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HIGHSCHOOL : (
ohkay next year im going to be a freshman at highschool and im so worried. i know no one i moved here two years ago and i didnt make anyfriends with the 8th graders so i lucked out. and the boys situation is really bothering me. like its all about sex and making out and such,and i dont knwo if i m ready and it seems like if you are in a relationship then its pressured to so that kind of thing by everyone! and i guess this really started bothering me when i saw girls younger than me, like tlaking to the guys (and the guys where interested) to me it seems like i wouldnt be able to do that. im not one of those big flirts who hang all over guys. i have ppl ik that live further away who go got highschool (they are freshman) and they are telling me stories like how her a group of people went to a guys house and they were all hanging out until late. i mean it seems like its a big deal to me. my parents would have to know the parents and such, and im not willin got sneek out for that but i want to. i dont even know what im asking really, i just want to be able to hang out with poeple and not have such a hard time having a date and being pressured and crap. im really frantic about this. i would really like a boy to comment on how they are with girls. im jsut not ready for that...im scarred out of my mind. ik i muct sound stupid, but how did you deal with it.. the pressure of drinking and smoking adn drugs... yea sure now i can say i wont do it, but when it happens... i dont want to be one of those people you have to drive home, and i would hate for my parents to find out about it. alot of this is coming from what i wouldnt want my parents to see me like. i dont want to change, i dont think of myself as a goody goody by no means and it might sound like it but what am i suppose to do? please someone who is in highschool HELP and have experience (f/14)
ps sorry this is so scrambled. and thanks in advnaced
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Right now I'm going into gr.10 and I know exactly what your going through. I also used to be all freaked out about being a freshmen, but once I actually got in that school, everything was fine! You'll see that it's not as big a deal as you think...and you'll make new friends in no time. Just try talk to a few people, be really friendly, and nice, give compliments..just don't stress about it too much and everything will be fine...as for all the pressures, just don't even think about..just be yourself and when you stop worrying about everything, that's when you'll really live life happily and carefree...so don't stress, that's all I can say...good luck!...
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I definitely know what your saying
I was a incoming freshman last year... knew nobody
and i was fine.
I was quite surprised, like you, when i found out that freshman were having sex, and doing drugs and just doing all that stuff
I was so surprised, and I made sure i didn't hang around in that crowd.
I know your worried that you don't want to do that stuff, or change, all you have to do is hang out with good friends, and stay out of the bad crowds.
Most of the guys don't pressure you either, some do... but you should know early in the relationship what kind of guy he is.
Like I said before, just don't get mixed up in the wrong crowd and you'll be fine
High School is fun, don't let any of that change that for you
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hope i helped
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i know exactly how your feeling, and how hard it is to be the new kid.
i went through those exact same feelings when i was going in to high school, and i was also the new kid.
you'll be surprised but i'll bet you half of the kids who are going to be freshman are feeling exactly the way you are.
from what you wrote i can tell you're a sweet kid, and you'll be just fine. all you have to remember is be yourself and stay true to yourself. that way you won't end up doing anything that you might regret.
smoking, drinking, and drugs completely over-rated...you can have just as much fun (actually more fun) without all of that.
you just need to relax and be yourself and everything will be just fine. :)
good luck and have fun!
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