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VISIT MY WEBSITE AT http://www.freewebs.com/abl90/index.htm !!!Hello. My name is Ashley. I am 17 years old with 2 sisters and 3 half sisters.. I love giving advice. All my friends come to me with their problems. I'm almost ALWAYS right when it comes to advice. Unfortunately, that does not include myself. If I have a problem, I'm usually clueless so I may have a few questions here and there but mostly I'm here for the readers. Hopefully someday I can be an advice columnist for a newpaper.
Please take the time to read, it can help a few of you:
So far my life has been really complicated, sure, I do have a great life, an amazing fiance, a wonderful chihuahua, yes she is my baby, and a pretty good family I suppose. In reality, I guess most everyone has a complicated life. In my life, I have been in the most depressed state to where I literally wanted to kill myself, but it never came down to it, it is all a test, not for anyone else but for ourselves, to see how strong we are, we all have hardships in our lives but we have to look at the good and remember that there ARE people who care about us, no matter how down we are. All of you can live a good, happy life, you just have to try and give it your all and remember you bring your own happiness.
For those who have LOST:
I have lost only one person in my life.. My brother, he was only my half brother, and I never knew him. He died at 47, he had 3 amazing sons who had a great life going for them and a beautiful wife. He killed himself on October 21 of 2004. I regret every single day that I didn't know him, nor did I try, I blame myself even though I shouldn't, that route goes both ways. Sure I could have tried to see him, but he could have to. The thing is, you should try with everything in you to know your family and to love them. I would give up a lot to see my brother for one minute to ask him why? Would didn't he think about anyone else but himself? And now I'll never get that chance. I went against God and all my beliefs and even tried to contact him through a Ouija. God forgave me but I didn't forgive myself. I just hope with all my heart that he forgave my brother as well.
Thank you everyone.
If you ever need help, feel free to contact me at skyyisbloo@aol.com and please title the e-mail as Advicenators advice and I will try to get back to you ASAP.
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my best friend and her boyfriend just recently broke up mostly because they never talked. She really regrets breaking up with him, but realizes that he's not going to change. She keeps thinking that hes going to change, when they could go for LONG PERIODS OF TIME not talking. I don't think it's healthy for her to continually try and be with this kid because he doesn't do anything different and he's just period a waste of time, and a large chunk of her heart she doesn't need to break anymore. It hurts me to see her in such pain and I've tried talking to her about it and she listens but I think it would be nice for her to have some different options or opinions from other people. Please help her out. Thanks guys.
Well, I would have said that there is no one that can conince her more than her best friend, but... This girl I know that I am friends with says I'm her best friend, I of course have other friends but she's not like me. well, anyways... I've told her time and time again not to talk to his guy that just totally used her. She's white and he's black, I knew it wouldn't work from the start. Well, they ended up "attempting" to have sex but obviously, he's "big" and she's skinny so she doesn't have a wide.. "area". Well anyways, she still talks to him despite what every single one of her friends say. In fact, I think she still likes him. But that's beside the point. You need to tell her everything you said in the statement above. Tell her that more than likely he is cheating on here between the days that he does not talk to her. Believe me, I had a boyfriend like that, come to find out I was one of his other girlfriends. I definitely advice you to confront her about it as often as you can. She definitely needs a friend right now. Try to convince her that she will find someone else out there for her and that hes not worth her time. He's not giving to the relationship and neither should she. Good luck.
i have been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years now. and she loves me, and i'm not sure if i love her. am i in this for her? well i'm not happy with the whole relasinship, but i don't know if it's because we don't see each other much or what. and then there is this other girl, that i really like, and we have been friends for a long time. i don't know if i should dump my current girlfriend for my friend ro what?
Two years is a LONG time, to just throw that all away would be hurtful to your girlfriend and you could end up regretting it. Love doesn't just disappear or go away, it's always gonna be there, no matter how many more relationships you have.
There must have a been a point in time when you loved your current girlfriend or else you would have dumped her sooner. I wouldn't suggest dumping her because you more than likely will regret ruining a relationship that has last as long as yours' has.
Also, there is a chance that this girl you like may not even like you the way you like her. So therefore, it would have been all for nothing.
I would suggest that you give your relationship a chance. Spend as much time with her as you can but not too much, people often get bored of one anothers company after too much time together.
If things don't work out with you and your girlfriend, then sure, go on ahead and date your "interest".
Good luck. Hope I helped.
okay, where to start. well i was going out with this boy named Alex. and i liked him alot and everything but he liked me like a thousand times more. well like every night this boy Lane would call me tryin to get with me, but i never thought anything of it. well about two months passed and me and Alex had already broken up. Then Lane was going out with my friend Addair who can't keep a boyfriend at all. Well she was grounded and me and Lane and all my other friends were all friends so we were goin out together and Lane started liking me that night again. me and Lane have kind of like always had a thing for eachother. well the next Addair brok up with Lane cause like i said, she doesn't like keeping a boyfriend. then Lane asked me out. so i said yes. i have never had a boyfriend like Lane before. it was so much fun with him, like we experienced so many new things together. we went out for 3 1/2 months and then at this fair thing we have in my town, his friends from his school were there [we go to different schools] and he started acting like a COMPLETE JERK. like it was so weird, he was never that bad. so then i couldnt take it and i broke up with him. then i found out he acted like that so i would break up with him. that hurt. i was sitting there crying so hard and all he could say to me was stop shaking. so then we went a caouple days without talking, and then i called him. i was like, Lane, what happened? and he basically told me he was just tired of having a girlfriend and he wanted to be single. i never wanted to break up with him. so then the first weekend after we broke up we were hanging out at the mall with all our friends and he was acting like we were like, "together" you know. and it made me so mad. but i couldnt help but like it cause i like him. then the next day me him, my best friend Taylor, and her boyfriend which is Lane's bestfriend, Kyle all went to the movies. well Lane likes kind of "simple" girls in a way. and well, i dress kind of not simple sometimes. i like acessories and style and stuff. well at the movies that night he decided that he wasnt gonna hang out with us because of what i was wearing. i mean how frickin low is that. i was so mad. cause then i was stuck with Taylor and her boyfriend and oh my gosh that was like hell. well then i had people over at my house the next monday and he was one of them. we flirted like crazy and like, i can tell there's chemistry there. but i just don't know how much. well then last night we went to the movies again, me Taylor, Kyle, and Lane. well me and Lane used to always go to the movies together when we went out, alot of stuff happened at the movies. so it was hard. cause you don't know how bad i just wanted to start making out with him. well then he started trying to kiss me and he held my hand and i resisted for a while but uhhh i just cant resist that boy. so then we were like all together and it was just so confusing and he was like i still like you and i shouldn't have ever broken up with you. my friend Taylor doesn't think i should go back out with him anytime soon. my friend Caela thinks i deff. should. my friend Addair is in the middle. so i am so completely confused. i dont know what he wants, i dont know what i want, i dont know what my friends want. so can you help, please? sorry its so long, lol.
thankss
I've been in a similar situation. I dated a guy named Robert and we went out for about 2 monthes but he was a player and I couldn't trust him or anything. He begs for me to come back to him but I have a boyfriend now who means everything to me and thats all I can ask for. What I'm trying to say is that Lane is just using you.
More than likely he cheated on you throughout the relationship. I definitely advise you to just move on. It's hard to but you can. In fact, that reminds me.. Well, it's probably best if I tell the whole story so you can understand.
Well, Robert went out with my friend Christina, but only for a while. I gave Robert my number because I liked him and I couldn't resist even though I knew it was wrong. Well, we talked a lot that night and he told me he loved me, yeah right! Well, he dumped Christina about a week later for me and of course, I said yes.
After a while, his cousin, who was one of my good friends who had also liked me but was now dating my sister, told me that Robert was cheating. I didn't believe him of course but I was suspicious because he had a bad past. Well, I was with my friend Brooke, and Robert was with Brooke's boyfriend Preston and they were walking ahead of us at a strip mall and the next thing I know I see them checking out these girls and yelling at them. I yelled at Robert and said that it was over.
But of course, after a while he wanted me back and I said yes. We broke up and went back out constantly, it was a neverending thing and I couldn't take it. Well, I told him to never call me again b/c I was dating some other guy and this guy called him and cussed him out because Robert is pretty big and said he was gonna kick his "hiney" but by boyfriend was pretty big too so it would have been pretty interesting to watch but whatever, now I have nothing to do with either of them.
In other words, forget about Lane. Believe me, he's just dragging you along and is all for the make-outs and w/e else he can get out of it. Good luck and I hope I helped. Sorry it was so long.
Okay, so theres this boy in my school 'steve', hes a senior...and hes like a god {well u know what i mean} and we hang out sometimes and i really really like him, His cousin 'rob' is my age and he's best friends with steve. Rob tells steve to back off and not like me. Steve does sense they are best friends. I don't know if steve likes me..because he can have almost any girl he wants, and hes usually into blondes {i'm brunette} but i still think i have a chance. He's the kind of boy who expects BJ's after like a week though. and i'm NOT into that...any advice?! Should i ask him to hang out more or something?
My advice: drop him. If all he wants is sex, bjs, or any other "sexual services" he's so not worth it. Even if you are set that you won't do any of that and you do end up dating him, he'll be able to persuade you. I know how guys like these are. I dealt with one but thank god he dumped me(only a matter of time before I would have done the same). It seems to me as though Rob might like you. You should probably consider dating him, I know these types of situations and he might possibly be into you. Good luck. I know you wanted advice on how to get with Steve but believe me, in the end, you'll regret it if you do.
There is this boy named Nick, and I'll admit...I have a HUGE crush on him! I love everything from the way he talks, to the way he dresses. Him & I used to talk a lot during 8th grade but we kind of stopped last year. Why? Well, we didn't have any classes together. That, and the fact that I would get so shy around him. We probobly only talked once or twice because I would choke on my words. This year I decided to make a change. I have two classes with him and a lunch period. I've been trying my best not to be so timid. I use every opportunity I can get to throw in a little comment to let him know I'm not scared to talk to him like I was last year. Now, I'm noticing a change in him and I'm not quite sure what it means. Lately, he has been saying little comments to me too. Every time the teacher calls on me or everytime I speak, he says some little remark. For example, I forgot to do an assignment one day and he said "ooo, Allyson! I'm so disapointed in you". And then, today, I turned in that assignment and he was like "You Go Girl". Lmao, I love his sense of humor. Sorry. Annnnyyywaayyyss, something else happened today that I am confused about too. He was walking out the door to leave and I was still packing up my stuff and I swear to God he winked at me! There was nobody in the room but me. So if he did, it would have had to of been to me lol. What does all of this mean? I'm so confused! Also--what are some cute little things I can say to flirt and make casual conversation? I really want him to be my date to homecoming! Thanks in advance
It seems to me as though he has a crush on you too. Guys just have weird ways of showing it. Some ways I like to flirt are possibly when he is sitting next to you and says something, place your hand on his leg and give it a little squeeze when you reply back. It definitely turns them on and lets them know that your definitely into them. Casually bring up homecoming like "Are you going with anyone?" or "I'm so nervous I won't have a date." As far as flirting goes, give him little compliments like,"Your so cute/funny/sweet." Also, fish for compliments, in other words, try to get him to give you compliments by saying "I look so fat," he'll say no you don't. Good luck.
There's this guy in my 2nd period class that I think is really cute. He's kind of a pimp but I don't care I just want to hang out with him or flirt with him not date him. How do I start talking to him or something? Or like look at him and smile? give me some subtle techniques thx
Well, for starters, a guy like that isn't worth your time but if you must persist in knowing here are some techniques to get his attention:
1. when he looks your way, give him a bright smile and look at his eyes but don't drop your gaze
2. if you talk to him, give him compliments like you have pretty eyes, this guy I know says it to me all the time but I have a bf and he has a gf so that aint gonna work out to well.
3. If you don't understand something, ask him for help, if he doesn't know, just say something like god this class sucks.
4. Ask him what hes doing this weekend and ask him if he wants to hang out.
5. Primp, primp, primp!!
Good luck and blessed be.
13/F/MD. Lucy is a follower. Jamie and I have grown apart this year. I'm afraid Jamie is trying to get Lucy to grow apart from me also and Lucy is a follower so she will. What should I do?
-Confused In Maryland
Dear confused:
Because Lucy is a follower, I think you should try to spend as much time as possible with her. Like hang out and such. I also suggest that you talk to Jamie and tell her how you feel about everything. Remember, she's still your friend, she'll understand unless she's a selfish berch. Good luck and I hope I helped. Blessed be.
i have been freinds with this girl, staci, for a long time. and this year we have been drifting away a little but still freinds, just not as close. well i introduced her to one of my really good friends, heather. well now staci is trying to steal heather away from me. she always does it, but this time it's gone too far. heather is one of my bfs! what should i do? talk to staci? what should i say? i want her and heather to stay freinds but i dont want staci to steal heather from me!
Staci might possibly be trying to make you jealous. I think you should talk to Staci about it, I know its easier said than done but here are some examples of what you could say to her: "Staci, we need to talk. Heather is my best friend, and you are too. But you have to understand that I feel like your trying to take my friend so that I won't have any." Also talk to Heather and tell her how you feel. Things should work out good if she is respectful to you. Good luck and blessed be.
i'm just curious when i ask this so im just wondering if its possible in anyway to be pregnant without having sex?? i heard its possible but very unlikely.. soo how do you get pregnant without doing any sexual things?
I've wondered the same thing myself. It is possible that through contact of sperm to your vaginal area that you get pregnant but it extremely unlikely. I've heard that if a guy nuts in a pool or hot tub it could pass to another person and get them pregnant but I'm not for sure, because the chlorine could have an effect. I hope I helped as best I could. Good luck and blessed be.
13/f
I like this guy named James. i have heard from everybody that he likes me. and then everyone knows that i like him and also ppl keep saying that he is going to ask me to be his gf. and then today he finaly asked me. and i said yes. and then now this other cute guy that is new came to my school today/ he is a major hottie! but im still thinking of wether i should stay with james or go with the new kid Jake. everone and all of my friends think that i should stay with with James. im not sure who to choose. should i stay with james sinse he already asked me to be his gf and use jake as a back up?
Thanks!! :)
I advise you to stay with James. You don't know for sure if the new hottie likes you or not so it would be upsetting to leave James and the other guy end up not liking you. So stay with James and if things don't work out, talk to the new guy more and be flirty. Good luck and blessed be.
hi im a 15 year old guy (soph) and i like this im guessing 14 year old freshamn girl...i dont really no her at all but there is something about her that just draws me to her she is very attractive and ive talked to her 1 time for maytbe a minute online but thats it and she just seems like a really nice person..so i was wondering how should i approach it become friends with her first and get to know her or talk to her friends just to see what she's like then talk to her? thanks so much in advance
Hmm.. In this case, I would suggest that you talk to her a little bit more. Become friends with her. If you feel a connection when your talking to her like long gazes and such, ask her out to a movie or to eat or something simple like a game. It will go from there. Freshman definitely like the date older guys, somehow it makes them seem "cool" I guess. Anyways, good luck and blessed be.
my spine hurts. It feels really agile & easily feels hurt.it feels sort of out of place and like it has a kink, & needs to like be cracked. Maybe someone can help...
It's possible, that if through sports or some strange movement of your spinal cord that you may have displaced something. It's hard to tell under these circumstances. You need to get it checked as soon as possible. Also, if your a girl, it could be menstrual problems. Good luck and I hope things get better. Blessed be.
me and my b/f have been datin for almost 6 months. hes means so much to me but a lot of the time she doesnt treat me that well. im a freshman thie year and was considering breakin up wit him b/c i never see him and just felt too tired dwon.but then i chagned my mind and figuared i really loved him. but today this kid who knows him and me came up ot me and said that he wasnt breakin up wit me because he wanted to move on...i was feelin the same thing but i like him so much still. i sent him a text saying that we needed to talk and he said ill pass! and i said..were over.ur friend jeff told me everything..and he said..yull get far listenin ot him...i mean i ended a really long realtionship wit this guy and im not sure if i should beg for him back or just move on....help me pleeeease =).thanks so much
Every couple has their fights/arguments. I have been dating my bf for 3 months, we have small little arguments but nothing extreme. If you feel like you really love him then you need to talk to him. You can NEVER trust what anyone says to you, believe me, from experience, I know. It seems that he respects you very little. You need to confess your true feelings to him, if he doesn't listen.. then it's his loss. Move on. You don't need him. You could definitely find someone else and if he doesn't care for your feelings then he doesn't deserve your time. Good luck to you and blessed be.
thanx for answering my first question but i don't have a IM thing so i was wondering if you know any ways how i should tell my parents if i should just come right out and tell it to them both at the same time and wehn is the best time and hwere should i do it in public so they don't scream and make a big deal or maybe in private in a nice setting idk wat to do please help and ya i'm young try 14 but we could afford it we're extremly weathly but still i really don't want to keep it.
Hmm.. I understand, I'm 15 and I had sex with my bf not too long ago, I'm terrified. I have an EXTREMELY off so I worry all the time but I know I'm not. Well, anyways, your parents will be upset about it, but that's how parents are, my boyfriends parents had him when she was 15 and he was 17. It's really hard to raise a baby at that ageso adoption probably would be the best thing for you. However, your parents may want to raise it. I would advise you not to go out in the public, they could still yell at you and it would be really embarassing. Your best option would be at home or in a place with little to no people. I also suggest that you confide in your mother first, they tend to understand better than fathers. Everything should be fine. If you don't want to go through the drama at school with being pregnant then you should have an abortion but your parents would have to sign for it. As I said, tell your mother first and talk about it with her on what to do, if she thinks you should have an abortion then your father may not have to find out about it because only one parent has to sign for it. I send the best of luck to you. I hope everything works out as best it could. also, I would love to get an update on how things go, your decision, etc. so feel free to send my a message about everything. I'm here for you, anytime. You know how to reach me, if not through the site then through my e-mail:skyyisbloo@aol.com. Blessed be.
how does your cherry exactly pop.. like i no it breaks but what happens after? cause iwas fingering myself the other day and i like felt it.. so i was just wondering where the thing goes when its popped... thanks
and does it hurt to have sex if you dont have your cherry popped?
When your cherry is popped, you bleed. In fact, I had sex with my boyfriend, my first time, about a month ago and my cherry popped but I only bled a little. You know when your cherry is popped when you bleed and your not on your period. Having sex if your cherry is popped or not has nothing to do with it, it didn't hurt me at all. However, I'm not "thin" like some other people. It depends how big or long the guys "member" is as to whether it will hurt or not.
sometimes when i go to the bathroom i realize that my panties are wet like i was horny or something. could i be gettin tunred on by something and not realizing it and this is why it happens?
I deal with the same thing. It's not something I'm exactly professional at, but it happens to me. I have a boyfriend whom I've had sex with. I realize that even the smallest things turn me on so I'm use to the "wet panties". I usually feel this overwhelming feeling when I'm turned on, but that's just me. It is possible that even just by touching yourself in a certain way, turns you on. It's nothing to worry too much about. Just that you are easily turned on.
I have to choose between to people.
And now one of the boys, "A" I can see myself kissing him. We have went out before, kissed before too.
Now the other boy, "C". Who I haven't went out with before. I can't see myself kissing.
I actually like "C" more. But I can't see myself kissing him. Does that mean I don't really like him? Or is it because we have never kissed before?
Well, I see what your problem is. I went through the same thing but sex-wise. All my ex-boyfriends, I couldn't see myself going to the extremes of sex, but now I am with a guy I have had sex with. It's not that you don't like them, it's just you don't know how they are, what they kiss like, and other variables such as these. You should give "C" a try and see how things go. If he's not the one for you, then go to "A". Good luck.
My brother has been dating Ammi for over a year. he is so in love with her. he's 17 and she's 16. ammi, robbie and i grew up together. ammi loves robbie too, but my parents hate ammi with a passion. they have been trying to break up robbie and ammi's relationship before they started dating. this is gonna be hard for you guys to understand. and im sorry. you guys dont know the whole story. it would take hours to type it all. but my parents control me and robbies life. they control every aspect of it. and we both hate it. its only 3 more months before robbie moves in with ammi.(possibly. he can legally move out in 3 months) but she's been confiding in me, telling me that we are better off without her because my parents have been hard on us because of her dating robbie. and she wants to break up with him. to a degree. just to make it easier for the rest of us. but if she breaks up with him, i know he;s gonna commit suicide. and i cant live without him because he's all i got. i just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. my ex has taken all of me with him. so all i have left is my brother. i just dont want him to do anything. what am i supposed to do? he knows that im in pain. he knows that i hurt. he knows that i cry myself to sleep almost every night. i just dont want him to do anything if she does break up with him. cause i know it will be the end of me if its the end of him.
I truly do understand your troubles. The teenage years are extremely difficult and parents tend to make it even more hard. It would be much easier if I could talk to you and ask you questions, if it is at all possible, please instant message me on aol at skyyisbloo. It is imprtant that you confide in your brother and his girlfriend about your problems. Tell your brother exactly how you'll feel without him. Tell his girlfriend that not only would breaking up with him hurt the two of them, but you as well. When I was younger, I actually fell in love with this guy, much older than me, it was illegal and my parents got involved, oh, he was married by the way. And so i was soooo upset beyond reasoning, but I got over it. However, under your circustances, I see that the problem is more severe than it seems. You truly need to do as I said and see what they say. And don't forget to try and contact me if you can. Good luck, I'm so sorry for your pain.
ok. so i have like greenish hazel eyes.somedays there more hazel but most days there green.but when there hazel there just a really light green liek if you look at them closely or put something green to it you can see. is there anyway i can make them look even more green like with makeup or brand or something or anything doesnt have to be make up? because i LOVE the color of my eyes.
thanks =]
Hey there. I have green eyes as well but with a little blue. I usually try different types of eye shadows, they really help. I use a dark color, its kind of a really dark red. It accents the color of my eyes. I would suggest a green or blue eyeshadow for your color but you definitely need to try various colors to see what looks best.
14/f
I've fallen for this boy but hes in 7th *im in 8th* and i know age is just a number but since hes younger than me and i never really talk to him except for in two classes, i dont really know about him like if he has a girlfriend or if he would ever go out with me. i dont rly have any friends in that grade that would know except for one. i could ask her but she would make a big deal about it. any advice?
Here's the deal, I'm 15, in the 10th grade, and my boyfriend is 14, in the 9th grade. We're definitely meant for each other so your exactly right, age is just a number. I would advise you to maybe ask him to hang out sometime, sure girls don't do that often, but it's worth it if you really like him. Being shy is pointless if that is your reason. If you don't really want to do that than you should try talking to him more. I would love to hear any updates on what happens so just contact me in some way. Good luck. :)