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always taking her away
i have been freinds with this girl, staci, for a long time. and this year we have been drifting away a little but still freinds, just not as close. well i introduced her to one of my really good friends, heather. well now staci is trying to steal heather away from me. she always does it, but this time it's gone too far. heather is one of my bfs! what should i do? talk to staci? what should i say? i want her and heather to stay freinds but i dont want staci to steal heather from me!
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Hey. I get this scenario so much and it's really common which stinks. Actually this happened to me once so don't feel bad. But anyways I like to call these types the "hoggers". They hang around with someone you introduce them to and then stop calling you who introduced them in the first place!
Well you have to get Heather back and talk to Staci nicely. If she gets upset just explain how you feel (upset and hurt too). Maybe she will say she's not trying to steal Heather you're just jealous which is a very common remark but just tell her you want to remain friends and not fight. Explain that you would be happy if all of you could hang out together but she's leaving you out and it's not very nice. If she still gets angry I would try to take a break from her and I know it might hurt at first but after a while you will be glad.
As for Heather, stay friends with her (best friends still) but don't talk about Staci when you're around her because it will just make her think you're a trouble maker. If you feel she's going along with Staci talk to Heather too and tell her how you feel. But usually, the Heather's see what the Staci's are doing and in their own mind make a note not to get on the Heather's bad sides so they just go along. Heather may not even realize what she's doing so just try to talk to them both and hopefully it will all work out :-). Please try to give me feedback too my friend :-).
Chrissie
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Talk to Staci. Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing it. If you talk to Heather she might find out about it and feel like your going behind her back which could make a bigger problem. There could also be some possible scenarios. One maybe she's not trying to steal Heather away from you she is just talking to her because she wants to be friends. Two she could be unconscisously doing it. Or she could be trying to make you jealous because she misses you. The only way to really solve this is talk to Staci. Or let it go for awhile and see if she still trys to steal her if she stops maybe it was one of the first two if it keeps going maybe its the third one. Maybe Good luck.
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Staci might possibly be trying to make you jealous. I think you should talk to Staci about it, I know its easier said than done but here are some examples of what you could say to her: "Staci, we need to talk. Heather is my best friend, and you are too. But you have to understand that I feel like your trying to take my friend so that I won't have any." Also talk to Heather and tell her how you feel. Things should work out good if she is respectful to you. Good luck and blessed be.
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