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Hecka random pic from sadies... that my gang signBASICS:
name: Andrew
ht: 6'0
wt: eh 145
build: athletic
age: 16
eyes: blue-ish green
hair: dark brown
my style: laid back and casual dress, i like to look good though
interesting fact: i can do the Rubik's Cube in one minute 20 seconds.
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i have a really odd habit of looking at peoples mouths when they talk. i am fairly short (often eye level with the chins of my peers), and tend to read lips in a noisy environment or other instances where i have trouble understanding people. Friends have commented on this before and i would really like to stop. Do you have any tips as to how to break this habit? thanks!
Try and look into their eyes and listen to what they are saying rather than looking. Eye contact is the best form of showing someone you are truly listening. Try it out.
i dont know everyone always says "your to abusive" because ill hit guys and stuff just messing around but i guess that is my way of flirting with them but it dosent work aparently what are some ways i could be nicer or just flirt in a more gentle way? thank you.
Sweet talk the guys, be more verbal and less physical.
ok...there is this girl at my school who is like friends with everybody...and shes is friends with me ...well at least i think... but everytime somebody has a party she is the one who hands out the invitations and she looks right at me and doesnt give me one (we talk all the time ) does she have a problem with me?
Maybe she is a little intimidated of you for some reaosn. If she is approachable and likes everyone, go talk to her about it. She'll understand. I don't think she necessarily has a problem with you though. Start conversation with her one day at school, or talk to her online. Become friends and you will hands down be on the guest list for the next party.
Is it possible to be suicidal, but to not have attempted suicide...?
Very possible. It's hard to notice in yourself the signs of suicide, but just relax and live life. Suicide is not the answer to anything. It solves nothing. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Think of this, once someone has committed suicide, they're family and friends suffer. It costs them money for a funeral and other such things. It hurts the people around you as well. Sit down and have a serious talk with a good friend, parent, adult figure, or counselor and they will help you work out your problems.
Hi, im 14/ m and I just want to know what to do about me and my girlfriend, we have been going out for a year now and were across states. We always talk on the phone and we have gotten really close. But I am just wondering if when me and my girlfriend meet, Im worried that she will push me away. And Im afarid of that, does anyone halft to say anything about this...?
You have been dating a girl for over a year and you are just now meeting her? Littl weird if you ask me, but if you have waited all this time to see each other, no doubt in my mind will she push you away.
Me and my boyfriend did it on the 11th (i remember because i went to my friends party afterward). The first time we did it we used protection then we took a break and did it again but didn't use protection bc we didn't have any and I know that was stupid of me. The second time we only did it for about 5-10mins. A week or so passed and I took a test to see if I was pregnant, I wasn't. On the 25th I was suppose to have my period which didn't happen. Should I be worried or whats going on plez help I can't ask my parents bc they'll never look at me again.
Well if you used protection the first time and he "finished" than there is nothing to worry about. But I suggest using protection in the future.
My boyfriend and I really like each other but we don't exactly like each other’s friends.
My friends are the normal, get along with everyone, don't drink too too much, aren't slut/whores/man whores type.
His are the go to every party they can, get as drunk as they can, stuck up, screw everyone that comes along type.
"Popularity" wise, our friends as on the same level I guess you could say. We're all the "Abercrombie preppy" type and go to some of the same parties. I just don't like the way his friends act and he doesn't like how my friends don't act.
He isn't completely like his friends but he also isn't as "reserved" as mine. And Vice versa with me; I'm not as "reserved" as mine but also not as crazy as his.
Well, even though I don't really like his friends I'm still nice to them. He isn't as nice with my friends. He's always ignoring them and he actually tries not to talk to them. I don't really mind that he doesn't like them because I don't like his friends but it makes me mad when he isn't nice to them. I mean, he isn't mean but he could be nicer, ya know?
I was thinking of throwing a party for only his friends and mine so they could get to know each other more and then they might not hate each other so much. But I don't think I'll do that because I know my friends and his friends and they wont be into it.
And by the way, his friends are okay with me but my friends don't like him too much but they are nice to him.
I say don't let it bother you. Take turns hanging with each other's friends and you'll find you are more alike than you think. If you and your boyfriend really like ech other, it should nto matter what the friends are like. It's just you and him in the relaionship, not them.
i babysit this 11 yr old boy, max and i am 13/f he is taller than me and is quite mature for his age. the thing is latley he's been acting really strange. he asked me if i had my period yet and i tried to change the subject but he was persistant. oh, and the other night we were watching a movie at his house (lion king) and he is younger than me so he like layed down on me and pretended to be asleep. then i fell asleep too. when i woke up he was like all over me and touching my boobs. i dont know what to do. his parents pay well and i need the money badly. should i tell his parents, will they hire me agian? should i talk to him? HELP!
You have parts he doesn't have. He's hit the age where everything sexual makes him curious. You should definately tell the parents before this kid's behavior escalates.
I really like this guy and he likes me but we live really far away.. I want to tell him how I feel but I dont really know what to say.. I have a few ideas.. but if you could help that would be great!
It depends on your age, but I have found long-distance relationships do not work. It's better to be friends.
Ok...im 14 and i have been made fun of since 4th grade....everyday i get called gay and it just makes me feel terrible...and i dont know why they do it ...i make good grades and im a good person... i jsut would like to know what to do...
Mainly because people are jealous of you. Think about it this way, while you're making good grades they're slacking off making fun of others. You are preparing for your future and planning ahead for a good career. One day they'll come crawling to you for a job saying stuff like "Hey remember me?" Thats when you can show them the door.
besides babysitting, what are other little ways of making money at age 14, and also besides getting a real job (bc my mom won't let me)
Lemonade stand?
Hey Ya'll,
First off Im male and 15. I've kinda got a problem... There is this girl that is pretty much one of my best friends I guess you'd say. But we hang out alot or atleast when we can. And for the last few(2) months I started liking her as more than a friend. But the problem is that I don't know if she likes me as more than a BFF. I mean some days she really seems to like me as more than a friend in my opinion and some days it just seems like were just like best friends. I really don't know what to do cause i dont want to hurt our friendship if she doesnt feel that way... Because I love hangn with this girl shes so awsome!
I was thinking of asking her to prom (my schools screwed up and small so I can go to prom if I pay) because I know she'll make it a fun time even if she doesnt like me that way because she just makes me have a great time hangn with her... Should I ask her?
I say you ask her, even if she doesn't like you you'll have a good time.
i always write before i go to bed because im a young author, and well, i always leave my light on because i forget because by the time im done writing im really tired. anyway does sleeping with a light on really give you lukemia?
Are you kiddin?! I've never heard that in my life. I'm 110% positive that you cannot get leukemia from sleeping with a light on. Good luck on your writing.
Lately, I've been feeling REALLY lonely. How do I tell my parents that, I don't want to be here anymore? I'm tired of my friends, I'm tired of my family, and I'm tired with the people around. I do hang out with good people who make good decisions--I'm not tired about that. But I don't feel completely happy with them. I sometimes feel a little left out, and I do blame myself for not being more "in the loop". But I don't have that many things in common with them. My parents are also good people. They give me the things I need and have brought me up pretty well. They really are good parents. I'm just sick of living here and being lonely. I feel like theres no one around. I recently just lost my "best friend". She was great, but I did realize that she wasn't exactly the kind of person I want to be friends with (she constantly reassured herself by making fun of other people, she was REALLY competitive @ EVERYTHING, etc.). Is there anything I can do, or anyone I can talk to, or IM? (Theres a lot of other things I'm upset about) Is there anyone who's been in a state of depression or anything? Because I seriously need to talk to someone.
First of all if your thinking of suicide, just don't do it. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Confront your parents and ask to see a counselor. You should also probably see a doctor about anti-depressants. I have taken them since the third grade and they have helped me along quite a bit. About your friends, either find a new group of friends that have similar interests as you and you instantly feel "in the loop." I have changed friends almost every year since 6th grade. Almost four years later, I find myself happy with the friends I have. This is mainly because of our similar interests. I say seeking out a counselor is your best option. They can help you a lot. They are people who are there to listen to you and help you. Good luck.
My boyfriend wants me to kiss him before he kisses me. At least I think so. It seems like it because after we go somewhere together...for example we went to the movies. When I got home i was talking to one of his friends online and he said hows come you didnt kiss him? And I think he should kiss me first!!! What should I do??
It all depends on the situation. You seem like the old-fashioned type who thinks the guy should do the asking out, the door opening, the kissing initiation, etc. Just sit it out and see how things unfold.
yesterday was the talent show at our school, and me, and my xbestfriend were both in it, but not together. she went before me, and i was right after her. when i got up on stage i saw her hug the boy i like. i almost choked on a high note. he's not my boyfriend but im still REALLY jealous and REALLY worried he's gonna start liking her. is this normal and what should i do?
I don't think this hug means anything. Her being your ex-bestfriend, she probably has no idea you even like this boy. If you can handle it, talk to her about it.
So.. ilike this guy but my friend also likes him. I don't think he likes her like that, i know this is going to sound concetied, but i think he likes me. if he does and i go out with she'll be mad, but i really like this guy. Me and hers friendship is sort of rocky and she has stolen my crush before and revenge is sweet...what should I do?
Don't go for they guy as a form of revenge. Friends always come first but if you get into a relationship with this guy, your best friend needs to respect this. EVEN if she likes him too.
Hey! I my classmates make fun of me and talk behind my back cause of my weight limit i mean i am a little over weight and i try to keep in shape. Why is everyone so mean to me? I never do anything mean to them? I dont get it? why do kids have to be so mean.
Kids are mean. Cliques in school are terrible. People who make fun of others do it to make themselves feel better. Jus don't let it get to you, and try to think of yourself as better than them.
I don't know why it matters to me so much, but I can't get everyone in this clique at school to like me, or even acknowledge my prescence. I have been able to make friends with a couple of people in this clique, but I guess a couple is not enough to be accepted into 'their world'. Mostly our friendship only extends to talk at school in class and in the hallway, hanging out during break, passing notes during class, and then a few phonecalls during the week. But I would love more then anything to be invited to hang out with them on the weekends and to be included more in their after school activities. How do I try to become their friend without really trying too hard?
Thank you so much, and I will rate every question highly that gives me good suggestions.
Invite them all over to your house and just hang out. Watch a movie, play games and just socialize. Just try to involve yourself or make it so that you are involved (ex: having people to your hosue). Inside school just keep up what you have been doing and things will work out. This clique will begin to accept you more once they feel comfortable with you, so just get to know them all.
this is a stupid question but i'll ask it anyway. What should you tell a guy if he ask you if you're a virgin? Evereyone is telling me different. some of my male friends tell me that you should defenetly tell them that your a virgin because all guys like the girls to be like pure and clean and stuff (i dont know, thats what they tell me) and that if your a virgin they will like you more because it will be like a big deal for them..you know, to get a virgin to lose her virginity is big, it will make them proud of them selves or something. And some of my friends tell me that they always go for girls that lost their virginity already because that would make them more experienced and stuff.And it will make the sex better.. And that it wont be as gross as having sex with a virgin..I dont know im soo confused! I dont want the guy to think that im a slut! but should i tell him that ive already done it so he likes me more? please don tell me to tell him the truth! tell me the truth, what do most guys like? Thank you! (K)
If you are a virgin tell him that. Your morals should be better than to say you have had sex. I think you should put off sex until later in life but thats your call. I say do not lie to this guy if you don't want to ruin things with him. I also suggest that if you are going o have sex with him, do it while you're dating. You will just get hurt otherwise.