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first tiem worries
ok im a virgin and i am 18 and my boyfreind / fiance is 22 and he has had 4 partners prior to me. also he has told me he is pretty big down there (normal sized condoms wont fit him) i havent actually seen it yet, but i am a virgin. i havent had any kind of contact in a sexual way at all and i want to have sex with him because we are so in love and getting married soon and all, but im afraid he will be too big and it will hurt alot. is there anything that the two of us can do to make our first time togheter (and my first time ever) more pleasurable and less painful for us?
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well i know where you're coming from.. my ex-boyfriend was around 8 1/2 inches. yes. really. and he was my first. so.. it hurt; but he took it slow.
if your okay with it; have him finger you to loosen you up a bit. he can give you oral sex and the saliva will act as a natural lubricant. most condoms come with a water-based lubricant anyways.
make sure you are very relaxed; because then it'll really help with the pain and it'll be easier. you can ask him to be sensitive and start out slow and maybe not go in so deep.
the first minutes or so will be slightly painful; but then you'll start to loosen up and enjoy it more. the more you have sex; the better it will get.
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take it very slow, maybe even use something for lubrication, there is ky jelly, there is a new kind that is warming sensations, it is great me and my husband love it. you cant rush your first time, so he will have to be gentle, it may hurt a little at first but eventually it will feel great especially if he is well sized, you lucked out there..lol... but dont let that be an excuse for him to not use a condom, he can get magnums for the larger sized man.congrats o the engagement.
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Well, most people have a little pain their first time. But just remember that you're also flexible down there (I mean, if a kid can come out of there eventually, it can stretch). Probably a good way to prepare is to make sure you have a lubricant to ease things a little more and try to take it slow. Make sure he's asking you if you're okay with everything and make sure you're telling him if something is uncomfortable. I hope everything goes well for you...good luck!
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Back the bus up missy. You obviously do not know a bullshiter when you see one. This guy has you wrapped around his finger so you will do anything for and with him. You might be in love but I am not so sure about him.
You are 18-years-old get your head on straight here. He is 22. While a few years younger his world mentally and physically is different from yours. At 18-years-old I am sorry you do not know beans about being married. An 18-year-old girl cannot handle marraige or making a life long commitment. Pull yourself together. you may love him but the whole Oh I'll marry you, fix this and that, I'll help if you get pregnant is BS right now.
I hate to say this but he wants sex more than you do. If you have no idea how to engage in it or to feel comfortable even and have questions, fears of pain etc DO NOT DO IT. If he sticks around maybe down the road. I have a feeling here that he wants sex and would bail or would bail if you didn't. Do not do it just to hang on to a guy.
Put it to you this way when you look back on it you might go I wished I did this with someone else than him. Also, another thing if they promise to stay with you if you got knocked up etc. Tell that to my 17-year-old cousin who now has a baby and nobody helping here. Be wise to the lies all guys tell. Don't have sex to please him. YOU ARE NOT READY AND WE CAN TELL.
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Um, let me say first off I think it is amazing that you are still a virgin and want to lose it to the man you love. Thats very respectable.
Now...some ways. Oral sex, the more wet you are the easier you are not only to please, but to fit into. Forplay...if he loosens you he wont feel like so much. Relax completely, let him sooth you...he knows it's your first time...I'm sure he'll take care of you.
*WovenLynx*
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Foreplay! He can't just stick it in and that will be that. You guys need to get in the mood, groping, making out, handjobs and fingering. I stress the part about the fingering. If you are used to his fingers in you it will be easier when he puts his penis in you. Also, you should masturbate before you do this because it is best to know your own body before you go sharing it with someone else.
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KY Jelly (or some equivilent lubricant) should help as well as the "practising" yourself as mentioned above. But to be honest with you, it is likely to hurt the first time, particularly if your fiance is well endowed so you're gona have to tell him to be gentle and be prepared to stop if it really gets too much.
Good news is it'll get easier and more comfortable with practise and in the long run, your boyfriend's size should be an advantage! (reaches more places ;))
Have fun
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You can always do other things to get you well, stretched out more by the time you guys do have sex. If you're comfortable with it you can have him finger you. Starting with one and working your way up ya know? Lubricant will also help a bit. You also want to tell him to go slower.
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