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Hey guys, I met one of my brothers friend today and I guess my brother game him my Facebook name and he added me. So after doing that's, we messaged each other's for a few minutes and he told me he likes me. I ask him why and he said he always wanted to tell me but he was shy. I'm very sure he's a player and planning to play me like he played one of my friend. I didn't rely back after he told me he liked him. I want to go straight and tell him that I'm not interested in him and I already knew what guys do to get girls and I know that he only wants to use me. I just don't know exactly what to say. What should I say to him

Simply what you just told us :) Tell him you\'re really not interested even though you are flattered. Simple as that. If you try to be coy or use a round about way he might not get the hint and it will waste your time. And if it persists you can take more drastic actions such as blocking him on facebook and asking your brother for help.

I know, I know. It's cliché to ask but how do I stay fresh "down there"? I am a 26 year old female, skinny, great hygiene and attractive but I have had problems for years on how to stay smelling good. Its not just my private parts, its also my armpits and the entire rest of my body... except my feet and breath. I just don't have a very good natural scent. :'(

I take a shower in the morning and night, I wash and wash with soaps, body wash, body scrubs and vaginal soaps, I use deodorant (currently using secret brand with a scent to it but I have also used scentless, different brands and the liquid/gel kind), I have used all over deodorant spray with heavy scents and of course I lather myself up with lotion and body spray or perfume. None of this seems to last long. Even my very expensive and strong perfumes like Jadore and Euphoria don't last very long. I know I'm supposed to get used to the smell after so long but I can still smell myself just fine for hours and hours, all day and its not good.

If I keep my legs closed while sitting I sweat almost immediately and it reacts with either my panties, jeans, leggings and if I'm on my period then its WAY worse and it stinks again. I can not wear any shirt without it smelling bad regardless of what kind of deodorant I'm using. I even have a prescription for an all over deodorant that stops sweating, and it works for sure but if I wear a tshirt or anything that's up against the armpit, it doesn't matter, it will start to stink. I feel like I have to keep my legs closed tight and my arms against my sides 24/7 so that no one will notice. I even bring wipes with my when I use the bathroom so as not to add any stink. but I can't always do that.

My bf doesn't seem to notice much but I DO go out of my way to try to make sure he doesn't. It sucks having to have an excuse to take a shower or use the bathroom anytime before having sex. I feel like I cant just have random, spontaneous or in the moment sex. Other people like family and close friends have made comments before but not often and not in a rude way but still... and like I said before, I go out of my way to hide this... HOW IS IT SOME PEOPLE CAN WALK BY AND YOU CAN SMELL HOW GOOD THEY SMELL??? Do they spray too much or overuse their lotion? Isn't that supposed to make you just as stinky, but in a different way?

It's terribly embarrassing and I am about to move in with my boyfriend so it will be a million times harder to hide this. Ive been with him for a long time btw. I did just have a baby 3 months ago... and this is my 2nd baby, my other is 8 years old. I also just got a Mirena IUD... could any of this be the reason and why? How long will that last or what can I do?

SO MY QUESTIONS ARE (and please answer any that you can)...
what can I do?
How can I change my natural scent?
How can I make perfumes or lotions last longer on my body?
How can stay fresh down there?
Which deodorants have worked wonders for you?
Are there any medications in pill form or any other form that can help me?
PLEASE HELP!!!! 5. If you know of ANYTHING, please help me! :( I'm really self conscious and my self esteem really drops because of this. :(

First I want to say something that many people might. The reason I say this however is because I believe it to be true. Everyone is more critical of themselves than they are with others and thus they judge themselves harsher than they would someone else. Honestly it seems to me that you\'re doing everything possible to keep yourself clean and fresh. I think you just get so used to how you smell (like how clean you are) that whenever you sweat or anything you notice right away. Think of it like this. People who have pets in their house get used to how their animal smells. So, they might not even notice that their house smells bad because they are used to it. If they were to go some where with no pets and return to their house, they might notice the different . Similarly, I feel that you are so used to smelling nice and clean all the time that you don\'t notice anymore. So anything different that happens to your body is stark in comparison. I think you are doing more than enough to stay clean. Really. I think you should try to do less in fact. A shower once a day is great. using deodorant is awesome and wearing perfume is nice. They more you do the more stressful it will be for you and you\'ll start having the opposite happen. If you\'re constantly worried about sweating and nervous all the time well guess what...you\'ll sweat more. I think you should realize that you...REALLY are doing more than enough. Your kids have your genes, do they also need two baths a day? I\'m sure that they smell great after you give them one bath...the same goes for you. You really do smell fine. Your boyfriend isn\'t lying... If he loves you then he\'s telling the truth. And since you\'ve been with him so long then you should trust that he\'s telling you the truth. If it really doesn\'t bother him then you shouldn\'t worry so much. Of course it\'s great to be clean and you should be clean, but obsessing about it will be harmful to you as well. Yes, you will always smell worse to yourself. When I get my periods I feel like everyone can smell it. But I know for a fact they can\'t because I\'m close to a lot of friends and they don\'t notice. I stay clean, but during my periods I just smell so dirty. Still, I know that it\'s because it\'s something I\'m aware of and so I notice it. It was something I had to get used to. And sweating? yeah...I can smell that too. But I know I wear deodorant and sometimes I wear a spray of perfume. Of course it bothers me, but the thing is, i know that I do enough to stay clean and I know that I\'m being paranoid. It\'s tough to get yourself to know that if you can smell it a little it\'s ok. Sure if someone bathed only once a week and had a job where they were in dirt and grime and they could smell themselves, then yeah...they need a bath. But that\'s where you are different. You are doing everything so you need to understand that no one will smell it. They way to make lotions and perfumes last longer for me, is to spray a little on my clothes. So if you want to smell fresh down there you can spray a little on your panties or bra. Staying fresh down there is simply a matter of washing after using the bathroom if you can help it and making sure your clothes are clean. If clothes smell bad and are dirty then no matter how clean you are, you will smell dirty. I don\'t have too much luck with deodorants. i mean they smell nice, but I still end up sweating. I\'ve found that looser clothes help me because they allow my body to breathe. If I have a tight shirt on they it would absorb sweat from my armpits faster than if I wore a looser shirt. Talk to your OBGYN about the birth control side effects.

You\'re doing enough. Trust me. Trust your boyfriend. No one thinks you are dirty or smell bad. Only you do. That will be the only thing that needs to change. You smell other people when they pass by because they simply smell different than you, that\'s all. I\'m sure you smell great to them too. Use a moderate amount of perfume and other fragrances and also be careful wearing too much around your kids, especially the new baby. Your baby learns your scent when it\'s born and loves it. Try to stay more natural for your baby because s/he relies on it to identify you :) If your baby loves how you smell as is, then you should too.

Feel free to ask anymore questions. i hope I helped.

I have registered for my 5th year for college and it seems as though I am not getting any financial aid money this year. What is going on? I filed my fafsa a month ahead of time. There was a verfication worksheet I had to do (which is suppose to be random, but I have done this for the 3rd time in a row) and I did it late, but that was after I found out that I can print my IRS transcript online, so I had to wait four weeks. 2 weeks because I accidently ordered the wrong one and another 2 weeks because I had them mail it to me. Still, that is not a good reason for me to NOT get financial aid because most of them are student loans.

Have you tried talking to your financial aid adviser? Depending on the type of aid, it might not be given to those on their fifth year and so that might be why you\'re not getting it this year. Though I\'m sure there are other options that the adviser can tell you so that you will get aid. Also most of the time aid is given out in a first come first serve basis. So someone who applies months before the deadline is more likely to get more aid then someone who has applied the day before the deadline. I would suggest talking to an adviser about the options you have because they know the tricks of the trade. Good luck!

I am a woman working overseas. My husband is the same nationality as me, but he was raised in the Middle East. His roots are deep in his country of birth. I think he resents the fact that I work and he does not have a job. His age is past the age where employers hire. I tried to give him the right to make decisions and hold the income, but it does not work perfectly. Yesterday I was in my home and a neighbor told my husband on the phone he was coming over. My husband opened the door but I was not decently dressed and the neighbor saw me. I am upset because I asked him to close the door and he didn't. The neighbor saw me in a tank top with my hair in a ponytail. He looked too.

Do I have the right to expect my husband to honor my dignity? My husband says he is sorry, but I think he says this to avoid any discussion.

It\'s difficult I think for people to change their mindset to be more current with the times. There is nothing wrong with you working especially since your husband is having trouble. You should try telling him here and there that you\'re proud of his efforts and that you don\'t blame him because it\'s tough, especially if you know he\'s trying hard. It\'s understandable that he is a bit down due to the fact that he wants to provide. It\'s hardwired into men to want to provide for their family. But maybe reminders to him every now and then about how important he is or how hard he is trying will help. It might sound silly, but asking him for help on small things (or big) will make him feel needed and important.

You should 100% expect your husband to respect your dignity. You should try to tell him that you\'re only upset because you only want him to see you like that and not anyone else and that you don\'t want others to see something only meant for HIM. If it\'s never happened before then maybe it was an accident. If it happens again though you should really talk to him and try to let him know why exactly this is making you uncomfortable.

Best of luck :)

So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL!

What an awesome idea. I have personally never done this before (don\'t have a kid haha) however I have some sites that you can try. Now keep in mind that I\'ve never used them before myself so I can\'t vouch for how easy it will be. In addition, if any site is asking you for your email and such, I would create a separate email account for that because they might send you lots of emails in their attempt to get you to purchase things.

This site gives you links for free samples including diapers, formula and bath products as well as tips on how to get more. One I liked in particular that you can do easily is ask your doctor. They should have tons of things companies give them for free to give out!
http://www.samplebuddy.com/free-baby-samples

Compilation of links where you can get free things:
http://freebies.about.com/od/babyfreebies/tp/free-baby-samples.htm

Some more:
http://similac.com/formula-coupons-free-samples
http://www.scamfreesamples.com/baby-samples
http://www.huggies.com/en-US/rewards

One last thing, if a site looks shady or has any bad reviews, don\'t use it. I know free things may seem tempting, but you don\'t want to risk the health of your baby!!

Good luck!

I am Muslim . I understand the community. The actual religion of Islam is beautiful . The community, is different. Whenever I am at an azima, or gathering, it's like a competition (who married a doctor, who's kids or who is in the better college, who went to Hawaii . It's sick. Another thing that annoys me is that the people try to hind women from sex by covering them up. Yet all many men allow them to do is have sex and cook and clean.its sicker. I do know some Muslims that are different, but it's just the majority..... Also women do to men's every bidding the man comes home from work and then women are treated like servants...... After all, the man did work the day in the office - while the woman worked at home ..... Cooking and cleaning and not having a lunch break. It's SICK!!!!!!! Plus, most women cover up so if you show up in a bathing suit to a pool or shorts when it's not it is considered eb or shameful/forbidden. Again not all Arabs are like this............. I want to be part of a community but I don't know who to be with as in church group ?????

Actually, I\'m Muslim too. And I agree with you. The religion itself is amazing. I started loving it so much when I did research on my own and tried to understand WHY things are done the way they are. It\'s amazing to see the reasons behind it and see it play out in real life. For example, it\'s suggested to sleep on your right side. And now it\'s medically confirmed that sleeping on your right side is best for your heart as opposed to on your back or stomach. I find that stuff so interesting haha.

I feel like the hardest part of being a Muslim in this day and age is that (assuming you live in the United States) you have to take your basic principals and apply it the best you can in the environment you\'re living in. Another thing that is always difficult is that you can\'t let certain people influence you. For example, in my community there are also people trying to outdo each other. Believe it or not, that\'s everywhere. You will always see that amongst the older generation. But you need to be strong. You need to simple do your absolute best and not let this doctor or that engineer keep you from feeling proud of your accomplishments.

Times are slowly changing. There are older generations that are stuck on the ideals of a woman staying in the house and only cooking and cleaning. I feel like it\'s mostly the people who have recently came to America, rather than the generations that have lived here. It\'s how they grew up. Did you know the Prophet came home every day and helped with the household chores? He didn\'t come home and order his wives to do this and that. He helped them. That\'s how it should be. A couple should help one another in anyway possible. If one has had a tough day the other helps and vice versa. That\'s how it should be. So don\'t let those old ideals make you angry. Because the new generation is changing regardless of how the older generation feels. If those women want to do everything in the house, then let them. But and your future spouse (assuming you\'re not married yet) can have your own compromise that you will be happy with.

Everyone tries to do their best with religion. And that\'s what is the point. You always do your best and don\'t make it really hard on yourself or even make it extreme. So just do your best and try your hardest and try not to let people shake up your faith.

It\'s tough finding a community. But don\'t give up. Maybe you won\'t find one now, but perhaps when you move out of the house (assuming you\'re living with your parents) then you can go to a different mosque and find people you can relate to that won\'t make you feel uncomfortable. To be honest, I still haven\'t found those great group of friends. I\'m polite to everyone when I go to the mosque, but I know someday I\'ll get there and you can too. Don\'t worry :)

If you have any more questions feel free to ask! Good luck :)

I'm not sure what is the right thing to do. I'll be honest, I know a lot of people don't like my boyfriend. We're both 22. He's difficult, can be very blunt/honest, which seems mean, and he went through a period last couple months when he was depressed; you know how it is to be around people who are depressed. He hasn't exactly been the funnest to be around. He lost a lot of his friends and even my friends know that he wasn't doing well. A couple of times that he was at my friends house he sort of acted antisocial and sat in the corner. They told me this was annoying and created a poor atmosphere and that they miss hanging out with just me. I told them he was having a hard time, and they seemed to understand, told me to talk to him about it. There was also a conversation we had unrelated to him in which they told me that they didn't want me to invited random people to their house unless I asked.

Now about the event, these same friends who are two sisters and one other girl just graduated. Their family of the two sisters who are good friends of mine is in town and the day of their graduation they invited me to a party at their house after, the same day last minute. Since I asked who was going and they said them their family and boyfriends and our other friend I didn't think twice about not going with my boyfriend (since I had already made plans with him before they invited me and felt bad telling him to go home because I had other plans). I talked to him before and he promised he wouldn't act antisocial or badly. Well I live 30 minutes away and it was 10pm at night when they said to come over, I already was tired but I thought these are my good friends, I'll go for them. We started driving and as soon as we got there we were about to walk upstairs and they found out I was with him and told me that they never invited him and they thought I was clear not to bring people over without asking them.

This is true I should have asked, but I honestly thought they were talking about random people not my boyfriend who I do a lot of things with. I knew they felt like he was kind of creating a bad time but I didn't think they didn't want him around. I told them that. And then told them I could turn around if it was a big deal. And they responded "We didn't think we had to spell it out for you, we don't want him here because of what we talked about before and my family is here so you can come but not with him" so I had to turn around and drive back home 30 minutes lost a total of an hour and my feelings are really hurt. I would never do that to someone.

Am I wrong? Were they wrong? I'm not sure how to feel... Yes I understand it is their party and I should have asked, but I can't help but feel really upset that I drove there for them and they told me to leave. I know he's not the most fun person, but he is not an asshole, he is not disrespectful to other people. He is just quiet and doesn't talk that much because he is not that happy in his life. He doesn't want to be this way. He has made progress and he is afraid of ending up alone because people don't like him. He just has a hard time with relationships, but he is a good person. I feel like I am losing my friends because of this, it is really frustrating and I'm not sure how I should respond to what my friends did. Talk to them, don't talk to them, what is the best thing to say to them, should I let them know in upset and what is the best way to handle this? I could really use an outsiders advice on what seems right....

I want to applaud you in doing your best to help your boyfriend with a tough time. I know it can\'t be easy, but you are doing your best. I\'m sure he loves you for it. I don\'t think you\'re in the wrong here. Your intentions were good. You wanted to party with your friends and when they said that their boyfriends would be there you assumed you could bring your\'s. Of course you could have asked, but it happens. You probably were excited to hang out and have fun; it happens. You have a right to feel hurt though because you were trying your best.

I would say that you should try to plan get togethers that allow you to hang out with your boyfriend and different friends (not the two sisters and one other girl just graduated) separately. I think your friends could have handled the situation better, but let\'s give them the benefit of the doubt, since I don\'t know them. You should enjoy time with your boyfriend and hang out with other people with your boyfriend so he can build new friendships. If you only hang out with just him, then he\'ll feel lonely when you\'re not with him. It would be best to help him build new relationships so that he can be happier. Then when your friends ask you some place without your boyfriend you won\'t feel bad leaving him behind. And who knows maybe over time when your boyfriend starts feeling better your friends won\'t mind him joining from time to time. However, if they continue to be rude, maybe you will have to decide if they\'re worth keeping? (Let\'s hold off on that for now).

I hope that helps! Good luck!

I am a female aged 21 and have recently started going out with a guy who regularly calls me a slut, whore, worthless and tells me how he doesn't trust me around any males but yet he tells me he has never loved anyone the way he loves me and he wants to marry me.

Long story short I went out with a guy for 2 years and he broke it off with me as he had been seeing another girl. A month later I had sex with one of my older friends (he knew my ex). A month after that I got back with my boyfriend.

We lasted for a year until I ended it with him for reasons of no trust etc due to what he had done before. About a month later I had sex with the same friend again.

I told my current boyfriend about my past history and he finds it very hard to deal with. He constantly tells me how he can't trust me around anyone. He asks me to send him photos of where I am every half an hour so he knows I'm not lying about my whereabouts.

He sends me messages such as (sorry for the vulgarity in some of these messages):
I bet you looked at his nice hard c*ck and loved it
You f*cked a guy who knew your ex
You wanted him to f*ck you
I find it funny that you aspire to be a mother one day
You really are a dirty sl*t
You used to deserve to get treated better but now you don't
You ruined yourself by f*cking him
Stop saying you're not a sl*t and face up to what you are
You f*cked up and you have to face the consequences
You are a disgraceful human
You are a f*cking whore
You just wanted his c*ck inside you

Do I deserve to get messages like this? I have only had sex or done any sexual activities with my ex, my friend and now my current boyfriend so I always thought I was a very good person.

He also has issues with the amount of guys that I have kissed which is 12. He hates that I have kissed three guys that I met on nights out (separate nights). One I dated for a while but the other two I never spoke to again.

I don't know whether I just hung around with people with no morals but I thought up until now that I was well behaved.

Do I deserve to get treated like this?

First I want to say, regardless of how much he says he loves you, from what I\'ve read so far, all the things he says falls under the lines of verbal abuse. Now you might say, what...no that can\'t be verbal abuse... Some examples of verbal abuse are as follows: Calling you names and putting you down, Telling you what to do and wear, name calling, accusing and blaming, and even checking up on you due to trust issues. Sound familiar? I\'m not trying to be rude here, but I just want you to see that what he\'s doing isn\'t normal and is abusive. It may not leave physical scars, but he is hurting you emotionally. No one deserves that... Honestly...I would say to get out of your relationship because this man is not treating you right at all. You should NEVER be with someone that constantly hurts you or makes you feel bad. You\'re worth so much more than that. Don\'t you dare let what he says influence how you see yourself. You don\'t deserve this kind of treatment. You need relationships that makes you feel happy and improve your life. I would say to end the relationship and block his number...if he\'s this way to you now...it\'s not going to get better. Will it be hard? Yes, but you need to take control of your life and you need to be happy.

Feel free to message me anytime for more questions!! Good luck, and remember it\'s not your fault and you\'re awesome :)

I mean is it all like "unholy"? I know that black magic is like witchcraft but whats white magic? Will it get you sent to hell? I have been thinking about this since I read "Jays Journal". Also are spells considered witchcraft?

To be honest, I don\'t really know too much about black magic. I think for starters, you have to believe in it above else. I personally don\'t however I don\'t think I would ever try it. If you are religious I would suggest to not even try, i mean why tempt fate especially if it\'s in your belief right? With my limited knowledge on the subject I would think that spells fall into witchcraft especially if they are in anyway evil.

I\'m sorry, I don\'t know much about it. I hope that answers your question

my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand?

I apologize for the late reply. Coronary heart disease (CHD) is a disease in which a waxy substance called plaque builds up inside the coronary arteries. These arteries supply oxygen-rich blood to your heart muscle. It takes years for this plaque to build up and cause abnormal blood flow. You can see the severity of this because if parts of your body or your heart do not get blood then they are in trouble. Here is a picture for you to see the difference between a normal artery and one filled with plaque: http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/health-topics/images/atherosclerosis_2011.jpg

I have some links for you that explain this pretty well: http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/health-topics/topics/cad/

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/coronaryarterydisease.html

I hope you are seeing a doctor because they can really help you with this. Best of luck :)

Yes. I am 5'5 and I weight just 90-93 lbs. I used to weight 95-98 lbs but when I got my wisdom teeth pulled I couldn't eat a hole lot so I lost quiet a bit of weight. I was wanting to know if I should exercise on top of eating certain food with protein an fiber. Also, what are they types of foods I should eat to help me gain or also how many calories in a day should I eat. My ideal weight I would like to be at is about 100-105 lbs.

There are 3500 calories in a pound. So ideally you will have to gradually eat that many in excess to gain the weight you want. Eating food high in calories will get you your results faster, however would be bad for your health. So you can try to simply add more snacks to your diet to add more calories.

I got a job at buffalo wild wings and they want me to come in tomorrow to do an observation shift. Please help me out on what I should wear. For both my interviews there I wore some nice jeans and a nice shirt with flats.

Make sure to wear comfortable shoes in addition to matching what the employees there wear. So if the employees are wearing khakis, wear khakis. Also it would be best wearing your hair back if it is long and having your fingernails trimmed. Good luck!

How can you tell if a name is Italian?

You can search the meanings of any name online and often the origin of a name. It'll be the easiest googling the name and adding "origins of ___ name" or something similar.

Hi ladies! What ways have you found to lose weight as quickly as possible without causing yourself any harm? I could really use your help. :)

You will first have to cut out as many sweets or fatty (not the healthy fats!) food from your diet. This will ensure that you will not gain any more weight. So have an apple if you feel hungry. Keep fruit salad in the fridge and eat it when you get the urge for something sweet. Have carrots with low fat dressing. When eating a sandwich take out a layer of meat and substitute it for lettuce and two more pieces of tomatoes. Reducing your caloric intake is really important. It prevents you from packing on more weight. In addition if you reduce your calories while still getting the vitamins you need then your body will start using the reserves (aka the fat!)

Now that you will make sure you will not gain any new weight, let's deal with the weight that you are trying to get rid of. It will be essential that you exercise every other day! You will exercise one day and let your muscle heal the next. Set up a plan. Following is a suggestion of what you can do. Add your own things and make it work. To lose a pound you have to work off 3500 calories (assuming you're doing a good job not gaining more weight)! That's a lot! But, it can be done.

Cardio is important so every other day you might want to try running for 10-20 minutes. When those are done you should stretch for 5-10 minutes holding each stretch for 30-60 seconds. http://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/healthtool-basic-stretches

So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap!

Honestly, there could be a chance...But you really should get tested. It's best to KNOW then continue worrying constantly!

It's stupid how people in normal financial situations like me are walking 10,000 miles in autism awareness walks and my friend's grandma who is old is voulenteering in soup kitchens, and my PUBLIC school that is good but middle classed has an entire service club helping people but rich kids sitting on money bags spat at poor one's and saying how they hate their parents fit not buying them a third private island, and young rich men are too lazy to work long hours in a hot room claiming they are allowed to enjoy the money and nobody else can have it, and big private schools with fancy this, and fancy that can't give back, and my mother says that if we become rich she will give some to poor. I may live in a rich country but that doesn't mean everyone is rich. In my school's service club (green key) is currently helping a woman who can barely move. Why can't those with money to give?

I'm simply going to offer a different take to what you and the previous advicenator said. While it might seem like rich people don't help those less fortunate, we don't really know for sure in a person to person basis. Now I'm middle class, however I do know some really good wealthy people that help as much as they can. My boss' family for example does this thing every holiday season where our work place collects money to donate and he and his family triple that amount and donate it all. Now I don't know about you, but that's pretty amazing... I mean it's something I definitely couldn't do! Another example is this guy I met while volunteering. He was wealthy enough to have an Audi and like 20,000 DVDs. Yet together we started an organization to help feed the homeless people in our city. He provided a lot of the start up funds because I was incapable of giving so much. I made up for it with time. Now it's not to say the opposite isn't true. I knew one girl that was spoiled rotten and cared about only what she could buy (I've always gone to school with people of the upper class). I'm simply saying it's good to consider both sides of the argument. In addition you never know exactly how much someone has donated though time and money. For example, one year I didn't participate in the office donation. Now if that's all you knew then you might think, wow what a loser. She couldn't even donate a couple dollars. What they might not have known was that I donated about $800 that year to different causes. So you might not be seeing the whole story. Don't let some terrible people ruin your perception of everyone!

15f, So i cycle about 10 miles every day, and recently i have noticed my thigh muscle is a bit bigger and is sort of rectangular in shape (sort of). I really hate the way this looks and was wondering if there was any way to slim down this muscle?

I have some suggestions that could perhaps work. One is to look up exercises on how to tone your thighs. Another is that you should try to work out the other muscles in your thigh that are not being used as much. This might allow your thigh to have a rounder shape rather than square. In addition, you might want to look up different modifications to help target different muscles.

Hello advicenators,

I am going to be buying a "new used" car pretty soon. I got a new job recently and I will be able to afford the payments. Im looking to spend somewhere in the $18-25,000 range. I don't want to buy something I'll regret with that amount of money. I have never bought from a dealership before.

What are some tips? What are some things I should look out for (Any salesmen tricks I should be wary of, or extra things that I shouldn't be paying for?) I'm a girl in my 20s that knows pretty much nothing about cars (other than how to fill up oil and change a tire-the basics) and I totally expect to be taken advantage of when it comes to cars. I'm not stupid but there's a lot of car stuff I don't know.

So anything helps, really. I'm going to do some test drives this weekend. I've researched and decided on a couple of different makes and models based on extensive internet searches and reviews. I would like to be prepared before I go.

Thank you!

I recently bought a used car from a dealership as well and I'm very, very happy about my choice. One benefit is that you'll be able to get a nice list of repairs that have been done to the car in addition to having a short warranty when you take it home. I would when going to the dealership first look online at what they have to offer as well as the price. It's good to narrow it down more than the price point. For example do you want a compact, truck, hybrid and how much does it cost. Will this be a car you see yourself driving in 5 years? 10 years? With that type of investment you want something that will benefit you in the long run. Doing all this research may seem boring, but you can have a better experience the more informed you are.

Don't be afraid to look at as many cars as you can and search based on your lifestyle. You might be shown two cars of the same make and model. One might be a luxury model, while the others has only a few additions. Are real leather seats really that important? Is the addition of a Bluetooth something you would use daily? You might get excited when seeing a car with all the bells and whistles, but would it really be something you're just as excited about 5 years later? Personally, I don't care too much about the luxury items. I just wanted a car that was fuel efficient and ran great. I didn't want a car that would break down. Speaking of which, take into account the work that has been done on the car. Has this car been in an accident? Have all the parts been replaced? Have the tires recently been replaced? Did the previous owner bring the car in for regular oil changes? This information will let you know of future repairs you might need. I was lucky in that the car I bought has its tires changed not too long before I bought it. So at my last oil change, the mechanic said that these tires will last me a long time, they're almost good as new. Which was awesome because tires are expensive!

Scrutinize the car and test drive it. Does it drive easy? Easy to control? Do you feel comfortable in it? For example if say you're 6' then do you have enough leg room? If you test drive a few you will be able to compare the ease of driving. Is there room in the trunk for say your guitar that you often carry to practice? All of this should help you narrow down to make the car fit you.

Once you've narrowed down to say one or two cars, start to look even closer. Is that a scratch? Oh, is that a stain on the seat? Mention all of this to the salesman. Ask them if they will clean the upholstery or if they will touch up that scratch. In my case, there was a small dent in the hood and we got it so they fixed the dent and even touched it up at no cost. I even got free touch up paint. If there is something you don't like, speak up! It's ok to be critical because if they can't do something they'll say so, but you won't know what they can do for you unless you ask! Also, see if there have been any recalls with the model you are buying and have they fixed it? Look online to see how serious it is.

Lastly, haggle haggle haggle. More often than not the cars are priced higher to make more profit. Get them to lower the price! Let them know if a price is too high and even if it's directly in your price point don't let them know that! You can even give a slightly lower price just to see what they can do about it. If you end up 30 min taking about lowering the price, then it's worth the $500 they could lower. This is a good time to mention those small imperfections you've noticed about the car so that they would take care of it. In addition, some places have say an online deal (lower price for buying online) and a in-store price. Mention the online price because guess what, they won't get commission if you buy from online. But maybe they can lower it to that price? Mention some freebies. The guy I bought from even upgraded my mats at no cost. So rather than giving me the cheap thin ones that came with the car, I got those amazing thick all weather ones. I mean who knew that was even possible right? I even got a full tank of gas. Nothing hurts to ask.

When you purchase the car, then start looking up the care for it. That's what I did. For example, see how frequently people need to replace this and that. Learn everything about your car. Learn how to change a tire on it, where the spare tire is kept. Don't miss oil changes! You can also get your tires rotated at oil changes. They help them last longer. Learn what's under the hood. Look through your manual.

I hope that helped! Good luck!

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is there any way to lose weight fast without hurting yourself?

There are lots of ways! In fact, currently I'm trying to be more healthy as well. It's a challenge but I'm excited for the results. I've answered a question similar to your's before and here is the response for that:
There are a couple things you need before you will start your life changing plan: Dedication, Patience, and Determination. Whitout these things, you can't expect to go anywhere.

Get your mind set on loosing weight and getting healthy! Know the consiquences and the rewards. Take a deep breath and start!

You will first have to cut out as many sweets or fatty food from your diet. This will insure that you will not gain any more weight. So have an apple if you feel hungry. Keep fruit salad in the fridge and eat it when you get the urge for something sweet. Have carrots with low fat dressing. When eating a sandwich take out a layer of meat and substitute it for lettuce and two more pieces of tomatoes.

Now that you will make sure you will not gain any new weight, let's deal with the weight that you are trying to get rid of. It will be essential that you exercise every other day! You will exercise one day and let your muscle heal the next. Set up a plan. Following is a suggestion of what you can do. Add your own things and make it work.

Cardio is important so every other day you might want to try running for 10-20 minutes. When those are done you should stretch for 5-10 minutes holding each stretch for 30-60 seconds. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)

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