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confusion
i'm no cheater. i love my boyfriend to death. but lately i've been tempted. this guy that i used to have a huge crush on told me that he has always wanted me and he wants to sleep with me.
he doesnt know i have a boyfriend, and for some reason i didnt tell him. i think it was because i just enjoyed the sound of him raving about how sexy i am, and it made me feel important. i know my boyfriend finds me sexy, but hes not so open about it, especially since we cant have sex in his house or mine.
i just feel really terrible because for the past 4 days, sleeping with this other guy has been haunting my mind. i want him so bad, but i dont want to cheat and i dont want to dumb my boyfriend, either. i cant seem to have the strength to delete him on FB and i still want to hear from him. but theres another problem, too...he's engaged to be married in a few months. and he has two children with his fiancee. they are both 18, i believe.
i guess what i'm asking here is how do i find the strength to still be loyal to the one i love, and get rid of the one i've been fantasizing about for 3 years?
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Why in God's name are you this hung up on a guy who has two children at 18 with his same aged Fiance? That's a barrel full of Red-Neck sounding trash.
I don't get it. Maybe at 16 nothing matters except the appearance of being nice or cool, a little physical attractiveness, and the willingness to not give a fuck who you hurt to get your rocks off?
I don't remember girls swooning over assholes when I was in high school. What changed? I actually had to be nice to girls, and not be in relationships before they were up nights thinking about me.
How do you find the strength? You grow the hell up.
Have you considered what this guy thinks of you? I mean, really? Look at his behavior. He has two kids and is engaged, he's really damn young to be in that situation. Two kids under 20 is incredibly irresponsible to the point of outright stupidity. It shows he doesn't learn from his mistakes nor does he really take anything about adult responsibility seriously.
But worse, look at you. He wants to cheat on his fiance' with you (who he should love, if he's going to marry her, right?) because he's always wanted to fuck you.
So, how do you like being seen as a fucktoy? Ever heard of the Fleshlight? That's you in this situation. You are a fleshy hole for him to fuck, a soft wet orifice for him to get the satisfaction he probably isn't getting from his 18 year old fiance who almost certainly has to take the responsibility for his children (if their parents aren't just biting the bullet and doing it for him)
You are naive, and foolish. Your head is full of romance but the truth is that your interactions with him have all the mystique and romance of two dogs fucking in the mud.
If you're having problems with feeling sexy, then work on it with your boyfriend and leave the loser to his shitty life. Don't be that crappy person who fucks over those they care about for a brief moment of validation.
Trust me, when its over and you realize that you just cheated for crappy sex with some guy who was willing to stroke your ego to get his dick in you, you won't feel nearly so sexy, classy, or beautiful.
You'll feel like the used up trash he will toss you aside like.
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People always want what they can't have.. ESP. if the mystery has been going on for YEARS. Don't screw up what you have.. if you truly love him.
don't doubt your love or yourself.. everyone questions they're intentions.. it's the strong relationships that make it through that!
Telling your boyfriend about this, won't make it go away.. and it won't make you feel better about it either!
Think long and hard about this.. is the new guy what you want.. do you really wanna be a home wrecker? Not to sound rude or judgemental.. but that's what it is. Don't do it for the excitement.. he's in love and has kids. Sounds like he just wants to get his last fling in before he has one woman to sleep with for the rest of his life.. don't be that girl.
If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, leave him. Don't cheat on him.. don't "have fun" or "explore" with this new guy.
Again, no one can answer this for you.. you already know what you want to do.. or you wouldn't question it..
you'll make the right decision.. follow your heart (:
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First of all, It sounds like this guy you want is all for sex and nothing else...
Anyway, You need to decide what you want either your boyfriend or this other guy. If you do decide that you want to be with your crush then you need to tell your boyfriend that you don't think things are working out. It's only fair to let him know instead of toying with his feelings.
If he is engaged and soon to be married that should tell you right there that obviously the guy doesn't have enough sense to even know what commitment means. If you love your boyfriend then just delete the other guy off of facebook. Reverse it for a second, How would you feel if your boyfriend was doing this with another girl? If he is engaged and soon to be married leave it alone, You don't want to get involved in that drama you will never hear the end of it. NOT a smart idea
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