im curious to know how it is to have sex without a condem. i hear it feels a whole lot better. i knoww this is a risky thing..but is it ture first of all? and second..if i try it on the last day of period..will that be ok? or is it a myth that ththats the safest time. birth control info is also greatly appreciated. can i get it without parents knowing?
l0lz, well theres a bunch of questions for ya;; on your first question, it feels wonderful without a condom (trust meee). Second of all, every chica is different. You can still have you period and be able to get pregnant, so if you do decide to go without a condom, make sure your both clean, healthy and if he decides to bust a nut (in other words - cum) then be sure to have him pullout. This however does NOT protect you from pre-cum that is automatically ejaculated from the penis when it is aroused, yes - you can still get pregnant from pre-cum. Third of all, you can go to the nearest "Planned Parenthood" around you, have an exam done and get birth control, depending on where you live however. Or you can go to your nearest drug store/drug pharmacy, Rite-Aid for example.
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Ok... here's the situation...
I'm a senior in high school (17 female) ...I have a crush on one of my teachers (25 male) ... hes cute and funny and all that... we're really good friends and many of my close friends seem to think he likes me back... but im not sure ... to get to the point ... my question is that would it be considered un-ethcial for us to go out after i was to graduate?
l0lz, chica, unless your in school and dating your teacher, THEN it would be unethical. But obviously you got your head in the right place and know when the steps should be taken. After graduation is perfectly fine, he wouldn't be your teacher anymore for one and for second, the correct term would be "he WAS your teacher". l0lz, good luck for you sweetie! I wish you the best *MuaHz*
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Lizzie Gracie and Nermonie are in a big fight. Nermonie and Gracie are on the same side. Nermonie got a hold of Lizzie's diary and photocopied the page that had all the guys she'd love to date on it then made flyers with her biggest secrets and that list and handed them out to everyone in our grade. It didn't stop there. Nermonie and Gracie made a rumor that Lizzie and her sister masterbate together and finger each other. Everytime Lizzie walks down the halls all the guys hold up a finger and say " Hey Liz, we worship you, " or something like " Finger your sister latley? " Its gotten way outta hand. I asked gracie what her deal was, and she said " Nothing, Lizzie didnt do anything. I just dont like her" Lizzie is my best friends, and I wanna help her. She cries everyday, shes sucha strong person, and very sweet to everyone, but with everyone giving her the dirty looks, holding up the fingering sign, talking bad about her to her face she just cant take it.
I wanna know what I should do to help, everynight I called her and she cries to me for hours about what somebody did to her that day. How can I end this, she never did anything. Please help
Well... You know what they say, "Paybacks a bitch". Personally, an average person would want to just beat the living shit out of a person who would do this but from the sounds of it, your friend isn't the type to fight;; soo, do it the old fashioned way because you got two choices - 1) go to the principle or administrator and tell them everything about the situation. This is also called the "snitch-hitch" where you snitch and basically people either think A) shes a tattle-tale or B) leave her alone or else you might get kicked out of school. However, if you truly-truly and I mean truly want to help your friend, you'll have to take risks. Payback is a bitch && Karma's a mothafucka. Basically what I'm saying, the same thing they did to your friend, flip the scipt right back on them just in a different way. Make bulletins, signs, not flyers, do anything and everything- easy, quick and clever to get back at them. Your friend sounds like a real sweet person, and noone should be taken advantage of like that. The choice is up to you. Talking about it and planning a scheme together would help, trust me.. l0lz. I wish you two the best of luck.
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Someone who sits next to me in one of my classes ONLY talks about herself. ALWAYS! She'll ask how I am and stuff, and even if I say "Not so good.." she'll say "Oh my gosh! I was crying all last night because Andrew (bf) said he can't trust me and idk what to do." It annoys me so much. And it's all dramatic stuff. One day she's bragging about her huge basket of valentine candy and the next she has red eyes from crying all night.
She came in class one day and said "Omg someone told me to leave and I asked why and they said because I always bring drama to the group and I don't!" How do I deal with this?
There will always be a sour apple in the bunch. Be straight forward. Don't lie, just tell her, shes annoying and is truly a flat-out drama queen. Theres really no sweet way of telling a person they're completely annoying, so go with whatever flows out.
Best Drama-Free Wishes~!.. (l0lz)
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My friend has gone through a lot lately. Her mom had breast cancer and went through kemo. Now her dad has cancer and has to go through kemo. How can I help her and her family?
At this point the best thing for you to do it stay by her side. Thats all you really can do. Her parents are going through such a hard situation where undoubtedly it is carrying their daughter right along with them throughout the whole ordeal. Having one parent be diagnosed with cancer is one thing, the treatment is a whole other thing;; worst part of it is, shes having to deal with it coming from BOTH parents. Try talking to her about it, if shes comfortable; talk to her about things that will help her take it off her mind; take her out as much as you can, although she will most likely want to always stay by her parents side. When shes not with them, take her to the movies, bowling even bingo. Just do silly things. Don't forget along each minute that passes she will be thinking "Is this the minute my mom/dad is going to die?"; be ready to buy a load of tissue boxes and have a ton of soaked shoulders. This is no easy job. Give her all the words of encouragement, go to your local library, rent out books with quotes or better yet, print a few out; including poems.
When it comes to her family, the best thing you can possibly to for them; is doing what you're doing right now, keeping them in your prayers; visiting as often as you can and giving them all the treats && goodies they want. Don't forget to throw a few kicks && giggles for old times sake~!
Best Of Luck~!
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okay well, i have a boyfriend who has had a lot of expierence with making out and i want to make out with him. but i have no idea how. don' say "just go with the flow" because that doesn't help. pleaseee helppp meeee. i rate 5's to anyone who tries!♥
Heyz,
Usually all chicas are scared and maybe even a little intimidated if they have a boyfriend who has more or even more advanced experience in that "sexual" way, no matter if its actually doing the deed or kissing. For most people though, whether they hold the skill or not, kissing comes easy when/once they're in a comfortable and pleasing enviroment. Here's a site that should help you: http://www.theromantic.com/kissing/frenchkiss.htm
Best Kisses!
*MuaHz*
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My bestfriend and her boyfriend have been together for about 4 months now. Problem is: he says he likes me! And I'm kind of into him too! I don't know what to do, thats like my bestfriend. I sure don't want to ruin our friendship but oh my goodness I am really into this boy!
Chica.. you have to realize that you are seriously playing with fire. Although guys can be VERY tempting, majority of the time, they're seriously not worth it/the trouble. Ask yourself if the friendship is worth more than the temptation. Always keep in mind also.. "What they do with you, is what they'll do to you."
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sorry this is long, but plz help!
this sounds like a total classic! anyway i have
this friend named "tyler", and we've been friends for about 2 years now. in the begining, he liked me as just a friend, then he said he liked me {like puppy love}, and now he says he's in love with me. i feel the same way, and yes, i've told him that. however, im a sarcastic person, and he says that when i say "i love you" he can't believe i'm serious. this just bugs me, because i am! i've even asked him what would i have to do to prove it? he says he wants me to be his girlfriend, but he wants to wait awhile, possibly somewhere around a year. but i can't wait that long! i've flirt with him all the time and he still doesn't get it. i know he's a little scared, because he has never had a girlfriend and has never kissed anyone. but what can i do to prove once and for all that i'm not joking? should i make the first big move? and if so what should i do? and what sould i not do?
thanx= i rate high
sorry it was long!
I know how you feel! I fell head over heels with my bestfriend Craig and he felt the same way but was scared of the commitment, now? We've been together for 8 months and counting. I did whatever I had to do to try and get him and even that didn't work. But when I was just about to give up on getting him, thats when he realized what he had and that was when he went for me. My advice to you..
Be sure that your really in love with him and realize that if you make any move the friendship is on the line. But if you truly love this one, you'll do whatever you need to get him. Don't be scared to get him caught on the hook, do what you gotta do to prove to him how you feel but also be patient with him. If hes not ready now, and you try to force him into it, he could fall a stray when you guys start going out and that'll bring too many problems. Sooner or later if he doesn't go for it when you've done everything in your power, you'll eventually begin to give up and thats when all of it will hit him dead in the face. He'll realize what he has and realize he was such an idiot for not seeing/noticing what you were all doing for him (just like my sweetieboo). I wish you all the luck in the world and baby-chica, in the end he'll be worth the trouble, I promise!
!*xOxOx*!
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I have a problem. I cannot seem to stop eating. I at times have control over what I eat, but on the weekends when I have time on my hands, I eat a lot. Today, I said to myself that I would not eat a whole bunch and I did anyway. I am not sure what is causing me to do this, but I could use some tips to stop stuffing my face all of the time. It will start when I am hungry, but then I don't stop after I am satisfied.
AHHHH!
I rate high for good advice.
Alot of people have this problem, and many don't realize it, so its an excellent thing that you have realized it. You say that when you have time on your hands that seems to be the time when you eat alot, this could be because your bored in all that extra time- so try to keep busy throughout everything. Make sure its somewhere where your comfortable with your enviroment, your very well entertained but NOT at home. When people are at home they often get a sense they can do whatever they want, but in this case you have to dicipline yourself. Keep yourself busy.
As for continuously eating further after your satisfied, try eating between times but at a very small amount. Try not to "stuff" yourself to where your stomach gets full. The less you eat will help your stomach adjust to this small amount causing your stomach to tighten up on the inside. In other words, it'll get a little smaller and the more you try to eat, you'll get too full to eat it and this is a great help. It helps dignify what your limits are on your intake of food.
Best of luck! *MuaHz*
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School has started an I'm totally warped. I have been with my boyfriend for about three and a half motnhs. Only problem is, I think his brother likes me. I'm not retarded I kno when a guy is interested. he walks down my hallway just to see me because i know for a fact that his class is on the whole other side of the school. on top of that before lucnh, hes in my lunch, but anyways, before lunch he'll walk in with me with his arm over my shoulder or holding my hand. when i'm sitting or walking across the lunchroom i can feel his eyes on me and if i glance at him hes looking at me and then looks at something else, I've caught him quite a few times doing this. you know how u can just tell? its crazy. on top of this and you might be a little mad, but I kind of like him too! I don't know what it is because I really care about my boyfriend and then heres his brother!
Ohhhhh chica, this is a BIG BIG BIG NO-NO!!! I can understand that your diggin this guy but then you also have to understand if hes trying to make a move on you WHILE your going out with HIS brother, look at not only how disrespectful that is, but realize how much that would seriously fuck up your boyfriend and his brother's relationship. Its not worth the drama chica, no one can help who their attracted to, however they can help their actions. If you go for this guy (no matter how tempted you are), it will really screw things up. Its obvious he's diggin you too, but then again he has to remember if it weren't for his brother he wouldn't have met you or got to know you like he does now, and last but not least, your his brother's chica. Not his. Going with him is the ultimate LOWEST thing you could do to your boyfriend and the LOWEST he could do to his brother. Chica, don't do it. You have to make a decision, is it worth the drama or does your boyfriend mean more to you than anything.
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ok i really like this really hot guy and i used to think he was an idiot. i have now realised he isnt an idiot and actually has a lot in commen with me. i think he likes me because not only does he always look kind of pleased when i laff at his jokes but he sometimes tries to hard to make it look like he doesnt like me. like, i will ask him what he got on his math test and he will say "96" or something and i will be like, i got 100 and he just sas "i dont care what you got" like he is being defencive. i tell another guy what i got on the same test and he will be like, omigosh you got 100!? he has a kindof hard imige where you dont let annything out but he told me he sometimes watches sunsets off his deck and i should see it. i have never asked a guy out before but theres a first for everything so i was wondering if you guys could help me know what to say? thanx i rate high
Try taking it extra slow chica, so it gives him space (incase he's scared) and also gives you time to figure him out... instead of asking him out on a date, do a variety of activities that you both would enjoy. Halloween's coming up, try making a "dummy" together. Plan a little pizza party between you and him with your and his little brothers/sisters, or even your friends, as long as both of you are comfortable with it. Try getting a movie you both would like to watch, invite him over or go over his house to watch it. Play against eachother in a game of basketball, ask him to go to the store with you or say your trying to tone out your body and ask him if he would like to walk with you... hope this helps... good luck chica, *MuaHz*
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Well i need peoples opinions... ok so there is this kid that i like lets call him fred.. well today in the morning fred came over to talk to me... (i like fred and he knows that i like him) and he stayed talking to me for a while.. and then he said ill be right back and then you saw him walking with someone else and like he like ditched you for her... and like he has ditched you before.. and you have talked to him about it before and how it gets you upset.. should i be hurt? mad? that hes kinda ignoring me and always going to he? please help me.. 14/f
Now lil chica, what ever happens, you cannot get upset about this (although all chicas do), your not with him, in other words, he's not your boyfriend and your not his girlfriend (yet). So keep doing you and find a guy to talk to while he talks to another chick, notice his reaction...w/b
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Okay. Well I recently got back together with my ex. He asked me back out and said he had missed me and all of this stuff. And that he was happy we were back together. He was all like, "I regret breaking up with you." Lalala.. You get the picture. Well, now that we're back together... he never calls or anything. He has a cell phone, he could call any time he wasn't busy (which he is a lot... he juggles work and school and the crap his parents make him do.) Well what I don't understand is... if she cares about me the way he says he does... wouldn't he at least call sometime??? or I mean, geez... I dunno. I'm just confused. Is he secretly trying to say, "Hey, I don't think this is gonna work?" or do all boys do this? Lol
He could be seriously busy or he could also be handing you the cold shoulder. Your best luck is to call him, if you don't call him or talk to him to see whats goin on, it could cause misunderstanding, hurt feelings and anger. He could be too busy and too tired to feel like talking, or he could be too busy and just doesn't want to let you go but knows he can't give you the attention you deserve therefore, he's trying to avoid the situation where he knows he'll have to break it off in giving the best interest for you... try calling him chica. As a matter of fact, stop reading this right now and get the phone. I hope all goes well... *MuaHz*
p.S. let me know what happens!
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hi. well, i have a younger sister. shes 2 years younger than me, and i have a problem. my bedtime this year is 10, and last year it was 10:30 [wtf..] and i even told my mom but of course all shed say was "10 is good for me..hey a bug." and whenever i get something my younger sister gets it the same year! like our allowances have been the same our whole lives, and they started when i was like 9 and she was 7. AND the year i got a cell phone SHE DID!! and i just know shes gunna get an ipod this year like i did over the summer with my own money. i hate this crap. it isnt fair that i have to wait 2 more years than her to get the same stuff she does. how do i aproach my mom? **NOTE: she ALWAYS says "because i said so" -or- "u always are complaining"
Well, if this is such a big problem try talking to your mother about it. Make her listen well enough to where your able to say "Mom, I'm older and trying to set an example for (your little sister's name) but I can't do that when me and her are being treated as if we're the same age". Yeah, 2 years isn't much of a gap however, no one wants the same type of attention the other one gets. You want your own set of things from your parents, however, them doing this could be in the best for you and your little sister "equality" making sure you guys to get upset about getting one thing but not getting what the other one got... you have to talk to your mother about or even try your dad. Best of luck, *MuaHz*
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my so called friend knew i liked this boy, she was even talking about me liking him to somebody else. and my friend found out that i liked him, and she's being stirring rumours that arent true and she found out that the boy i like has alot of common things with me and she is trying to be his perfect image which is me i recently found out that they are going out what should i do
i dont understand why she didnt want to tell me to see how i feel about it
and now the person that i found out that she thinks there is something going on between me and him
she was saying to me the other day she's moving to california after her degree
help please i am hurt and confused
Obviously this chick that didn't even bother getting the heads up from you on this guy is a childish brat. Don't let her beat you down, yeah you might like this boy, you could try looking for another one, right? However, when you have to deal with the rumors and constant drama about it, you only become more competitive about it. If you really dig this guy, see how things go between your friend and him first, if there is about the slightest problem between them, move in quick, though this could take a day or could take months to years if your the desperate enough to wait. Or you could even try talking to him about what she's doing, that may take some courage but it just might make him realize that he's seriously going out with the wrong chica. While talking about it, mention things about you that can make him get to know you without over doing yourself or making it a little too obvious. Be careful, some guys can be dogs, but if you really want this one, go for it. Gotta take risks and fight for what we want right? However, if you don't want to make a big deal out of it, its better off just dropping it and leaving it alone.
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Is 8 weeks excessive for my fiance's disruptive parents to come and stay with their 47 year old batchelor son? The father in law is critical and mean to my fiance and I can't stand to be around someon with all that negative energy. I am 35 and female. This is a major interuption to our normal lives. My finance allows them to stay with him to avoid hurricane season in their home area of Florida. I need help!
Hey chica, I understand how family members can be annoying and crude, especially when you can't do anything about it to change the situation in the first place. However, over the problems in Florida, its best to try and make the best of it. No one expected these occurences in the lower half of the U.S. Try maintaining your temper and stability around them. If they tend to annoy you too much, go to your bedroom and try going to sleep. Fill in your days with projects if you can, example: instead of walking the dog for only 2 blocks, walk him maybe 5-6 blocks; instead of having the computer in the livingroom, move it to the bedroom; put a sterio/radio in your bedroom, I'm not saying close yourself into your bedroom, however, make it suitable to where if they aggravate you too much, you can blow it off quickly/easily just by having things to do. Try having "family night" once a week, go out to watch a new movie, doesn't matter what its about, just go and see if you all will like it. Go shopping, out to eat, try anything that could possibly make things either for all of you. Best of luck chica! *MuaHz*
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okay so i want to make a myspace but i have no idea what to do. i know how to go there and all that but what are some main tips and stuff for making it. also where is a place to get layouts? and when i find one where do i put it!
thanks i know its a lot but thanks!
This should help you out alot, thats how I hooked my profile up on myspace... http://206.225.92.10/myspace/
You can check out mine or my boyfriends cuz I helped design his too...
Http://www.myspace.com/Swe3ti3
Http://www.myspace.com/finalnight7
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We have a dance committee at our school. These 2 girls were on the committee last year so theyre all "oh im controllin everyone cuz I know what I'M doin" and the two girls are trying to kick me, my cousin, and 4 other girls. The other girls are even their friends! its rediculous. The have something against me and cousin cousin because my cousin hates one of them and one time the other girls brother almost ran me over and then i told the girlabout it and she flipped out on me saying she wouldnt of cared if I got ran over. What can I do so me and my other friends and my cousin dont get kicked out? other people from the committee want THEM kicked out.
*****and, do you think it's wrong theyre trying to kick us out for dumb reasons like that?
Well, if they're on the committee and acting like that, get proof of what they're saying to you. Catch them writing a note talking about you and your cousin, have your cousin or a friend who doesn't like them but they don't realize that, to be down enough to write on of them and get them to write your friend back talking about trying to get you guys get kicked out.
Another suggestion is getting all the witnesses that KNOW they said it and bring them to your Principle's office or Guidance Counselor's office, I would say try the Principle's because they could kick them out for sure. Those are my best suggestions for ya so far, hope all goes well chica! *MuaHz*
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this guy i've just met he jokes around a lot. he told me that he loved me but i think hes jsut jokin around but hes like i really do oh yeah but he don't really kno me yet. what should i do?
Just plain out tell him that those worlds have a big meaning and if you don't feel those words, then they obviously don't mean anything. Let him know that if/when you want him to say them you want him to actually mean them instead of thinking love can be replaced by attraction. If he doesn't know you and he's saying those words, he obviously doesn't know the true value of love. You can't love someone you hardly know, love is about knowing a person who and what they are, inside and out and actually accepting them for them and not at all want to change any of it....
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ive been crazy about this one guy for 3 yrs! THREE YEARS! well my feelings have been on and off but i usually like him. i mean i only dated my ex to get him jealous (i know thats mean = \ )
anways this guy, nick, always says we'll get together and stuff but just leads me on and plays games. im fed up with it. should i just stop talkin 2 him completly? i want to so i wont get hurt anymore.. but i dont because hes a REALLY good friend = \
what do you think? thanks!!
Honestly chica, you should really drop him no matter how crazy you are about him. Your feelings are more important to you and your life than a guy who wants to lead you on and play games with your head. This type of thing is SOOOOOO hard to accomplish just because that drive to have him and that attraction for him is so strong, however, this is something you have to overcome. Play the game before the game plays you, you being in this and your vulnerability in this only leads you to playing your own self... best of luck and hopefully my words were words of encouragement... *MuaHz*
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