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Question about Islamic relationship with husband
I am a woman working overseas. My husband is the same nationality as me, but he was raised in the Middle East. His roots are deep in his country of birth. I think he resents the fact that I work and he does not have a job. His age is past the age where employers hire. I tried to give him the right to make decisions and hold the income, but it does not work perfectly. Yesterday I was in my home and a neighbor told my husband on the phone he was coming over. My husband opened the door but I was not decently dressed and the neighbor saw me. I am upset because I asked him to close the door and he didn't. The neighbor saw me in a tank top with my hair in a ponytail. He looked too.
Do I have the right to expect my husband to honor my dignity? My husband says he is sorry, but I think he says this to avoid any discussion.
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It's difficult I think for people to change their mindset to be more current with the times. There is nothing wrong with you working especially since your husband is having trouble. You should try telling him here and there that you're proud of his efforts and that you don't blame him because it's tough, especially if you know he's trying hard. It's understandable that he is a bit down due to the fact that he wants to provide. It's hardwired into men to want to provide for their family. But maybe reminders to him every now and then about how important he is or how hard he is trying will help. It might sound silly, but asking him for help on small things (or big) will make him feel needed and important.
You should 100% expect your husband to respect your dignity. You should try to tell him that you're only upset because you only want him to see you like that and not anyone else and that you don't want others to see something only meant for HIM. If it's never happened before then maybe it was an accident. If it happens again though you should really talk to him and try to let him know why exactly this is making you uncomfortable.
Best of luck :)
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