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I'm a mom of two, who has had her share of problems, and likes to help others with their own. I love helping people, and knowing that I can make a difference. I can't help with everything, but I'll always try to make people smile and just feel good about themselves. I've had more than my share of family drama and problems; what with my parents coming from two different and clashing cultures. I've also moved around a lot and had to deal with changing schools and all the trauma of making new friends and fitting in. I'm good with questions about friends, relationships (love, family..you name it), tough decisions, technology, and other weird random questions.I'm a great listener, but I make sure to understand both sides of the story as well.
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13/female Well, my best friend likes this guy. she introduces me to him and we're friends. ill always be talking to him and all that but then i made a grave mistake. i fell in love with him. itsz pretty easy for any guy to tell when i like him and so guess what? he found out! but luckily hes real cool about it and he doesnt freak out or tell my best friend. i dont know what to do! plzz anybody tell me what to do!
Well, though it might be hard you're going to have to get over him or try your best to hide those feelings. You're friend liked him first, and you should NEVER try to take your best friends guy.
I was in a similar situation. Luckily though my best friend had a change of feelings and decided she didnt like him anymore. I talked with her and asked her if it would bother her if I dated him, since I had a huge crush on him. She was fine with it, and I got to have my chance with him. I was around the same age as you, and big surprise that relationship did not last.
So don't ruin your friendship over a crush that will most likely not last more than a couple months. There are MANY other guys, but its hard to find a real best friend.
ok so i have this friend her name is lizsandra. her recent boyfriend dumped her and he didnt tell her why he just said he wanted to be friends with her.so today at school she was in the girls bathroom making she was making herself through up and shes thinking of commmiting susicide what advice should i give her?
well, let her know how much u love her, and how much her family loves her. Tell her how much it would hurt all of you if she was gone, and then tell her that no guys is worth that. Its his loss, and shes still young. There are plenty of guys out there, and she should be happy that he dumped her because now she has the chance to meet the right guy, someone who will appreciate her and treat her the way she deserves to be treated.
Getting dumped is not the end of the world, its the beginning of a new and hopefully better relationship..lol
I'm 18/f and I've heard and read and watched so many things on how guys appreciate "the chase" or "the girl that doesn't put herself out there" or even "the girl that doesn't put her body on display". But, I'm always seeing the girls that throw themselves over any guy/the one with the short shorts and tight shirts always get's the guy. Always. My question is, are all guys looking for in a relationship is big boobs and an easy date? I know I'm only 18 but it's just becoming predictable and disapointing, and really crushing my own self esteem.
Thanks,
Gen
First you seem like a really great person, and I don't even know you!
now for the answer to your question. Guys that want an easy date are most likely looking for just that; an easy date. Guys that are actually serious and are looking for a relationship want a girl who has more to her than big boobs. Thats coming from my own experience.
as for 18 year old guys, the majority of them are not looking for a serious relationship, so they look for the easy girls who as you put it "put their body on display". Because in their mind those girls aren't looking for a serious relationship, and will most likely give them what they want faster than a girl who is dressed in a more modest manner and has more self-respect for herself.
so dont think of changing who you are just to have a relationship with a guy who most likely isn't looking for one. the right guy will come along when the time is right, and he will appreciate you for who and what you are and stand for; not for what you look like.
hope that helps! :)
Ok. so there are these shoes i wanna buy. they are closed at the toes,(like those plain pumps that everryone wears...i live in london) but then they have a line going down the middle of your foot...do you get it. Please tell me if you want me to explain more. I know they exist because ive seen someone wearing them before. Do you know where i can get them please...all suggestions welcome...
thanks
I absolutely LOVE shoes, so this was a fun question for me to answer, and as you can see I got a bit carried away with my suggestions lol. Well heres what I found. I'm not sure if its exactly what your looking for since you were a bit vague in your description..
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/31442478/c/53393.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/27935344/c/3.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/30928834/c/114940.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/33397277/c/89.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/29405293/c/99.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/33397280/c/146460.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/31439462/c/123323.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/33625588/c/123274.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/33651386/c/123312.html (this one's ugly..but i put it in anyways)
ok so I got really carried away. this website is my favorite website for shoes (zappos.com), so I suggest you look there for the shoes you want (in case the links I suggested were not what you were looking for).
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re-reading your question I thought you might mean something more like a T-strap rather than a sling-back which I showed u up there.
sooo I found some close-toed T-strap shoes:
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/25827585/c/385.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/37006168/c/632.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/31454422/c/6.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/22914387/c/1134.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/30663074/c/10369.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/29382031/c/947.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/36459894/c/911.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/30916573/c/9661.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/15127226/c/106.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/29659633/c/99.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/27173602/c/105656.html
http://www.zappos.com/n/p/dp/35147035/c/131135.html (no heel)
sorry this is so long, but I really had a lot of fun looking up shoes for you. :) I also hope price isn't an issue cuz a lot of the shoes are a bit on the expensive side. :D
anyways hope this helps, and if not seriously check out zappos.com..I guarantee you'll find something. :)
i'm not a nice person. dont give me advice like "omg just lyk act nice." yeah i think ive tried that before thanks.
so yesterday i went shopping all day with my mom. it was so much fun and i enjoyed it a lot. but then later that night her boyfriend came over, watched a movie with her, and slept over. so then the next day is mothers day (today) and im like "mom c'mon its mothers day. i dont want to spend mothers day with my mother and her boyfriend. i just want to spend it with my mother." actually i dont think i said that. it was more "why cant he leave" but whatever.
anyways she said thatd "itd be rude to say he cant come to brunch with us" so i unwillingly went to mothers day brunch with my mom and her boyfriend and i ignored them whenever they said anything to me and i figured hed leave after brunch. but no. then they went to go buy a grill while i stayed home watching will and grace.
so they came back from buying a grill like 3 or 4 hours later and my mom is like "whats wrong why wont you smile or talk" and i said "because i dont like your boyfriend. hes wasting your time." (they've been together for 6 years and he refuses to propose and i just think she deserves better.)
anyways so today me and my mom planned to see 'baby mama' because it seemed fitting for mothers day. well, i told her i didnt want to go. and then she asked what kind of pizza i wanted and i said i didnt want any.
its mothers day. and my mom deserves so much better. i should accept her boyfriend being here and just treat her nicely but i cant seem to do that.
sorry its so long but i thought the story needed to be said so you can see how awful i really am before you give me advice on what to do about my terrible attitude i always give people.
happy mothers day.
well I wouldn't say that you're a horrible person based on this story. Yes, you were a bit rude to your mom, but its understandable. You wanted to have a special Mother's Day, just you and your mom. Unfortunately her boyfriend who you don't like was there, and it annoyed you. I'm guessing your around 13-15. and at that age the way you acted is completely normal. not excusable, but normal.
You should sit down and talk with your mom, and let her know how your feeling. try not to sound rude, but get everything out in the open. I feel like you're harboring a lot of feelings, and this might be adding to you feeling like a horrible person.
Also you probably should try to accept your mom's boyfriend, but you're not required to love him or even like him. You just have to show him respect and be civil, which isn't too hard to do. Just a simple hello every now and then and maybe a smile. And yes, 6 years is a looong time, but your mom is capable of taking care of herself. If she wasn't okay with the situation he would have been gone.
Anyways sorry this is so long, basically I just want to say you are not a horrible person, you just seem to be hurt/jealous/confused/upset and acting out.
My older sister is working in Alberta this summer for a couple months. I wanted to buy her a Going Away present because I won't get to see her for a couple months. Does anyone have any ideas?
Buy her something that she will take to work with her everyday. That way every time she uses it she'll remember you. It can be something as simple as a nice leather file with notepaper in it.
OK..... My name is jessica. i have bad back and stomache cramps. ive gotten my period on march 13th a couple days after my birthday and it was the worst. well know it is april 15 and i have cramps but no blood. it feels like im bleeding but on my underwear it looks like a liquid that is sticky. im a virgin and i am safe bc i never ever had sex. what is this..... it feels like blood but it isnt. thanks and i will rate
The liquid is vaginal discharge and completely normal, the reason it feels like blood is because when you are close to getting your period sometimes the discharge becomes a bit thicker. You got your last period March 13th, and now its April 15th which means your period is most likely about to start.The cramps are pre-menstrual pains, and you can take ibuprofen (Midol, Advil, ..) to help with that.
hope this helps! :)
Theres a couple different treos on verizon's website, besides the fact that one doesn't have a camera can someone tell me the differences between them?
read the specs or use the compare function and that will tell you all the differences between them.
i have a 10 month old..a 2 year old..and i am 8 months pregnant..i live with my mom,sister,and her 2 kids..i constantly have to keep my 2 year old in the room with me...when there is people over..family visits often..with thyre kids..and i dont want my kids influenced by the other kids that are here..i try to teach my kid..what he can ..and cant do..but its hard when there is alot of people around teaching him bad things like cussing and hitting..and i cant get along with some of the people that visit..i dont want him influenced by that..when were not in the room..i have to keep my eye on him the whole time..if i let him down for 1 second..someone is either..yelling that he is getting into something..or kids..screaming constantly..its chaos and very stressfull..exspecially me being 8 months pregant..i have to pack him on my hip..all the time..just to make other people happy.and i shouldnt need to do that..when there is noone here.. its just me him and my 10 month old..its so much more relaxing..and i dotn have to chase after him as much..as if they were people here..im afraid to move out on my own right now..cause im 8 months..i dont know what to do about the whole situation
Well my suggestion to you is to move out. I know it seems stressful, however right now you're in a very stressful situation. Look for a place thats close to your mom's house that way you will have someone nearby to help you out, but at the same time you will have your own space to escape to when family visits. It seems intimidating to move out on your own, especially with little kids and another one on the way, but you could always get a nanny or just find ways to keep the little ones occupied. Playroom, art projects, television, etc.
hope this helps, and hope things get better, and good luck with your kids.
Hi I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and have been best friends with this girl for 4 and they kinda get along, but i mean they aren't best friends or anything. But my boyfriend one day made her really mad by saying that she cant come eat with us at prom and now she is mad at me because I can't change his mind. I dont know what to do about either of them! Please help!!
Is your friend always hanging out with you and your boyfriend? If that's the case then it could be that he wants to spend this special night just the two of you, and have more together time with you without your friend tagging along. On the other hand he should have discussed his opinion with you before telling your friend that she can't eat with you guys. Your friend also has to understand that as a couple you and your boyfriend are going to want to spend time alone sometimes, and prom night is a romantic night so I can understand why your boyfriend wants to be alone. Most importantly this is your night too, and you have to decide what you want to do. Do you want to spend the night with your bf alone, or do you want to spend the time with your bf and your friend? First decide what you want, and then if you decide you want to spend it as a group talk to your bf and tell him that you really want your friend to be with you ( really put your foot down). Or if you decide to make it a romantic alone night, then explain to your friend that tonight is prom night, and you and your bf want to make a romantic night of it alone. Whichever way you decide both of them should be understanding of your decision.
Ok i'm 14 and have never had a real boyfriend. Now my best friend in the whole world has been doing stuff with guys since like 5th grade or something. Me on the other hand have only held hand with a guy once and it was extremely awkward because of the situation (long story). And it's not like i dont like guys or something cause i do. See i love her to death but she gets on my nerves alot because sometimes when were talking about her "guy problems" she gets all mad at me and says "well if you ever get a boyfriend you'll know thats it's difficult" now i understand relationships are difficult i like to think i'm not stupid but she always says stuff like that or "well if you'd get a boyfriend you'd know what i'm talking about" and i mean getting a boyfriend isnt that easy she makes it sound like you can just say hey your hott be my boyfriend or something well maybe for some people that works but not for me and it's not like i dont want a boyfriend but i have better things to do with my life first you see the fact that i'm 14 and never even had a boyfriends scares the crap out of me because i always think i'm going to end up alone and my friend saying stuff like that doesnt exactly help te situation but really i'm not like my friend i dont want to do "stuff" with a guy unless i'm "in love" you know i'm waiting for marriage and stuff like that i mean i more into the long time relationships not the date for a week kind of relationship and it's not like there anything wrong witht that but i'm not that kind of person i want true love anywho my questions are is my friend right to say stuff like that? Is she really even acting like a friend? Is something wrong me since i'm 14 and have not had a boyfriend?
Hi i'm gonna answer your questions backwards...first off there is absolutely nothing wrong with you not having a boyfriend. Like you said you're still only 14, enjoy your time. There is no need to complicate things with a guy. Now about your friend, its not really right for her to say things like that to you, but I wouldn't go as far as saying shes not being a friend. You just need to explain to her that you aren't ready to have a boyfriend. Just explain exactly what you said here. If shes your friend she'll respect your decision. Also I have a lot of respect for your decision, and if it makes you feel any better i never had a boyfriend until i was 20. So my suggestion for you is to wait until you are ready and until the guys are more mature.
good luck and don't ever give in to peer pressure.
I just bought my cat a second litterbox and it has a cover and a door flap to get in. her regular box is in the laundry room and we have to open the door for her so she can use it. she will not use this new covered litter pan...i have showed her many times and everytime I put her in there she runs away. i caught her peeing on the carpet. normally she is great with using the pan, but no she is not. I cannot have an uncovered one because of dogs and children. how can i get her to use the new pan?
Okay, first you have to remember that cats are creatures of habit. Once they get used to something, for example the uncovered litter box in the laundry room, it’s hard for them to change. However, try this to help get your cat used to using the covered litter box. Train him by placing a large cardboard box over his old litter box, and gradually decrease the size of the box until it is the same size as the cover of the new litter box. After a couple of days make the switch. That worked for me, hope it helps you. :) good luck!
i know this is kinda a sick question but i was wondering if there is a way to make it taste better in the vaginal area?? and i was also wonderin if it is okay for a guy to eat you out if you have a yeast infection?
I don't know if there is any way to make it taste better. However I do know that it is not ok for you to have any kind of sexual contact if you have a yeast infection, unless of course your plan is to infect your partner.
Ok, well for the past 3 months now I've been getting my period before I'm supposed to, and I'm on birth control. It regulated my cycle and now it's way crazy. The first time it happened an exact week before I was supposed to get my period (I'm supposed to get it the last week of every month.) And it lasted like almost 2 weeks, like the week before I was supposed to and the week I was supposed to. And whenever I would change my tampon there would only be blood on one side of the tampon, so I thought maybe it was just doing it once, so the next with the next tampon, I went to the bathroom and there was some blood on my underwear so when I pulled the tampon out it was yet again only bloody on one side. The second month it did the same. Then this month I got it the first week of the month. I have barely ever cramped with my periods but these past three have been pretty bad, especially the one from this month, it was soo painful. I have no idea what's going on? I mean, has this happened to anyone else before? There's a little bit of blood on the top then it's just bloody on one side... 3 months..?
Pleasee help. I understand this is long and U thank those of you who take the time to read it all :]
what you need to do is go to a doctor, I dont believe anyone on here is qualified to tell you what is wrong or what is happening to you.
...probably going to be pretty long...
I am 23, Female, almost nearing my mid-20s. I had sex only once, with the wrong person (unfortunately), when I was 19. A lot has changed since then. I have dated a couple of guys, but it has never gotten to the point where I even considered sleeping with them, or even doing anything sexual, as in below the belt (I had nothing against them feeling me up or sucking on my breasts). I haven't been in a long term relationship; it's never gotten to a point with a guy where I am comfortable enough to have sex. I feel like your typical guy, always thinking about sex, as in almost every night. I masturbate every now and then, I'd say a 2-4 times a week. I don't know. I have no trouble attracting guys...I don't mean to sound conceited, cause I'm not. If i talk to a guy, I never really take things further with them..mainly cause they're not my type, or it never goes past a few dates. I haven't even met a guy I'm interested in for almost 8 months. I'm 23 and don't even know what a real relationship is like. The only time I have orgasm is when i masturbate. I want to know what it's like to have sex with someone I like. I'm 23, and not saving myself for marriage. Quite the contrary...
It's better than sleeping around, but come on, in 2 years i'll be 25. I guess any advice on one or more of the following would be great:
a) How do you feel about my situation?
b) What can I do to meet more like-minded guys, not just airheads or assholes?
c) Let's say I meet a guy I really like, how would I even go about having sex, when it's been incredibly long time since I even had sex (and let's face it, I was 19, and it lasted for 5 minutes, and it sucked).
Thanks for reading through my rant, and for any advice :)
I think you are over analyzing your situation. You are ONLY 23, not 50...so what if you haven't had good sex or met the right guy yet. you still have plenty of time. to find the right guy, or like-minded guys..most likely they will be in the places you enjoy going. for example if you enjoy going to museums, most likely you'll find the guy for you in a museum or some art gallery or festival. you know? don't go to a bar at night and expect to find mr. right...most of the guys there are looking for one thing only. as to how you would go about having sex..dont think about it so much. just relax..and if its with the right person there shud be nothing to worry about. but the important thing is to relax and enjoy loving someone so passionately and having them love you in return.
to end just be happy with where you r at in your life, and don't think so much. you're still young and have your whole life ahead of you. and keep this in mind, the best things happen when you least expect them. so enjoy life, have fun, and stop worrying :)
I am thin but i'm wide and how kan i make my width smaller . I don't need to loos weight but my curves are alittle too big .. what can i doo?
you really can't do anything about your width. be happy to be curvy!! :)
I'm was wondering, is it better to brush or floss your teeth first? It probably doesn't matter, but I'm not sure...
Please only answer if you really know, not just a guess.
It doesn't really make a difference, however there is a small theoretical value to flossing before brushing your teeth. Some people say that when you use a fluoride toothpaste its best to floss first because to actually benefit from the fluoride toothpaste it has to come in contact with the tooth enamel. and if you don't floss first than the plaque on your teeth can prevent that contact. but thats just a theory so really it doesn't matter at all which you do first its all a matter of preference. Its just important to do both regularly. :)
hope i helped...
ok, i'm 12/f. my parents have been divorced for over a year now. and all though that seperation, me and my mom have been fighting about all the boys she has dated. she has dated SO many. and we ALWAYS fight about it. i've told her my feelings, and she always says that her kids come first... but shes not doing that. i'm not ready for her to have a boyfriend... she cusses alot, and she calls me crazy for not understanding. i don't understand cuz i always thought that it was supposed to be:
two people fall in love, then they get married, have kids, the dad goes to work, the mom stays at home to help her kids, then on weekends, the family goes to the little brother's soccer game.
but now, it goes:
mom goes to college in the morning and at nite every day of every week, the kids go to school, the kids prepare their on food, then the kids have to wait a month for last month's laundry, then on weekends, they see their father who lets them do anything.
i don't understand!!!!!!!!
now, plzz help me understand what to do.
You've been put in a really unfair situation, but
try to just make the best of the situation. help out with the laundry, clean your spaces in the house, and try to make the situation as bearable as possible. remember what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.
have you got any grandparents living near by that you could visit?
or maybe spend moe time at a friend's house..
ohkay next year im going to be a freshman at highschool and im so worried. i know no one i moved here two years ago and i didnt make anyfriends with the 8th graders so i lucked out. and the boys situation is really bothering me. like its all about sex and making out and such,and i dont knwo if i m ready and it seems like if you are in a relationship then its pressured to so that kind of thing by everyone! and i guess this really started bothering me when i saw girls younger than me, like tlaking to the guys (and the guys where interested) to me it seems like i wouldnt be able to do that. im not one of those big flirts who hang all over guys. i have ppl ik that live further away who go got highschool (they are freshman) and they are telling me stories like how her a group of people went to a guys house and they were all hanging out until late. i mean it seems like its a big deal to me. my parents would have to know the parents and such, and im not willin got sneek out for that but i want to. i dont even know what im asking really, i just want to be able to hang out with poeple and not have such a hard time having a date and being pressured and crap. im really frantic about this. i would really like a boy to comment on how they are with girls. im jsut not ready for that...im scarred out of my mind. ik i muct sound stupid, but how did you deal with it.. the pressure of drinking and smoking adn drugs... yea sure now i can say i wont do it, but when it happens... i dont want to be one of those people you have to drive home, and i would hate for my parents to find out about it. alot of this is coming from what i wouldnt want my parents to see me like. i dont want to change, i dont think of myself as a goody goody by no means and it might sound like it but what am i suppose to do? please someone who is in highschool HELP and have experience (f/14)
ps sorry this is so scrambled. and thanks in advnaced
i know exactly how your feeling, and how hard it is to be the new kid.
i went through those exact same feelings when i was going in to high school, and i was also the new kid.
you'll be surprised but i'll bet you half of the kids who are going to be freshman are feeling exactly the way you are.
from what you wrote i can tell you're a sweet kid, and you'll be just fine. all you have to remember is be yourself and stay true to yourself. that way you won't end up doing anything that you might regret.
smoking, drinking, and drugs completely over-rated...you can have just as much fun (actually more fun) without all of that.
you just need to relax and be yourself and everything will be just fine. :)
good luck and have fun!
Okay so my state (TN) has decided to mandate that every student K-12 get 90 minutes of excersize a week. Well they are using our homeroom time at my school to do just that. I think it is incredibly stupid because its not the school's responsibility to tell us what to do as far as excersizing goes. It is so damn retarded I can hardly stand it. I HATE coming to school now. OMG as if it wasnt bad enough LETS THROW IN SOME EXCERSIZE!!! Plus my homeroom teacher is strict with the rules, so if we dont do these excersizes every morning, she will write us up. I dont feel like I can talk to her because she wont understand. And I cant sit there and object while everyone else is doing it because that will draw negative attention to me. I get enough attention as it is for being fat. And thats not the reason I dont want to do the excersizes. It's just that 15 minutes is a long time for someone who is as heavy as I am and its embarassing to have my fat jiggle around for the whole freaking class to watch and laugh at. I would much prefer to excersize in PRIVACY where I dont have to worry about what I look like. High school is bad enough as it is. I think this is pure torture and I really want to refuse to do it. But I dont want to bring negative attention to myself. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? and what is your opinion on our new state law??
First off, i disagree with you, this exercise law is actually a really great idea. and the fact that they put it with homeroom which is usually in the morning is also great. that way it helps get your bodies energized for the long day ahead of you, and a great way to deal with the weight problems.
the only complaint i have seen from you is that your self-concious about standing up in front of them to do the exercises. It seems like your main concern is standing in front of a bunch of people makes you uncomfortable.
im pretty no one is going to be staring at you or making fun of you, and if there r a few stupid kids, just ignore them.
you can really benefit from this 15 minutes, and when you start seeing the results you'll become more confident in yourself. i think you should just stick it out, and do it. if it becomes really unbearable and people actually do start giving you a hard time, then go to your homeroom teacher and talk to her. even tho she seems mean and strict, i'm sure she'll be understanding towards you (but thats only if you give the exercising a try).