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Best friend vs. Boyfriend
Hi I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and have been best friends with this girl for 4 and they kinda get along, but i mean they aren't best friends or anything. But my boyfriend one day made her really mad by saying that she cant come eat with us at prom and now she is mad at me because I can't change his mind. I dont know what to do about either of them! Please help!!
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Screw your best friend she will forgive you, or find something against her or something that she owes you. Shit, its just prom. -Dr.Drew
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Is your friend always hanging out with you and your boyfriend? If that's the case then it could be that he wants to spend this special night just the two of you, and have more together time with you without your friend tagging along. On the other hand he should have discussed his opinion with you before telling your friend that she can't eat with you guys. Your friend also has to understand that as a couple you and your boyfriend are going to want to spend time alone sometimes, and prom night is a romantic night so I can understand why your boyfriend wants to be alone. Most importantly this is your night too, and you have to decide what you want to do. Do you want to spend the night with your bf alone, or do you want to spend the time with your bf and your friend? First decide what you want, and then if you decide you want to spend it as a group talk to your bf and tell him that you really want your friend to be with you ( really put your foot down). Or if you decide to make it a romantic alone night, then explain to your friend that tonight is prom night, and you and your bf want to make a romantic night of it alone. Whichever way you decide both of them should be understanding of your decision.
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Do you want her to come eat with you at prom?! Well it's my understanding that this is your prom too. Your boyfriend needs to understand this! It sounds to me like your boyfriend and best friend both need to learn to coexist for the sake of your relationships with them. Let them both know that you refuse to choose one over the other and even either of them are asking you to do so than they don't care about your happiness as they claim.
There is NOTHING wrong with a girl going to dinner before prom with her boyfriend AND her best friend! You are doing nothing wrong by wanting them both in your life.
Good luck babe!
<3 Leslie
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This is so commen when your trying to juggle friends with boyfriends. You have to talk to her about it , without your boyfriend there because that will Only build tension even more. If you want her to go , you put your foot down to your boyfriend and say look " there is no problem with her going to eat with us ". But if your trying to just have a nice time with just you and your boyfriend , your friend should understand that she cant come all the time . Also it could be the way he said it & why you going along with what he said is makin her think your choosing him over your bestfriend , trust me i know . Have a talk with both of them ,b ecause the last thing you want to do is haveing to choose .
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