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I'm so messed up
Okay I'm 15 and I'm female though i don't feel like one I'm pansexual. I hate being i girl i don't even think like one and it makes me cry sometimes cause i feel like my life has been a mistake i was born the wrong person...i talked to my mom about this but it didn't help and my stupid boyfriend is a jerk about it. And i want to break up with him cause there is an age difference and also a lot of problems i was end up in fights with my mom over him and having to deal with my gender problem isn't helping either. I need to find out how to break up with my boyfriend and how to cure this need for being a boy. Can u help??
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First of all you don't need to "cure" yourself, but you do need to find a group and/or person who has the same issues as you,ie. internet.
My BIGGEST advice is DON'T DO THIS ALONE!!!Find someone who will NOT judge you to talk to. This is important because you need to know you are perfect the way you are. This will help you accept yourself, the way you were created to be and that there is nothing wrong with you.
Being 15 is hard enough!!! Being a "pan-sexual" (don't' know that term) 15 year old, must be absolutely painful! Our society place such harsh judgments on lifestyles different from the "status quo"
This is a very real problem for you, that one day won't BE a problem, but a very wonderful life you live. If you have any spiritual beliefs, and it doesn't have to be Christian, seek it out. Christians tend to be much more judgmental.
Pagan,Buddhist,Wicca groups, or any metaphysical group are all very accepting. Through this path, you can learn to love yourself. Although not an easy road for you my dear, I am sure. If you want to discuss more, email me at askterrimagick@gmail.com
NOW, THE BOYFRIEND.
You don't need to tell your boyfriend ANYTHING, other than, " I'm not in love with you and its not fair to you or myself to be in this relationship anymore." Breaking up is NEVER easy, but sometimes it has to happen. It sounds like he is much older than yourself? He will be just fine. Of course, Be kind, but you don't need to tell him anything you don't feel comfortable saying.
I really hope I helped, even a little bit.
Love is being sent your way
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Oh hunny!
Your more normal than anyone..
People everyday..live they're lives in agony because they feel something is missing.. and can't determine what it is.
You have a gift, you know exactly what it is, you need to complete yourself.
There are alot of aspects to look at..
Do you really believe that your supposed to be a boy, or do you feel that way because your attracted to other females? Or are you attracted to males? There are surgeries to correct these things.. but it is a VERY long drawn out process.
My best friend is transgender'd, born a male.. but knows in HER heart that she is a female..
She is going through the procedures for a sex change and has been for almost 2 years now..
Of course you have to be 18 to even start the process.
If you haven't already told your boyfriend how you feel, you may not want to being as people can be cruel. And until your ready to deal with the negativity people WILL throw at you.. i think you should learn to accept yourself before you expect others to .. just to save yourself the heart ache.
Even if your parents don't accept it, you have to live your life for yourself sugar!
I'm not saying run away be disown your family.. but push it on them.. tell them this is who you are.. and to not make you choose who you are, or your family. It's not fair.. and even though it seems like hell now, a mother's love can't be turned off because she doesn't agree with you!
Your ok boo!! Keep your head up.. and if you EVER need anything.. email me.. you can always talk to me! in complete confidence of course!!
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First of all, don't panic, many people feel this way, more than you might think!
You are still very young and it may be that you aren't producing enough oestrogen (the female hormone) at the moment.
However, if you have felt like this a long time then perhaps you are really a boy inside, but were just born the wrong sex. It really does happen.
It sounds like you could be Transgendered, meaning ''People who were assigned a sex, usually at birth and based on their genitals, but who feel that this is a false or incomplete description of themselves.''
Try searching Transgendered online and find a support forum, they know a lot more about this than I do and can help you find out whether you are Transgendered or not.
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This site is a friendly, non-judgemental and annonymous way to talk about how you have been feeling.
About the boyfriend, I think you may need to have a chat and tell him that what you are feeling is serious, it's not some lame joke. If he still won't listen then you need to tell him straight that you want to spend some time apart, perhaps just a break so that you can figure out what you want and who you are. If he is right for you then he will see you're serious and start getting supportive!
Hope this helps, chin up sweetie, don't forget - you are NORMAL x
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