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I have a HUGE problem it all started on New Years.....well my mom and aunts and cousins all went out for new years eve and me amanda and a girl named katie from Iowa stayed at my cousin kristies house and she didnt tell her mom (my aunt) she bought some vodka for us and us all three got wasted and stoned off our asses and katie called some of her GUY friends to come over to my cousins house and one of our girls was left out (amanda) and katie and i got the two guys and i got the 17 year old and she got the 16 year old and they were sooo hott especially the 17 year old and i feel really bad because i cheated on my boyfriend but the thing is we barely even talk or communicate so it doesnt even feel like we are going out......i dont know if i should break up with him or stay with him because i REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY LIKE the 17 year old and he asked me to be his girl and i said YES....Please anyone tell me what i should do..because i did stuff with the 17 year old.......

P.S. im 15 1/2 (female)

hey! well if you hardly ever talk to your current boyfriend... then you should break up! and if you reaaaaaaaally like the 17 year old (which it sounds like you do) then go for it! what a relatioship if you never talk to your boyfriend anyways! and does your bf know you cheated on hiM?! would he want to be togther after you cheated on him anyways! since you dId hook up with him the first night you met him... be careful.. sometimes when you hook up with a guy right away.. they think your skanky or do that all the time.. which is definately not yOu! so make sure he wants to be with you for all of the rifht reasonS! bUuUT haha.. anyways... go for tHe 17 year oLd! older guys are the best! ;) hahah!
good luck!
xOxO, aL

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me and my boyfriend at the time were messing around and we were about to have sex. He had his penis down there but he said he never put it in me but i felt pain down there. Does this mean im a virgin if he didnt stick it in me. How do i know? My cherry was popped before when i was a boot camp. I'm pretty sure i cant tell by that. I cant ask him he wont tell me the truth he cliams he didnt put it in me.

Thx a whole bunch i would really like to know

Hey! YeaH! your still a virgin! sex actually only counts if there was penetration.. which sounds like there was none! if he didnt put it in you.. then your definately still a virgin! i dont know why you felt pain down there... but if your cherry was already popped and you had sex.. then you shouldnt have felt any paiN! so iM not exactly sure on that one! hope I heLPed yA!
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Is it possible to fall in love at 17? I have been with my boyfriend for only 4 months, but there is such an intense energy between us. We talk all the time and are together at every moment possible. we are similar in our core beliefs, but disagree on many topics. Disagreeing has sparked tons of interesting conversations between us. everytime i think about him or someone says his name i smile and get a warm, fuzzy, happy feeling. we trust and respect one another and have good sexual chemistry (we have not however, had sex and will not for quite some time)

I am almost positive that i love him, but ever since i was young people have always told me that you can't fall in love in high school. I want to get some outside oppinions and find out if the things i am feeling are what is generally classified as love.

thanks loves!
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hey! of course you can fall in love at 17! i'm sure you do love him! older people just think that high schoolers are so immature and are always thinking their in love... but thats totally not the case! theres no rule that says.. you can't be in love if your under 18! or whatever! haha! i think i've been in love before... sounds like you too are really happy togther are DO lOVe eachother! awww! sooO jeALoUs! haha!
xOxO, aL

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what is a booty call?

when someone calls you just for sex! you plan on calling them with the sole intent of achieving sex! hMmm that brings back some memories! haha!
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my hair is very hard to straighten..what are sum products i can use to straighten it.

thanks. i rate 5's

DEFINATELY Aveda Hang Straight... I think its only 16.50! works wonders on my naturally wavy hair!
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what exactly does it mean to be friends with benefits? like what is different about it than being b/f and g/f? thanks

It means that your friends with them... but you can still "mess around/hook-up" with them! without any kind of relationship! its different then bf/gf because the emotional part of the relatioship isnt there! just the physical!
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hey peeps i was just wondering what you think... should a girl tell her b/f if she is taking pregnancy pills?? xoxo i'll rate good for good answers! thanx

it really dosent matter! thats up to her! if they are having sex... then yeah.. he should definately know... but really... its not that big of a deal!
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whats your opinion on a freshman dating a junior?
Please Help all i want is opinions
I RATE!
kthnkxbye

totally awesome! age is just a number remember! i always date older guys! aNd i have a friend whos bf is 2 gRades younger! haha! sO thats tHe besT! i dont like guys my own age... sooo yeah!
xOxO, aL

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does anyone know where you can buy leg warmers ? like, the kind that ballerinas wear. thanks

i got mine from abercrombie! they have the cutest ones!
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hey im 13/f and i really like this guy. btw hes 15. do you think thats wrong or soemthing? ok so, ive known him for about a year .. ub toyu see where i see hiim is only on fridays. its at an airfoce base, cause im in cap which is the air foce auxuliary. so, there, flirting really isnt an option at all. its just not right lol. altoguh some people do, i dont think it would feel right. i tlak to him on AIM sometimes, and i ask him alot about himself. what can i do to get him to like me? i really want this, its weird ebcasue ive had prior boyfriends, and thigns are just diffrent around him.


please help. im desperate, and i hate when people admitt that they are desperate&eharts;♥

hEy hUN! weLL to answer your first question... 13-15! aGe is just a number! thats definately not wrong! my last boyfriend was 4 years older then me! hMM well without flirting... isnt it kinda hard for a guy to know that you like him?! lOL... but in order for him to like you... be yourself! hAHA! your not desperate either.. you just really want a guy! who hasnt been in that situation?! if you only see him on fridays... ask him to hang out anotther day! he'll get to know you a little better... then chances are... he could lIKe you! ;) good luck!
xOxO, aL

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OKAY... please do not anwser this question unless you are 100% sure

Can you get pregnant if you havent had you period yet?!?!

Suprisingly, Yes you can! Remember, a woman's period is the END of her fertility cycle. This is happening because there was no egg and sperm meeting, so the blood lining the uterus is being discarded. But if you're having sex, your body is probably at the point that it is going to start your period shortly. Many girls have gotten pregnant because they had sex during their first egg cycle!
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14/female
I'm always jealous of other girls because I I know that their so much prettier than me. I'm even jealous of my friends. One of my friends is like so perfect: shes pretty, all the boys are like in love with her.. her life is just perfect all together. and i am SOO jealous! I reallly want to get over it but i dont know how. I'm constantly comparing myself to other people .. and i think that brings down my self-esteem.
i just want to stop being jealous because it just makes me feel worse about myself..

how do i stop being jealous? and is there anyone else out there who feels the same way ?

aww! jealousy is a bitch! everyone gets jealous! including me! its so easy to be jealous of the things you want... but cant have! you know what... im sure that there are plenty of things that people are jealous of you for! your gorgeous smile, your sense of humor, your fashion sense... etc... honestly there is going to be someone out there prettier then you, richer then you, or gets more guys then you... but hey~ thats the same for everyone... instead of dwelling on what you don't have... focus on what is good about yourself! HARD... i know! people especailly girls are never going to stop comparing themselves to others.. but focus on your good qualaties, and for your friend... im sure theres bad things about her to. nobodys perfect! so focus on what matters! good luck
xOxO, aL

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I'm 14. I'ma girl and I've been smoking for 2 years. Im a smoker and I like it and I know I'm not going to quit. I'm tired of hiding it and I want to smoke in the house with my mom like she does. I just dont know the best way to tell her. Should I just say it or should i write her a letter.

**K8e

I know you don't want to hear about the badness off smoking... so instead of saying that (which i really think you shouldnt be smoking) but that wasnt your question... tell her to her face. i know everything seems easier in a letter...because you dont actually have to "face" her... but it will be easier for you 2 to talk it out, comproimise and argue... haha! good luck!
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Does anyone know a specific place where you can buy grey leggings? Websites would help me out a great deal. I know they had them at Abercrombie kids but they're backordered. At A&F they don't carry grey. Help?

At HOLLister! i actually have a pair!
and A&F has DARK GRAY if you want ThaT?!
http://www.abercrombie.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?storeId=10051&catalogId=10901&parentCategoryId=12203&childCatgroupId=12203&categoryId=12269&productId=1&langId=-1
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Hey everyone. Well for New Years me and my one friend want to get drunk. Well, not drunk with alcohol but like maybe a caffeine high...play it safe. What are some drinks that have a lot of caffeine in them or any other drinks that get you really hyper...almost as if you were truley drunk. haha Thanks for the advice!

hAHA! you can't be drunk witout alcohol! theres no drink thats going to make you feel drunk unless its alcohol... caffiene isnt going to make you act differently like alcohol does... i gueess get some red bull, jolt energy drink or even take some caffiene pills.. haha have fun!
xOxO, aLeX

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my friend andrew wants to know if u finger a girl if she hasnt had her period is it bad or will anything happen?
thank you

Tell your friend Andrew that it's fine! Whats the big deal....!? Nothing different then a girl who has had her period!
xOxO, aLeX

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hey im having a christmas party in december, and were gonna do a gift exchange. each person is bringing one present, and will give it to another person. the problem is, a want a creative, fun way to have people choose which present they get, like a game. got any ideas?

i rate xoxo

well i did this last year... and we would # all of the gifts and put the # on top of it.. and then draw a # from a hat and the # you draw... you go and find that present that has that # on it.. and thats yours!
xOxO, aLeX

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I love Seth Green and his acting, and just about every movie I saw with him in it I liked (such as Without a Paddle, Rat Race, all the Austin Powers movies, etc.), so I was wondering if anyone saw the movie "Can't Hardly Wait". I want to see it, and I'm wondering what all your opinions are about it. I also want to know if it's an appropiate movie, like does it show "anything"? I know it's rated PG-13, but I'm just wondering if it has anything really bad in it, and I dont want to waste my money on a stupid movie.

Thanks so much! I rate fives and give feedback!

aHhH! fuNniest mOviE evER! i aM iN lOVe wiTh thAT moVie... tHe oLNly bad pArts arE some sexUAl tHinGs... buT iTs reallY gooD! i tOATllY rECComEnd iT!
xOxO, aLeX

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Do you think its wrong to be bisexual?

nOpE! nOt aT aLL! iTs perFeCtly noRmAL! doNt hIDe uR fEElIngS! you'll fEEl sO much bEttER! peoPle whO "thinK iTs sO wrOng" aRE jUsT jealous they cant hAve doUble tHe pEoPle to Like! lOl!
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ok i need a costume QUCIK!!


for halloween (duh) me and my friend....


easy and like cool :)


peace

be a cOwgIrL! if you have a hat! you dont even need boots... im sure u have a flannel shirt layin around so wear that and a hAt! but your hair in pigtails and you'll look totally sExY! hAVe fUn gIrlY!
xOxO, aLeX

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