hello i am a 25 year old mom, i am married to a wonderful man for 7 years. i have been there and done that, so i can answer alot of questions from experence.
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ok so heres the deal i got my upper cartilidge pierced 2 months ago n i never took it out. ive been cleanin it everyday n all but its definetly infected. so i tried takin it out today n i cant. theres a ball on it so i tried spinning it both ways but it wont come off.. anyone have anyideas??? (link)
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i would go back to where you got it done at and have them remove it, you may be allergic to whatever the metal is, ii wouls also see a doc for an antibotic
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I'm sorry this one is kinda long, but I reallly need help.
Okay so there is this kid, and i used to go out with him. He broke up with me and went out with this girl for a while. Then he broke up with her and a few weeks after he asked me out again. When I said no then, he went out with another girl and they broke up a few days ago. Well me and him both went to a new school this year (the same one) and I have been hanging out with him a lot more and I think I like him now, but I don't want to. I know it sounds weird but its true. And I think he likes his old ex because like everyone knows she still likes him, and the way he acts around her makes me thing he likes her too. I don't know what to do, should I act on my feelings, or should I just keep quiet until I'm sure. (link)
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i would make sure before i acted on anything, you may tell him then you get hurt because he decides to go out with his ex.
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OK, so I'm average height, average weight. My best best best best friend is this girl, let's call her Patricia. Well Patricia told my other friend "Lucy" that I was thinking of wearing a leotard for halloween, and that I would look fat in it.
Patricia doesn't know I know she said that, but Lucy told me. I'm scared to talk about it with Patricia because we have such a good time together and we see each other alot, but its kind of eating me up inside. She knows im sensitive to this subject because I was chubbier when I was younger.
What should I do? (link)
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you have to talk to her, maybe her friend she told it to bent the truth a little and you are upset for no real reason. so you need to hear her side of it so you dont just wonder whats going on. hopefully you will feel better then, i have learned that messages that are relayed from another person tend to be a little off from the truth.
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So i'm not the type of girl who has gone out with a lot of guys in high school....actually i have went out with zippo boys....but recently one guy has been acting strangly towards me. He and his friends keeps telling me his phone number and acts somewhat flirty around me, but the REAL thing im confused about is weather or not it's some joke with his friends to see what i do.....should i call him or just forget it? (link)
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i would get him away from his friends and simply ask him tell him what you think about him and tell him you dont want to waste your time on a joke, and see what he says. if he acts rude well at least you know and didnt waste your time.
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ok im a virgin and i am 18 and my boyfreind / fiance is 22 and he has had 4 partners prior to me. also he has told me he is pretty big down there (normal sized condoms wont fit him) i havent actually seen it yet, but i am a virgin. i havent had any kind of contact in a sexual way at all and i want to have sex with him because we are so in love and getting married soon and all, but im afraid he will be too big and it will hurt alot. is there anything that the two of us can do to make our first time togheter (and my first time ever) more pleasurable and less painful for us? (link)
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take it very slow, maybe even use something for lubrication, there is ky jelly, there is a new kind that is warming sensations, it is great me and my husband love it. you cant rush your first time, so he will have to be gentle, it may hurt a little at first but eventually it will feel great especially if he is well sized, you lucked out there..lol... but dont let that be an excuse for him to not use a condom, he can get magnums for the larger sized man.congrats o the engagement.
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I have been searching for tips on how to be veery well liked by just abou teveryone in school. When i was in 8th grade not a lot of people liked me i was kinda mean to people but thats becasue i didnt fit in. I am now in 10th grade and i wasnt to change for the better of me and my surroundings. When i am around people I have difficulties to start conversations and keep then goinggggg. Please help me i rate high (link)
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just be yourself, nobody wants a friend who appears fake, and you dont need friends who like you for something you really arnt. so just smile and be friendly and nice to everyone who is nice to you and you will see how it all just falls into place
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ok, my best friend and i have known each other since we were 2. we're actually a lot more like sisters, because we know everything about each other. we're now sophomores in high school, and she has yet to make one friend of her own. every friend she has was because i was friends with them first, which isnt a problem, but she needs to seriously be able to make her own friends. we have EVERY class together, and she just tags along. i never get a break from her. i cant stand her attitude, and if i hadnt have known her my whole life i probably wouldnt choose to be friends with her. she judges everyone and is just plain mean. i honestly need to get away from her but i cant, and i cant talk to her because shell just go crying to MY friends and try to get them to be on her side. what the hecks and i supposed to do!?!? (link)
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sounds like you just need to tell her how it is, if she dosent like it and she runs to your friends crying theyll quite possibly understand what you were upset about. if not maybe you need to find some new friends all together.
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i have a quick question. and i really want opinions.
ok so im just wondering, but would it be totally wrong to go out with your friend's ex boyfriend? i mean its happened to me a couple of times. I would go out with a guy, we would break up, and then he would go out with my friend. it hurt me a lot, but im over it now. Some people tell me its wrong to go out with a friend's ex, and some people tell me its alright to do it. aand im not sure. (link)
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i would talk to the friend, i guess it just depends on how close you all are. if you even get the slightest feling it bothers her i would definatly not do it. think of how you felt. alot of people will be like oh yeah im fine with it and it really isnt then it totally changes your friendship. and trust me no man is worth loosing a friend for, because when you all break up if you do then when you wanna go back to her and talk and be good friends again, she just might not be there for you.
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Ok...i waz goin out wit this kid named Ryan but he broke up wit like about 4 weeks ago.I have been tryen and tryen to move on but i juss cant.I have even tried to go out wit sumone else but it didnt work.We were in so much love i dont even kno wat happened.He told meh he wanted meh to move on and to find sumone better but i think thea is no one better than hym.It has seemed like he got over the fact that we are over bc he is already wit sumone else.I told hym i didnt like one thing about hym and it waz that he got stoned.So i talked to his best friend about it and i told her wat i waz thinken about sayen to hym and she told meh to do it bc if he realli loves meh then he wuld pick meh.So i told hym i didnt like the fact that he got stoned wen he waz wit meh so i wanted hym to pick meh or gettin high.And i even told hym mab he culd get stoned once in a while if i knew about it.And he told meh he had to think about it so i waz like ok and then he told meh his answer and he said i guess pot is more impotant.So i talked to hym about that answer and he said he only said it bc he wanted meh to move on and find sumone better.But i keep tellin hym over and over again that thea is none better than hym but he still wants meh to move on and to juss be friends,but i dont wanna be juss friends i still wanna be wit hym but i dont kno wat to say or do to get hym bak....i mean i love hym soo much and i dont realli think he knos it......plz help..wat shuld i do??¿¿ (link)
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well i think the thing that made him upsetis you wanted him to choose, men dont like altematemins. i dont blame you though, you were just caring about him and he didnt like it so he blew you off, you might be better off, it dosent seem like it now, but you are. if he is only 13 and already getting high, then who knows what he will be doing by twenty. i think you could do alot better, good luck.
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this is long. i rate high for good advice ;D
okay, i've known my best friend for about 4 1/2 years. were extremely close. i can tell her anything and shes the same way. were practically sisters. im a year older than her.
shes been going out with her boyfriend for about a year (they had their anniv. last weekend) , but theyre not that close at all. they only saw eachother twice over the summer, and each for like maybe an hour at the most. and i was there too. they dont act like bf & gf at all. they never go out, hang out, or even call eachother. yet, they act like their sooo in love. hes cheated on her like 3 times, and shes known about it. he even liked me before. she doesnt realize that she can do sooo much better than him. he always talks to her about getting married and stuff .. ( theyre in EIGHTH grade ) and i know she doesnt want that. shes not ready for a serious relationship. she still has years ahead of her to date and everything else. also, she wont stand up to him. if he does something to make her mad she wont say a thing about it. and after it gets bad enough, i will. im not the type of person to sit back and let people run over me, or other people. which causes fights, because he thinks its not my place to give him advice on his relationship, which i agree that its not. but if shes not going to do anything about it and shes not happy with him, then its just making her feel worse. i honestly think the reason she wont break up with him is because shes afraid of change. she'll feel empty or something when she knows shes not 'dating' him. also, practically all of his friends are girls, and he'll invite them to hang out before he will her. they've only been on one date without any of her or his friends. and they've barely kissed. and he doesnt even save her a seat at lunch, or talk to her between classes, or anything. hes so mean to all of her friends too, me in particular. once, he told her that if they got married and i came over that he would shoot me and tell the police i was breaking in. immature, i know. then he had the nerve to ask her if she'd divorce him after that. why would she want to be with him after that? hes really controlling. i want the best for her, and i know this isnt it. she knows i dont like their relationship, and no one else does either. i dont know why they stay together.. (link)
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i would serously have a heart to heart with your friend, maybe take her out other places and try and get her to meet other guys. this one sounds like a real looser, and sounds like its probley been more than 3 times he has cheated on her. other than talking to her thiough there isnt any way to change her mind for her, so hopefully she dosent have to get her heart broken the hard way. you are a good friend for caring so much, just continue to be a good one and be there for her when this will oviously happen to her.
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hi i think im beginning to have a crush on this boy Michael, Michael is a senior and I am a sophmore, I met Michael last year when my cousin who was a senior last year took me to a party at his house, it was in the winter and very snowy and we drank s we stayed there. everyone was downstairs playing beerpong and i was in his living room tired, about to passout and he sat on the other couch and talked to me, hes just naturally a really nice yet really popular kid. so yeah in school he usually makes eye contact with me but we havent really talked since last feb/march? so i went to the football game with a bunch of people and i saw him on the bus and he was lookin at me ( well i think) and so somehow i had balls today and IMed him saying "nice game last night" and he said "thanks, i still couldnt play though" and i said ohh yeah.. then we didnt talk and i dont want to IM him again, and he obviously knows who i am ( my sn basically says my name) i want him to kind of get the feeling i like him (rmember we dont talk) what should i do when i see him in the halls at school? thankss (link)
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i would just keep having short contact with him talk when you see him, smile alot, maybe some playful flirting. just act like yourself and let him see how cool you are. try and find out what he does in his spare time, and maybe happen to pop up at some of those event and make him see you are there by at least saying hi, the more he sees you, yhe more you will be on his mind.
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Okay tonight there was a dance and the boy i seriously fell in love with (we went out 3 times before) was there because he told me to go. When he got there he said hi and gave me a hug and we talked for like 3 minutes. Then a girl he was recently with came and then she was ALL over him and the girl hates me. So whenever i looked over toward them she'd like hold onto him and start makin out with him! it was totally rude and after I saw them holding hands and stuff I got really dizzy, i stared into space half the time, i was mopey, and ididnt wanna talk to anyone and i felt like i was gonna throw up. I dont know what to do now because I seriously love this kid. 5 for answer to what i should do (but 1's for queer ones.) k thanks (link)
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sounds like that girl was really trying to mees with you, shame on her for that, sounds like maybe she felt threatened with you around. i would suggest try and stay friends with this guy, let im know you are there for him and leave it at that if you are a good friend and dont try and press any dating ideas i belive he will come around after he has been with duds and realise who truely cares for him, if not his loss at least you could still have a good friend.
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ok so this guy who i L-O-V-E !! found out i liked him by my friend (i wasnt mad or nething cause i KIND OF told her to). he told me he knew nd i was like yea bla bla bla. then he said i think for rite now we should b friends cause i dont kno ut hat well. so im like ok about a week l8er he told me i should kinda of get over it because he wasnt going to ask me out netime soon (that may seem harsh but im not adding EVERY single detail, so trust me it was fine ). i told him i kinda got over it that week. he said ok good bla bla bla. i rlly wasnt over him at all thou. i tried to b nd tried to like someone else, but couldnt. but now he, like a week l8er weve become real close and stuff and he flirts with me like CRAZY!!!! its sooooo much flirting! lol and i flirt back and all. were turning into "cute" friends.
so should i see if he likes me by asking him, having a mutual friend find out, leave it alone, give it more time (ahh the hardest thing ever) which?
thank you so much. c ya
btw-im a girl in 7th grade nd hes a guy in 7th grade whos 9 months younger than me (link)
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i would give it time since he has already said what he did about taking it slow. when you are in 7th grade you change your mind about every 30 min, so just when you think he likes you and he probley does, but then a buddy could ask him to play ball with him and he will go not say good bye, and most likely mean nothing mean about it, its just how 7th grade boys are. at that age girls are not a priority at all, girls mature alot quicker so they are just getting those emotional likeing boy feeling. so i wouls give it time and not get to upset when he seems no so interested.
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Ok I accedently ordered books from Scholastic (BIG MISTAKE!) and didn't pay for them because I didn't know it. Now they sent me a letter from a collection agency and they want me to pay! But I got on their web site and contacted them but they never responded and I couldn't renew my order! What can i do!?!?!? Please I WILL RATE EVERY 1 5's!!! SWEAR! 13/f (link)
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welll did you get the books, if you did i would suggest making even $5 payments if you can. but leagally they cant hold you to that bill, you are a minor, now they could hold your parents responsible though, so i would suggest you take care of it before they start getting those collection letters.
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im gay and i want to tell my perants that im gay i know my dad would accept it but my mom would beat my @SS so what can i do to get my mom to accept me?? (link)
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well ushally its the dad you have to deal with on a issue like this, so i think you have luck on your side. just be honest with her either she accepts it or not, you have to just go for it otherwise it will eat you up inside to have such a big secreat . you cant help how you feel and who you are s i would try to talk but if she cant understand let you know you love her, but i would let her be for a while and not try and pressure her for acceptance, eventually she will come around.
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Ok so i have a friend Maria and i have a crush Adam. I have liked Adam for so long and one day Adam telles my bestfriend Maria that he likes her. I am totally emotianal. What should i do? I need serious advice on this one.
~Andrea~ (link)
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i would talk to maria, she is supposed to be your best friend so i am assuming she knows how you feel for adam. unfortunatly we all cant help who we like. so does she like him??? i do know i would not let a guy interfere with my friend, unless of corse she has been doing some flirtingback and disreguarding your feelings. so i think i would just get all the facts before i got to upset and then talk to maria. probley the best advice i have ever been given for the many times i was in your same situation is, you cant make someone like you, so dont let it hurt you when they dont.
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Is 8 weeks excessive for my fiance's disruptive parents to come and stay with their 47 year old batchelor son? The father in law is critical and mean to my fiance and I can't stand to be around someon with all that negative energy. I am 35 and female. This is a major interuption to our normal lives. My finance allows them to stay with him to avoid hurricane season in their home area of Florida. I need help! (link)
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i really feel for you, and yes i think that is extreamly excesive 8 weeks, omg i think i would go nuts if my mother in law stayed with me for 8 weeks. i would have a serious talk with my man and not try to tell him what to do but definatly let him know that you feel with you guys getting ready to start your life together, you need your privacy.by the age of 47 i would hope he was able to talk to his parents and explain what is wrong, unless it dosent bother him and if it dosent you have a whole nothr set of issues to deal with. i had to stay with my mother in law with my husband and son for about 3 weeks a few years ago, and let me tell you i did everything not to kill the woman, and we ushally get along well. i ll tell you what i got more motivation than i have ever had in my life to get the hell out of there,lol.maybe you could suggest that as an option, you could go stay somewhere and let him have all that quality time with his parents, and then see how long that lasts. good luck
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ok i really like this really hot guy and i used to think he was an idiot. i have now realised he isnt an idiot and actually has a lot in commen with me. i think he likes me because not only does he always look kind of pleased when i laff at his jokes but he sometimes tries to hard to make it look like he doesnt like me. like, i will ask him what he got on his math test and he will say "96" or something and i will be like, i got 100 and he just sas "i dont care what you got" like he is being defencive. i tell another guy what i got on the same test and he will be like, omigosh you got 100!? he has a kindof hard imige where you dont let annything out but he told me he sometimes watches sunsets off his deck and i should see it. i have never asked a guy out before but theres a first for everything so i was wondering if you guys could help me know what to say? thanx i rate high (link)
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well first of all i think you should try to be as alone as possible when you do ask him that way its less pressure from othrs around you, and definatly dont write a note and ask. i would suggest doing somethying really casual with him where it wont be the two of you and thats it kind of make it like a hang out as friends thing, then you can see how things will be from that first friendly date. if he acts really into you, and directs all of his or well say most of his attention twords you then i say hes hot for you. all my guy friends have told me they love when a girl asks them out, they feel less nervous, so bonus points will definatly be earned there, good luck.
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Lately I have been having thoughts of suicide. Like I used to have it once a month or once every two months, but now it's almost everyday. I even think about how I would do it, how it would feel, what I would say in my suicide note(I have even written one out), I think how my funeral would be and all, I like thinking about it. It gives me a thrill. I know this sounds sick and weird, but it's how I feel. Then there is another part of me that wants to live, that's trying so hard to fight back, but this other side of me is taking over so fast and Im afraid it will lead me somewhere I dont really want to do. I am seeing a therapist now, have told her everything, but Im just so scared it could be any day now. Just tonight my boyfriend was over and while he lay sleeping on the couch I got up and went into the kitchen and grabbed a bottle of pills, I think I would have done it but then I thought about him and reached into the drawer and cut myself to relieve myself from the anxiety and tension. After I cut I didn't want to commit suicide anymore and I felt better. Could someone try to explain what they thin kI might have? I am so depressed and so scared. (link)
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wow, well i am really glad you are seeing a therapist.my mother used to have thought of suicide the whole time i was grownig up. well by the time i got out of the house she got really bad and she overdosed, well they put her in some treatment. she was diagnosed as manic depresant. i dont know if that is what you are experencing but i think it would be worth checking out. some of the signes she had was severe spurts of depression, i mean at times ahe would just sit in her room for days, and at other times she was extreamly happy, but the moods changed so much you never knew how she was gonna be. wether that is what you have or not i would definatly say you have alot of depression issues. and if you are cutting on yourself, i think you need to enroll in e treatment facility, a therapist alone can not tackle those problems thereself, you need to be monitered at all times diagnosed and a solution figured out. i wish you luck, and hope you can find the strength to get the help you need.
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Okay guys! I've been dating a guy for 3 months and I love him more than anything in the world! He promised me he would never leave me and for once in my life, I BELIEVE A GUY.OKay well we're both virgins and I think he wants to boost it up a little.How do I prepare for all that? If anything happens anytime soon...I want to be ready and things to go really good.Help!
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wow, well first thing is you need to make sure that you are truely doing it because you really want to , and not just because he does. i mean its a one time thing once you loose your virginity theres no turning bck, so reallythink about it. now if you are sure then, i would just make it very romantic, something to remeber forever, candles, music, the whole nine yards, good luck to you, and remeber.....PROTECTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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