best way to go about it. I'm sure its nothing to worry about. But talking is the best way to go.
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Your doing the right thing! You definetley deserve to know. Don*t ask him over and over what he is doing cause if he is not doing anything bad he will think you dont trust him. One night just kinda sneek in on him and see.I hope I have helped! Im me if needed Sportychicc9393
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just ask him. say i have a question. dont be mad. and be honest. if you guys are married you BOTH need to be honest with each other. so tell him what your thinking.
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In my opinion this kind of stealth maneuver is crossing the line. However it concerns me much more that your question doesn't even list talking to your husband as an option.
You don't need to accuse him, just tell him you are concerned is enough. Stick to your issue, whatever it may be. Are you afraid of infidelity? Are you feeling neglected? Or are just generally fearful in the relationship?
Your feelings are real, even if what you fear is not. Your husband should be able to respect that and offer you some reassurances. If your fears persist, or he is unable to recognize your feelings, get some counseling right away.
Please remember that you don't have control over your husbands behavior or choices, only your own. So behave in a way that you can continue to love and respect yourself, even if the people close to you fail to do that.
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You could ask him, but it sounds as if you don't trust him - in which case, you probably won't be able to trust his answer.
Are you stepping over the line? Well, trust is fundamental to a relationship. If you are losing your trust in him, then you two have a problem that needs to be addressed - possibly by seeing a marriage counselor.
That said, my best guess is that you suspect him of either having an online affair, or of looking at porn. Those aren't unreasonable suspicions. There are ways to detect these things.
I'm a little uncomfortable giving you this information, because I don't want to possibly contribute towards trouble in your marriage. But here's a freeware program that you can use to monitor what sites he visits:
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I've never used that program myself, by the way. Please note that depending on his expertise with a computer, there's a chance that he could notice or detect this program. And if he does, I don't think that the results will be good for your relationship.
Please consider counseling. It may just be a false alarm, but since you ARE feeling a lack of trust, it would be better to be safe than sorry.
Good luck!
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On your internet explorer cick tools up near the top of the screen. Click internet options. On the general tab near the bottom should be internet history. Just increase the number of days it keeps history. Then hit ok. Unless he changes the setting or clears the history, you should be able to check the history.
You can also go to start then search then click files or folders. In the file name, put "cookies" without the quotes then search. In the file window on the right it should find a folder called "cookies". Open it and you should be able to see where he's going. Most sites put cookies on your computer when you visit them. Also while some people may remember to delete history, they often overlook cookies.
There are also several programs available that "spy" on computer activity. If you're willing to spend the money and a little time setting it up, it will give you a complete list of everything that was done on the computer.
I don't think you're being paranoid here. Your instincts are telling you something.
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