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I am here for advice, on anything!!No matter the topic.. I may not have the facts but you can get my opinion on whatever (:
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I used to have best friends in middle school. Now, a junior in high school, I have no best friend. I don't have someone that I hang out with all the time or that I confide in. Sure, I have friends that I occasionally hang out with, but I don't have a close friend. My aunt says it's cause my dad, the one person that was closest to me, is an alcoholic. He was sober up until I was in 6th grade, and then things got bad. It really has strained our relationship and he's sober now, but I don't know how to re-establish what we had. But I don't get why that would affect me making friends. I have trouble getting close to people cause it seems like every person I've been close to has hurt me. I've only had one serious relationship with a guy and we were pretty close, but he ended things off cause he wasn't ready for a relationship and now he won't talk to me. I don't get how to be close with people. I don't get why I can't be a good friend to someone. I really am nice and will do a lot of people, but I usually get taken advantage of. I feel like every time I try to be a friend, I get hurt. I really would just be happy with one good friend, but I can't seem to have that. What's wrong with me?
Oh sweetie, Nothing is wrong with you.
Your young, you can't find realy friends.. they just come to you.
But I do know that before anyone will accept you, you have to accept yourself.
Everyone goes through this.. it's not just you.
I promise.. I went through this as well..
Your not weird or unloveable. Just hasn't happend for you.. calm down.. live life.. and one day someone will come into your life..and you won't even remember the feelings you can't seem to let go of now (:
My boyfriend has recently started talking to an ex girlfriend of his. I could see them talking for long periods of time when they first got in touch with eachother, but she calls him all day and texts him all hours of the morning. She's even sent pictures of herself to him. When I ask him questions about her he gets mad and tells me to get out of his face. Recently he started locking his phone. He's told me they are just friends, but he's lied about a conversation they had for over 2 hours while he was golfing. I know that this girl has feelings for him, but could he be having feelings for her too. I don't know what they talk about when I'm not there. Now when she calls he doesn't answer her calls if I'm there. Should I be concerned? We've been together for 4 years.
I been through the same exact thing, recently.. well sort of.
Anyway, your are more than likely right.
But it's not what you think..it's really not like he wants to cheat on you.. but people get comfortable and "bored" .. this fling is exciting for him.. becuase he's being selfish.. and he feels he has to keep it from you.. which makes it "exciting". If he is being shady, and has never been before.. you definently are not in the wrong to investigate.. but BEWARE.. if you got that far.. you may very well find something you don't wanna see.. but then again.. it is what you need, to confirm your worries.
Don't let him think he is fooling you even for a minute.. or he'll keep pushing his luck.
4 years is a long time.. and if he is young.. then he maybe having reservations.. So talk to him. Tell him what you feel.. and lay it out.. Tell him NOT to make you, make him choose.. between you and her!
But hunny, that maybe what your going to have to do in the end.. If he's right for you.. and truly your soulmate.. he'll make the right choice.. but if he doesn't feel blessed that it has only been 4 years.
Keep ya head up boo (:
Freaking out about it, will only make you feel worse about it.. so calm down (:
so ive been dating this guy for coming on 6 months not we are really close and we get along perfect.unfortunetly we dont go to the same school... at his school he has a friend that is a girl. lets call her...kim. anyways so kim has told him that he finds him cute and that his girlfriend (me) is the luckiest girl in the world.. also she is constantly wrighting in his face book wall and texting him.. she claims that she really wants to meet me and hangout with me but for some reason it really bothers me.
am i just being over protective? what should i do?
Meet the hefer! And if she has any bad intentions you will feel them immeadiatly..
But make sure, even though you love your boyfriend.. don't rule out the fact that he COULD be just as guilty as she is..
I know personally, that if you hold all this in.. without doing something about it.. it will not stop.. and you'll only end up hurting yourself in the long run.
Best you find out the truth now.. rather a year or two down the road, right? (:
what's something you can say to a guy to make him yours forever, well not forever but just to make him stay with you.
You can't do anything to make someone stay, where they don't want to be..
If he wants to be with you.. then being yourself is enough..
But if he changes his mind.. there is nothing you CAN do.. but get over it.
Don't mean to sound harsh.. but that's it hun (:
17/f boyfriend is 17/m. i forget when, but my boyfriend and i had an intense make out session [with ALL of our clothes on] and i somehow ended up on top of him grinding or whatever you would call it but not like intense grinding where its like rough..you know? okay well anyways, im not on birth control because it can cause cancer so my mom wont put me on it, and he wasnt wearing a condom but he did cum. i was ontop of him where he cummed. there was a spot on his pants that was wet [i dont remember how wet or how big or if it got on me] but it was there. so i got off of him. and i have been freaking out that im pregnant because i have not gotten my period this month, and i usually get it at the end of the month, but now im not? and its almost the end of the month. i am seriously freaking out. i cannot be pregnant like this wouldnt be fair so i researched the topic alot and found basically the same information on each one that said..
Q: We had sex with our clothes on, could I be pregnant?
A: No. If you had sex in your jeans, shorts, underwear or bathing suit, there's no way you can be pregnant. Sperm can't swim through clothes and continue traveling into the vagina. Sperm can only swim in liquids--like semen and vaginal fluid.
but i didnt have sex. thats the thing. and i did have underwear AND jeans on and he had boxers and his jeans [plus our shirts and stuff]. im seriously bugging out. i am such a good girl, i hate myself, i dont know what came over me. and i talked to him about it and told him that if i am pregnant, i am getting an abortion and he doesnt believe in that. and i will be forced to break up with him and ill never be able to leave the house again. and please dont tell me to take a test. thank you. please help me. my back hurts from time to time, my boobs have hurt for like a weekish now and thats it. i dont have my regular period symptoms like feeling wetness in my vagina or a lot of discharge or cramps... and i am freaking out. i cry every day, its horrible. thank you for taking the time to read this.
YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT..
That is not possible..
Your stressing out.. and you have been since it happend. That is why you have not started your period. You body can sense things.. and when you stress, everything inside of you goes crazy.
But about the aborition subject.
You ARE intitled to your opinon on the subject.
But i feel that i need to give you another way to look at it.
If you were to get pregnant, that is on YOU and the guy who gets you pregnant.
You know that when you lay down and open your legs there is a chance that you can get pregnant.. how is that the babys fault?
[the sperm that makes the baby, even though it's as big as a fingernail is still a soul]
if your fate is not to get pregnant right then, you won't get pregnant until your supposed to.. (:
15/F; Okay, so about a year ago I became friends with a girl who slowly but surely changed who I was (we'll call her Allison). I used to be this incredibly brilliant student who was smart in all different ways. My parents were so proud of me, I had friends and went to their houses and sometimes hung out at the movies and mall and such, you know, normal things. Then one day probably 8 months ago or so, me, Allison, and a couple other friends went to a fast food restaurant after school, and saw this "bad boy" that Allison and another girl recognized, and we all knew the name. We went over to talk to him (he was smoking a cigarette) and he was just telling us all he's been through, like going to jail and being in a group home. I immediately hated him and saw him as someone I would never associate myself with, and pretty much realized I had to keep myself on track to avoid being him. Little did we all know, one of the girl's mothers was driving around the parking lot we were in (my friend was 13 at the time) and saw us. She told my mother, and my mom flipped out, saying that once I started high school I better not associate with people like him, and I earnestly agreed with her and she took this as a wakeup call, because I was her oldest, on how she should be watching me. I continued to stay friends with Allison, and throughout my first few months of high school I actually ended up hanging out with that guy's friends, whom I met at a football game because I talked to him with her. Even then I never believed I would really become friends with them. Come November, I ended up smoking pot behind a movie theatre, and maybe too weeks later becoming drunk off my ass at Allison's. I felt like I was on my high horse because even though my parents were still strict, I was getting away with these things. A friend tipped off her mom about the drinking at Allisons, who went to my mother, and I ended up flat out lying saying I would never do anything like that and was insulted at the accusation. Then it was New Years Eve. I got this incredibly random text message from the boy I met at the football game, inviting me to a party. On a huge whim, I lied saying I was sleeping over at my friend's house behind our house, and my parents believed me and I went to this party, slept over at the boy's house, and got driven home in the morning, and never got caught. At that party, the boy I met way back in the parking lot was there, and we talked and started getting somewhat romantically involved. Two days later he wanted to hang out, so he brought me to this guy's house who was 19, and I had met twice before briefly. I lied again and said I was sleeping over the same friend's house. I got sexually involved with the boy from the parking lot. Allison found out, and got jealous, so out of spite, told her parents. My mother got suspicious because I slept nearly all day, and when Allison's mother told her, she became a wreck. I told her outright I didn't do, and continued to lie. Well my story had loopholes, plus all she had to do was ask my neighbor's house if I was really there, and she said no. I ended up admitting to the drinking from before, but never said anything about the weed. I was grounded for a month and still am not trusted (because of minor problems since then).
Now after that huge backstory; here's the problem. When my mother parents me, she believes she is 3000% right. She is always right, and I am always wrong. She makes me tell her where and who I'm with all the time, and if I'm walking around town or something, I have to tell her every time I go somewhere else. Sometimes she drives to where I say I am to make sure I'm there. All my friends think she's crazy. She tends to think she's being completely fair. She asks me every week if I still have contact with "that boy" as she refers to him as, and I lie and say no, even though I've talked to him twice or so since that incident. She makes me do insanely well in school, and is disappointed in my C average in math, despite its incredible difficulty and her barely proficient math skills. She just got her master's degree two months ago, which I had to do all the technological and grammatical aspects of, and my father never finished college, after taking maybe two honors classes throughout high school. Her expectations don't add up. It would at least make more sense if both my parents were perfect doctors, or something. But we barely have money, my parents constantly fight over my father's dependence of my mom, and my sister is a 10 year old brat who is screamed at daily. But alas, despite all this, we make sure I'm watched over all the time. Sometimes I understand what their saying, and other times I just want to keep lying all the time and not care. I'm so bipolar on these feelings, in fact sometimes I'm crying of paranoia and other times music or TV inspires me to rebel, and I feel so happy. I mean one minute I want everything in the world and I work so hard in school, and the next I stay up all night, do no schoolwork and seriously consider either running away, dropping out of school, or just not going to college. I guess my parent's parenting as well as my mental health combine to one disaster which leaves me generally unhappy and just STUCK. I pretty much need help, because as my mother says, "I'm not content with mediocrity."
I apologize for the length.
first off, you are who you are.. you can not blame the things you've done, or are doing on anyone but yourself. You know right from wrong, apparently. Even though your parents did not do well in school.. doesn't mean they are wrong for expecting you to do exceptionally well. It actually makes more sense.. and your smart enough to see that.
As for "that boy" You can not judge him on being raised in a group home..That has nothing to do with, who he is. Well I stand corrected, it does in fact have everything to do with who he is, but most definently not at his fault. That would be his parents..
No harm intended, but.. YOU need to grow up.. open your eyes to the world.. and straighten up..because really.. it sounds like your going down the wrong road.. and you know it.
So turn around and get back on the right path.
Drop your ego. Listen to your parents. They are beyond your years, not to mention they are your parents.. and they to have the right to control your every mood!
Rebeling and acting a fool, is not going to make you "feel better" or "look cool" to the ones who matter!
You make your own decisions.. if you "friends" have negative things to say about your parents way of parenting.. then maybe you SHOULD find new friends.
I know now it seems like they are over bareing.. but one day when you don't have a mother to yell at you for the mistakes that you make.. you will miss that! And you will regret everything you do..
People say, regret nothing.. live in the moment.
That only applies to someone dying.
Because EVERYTHING you do.. you will have to face the conseqences one day!
Your young and brilliant.. no act like it!
14 f
Alright, I'm sick of people saying that I don't know what love is. My friend Cierra thinks the same. She's in a relationship with her bf they have been dating for 3 years, and she says that anyone can be in love at almost any age. My bf is the guy I want, he helps me feel better when no one else can. I sometimes cry and pray to god that he won't take him away from me because I have never been treated this well before. I"ve dated 3 other guys than him in the past and they never came close to be this close to me. Him and I think the same, and feel and worry in the same ways. We both need each other or we will be lost, we wouldn't know how to get threw life. We both feel like outcasts, alone and we don't fit in* even though I think he has more friends than I* He doesn't like it when I get depressed and lonely he helps me soo much. My brother told me i shouldnt be so dependent on a guy, but he's the only person I want. I just want to show people that this IS love, my parents don't like me and my bf together because he's 2 years older. He's not what they think he is. I know they want me to be safe and what not, and they don't want me to be sexual active. *which im not* I'm waiting and he respects that XD He said " You don't have to do anything your not comfortable with. I love you to much to hurt you." The most we have done is kissed. I'm shy, and quiet he's loud *when he's with me or friends* and a dare devil haha >.> Will everyone eventually get use to us? We've been dating sense january i think? He knows all that. lol There getting a little bit use to it ..my parents...i just don't want them to think badly of my bf. >.< Please tell me what you think..thank you. XD
ok.. Anyone can find love, at any age.
I don't think that people know what they're really saying when they tell you that you don't know what love is..
I think that they are just trying to tell you in the wrong way, that even if you and your b/f split up one day.. hopefully you won't.. but that if you do. It will be hard.. you'll feel like there is a huge hole in your chest and for a while you'll feel like you can't even breath. but your young and you'll find another.
You brother is just looking out for you.. because he is a guy.. and he knows how guys think.. he's also trying to prepare you for the worst that COULD happen one day.
And as for your parents, they will NEVER approve of anyone you date.. no one will ever be good enough.. because you are they're baby!!
Don't get mad or upset.. don't stress about it.. just keep living your life the way you know is right! You don't have to have sex, to make it feel like REAL love.
Real love is great with out the physical aspect of things.. and once you do graduate to that step in life and love.. you'll know that it's exactly what you want.. you'll know when the time is right.. you'll feel it in your heart.. not in your pants :D
i have this girl in my school and she is real cute. so i had the guts to ask her to come to me and i had asked her to hug me while i was sitting and she did. so she asked me what i was doing and left. i was just lookin at her. the next few days my friend had talked about her and she was behind me and us so i had put my arm around her and sweet talk her telling her i missed you and i was just wanting to see what she wud say to me. so i dont know what it means if i should keep doing what i am doing. and is she comfortable ?
Unless you really like her, and want to persue a realtionship.. stop leading her on..
She may really like you.. and you don't wanna be the one to hurt her feelings.. do you?
Hey so this is the same girl who has a crush on the boy in my art appreciation class. Well he gave me his business card, and after class i took the stairs & i was texting my dad. Well he came down and saw me and i think he gave me a weird look cause he might've thought i was waiting him, but i wasn't. And then later on i kinda did something really stupid i called from a blocked 3 times. im really embarrassed, but then i next day i called him , and he didn't answer, and yesterday he saw me and gave me a weird look again, so i didn't sit with him. He walked in and saw i was sitting somewhere else, and when he sat down he looked at me a few times, but i looked away. Then later that night, i called him, but he didn't answer. So i texted him and he asked me who i was & i told him, and he was like oh i didn't expect anyone to text me this late. And i said oh i hope you don't mind. And he was like actually i do because my girlfriend would chew me up and cause he uses that number for business purposes since he's the manager of this gym. And i was like ohh, and i was sad. So yeah i don't know what to do now cause it's going to be awkward. But i mean he it's funny cause he would smile at me whenever he saw me outside of class, and really made it seem like he liked me, but he was really shy, so i don't know. I thought he migh've been lying about having a girl, so i would stop talking to him. So yeah im really upset, what should i do? please help!!
Charge it to the game boo!
There is nothing you can do but let it go..
Just look at it like your winning, because apparently he is playing mind games.. and no one needs that drama in they're life.
Be glad he stopped it before you caught REAL feelings for him.. then you really would be hurt.
SO.
Last summer I met this guy when I was on vacation and we a quite a passionate couple of days there. :) When we got back from each of our vacations, we had about three weeks because after that he was leaving the country to study. So we went out twice. The last week that he was supposed to be here I didn't hear anything from him (I had texted him to maybe organize another date before he left or something) and at the end of the week he sent me "I can't be with you." and something about how he didn't want to hurt me even more later or something (I don't remember :P). He had already mentioned that he didn't want to have a long diastance relationship but we hadn't really discussed it very much. I was thinking it would be sort of weird anyway to have a long distance relationship since I barely knew him and he would have tons of "temptations" as a college student. But I did REALLY like him. So then he left and we've been commenting on eachothers' status' and stuff on Facebook all year. When he was here for Christmas though he didn't mention us meeting or anything so I just sent him a Happy New Year message and he answered and whatever but that was it. Then about a month or a month and a half ago, I commented on one of his status' that he's really cute or something like that half jokingly but he took it seriously and also told me we should meet when he comes for Easter. And since then we have been flirting quite a lot on Facebook. xD :) What do you think about all this? Do you think he just wants someone to "play" with while he's here? I mean I REALLY REALLY like him and stuff and like I've watched the Notebook a million times and compared us to that and stuff xD but should I give in and do something with him when he comes (in a few days!) ? Why do you think I told me "he couldn't be with me" ?
Oh and from stalking his facebook (xD) he appeared to have a girlfriend where he is before or around Christmas. (I have had two boyfriends in the meanwhile but I broke up with both of them because what I really wanted was to be with this guy and I felt like I was teasing them)
Oh and it was also always sort of assumed that we would see each other again next summer.
And, sorry last thing, I'm going to go study next year in the same country as him (and he knows that from my facebook) so theoretically if we got together there wouldn't be the distance problem next year.
Thanks! :)
I don't think you should "hook up" with him when he comes into town for a couple days, simply because if he is actually interested in you.. and wants it to be more than just a fling.. he won't mind just spending time with you.. make him want more.. keep him guessing and it'll either work out in your favor.. or he'll cut you off. BUT either way you'll have your dignity!
and if he does have a girlfriend.. and is trying to creep with you, because he knows she'll never find out.. you don't wanna be that girl. Because she will find out one way or another.. we all do!
Lol.. but again, your gonna do what you want.. I'm just giving you my opinion, on what i would do (:
GOOD LUCK BOO!
Okay I'm 15 and I'm female though i don't feel like one I'm pansexual. I hate being i girl i don't even think like one and it makes me cry sometimes cause i feel like my life has been a mistake i was born the wrong person...i talked to my mom about this but it didn't help and my stupid boyfriend is a jerk about it. And i want to break up with him cause there is an age difference and also a lot of problems i was end up in fights with my mom over him and having to deal with my gender problem isn't helping either. I need to find out how to break up with my boyfriend and how to cure this need for being a boy. Can u help??
Oh hunny!
Your more normal than anyone..
People everyday..live they're lives in agony because they feel something is missing.. and can't determine what it is.
You have a gift, you know exactly what it is, you need to complete yourself.
There are alot of aspects to look at..
Do you really believe that your supposed to be a boy, or do you feel that way because your attracted to other females? Or are you attracted to males? There are surgeries to correct these things.. but it is a VERY long drawn out process.
My best friend is transgender'd, born a male.. but knows in HER heart that she is a female..
She is going through the procedures for a sex change and has been for almost 2 years now..
Of course you have to be 18 to even start the process.
If you haven't already told your boyfriend how you feel, you may not want to being as people can be cruel. And until your ready to deal with the negativity people WILL throw at you.. i think you should learn to accept yourself before you expect others to .. just to save yourself the heart ache.
Even if your parents don't accept it, you have to live your life for yourself sugar!
I'm not saying run away be disown your family.. but push it on them.. tell them this is who you are.. and to not make you choose who you are, or your family. It's not fair.. and even though it seems like hell now, a mother's love can't be turned off because she doesn't agree with you!
Your ok boo!! Keep your head up.. and if you EVER need anything.. email me.. you can always talk to me! in complete confidence of course!!
Okay so I know this is going to sound like an odd relationship, but my bf and i dont keep secrets from eachother. At all. Well at least thats how he wanted it to be. He told me he never minds if i look at his phone, or if i ask him anything he will always tell me, and he wants me to do the same...and i have been doing that, i always let him look at my texts or sometimes he will on his own nd i dont mind.
Now, last Saturday we got into a fight, and on Sunday we were together becuz we went to lunch with his family. He was texting his friend, and I asked him what about? and he didnt answer so I looked at his phone but he had deleted the convo. So I asked him, hey soo what did you talk about and he said some bs answer that was random.
Later that evening, him, me and his friend and friends brother were all hanging out and my bf and his friends brother went to see his new apartment, while me and his friend stayed back to watch this show we both love. Now during this time, his friend says to me "heyy so how come you said that yesterday?" (referring to the fight i had with my bf) and I was like "What? He told you that?" and he says "Yeah look" and he shows me the whole convo he had deleted off his phone. My instincts were right, my bf had lied to me, because the text was saying all this stuff about me, not really bad stuff, but still it wasnt nice either. He was telling his friend how I was "bitching" and I "ruined his night" etc. If i had seen that earlier on his phone I wouldnt have gotten mad because its just how he feels about our fight and he was telling his friend, its fine. But what made me mad was that he LIED to me about it, something that hes always had this thing with honesty saying how oh, if you ever take your confidence away from me its going to be over because I never once gave you a reason to doubt me blah blah, and truth is he only did once, until now. (i found out about that too) so honestly i felt kinda like well you've lied twice already so i feel kinda betrayed u know?
So even tho i promised his friend i wouldnt say he showed me, I did bring it up to him. I said that why is it that you deleted the text today? What didnt you want me to see? and he says why are you so paranoid it wasnt even about u? thats when i got mad i was like hey i have reason to ask ok I saw the conversation. And i pretty much caught him in a lie, but in order to save his friend since i promised i said that he had shown me something on his phone and I accidentally saw the conversation. Now my bf has been "out of it" as he puts it, this whole week because he says he feels weird about sunday, like he cant believe i did that and looked thru his friends phone, etc etc and hes trying to make me feel guilty. Am I wrong here? And what can I say to him to make him realize hes the one that messed up without giving away the fact that his friend showed me their conversation?
Yall are going to argue and disagree on ALOT. So get used to it.. even though you can't stop thinking about it.. you have to pick your battles. Yea, you want him to know he messed up and that your not a fool. But atleast now he knows that you aren't stupid and no matter what he does, you'll find out.
He probably just deleted it because either he felt bad about the stuff he said, and wanted to avoid a fight.. or because he was mad and wanted to make you mad. He never thought that his friend would show you or he wouldn't have deleted it.
I say just drop it.. he was mad. WE all say things we don't mean when we are mad.. I would just let it go.. and NOT throw it in his face ever again.. eliminate the shit before it ever even starts.. you'll be alot happier.. i promise (:
I wouldn't STOP looking thru his phone and everything.. if that's what works for yall.. then good.
You can't put your all into someone, even if you know they are your soulmate.. you gotta watch your back.. cause people change with the blink of an eye..
I am 13 years old and a self injurer and I have a story. My parents divorced when I was just little, and I have blamed myself for it always. Last year when my paternal grandfather passed away no one told me about it until way after it had happened, and even then I first learned from a newspaper. I wasn't invited to the funeral or viewing. I am always made fun of at school, and I have a lot of trouble at home. We recently lost our house and moved into an apartment in the middle of the city. We were used to life more in the country, so the whole experience is extremely foreign to me. Neither of my parents wants me, but I live with my mother, half-sister, and sister. My mother and sister constantly tell me that they want me dead. I get made fun of a lot now at school especially because I had to move, and when someone asks me why I moved from a nice place into the apartment, I just don't know what to say. I don't want my parents to know that I am a cutter, but I DO want to stop. I know that it is wrong, but I need help stopping. Any suggestions?
First - You need to realize that it could always be worse.
You could be homeless and not have any parents at all.. I know that you feel you hate your parents. but until they are not there to blame.. you won't realize.
I know it seems like you can't pull through this now.. but your young and you will overcome this.
Find another way to let out your feelings.. Not fighting or drugs.. don't rebel to make a point. No one will recognize this.. you don't have to tell anyoen of your problem unless you know your to weak to stop. Telling us, is one step up.
Write your feelings down on a piece of paper.. and then rip it to shreads. Your letting your pain out and tearing it apart, but in a positive way. You have 3 to 4 years left of hell.. and then you can make a life for yourself.
Just remember, taking your life or harming yourself is NOT the only way to make the pain stop.
Don't think about your parents divorce being your fault.. becuase it is NOT in anyway shape or form. You were young.. some people just can't find a way to get along.. and some just can't find a RIGHT way to separate.. esp. when they have children. You'll be ok sweetie. Time heals all. You'll never forget this.. but if you try, you will grow from it!!
- Try and get your hands on a book series called " a child called it" by David Pelzer.
Wonderful story, that will open your eyes.. and hopefully help you in the right direction!!
Keep your head up, it always looks worse than it actually is (:
I am caucasian/white and I really don't want to be any more. White is the worst "color" skin to be, in my opinion. Everybody thinks I'm racist because of MY skin color! It's annoying and I feel like I owe people of different races something simply because I'm not of their race! I know that sounds so messed up but it's so true.
I see it on TV a lot so I know I'm not the only white person like this either. I see all the time people saying, "If I was white you wouldn't be..." in situations that don't even make sense even. I never try to make somebody feel bad because of their race but I've been accused of it before at school.
I'm tired of my race. I want to be something different. I know Michael Jackson changed his racial skin color. Is it possible for a white person to become black, asian, or hispanic colored? Can I change my race or my skin color? What about other physical features like nose and eyes? Can a person get those facial features changed without surgery?
Oh hunny!
First off. The people that treat you differntly becuase of the color of your skin are IGNORANT.
And the fact that you want to change your race because of these people, and the mean things they have to say.. makes you just as bad!
Embrace who you are.. don't beat yourself up because white people in the past have made decisions that you don't agree with.
Being white,black,yellow or brown does not make a person racist, the fact that they can't see past color is what makes them ignorant.
In time you'll realize how wrong you actually are. Of course everyone see's color.. but to look PAST it and see someone for who they are on the inside is what makes them an open minded person.
- Don't associate with people who make you feel bad because of the color you are.. they are irrelevant and really aren't anyone you want in your life anyway!
Love who you are, for who you are!
Michael Jackson was an ignorant fool for what he did as well.. So don't worry about what others say.. one day it won't matter!
Be yourself and tell anyone who doesn't accept that to get out your face and your life!
I can never remember my dreams! When I wake up I can remember I had a dream and that I REALLY wanted to (for example) tell somebody about it but I cannot recall ANYTHING about it really. I know I've been dreaming but I can never remember them and it's frustrating. Is it because I don't get very many hours of sleep? Should I see a sleep specialist about it because my best friend said that her dad had to go to one of those before for something...
No no no.. It's perfectly normal to not remember your dreams.
I recently saw my daughter left her email open when she left for school one morning. Obviously I looked at her emails and saw a boy's name that I did not recognize. I was excited, thinking she had gotten herself her very first boyfriend, and opened the email up to read for myself.
The boy is not from this town though. The boy is actually on the other side of the country. They, apparently, have been talking for a number of weeks, if not months, about all sorts of things. I don't know how they first came in contact with each other but there are lots of emails and they have been chatting on IM based on the email content.
I am worried because of internet preditors becoming more common now. The boy signs his emails with:
"
Luv ya,
[HisName]
"
I can't help but wonder if he had her into believing they are romantically involved or something. I'm worried she might be wanting to actually go and meet this guy! I want to keep her safe from these strangers but I don't want her to resent me for it right now. What steps should I take on stopping this behavior? I need her to know it is NOT OK for her to chat with strangers! How do I do this?
Parental controls on the internet!
- Monitor her activity on the internet..
Sit her down.. make up a story about a young girl who was talking to a boy her age on the internet and turns out he was actually a predator.
Don't call her out on it.. all that will do is make her want to do the complete opposite of what you tell her to do.
Trick her if you have to.. it's keeping her safe. Just to make her aware.. if you raised her right.. she won't make any mistakes.
Tell her not to use her real name or information over the internet. Make sure you monitor her pictures. Don't spy to the extent of getting caught.. just be catious and a good mommy (:
Again, don't TELL her what to do. Granted you are the Mother and you DO make the rules.. but if you piss her off.. she'll lash out.. believe me i was this young a couple years ago.
Be gentle but firm.
At this point in my life I want a family and I am ready for one. Very Very much. I know that my boyfriend is not ready yet and I completely respect that and am willing to wait until he feels ready. I know it's a joint decision. I never bring it up or try and pressure him. How do I get rid of these intense feelings of wanting a child until hes ready? I have tried to focus on the "cons" and the stressors of having a baby and marriage but it has not in the least altered my feelings. Nothing I try works. It's to the point where I feel stuck at where I am in life. I'm ready to settle down and start a family. So any tips for subsiding the desires would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
My personal opinion, if you were supposed to have a baby right now.. you two would have already gotten pregnant. There is a plan for all of us.. and it'll fall into place when the time is right.. you can't rush it.
Don't tempt fate..
- Your going to want what you want until you get it.. just stay focused on the future and what is to come.. you'll be fine (:
so I have thus really good friend and we talk a lot and he always brings up the one time we kissed, but it was nothing, and he always talks about how he wants to hook up with me and he always ask me if I want to hook up with him, and a couple days ago we were talking about how far we would ever go with each other..so do most guys just want to hook up or do they really like the girl?
we are both 16
Hunny, your younge. Take advantage of that.. explore. Safely of course! But do what you have to do to make yourself.
But as for him being a good friend. You have to look at it like..
What if it doesn't work out.. then your friendship is screwd.. it'll never be the same again.
And if it does work out.. is that what you really want.. I mean if your such great friends.. why hasn't it progressed into anything serious by now.
It's a scary road to go down.. but if you value the friendship.. DON'T DO IT.
He's curious.. and people in general ALWAYS want what they can't have.
i'm no cheater. i love my boyfriend to death. but lately i've been tempted. this guy that i used to have a huge crush on told me that he has always wanted me and he wants to sleep with me.
he doesnt know i have a boyfriend, and for some reason i didnt tell him. i think it was because i just enjoyed the sound of him raving about how sexy i am, and it made me feel important. i know my boyfriend finds me sexy, but hes not so open about it, especially since we cant have sex in his house or mine.
i just feel really terrible because for the past 4 days, sleeping with this other guy has been haunting my mind. i want him so bad, but i dont want to cheat and i dont want to dumb my boyfriend, either. i cant seem to have the strength to delete him on FB and i still want to hear from him. but theres another problem, too...he's engaged to be married in a few months. and he has two children with his fiancee. they are both 18, i believe.
i guess what i'm asking here is how do i find the strength to still be loyal to the one i love, and get rid of the one i've been fantasizing about for 3 years?
People always want what they can't have.. ESP. if the mystery has been going on for YEARS. Don't screw up what you have.. if you truly love him.
don't doubt your love or yourself.. everyone questions they're intentions.. it's the strong relationships that make it through that!
Telling your boyfriend about this, won't make it go away.. and it won't make you feel better about it either!
Think long and hard about this.. is the new guy what you want.. do you really wanna be a home wrecker? Not to sound rude or judgemental.. but that's what it is. Don't do it for the excitement.. he's in love and has kids. Sounds like he just wants to get his last fling in before he has one woman to sleep with for the rest of his life.. don't be that girl.
If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, leave him. Don't cheat on him.. don't "have fun" or "explore" with this new guy.
Again, no one can answer this for you.. you already know what you want to do.. or you wouldn't question it..
you'll make the right decision.. follow your heart (:
For about eight months now I've been not doing very well. I have been not eating very much at all and, when I do, I end up making myself throw it back up. I am pretty such I am anorexic. I've lost a lot of weight but I've been SO sick. My parents thought I was just on a diet because that's what I kept telling them over and over. I did very good at lying to them so I don't know what to do now because I'm seeing that I need help. My body is a wreck and I'm so unhappy with all of this. I want to be normal again. How do I tell my parents that I've been lying to them and that I'm really sick with this anorexia eating disorder?!
No one can really help you unless you want to help yourself. If you do, you should tell them.
- Them, meaning.. the people that you love..that make you feel good. Blood does not necessarily mean family.. Tell someone you trust.. someone that you trust not to judge you.. but help you over come this sickness.
Keep your head up.. everyone is beautiful in they're own way.. remember that! In the real world.. it's not all about looks. I promise, you'll find someone who loves you for you.. flaws and all.
But so that you know, no one will love you for you if you don't love yourself for who YOU are!