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in laws duration of visit
Is 8 weeks excessive for my fiance's disruptive parents to come and stay with their 47 year old batchelor son? The father in law is critical and mean to my fiance and I can't stand to be around someon with all that negative energy. I am 35 and female. This is a major interuption to our normal lives. My finance allows them to stay with him to avoid hurricane season in their home area of Florida. I need help!
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i really feel for you, and yes i think that is extreamly excesive 8 weeks, omg i think i would go nuts if my mother in law stayed with me for 8 weeks. i would have a serious talk with my man and not try to tell him what to do but definatly let him know that you feel with you guys getting ready to start your life together, you need your privacy.by the age of 47 i would hope he was able to talk to his parents and explain what is wrong, unless it dosent bother him and if it dosent you have a whole nothr set of issues to deal with. i had to stay with my mother in law with my husband and son for about 3 weeks a few years ago, and let me tell you i did everything not to kill the woman, and we ushally get along well. i ll tell you what i got more motivation than i have ever had in my life to get the hell out of there,lol.maybe you could suggest that as an option, you could go stay somewhere and let him have all that quality time with his parents, and then see how long that lasts. good luck
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In any normal circumstances I would say yes. But, since he lets them stay for a reason such as avoiding a dangerous situation then probably not.
Sounds like it is something that probably won't change...even after you marry. You will probably have to get used to it or forget it all together.
Your fiance needs to learn to stand up to his father, especially since he is staying in his home. The old "you will do as I say so long as your under my roof" adage works on parents too!
If your fiances parents are able to afford it, he really should suggest they rent their own place during hurricane season. 8 weeks can seem like a long time if everyone doesn't get along.
Is he an only child? If not then maybe he should suggest they spend time with other members of the family as well. Aunts, uncles, cousins...anyplace but yours.
If all else fails, and you live with your fiance...maybe you could make arrangements to be elsewhere for 8 weeks. Maybe he'd get tired of it after a week or two and send them packing. :)
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HEY! well i think u could try to get an apartment for them or somthin soo they can move out lol thats all i got hope i helped xOxOx//♥\
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Hey chica, I understand how family members can be annoying and crude, especially when you can't do anything about it to change the situation in the first place. However, over the problems in Florida, its best to try and make the best of it. No one expected these occurences in the lower half of the U.S. Try maintaining your temper and stability around them. If they tend to annoy you too much, go to your bedroom and try going to sleep. Fill in your days with projects if you can, example: instead of walking the dog for only 2 blocks, walk him maybe 5-6 blocks; instead of having the computer in the livingroom, move it to the bedroom; put a sterio/radio in your bedroom, I'm not saying close yourself into your bedroom, however, make it suitable to where if they aggravate you too much, you can blow it off quickly/easily just by having things to do. Try having "family night" once a week, go out to watch a new movie, doesn't matter what its about, just go and see if you all will like it. Go shopping, out to eat, try anything that could possibly make things either for all of you. Best of luck chica! *MuaHz*
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well, i think i can help you out, when someone is mean, rude, or annoying you dont want to be around them. am i right? well since they will be staying for 8 weeks against your will the best thing to do is to make them have fun, dont give them a reason to be any of those, i know it will be hard but maybe you should try to do something fun with them, the 4 of you. like go to a movie, let them pick, or go to a restaurant, or make a few nice family meals. when they are annoying you, just make an excuse that you have to go somewhere or get something done. or maybe you 4 should sit down and set some ''rules'' or ''guide lines'' it may be hard at first but just let them know how you feel about it, im sure in the end it will all be better.
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