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im gay and i want to tell my perants that im gay i know my dad would accept it but my mom would beat my @SS so what can i do to get my mom to accept me??
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Dear How,
I know what you are going through i went through the same thing but once you tell your mom it may take a couple days for her to accept you the only thing she could do is not accept it but it's your life not her and if she does hit you all you have to do is call the police and tell them what happened
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i'm not sure ?
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If your mother would literally hit you, then you need to think seriously about whether or not it is safe to tell her. Your options include only telling your father (if you can trust him to not tell your mother), telling a school guidance counsellor your concerns so you have outside support, etc.
Time and love can make parents accept most things. Unfortunately, many parents wrongly think being gay is not okay - but of course it's normal and healthy. If you choose to tell you mom, it might take her awhile to get used to it. After all, she's probably pictured your life in her head, and this might not be what she pictured.
Make sure you've got a strong support network around you, and that will help things as well.
Very best of luck.
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Hey,
If your mom cares about you a lot and loves you a lot like she says she does. And if she also wants you to be happy then I think she would accept it. Don't be ashamed of who you are.
Good Luck,
Advicegodesses2
P.S.Write me back and tell me how my advice was and if it helped.
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i read about this, i dunno i guess it was kind of a joke...but it seems like it would work. basically in the one i read this guy leaves a letter for his parents explaining how he ran away to go live in the woods and grow drugs and all that with his girlfriend who is pregnant. and then adds a ps at the end saying this all isnt true, he just wanted to prove that there are worse things than bad grades.
you could try something like that and it may work. :)
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fina a creative way to tell her. maybe you shouldnt tell her right to her face. maybe call her or e-mail her explaining about your situation. then she could have a chance to get mad and you wouldnt have to see her do it.
~Maegan~
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well ushally its the dad you have to deal with on a issue like this, so i think you have luck on your side. just be honest with her either she accepts it or not, you have to just go for it otherwise it will eat you up inside to have such a big secreat . you cant help how you feel and who you are s i would try to talk but if she cant understand let you know you love her, but i would let her be for a while and not try and pressure her for acceptance, eventually she will come around.
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Don't tell them unless it's absolutely necessary. You're never going to get your mom to change her opinions on the subject, so don't even try. I'd seriously consider avoiding telling her at all costs until maybe you're out of the house.
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You unfortunately cannot make anyone accept you or behave how you want. If they will not accept you it is their problem. You are their son and in the end that matters and will bring them around. Understand that yes, this is a lifestyle most people feel strongly about and some against. It takes time for them to adjust. You may hear a ton of hurtful things but in the end the bond between parents and yourself ought not nor ever break.
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Well, there are a couple options. One would be like the others said, wait until they can no longer have any control on you. Or the other, which would be more honest to yourself.
For the second option, schedule a time to sit and have a talk with your parents BOTH at the same time. Just tell them, maybe two or three days beforehand that you'd like to talk - say 7:00 on Thursday night or something. They will realize that its probably something important if you are taking out the time to set up a for sure date. Then, start of by saying "What I am about to tell you, is something that I am very reluctant to. It is nothing I can help or change, you're going to have to accept it. Please do not argue with me, or yell at me, because this is stressful enough already. I think I am gay." and continue from there. Plainly state that you would not like this argued, and it is NOTHING you can change and there isn't anything they can do about it if they aren't okay with that. Just don't say it in a cocky whiney sort of tone. If either or both of your parents begin to say anything degrading towards you or anything like "Well maybe we can get you some counsling so you can be normal." get out of the house. I am not suggesting you run away, I am suggesting that you get up, tell them you stated you didn't want an argument of any kind, and walk out the door. Stay on the front or back porch, or in the yard, and if they still attempt to argue, take about a 15 minute walk so they can sit and think for a few minutes, then come back and ask if they are ready to accept this, and talk about it in a calm matter that makes you feel comfortable that they are comfortable with what you just told them. Best of luck.
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Wow, usually the dad gets more upset. Tell her that you can't help it. You didn't choose to be gay. It may take some time, but she will definitely get over it eventually.
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I'd suggest waiting until you are 18 years old, or not under her control.
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