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hi. well, i have a younger sister. shes 2 years younger than me, and i have a problem. my bedtime this year is 10, and last year it was 10:30 [wtf..] and i even told my mom but of course all shed say was "10 is good for me..hey a bug." and whenever i get something my younger sister gets it the same year! like our allowances have been the same our whole lives, and they started when i was like 9 and she was 7. AND the year i got a cell phone SHE DID!! and i just know shes gunna get an ipod this year like i did over the summer with my own money. i hate this crap. it isnt fair that i have to wait 2 more years than her to get the same stuff she does. how do i aproach my mom? **NOTE: she ALWAYS says "because i said so" -or- "u always are complaining"
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Age isn't the factor that parents should use in deciding what priviliges to bestow upon their children. Maturity is. I don't know you, but I guaranty you that the moment you get control over your jealousy, your parents will see it and begin to trust you more. Objectively take a look at yourself. Do you complain a lot? Do you whine or pout when things don't go your way? Do you shout or do you respond with respect? I do understand what you're saying. It does seem like it may be a case of trying to pacify little sister, but what you need to remember is this: with more privilige comes more responsibility. How do you handle your current responsibilities? The Bible says he that is faithful in little things will be faithful in much. God gives two commands to children: obey you parents and honor your parents. If you do these things, then God is pleased.
--ByReasonofUse
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say something like...
"Mom, ____ is 2 years younger than me and do you really think its fare for her to get everything I do?"
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I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND..MOMS ARE LIKE THAT!i think you should CALMLY explain to you mom that it just isnt right that she gets all these
( keyword -> ) PRIVILAGES. you need to say you think it would be more (avoid the word fair)appropriate for her to wait a couple years just like you did. say mom, i really feel like i am the same age as her and get the same things ...you no its like a 13 year old playing with barbie dolls...i just doesnt happen. say thats how i feel. i want to have more privalages i am getting to a stage where i am entering or am in (i dont no about you) where i liek freeedom and separation and differnces from my siblings. last line ( it may sound cheese but it works!) mom i really hope you understand.
good luck!
xoxomadeline xoxolindsay
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Well, if this is such a big problem try talking to your mother about it. Make her listen well enough to where your able to say "Mom, I'm older and trying to set an example for (your little sister's name) but I can't do that when me and her are being treated as if we're the same age". Yeah, 2 years isn't much of a gap however, no one wants the same type of attention the other one gets. You want your own set of things from your parents, however, them doing this could be in the best for you and your little sister "equality" making sure you guys to get upset about getting one thing but not getting what the other one got... you have to talk to your mother about or even try your dad. Best of luck, *MuaHz*
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2 years isnt that big of a differece. i am 2 years younger then my sister. and things are pretty much the same for us. but if it bothers you that much sit your mother down and tell her that you feel that you are being treated unfair. if talkin to her maturely doesnt work, try the silent treatment(i know sounds a little imature)moms hate it.
hope i can help
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