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I don't have close friends.
I used to have best friends in middle school. Now, a junior in high school, I have no best friend. I don't have someone that I hang out with all the time or that I confide in. Sure, I have friends that I occasionally hang out with, but I don't have a close friend. My aunt says it's cause my dad, the one person that was closest to me, is an alcoholic. He was sober up until I was in 6th grade, and then things got bad. It really has strained our relationship and he's sober now, but I don't know how to re-establish what we had. But I don't get why that would affect me making friends. I have trouble getting close to people cause it seems like every person I've been close to has hurt me. I've only had one serious relationship with a guy and we were pretty close, but he ended things off cause he wasn't ready for a relationship and now he won't talk to me. I don't get how to be close with people. I don't get why I can't be a good friend to someone. I really am nice and will do a lot of people, but I usually get taken advantage of. I feel like every time I try to be a friend, I get hurt. I really would just be happy with one good friend, but I can't seem to have that. What's wrong with me?
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Wow. I am EXACTLY the same. It's kind of strange reading that, because I really am in the same position as you.
I'm the same age, and like you, used to have best friends, but somewhere along the way that just went out the window. I, too, have trouble getting close to people because everyone I've been close to has hurt me. I, too, have only had one serious relationship and that guy seriously hurt me. I, too, have no idea how to get close to people.
So, you need to know that you're not the only one like this. You're not alone. There's nothing wrong with you.
Being in the same position as you, I'm still working it out for myself. But I know that you need to stop blaming yourself. Your relationship with your dad has probably contributed to this, as has your relationship with your ex and all the other people you've been close to.
Like I said, I still havn't managed to work this out, but I think you've got to try and be open to the idea of being close and be yourself around people. You've got to try and have faith in people. Believe me, I know it's hard - when everyone you've been close to has hurt you, it's hard to believe that not everybody else will too. But you've got to try and have faith in people, know that not everyone will let you down. But be strong, too. If someone does let you down, don't take it personally and move on. Believe you will find someone who won't.
Find ways to meet new people, be open and yourself with them.
I'd really like it if we could talk in messages about this? Seeing as we both have the same problem, it might help to talk about it. Because believe me, I find it hard to follow my own advice. So if you want to, contact me by asking me a question?
Hope I helped, x
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Oh sweetie, Nothing is wrong with you.
Your young, you can't find realy friends.. they just come to you.
But I do know that before anyone will accept you, you have to accept yourself.
Everyone goes through this.. it's not just you.
I promise.. I went through this as well..
Your not weird or unloveable. Just hasn't happend for you.. calm down.. live life.. and one day someone will come into your life..and you won't even remember the feelings you can't seem to let go of now (:
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