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< I am a Christian and I am a mother >Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.
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so my high school friends and i have been friends for a while now, but theres this girl in our group of friends that always tends to start drama. this girl that usually starts drama is one of my good friends, and we were pretty close for a time,but then as graduation started coming closer my group of friends and i started to distance from her because we felt that things were always one sided, she was always with her boyfriend and we felt that she didn't want to be friends with us anymore. After graduation , we pretty much cut ties from her during the summer. But one day during the summer, we went to the mall, and we saw her and her boyfriend there and it was kind of awkward, cause she saw us, and in a way i guess she felt betrayed. We exchanged small talk and that was it. Then yesterday night, the group and i went out for sushi and went to my friends house later to watch a movie. We were all talking about her and how it was so weird that she doesn't seem to care about us anymore. and we all decided that i should text her and see if she answers. She didn't answer until the next day, but when she did answer i asked her if she was mad at me. and she said that she was and that she shouldn't have deserved this. She told me to try and be in her shoes, and how would i have felt if i saw her hanging out with the group of friends at the mall, but no one invited me. And i apologized to her and said that i wouldn't have felt too great if that happened to me too. While i was texting to drama girl, i texted one of my friend Sarah the conversation, and she told me that i should just tell her that being friends needs to be two sided, but in this case we felt that it was being one sided and we didn't know she wanted to be friends anymore cause she never kept contact, and that if she wanted to hang out she should've texted us. And i told her that. And then she started telling me her side of the story and said how she always felt Sarah stole our close friendship from us because she felt jealous and then as soon as we stopped being close me and Sarah started to be close, how no one really hung out with her at grad, and how she's felt Sarah is always hyporcritical, how she feels like I'm always following orders and wishes from them, instead of being friends with her. and how when she wasn't invited to the one of the girls birthday party and she had to find out from others. And i guess instead of defending my friends, i just said that i am sorry if you felt hurt, and that i miss us being friends,and that if you still want to be friends with the others then you should address them, if it is your choice and i don't want to be caught in between.i still want to be friends with you all, and if that means that we have to have our friendship separate then I'm fine with that. and so she agreed. and now we're good now.
And so i told my friend Sarah that her and i are good now, and that i told drama girl that if she wants to be friends with the rest, then she should address them cause i don't want to be caught in between. But she didn't she didn't answer, but i know she read it. and so i texted her again , and she was like"chill I'm busy right now"
i felt like it was a slap in the face.
I don't know, like in this friendship, I'm always the one to hear both negative sides of the story, one from the group, and then one from the drama friend. I always feel that I'm stuck in between.And while i understand both parties, i really don't want to get involved. and i just want to be friends with all of them.
I feel like I've offended Sarah now... and i'm afraid that i'm gonna lose the group because of it. I'm starting to question if i did the right thing , to just forgive and forget drama girl, and be friends with all of them .....
is this even worth it, cause honestly i feel like i'm in elementary picking sides.
If you enjoy the company of the drama girl you don't need to answer to anyone else about who you are friends with. Make time for your friends separately and if someone doesn't want to be your friend because you're friends with someone else they aren't much of a friend. Friends are seasonal. As you get older you will see this more and more. People you were once incredibly close with may one-day be a distant memory and there is nothing wrong with this. We all change develop new hobbies and interests that will lead new people into your life and others away. Don't feel guilty and just do what makes you happy as long as you aren't hurting yourself or others. There is something special about drama girl that the others are missing and perhaps it's pure jealousy over your time. It's unfortunate but friendships can be full of jealousy and drama like relationships with boyfriends. Just stop worrying about others and focus on your own happiness.
16/ female hi okay so a couple of weeks ago I wasn't even sleepy and I was on the phone with my boyfriend at about 11 pm laying in my bed and all of a sudden I blacked out and has this really weird overwhelming feeling in my body that I can't explain and then my heart and chest was heavy it was hard to breathe and then I could finally see but I couldn't talk or move, at first I thought someone broke in and i was being beat up or I was shot or just plain dying I didn't know, and then when I finally came too I was crying my eyes out and my boyfriend thought it could be sleep paralysis because he's had that before and yes there was a lot of the symptoms correct to it being sleep paralysis but they weren't all there and I wasn't even asleep. It kept happening about every other night for about a week and then stopped not being as bad but again last night I was sitting on my couch about 10 pm and it happened but all that happened was I opened my eyes and I had that weird overwhelming feeling through my body, I could barely breathe I couldn't talk or move even tho it felt like my muscles were moving. I was seriously convinced I was dying and I kept thinking over and over if I'm dying ease hurry and let me die because it was a horrible experience! I really need help someone ease help me with this! I give stars thank you !
You need to go to the doctor NOW! This is not normal this is scary even for me to read. Please go to the Emergency right now! I hope it\'s nothing serious but who can know without tests done. Please please go to the hospital now!
My cat is overweight and is having issues cleaning herself, mostly her back. I've taken to giving her baths every few months. It's hard though, considering shit doesn't like me and struggles a lot which leaves me sore afterwords. The sat time I gave her a bath a few days later I noticed matted hair. I assumed she rolled into something and planned to get it out with a bath but I've been busy and haven't been able to. It's a few months later and the matting has grown to more clumps, so I'm guessing it's not her rolls in something. These clumps are thick. My dad and I just finished cutting the clumps off as much as we could, but the 'root' is still there and seems nearly impenetrable. How could we get this out without going somewhere? I'd rather just go somewhere and have a groomer take care of it but my dad is unwilling. I suggested soaking her and slathering tons of conditioner on the matted parts and trying to slowly and gentally comb through after awhile of soaking but that was also turned down. Same with suggesting a disposable razor. He's afraid of cutting her. Anybody have any suggestions? Sorry this is long.
Your cat needs to go to the vet and soon. Matted fur can cause serious infections for a cat and it sounds like your cat is to the point where there are no other options. I would suggest trying Olive oil in the mean time. You may also try looking up online the dangers of matted fur and show your dad to see if he might change his mind. Assuming it\'s just a price issue for your dad maybe there is someone else willing to pay the vet bill. If you have a Facebook account you might even post an update explaining your problem. There are many animal lovers out there that might own a pet shop grooming store or vet or someone who knows someone willing to do the service free of charge. After you get your cat taken care of its important that you stay on top of proper grooming. You don\'t want your cat to go through this again suffering or in pain.
I have had bladder pro-lapse surgery 6 weeks ago. I am 53. I tried to have sex and it hurt and bleed so much I had to stop. Will my vagina stretch back out some at accommodate a large penis?
6 weeks is a very short time. Give it a few more weeks even a month before trying it again and when you try again use a lot and I mean a lot of lubrication. Have him take it extremely slow and gentle for as long as it takes for you to be pain free and at ease. It\'s going to take some time. Even those who have never had surgery can have pain and bleeding from vigorous sex. So just don\'t rush things. Everyone is different as is their healing time. But you will get there eventually just don\'t do too much too quickly.
i did sex wid my g.f i just rubbed outside but i dono whetehr sperm gone in or not..i dnt want her to b peragenent ...yestrday she got he period i did xxx on 5th may now also chances is their to get peragnent???
I couldn\'t understand the last part of what you wrote but it didn\'t sound like she could be pregnant. However, it seems you are too young to be having sex based solely on your writing and lack of knowledge on the subject. Please don\'t continue with these sexual acts until you can at least know mite about it. While I\'m sure you are a kind person the last thing you need right now is a child. So focus on school please.
So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL!
Sorry but companies don\'t generally do this. I\'m not aware of your age, martial status, or financial situation but assuming you are in the United States every state has a family support division and WIC program. WIC will provide you with food and formula. The family support will provide cash you can use to buy diapers and wipes. They will also provide food stamps medicaid and childcare if you are disabled working or attending school. However you have to make under a certain amount of money to qualify for these services. The family support division will also have numbers of charities in your area that might give you clothing and other baby care needs. If you aren\'t working and you aren\'t married or have no one to help you make sure you stay on top of all appointments meetings interviews and anything else you need to have or do to receive the help. Don\'t put this off. Get started right away and follow through. It\'s much easier to now then it will be after you have the baby. Don\'t rely on any free samples or coupons these are not reliable or sufficient resources. These are simply marketing tools or advertisements to get you to buy whatever sample they give you.
19 Year Old Female
I met a guy in the beginning of the year of college. We started talking then at the end of the semester it kind of stopped out of nowhere. We came back the next semester and he had a girlfriend. Of course I was mad was mad, but eventually I got over it. I'm not going to lie it took a while but I did. He eventually broke up with her, and I was fine with where we were. Out of nowhere he sent me a text and we started back talking. Then one night he came over and he asked why we stopped talking. We found out that night that for some reason we both thought we did something wrong so we started back again. Trying to make a long story short (even though it really is) I was a virgin and I wanted to have sex with him. From the moment we started talking I knew he was the one. He was everything I wanted head, to toe, to personality. This happened the last month of us being in college. We had great times, and we had no label but we knew what we were. Nobody knew, and thats how we wanted it. But then he told me he wasn't coming back the next year and my heart sunk a little, but I pushed it to the side. But now it really happened and we said our goodbyes and I miss him like crazy. I'm tearing up while writing this. He was like my first everything and I knew this might happened but not this hard. I know long relationships really don't work, plus the temptation is a little more frequent when your apart. But I want to know is it because he was my first or can I really have feelings? I was use to waking up with him by me at least 5 times a weeks and now I probably won't ever see him again. How do I get over this? Do I let this ride out, or is there anything I can do? Any suggestions are appreciated. This is so hard. Thank You.
Although it really hurts right now honestly you should take this time to meet other people and discover life and who you are. There are so many other interesting people out there and places to visit don\'t settle and limit yourself to the first thing that seems right. I promise you will get over him as you b have before and you will feel you have met \"the one\" dozens of times before settling down. I understand he was your first but I think you will only end up hurt and stressed out trying to maintain a long distance relationship. Now don\'t get me wrong. You might still want to be friends with him and meet up every so often but don\'t commit yourself limiting your life experiences you deserve to explore. Relax and enjoy life. Tomorrow is another day. Your broken heart will mend and happiness will return with that exciting butterfly in your stomach feeling all over again. . . And again
So Im 16 ive been with this guy for months. And I really like him. But lately everythings been off. We haven't talked in weeks. So I mssged my ex telling him I still like him. Which I do. And then it hit me that my bf might be busy, so now im not sure what I should do. Because im panicking. My boyfriennd has been my guy bestfriend for years, I would hate to lose him because I messed up. :( pls help.
I wouldn\'t worry too much. If you haven\'t talked with your boyfriend in weeks I would wonder if he even still considers himself in the relationship. Since you are still interested in your ex why not contact your current boyfriend and let him know that since you haven\'t spoken in weeks you feel it\'s probably best if you go back to being best friends. Explain that you really value his friendship and would hate to lose that due to a failed committed relationship. My guess is that he feels the same since he hasn\'t called. Trust me, his lack off communication is not due to being busy. Guys make time for what they want. I\'m 100 percent certain he could have made time to send a couple messages at least. So don\'t feel bad in the least. You\'ve done nothing wrong. But whatever you do don\'t mention that you have feelings for your ex. Telling him that could ruin the friendship. It\'s none of his business. Just be sure to break things off with no question about it before getting back with your ex. Once the breakup is clear make your move and enjoy life.
Hi, I'm 19/F. I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend of almost 2 years now but our relationship has been kind of private due to my parents. They are not allowing me to start dating until I get at least a bachelors degree but I love my boyfriends so much. He wants me to tell my parents about us so do I but I'm scared that they'll get mad and start drama. His mother knows about us and I just want to be able to tell my parents about anything. What should I do?
Don\'t tell your parents until you are ready. Their reactions to what you say is something only you have to deal with not your boyfriend so while he wants you to tell your parents it\'s not him who will suffer the consequences. Although you are an adult as long as they are providing for you financially they will continue with their expectations. They only want Whats best for you. As most parents they just want to shield you from aanything that might have negative consequences. If you are content with your relationship and are able to maintain the relationship without disclosing it to your parents then why say anything and upset them. Now if you are constantly having to sneak around and fear getting caught living in edge every moment of your life then it just might be easier to tell your parents. If you are at the point where you are fed up and just want them to know I think you should make sure your grades are up and that you are doing well in every other area of life so that when you tell them they can see that being in the relationship is not interfering with your studies or other life goals. However if your desire to tell them is based solely on pressure from your boyfriend then I would hold off and take more time to decide if this is something you truly want to do.
My dad is a jerk. My mom had to stay with him while going through medical school because she had us kids. She couldn't leave him bc she had no money and no place to go. I just know that during fights he gets violent and he's rude and doesn't help. Recently there was a brush fire. I was transferred to another middle school, my sister to a different elementary, and other sister (high school) was let go. My dad just left home to go to work when this happened . My mum called and told him to pick us up because my mom had to get things from the house and evacuate. InsteAd he tells her she can do it and continues to work. Bitch. My mom instead calls my friends mom and asks her to pick me up. We meet up at a buffet. In see my group of friends and their moms and dads. The dads were all there for them. When we all were finally allowed back inside the house because they contained the fire, we found out My dad had invited his cousin to come and made my mom cook. When he left the fight started.he kept saying what did you want me to do and zere was nozing( stupid Arab accent) he's soo rude and these things happens. He is stuck in his Arab world. I hate it . Idk if it's my heritage bc all the American dads aren't like this. He never wants to come to my games. He always says he's too tired to do anything. All he wants to do is sleep. I hate it . But then an Arabic family were friends with has an active fun dad. It's messed up . He is stuck in the 18th middle eastern century. I don't want my mom to deal with this bs bc she wants us to have a good childhood . How can we change him? Bibb
I\'m so sorry you have to go through this you don\'t deserve it. unfortunately I don\'t think there\'s much you can do you can going to have how he is hurting you and how you feel about his actions you can also tell him how you feel watching other fathers interact with their children and explain how you\'d like him more involved. You should also explain all of this to your mom. She is the parent and although very difficult she is responsible for your safety as well as her own. If your father refuses to make changes it\'s time your mom think about her children first and find a safe and happy home for you. I know it\'s hard extremely hard in these situations but it\'s time she be strong and face the problems.Perhaps if you tell her how you feel that will be just what she needs to motivate her to make changes. She might be dealing with the hurt thinking that if she leaves you will be hurt or angry with her. I\'m sure she loves you so maybe now you two can come together and work as a team to demand he change or move away. Who cares where he\'s from or what life was like for him long ago. He\'s not a child hood time is up to do for himself. Times have changed and life is different now. He can\'t use any of that as an excuse to intimidate or abuse his family. Please be strong and be careful. You know his ways so please don\'t put yourself in a situation where he may harm you. If you think confronting him yourself may cause him to get angry and hurt you then talk with your mom and stress to her the importance making changes are for both you and her. Remember you are so special and incredibly important. You don\'t deserve this. No matter how hard life may be I promise things will be better one day. One day you will be able to make your own choices and have your own family. I just know you\'ll be a wonderful spouse and or parent. Just be strong and don\'t give up.
i need to lose weight in a month i need excersises that i can home and how many am i suppose to do i need to lose 20 pounds!!!!
Okay although extremely unhealthy with possible side affects and risks the only way to lose that much weight that quickly is to cut your calorie intake. Working out could actually add weight because of increased muscle. But you must cut your calorie intake by a lot. You could try cutting them in half the first week and see what the results are. If you lose 5 pounds in the first week then continue with that add after 4 weeks you will have lost 20 pounds. I have done this myself many times and it always works. However the day you go back to your usual eating the pounds will come flooding back quickly and more than before if you aren\'t careful. I warn you this is not healthy safe or recommended but losing weight this fast eating less is the only way. Exercise is always recommended with any diet but don\'t expect to lose weight quickly on exercise alone. Good luck and be healthy safe and smart about it.
Hey everybody as you probally know mothers day is next Sunday and I have no idea what to get my mom for mothers day because she is allergic to almost everything that has a scent to it snd I don't want to get her flowers be cause I just got her flowers for her birthday 2 weeks ago and I don't want to do the coupon book thing because I DLdid that last year for mother's day . If anybody could give me some ideas it would be greatly appreciated thanks in advance and I am a 25 year old female if that helps any . Thank you so much.
As a mother myself I knew we just want to know that our children are healthy happy and that we did a good job raising our children. Is there a place in your city you can go in a gondola ride? A nice relaxing ride and if you present her with a book of pictures of your child hood. Different events and happy occasions. Just reminiscing over the happy times your mom provided you with. Perhaps a horse carriage ride.
Im 16. so my ex boyfriend is dating another girl and she believes in no sexual stuff before marriage and he was the one I lost my virginity to when I was 14 and he was 17. i wanted to ruin the relationship so I told her that we had sex. So anyway she got really insecure. I said " I hear you're dating my ex, how do I taste?" Every time they kiss I think it's funny cause his mouth was on my vagina before and how shes getting my leftovers. every time she kissed him my friends said its like her kissing my vagina. Was that mean? do you think it stopped them her from kissing him? i had a boyfriend after him so I have moved on I just want to make my ex mad because he deserves it cause he is my leftovers.
You are not trying to just make your ex mad you are jealous of his new relationship and being very mean and hateful because you are hurt. Although you may have hurt his new girlfriend you are making yourself seem mean and easy. Who ever hears what you did will start thinking very negatively of you. Eventually you will get ab reputation of being easy to have sex with while the other young lady will have a wonderful reputation. Guys will only want you for sex but her for a real relationship. They won\'t redirect you at all. I think you need to apologize and try to save your reputation before it\'s too late. Trust me, at this point you are just the laughing stalk of the group. The guys are most likely qualifying about who\'s going to have sex with you next and comparing notes. I don\'t think that\'s what you are going for here. Don\'t you want more for your self?
Sorry this is so long :)
Ok so around a year ago a mate and I went to a park where we met a boy who's friends with my brother. We made out a bit and he asked me out, but i said it was too soon. We met up a again and made out and stuff. But after after a while we had completely lost touch of each other and went our separate ways, except i still really liked him. For the past year i've liked him so much and i always have dreams about him. Recently my friend and I have being going to the same park after school and he's always there. We hang out with 3 spanish boys and i can tell that my 'crush' always looks over, in jealousy i guess. Yesterday we were there and a group of boys came. they were talking to my 'crush' and he was saying how they "always meet up". My friend and i went to the bathroom and when we came back most people had gone. later on facebook the spanish boys told us that the group of boys had tried to start a fight, and were asking them why they always meet with us...I'm pretty certain that my crush turned his friends again the spanish boys, just because they were hanging out with me and my friend, but what does that mean? if he's that jealous to start a fight then does it mean he has feelings? or is he just doing it because he's annoyed that we're hanging around the place that he hangs?
Thanks for reading! :)
Btw my question is'nt very clear :S I just want to know what it means when he gets jealous and starts a fight with boys because they're with me?
Also i think i still really like him...how would i show him that i'm not interested in the spanish boys?
I\'m wondering why you keep referring to the group of boys as Spanish. Do they speak Spanish or are they from Spain. Is it unusual where you are from to see Spanish people? I have two thoughts on this. Either your crush definitely likes you or he may be racist. Or it could be a combination of both. If he is really interested in you and he\'s racist he might not want to be with you if he thinks you are friends with Spanish people. But on the other hand he might just be extremely jealous. Either way it goes I believe he definitely wants to be with you. If I were you I would confront him in a pile manner. I would simply ask what happened that day you went to the restroom. I would also straight out ask him if he\'s interested in you. Let him know how you feel and go from there. However be careful. If he is extremely jealous already you don\'t want him to be abusive towards you if you do get involved. Take things slow. Get to know him and his family and friends. Just please be safe.
Hi! I am from India 22/f. I have a bf.we are together since 2010. He is much older than me. He is sweet. But i cannot find any match between us. He is very orthodox by nature. I am littlebit modern than he. He cannot like girls/woman, except his mother and sister.he has a negative point of view on women. But he had a relation before me.and he also proposed me.so i can't understand his mentality.also he has a big issue with working women.he thought that those who(woman) work in office,she cannot run a family and grows child.his idle woman should be stay at home after marriage,bt do household work only.i am educated and want a good career.also a husband and child.i think woman can easily handle both the thing easily.but he can't accept it.although he never force me to do so,but when we discuss such thing.he told me this. I love him so i remain silent always.what should i do?? Does his point of view is normal??plz suggest me. Thank you.
You need to find a man with similar values and beliefs. I don\'t think you will be happy with him in the long run. He seems very close minded and I feel you will struggle trying to live out your goals while he looks down on your choices. I think the best thing to do if you really love him and if he respects you and loves you is to explain how you feel express the importance of your goals and dreams and see if he is willing to compromise and encourage you rather than discourage. If he is willing to try then that is great. If not you may want to move on.
I'm a teen girl and I just started a new school (I moved into a different state). I HATE the new school. It's not just that I'm not adjusted to it yet, but the school and the people there actually depress me. Don't get me wrong, they're very nice, but they're not my friends. My family and I move all the time so it's hard for me to make friends (we've moved about 11 times) and at the last place I made friends for the first time and then we left (I made friends because we actually stayed for a few years at that house). I'm not just a little upset, I'm actually depressed, drained of motivation, and I started cutting. In pretty sure that I've asked this question on here before but it's gotten worse! I need help. Simply thinking about going to the school makes me sick to my stomach and gives me a desire to cut my arms. What do I do?????
I\'m so sorry you are going through this. I lived through a similar issue when I started a new school in 9 th grade. I hated going to the point of crying just to think of having to go. First please stop hurting yourself. You are too special and important. Reading your question is heart breaking. I wish I could reach through the internet and give you a big hug. I care about you without knowing you. Just imagine others who are blessed to be in your life. Think how hurt they would be to know you cut. I don\'t think your family or friends are aware how all this moving and changing is affecting you. I believe your school has counselors who could talk through your depression. I think it would help a lot just to be heard. Just knowing another person cares and takes out time to listen to you I believe will help out some. Do you think your parents would listen if you explained how you are feeling? I wonder if they knew what was going on if they might try giving you a more stable life without having to move so much. But since you are in your teens at least you know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Soon you can make your own choices of where to live and you can maintain friendships better. Remember this is temporary. Life will get better but you have to stay strong. Try to stay connected with your friends with the internet. Just make the best of it. I know you want to guard your feelings by keeping distance with the people from your new school but try to open up So that life will be somewhat better. You might even find a friend in the same position. Maybe you can help yourself by helping others. You deserve better than this. I care about you and so do others.
Which thing is best as a birthday gift for my daughter (5 years old)?
It depends on her likes. Is she a really girly girl then I would buy one of those Barbie heads where she can style and cut the hair complete with the combs brushes hair dryer. Or maybe dress up clothes with the little dress up heals. If you don\'t have a lot of money you should focus on inexpensive but big. Kids love toys that are big. If she is artistic you could buy this really cool crayola jewelry designer thing. It\'s at Wal-Mart. I want it for myself it\'s so cool. The machine lets you melt whatever colors you choose on like a ring or bracelet etc. Wal-Mart also has this kit where you make things necklaces belts etc out of little colorful rubberbands. Give year old are at an age of creativity organization of their own belongings so think of gifts of unique creativity she canshow off what she created and she can keep it for awhile not just a one time use. I hope this helps.
A little background, my boyfriend and I are 24 and 25. A month ago he got his second DUI. He does not have the means to pay for a lawyer so I offered to help. I gave my card to him to give to the lawyer but I never signed anything allowing my permission and what not.
Anyway, today I find out my BF has lied to me for about the millionth time (my fault I suppose for sticking around). I became so livid and the first thing I could think to do was to text him and tell him I am canceling the payment to the lawyer. So, I e-mailed the lawyer and got the card canceled. I have calmed down a lot since and feel like the biggest bitch in the world for doing that. I feel that I overreacted and am looking for advice on how to fix it. Thought about emailing the lawyer explaining I just didn't want anything charged till I could read an agreement. I don't know what to do just feel bad for actually going through with it.
I understand my BF was in the wrong for lying but ultimately I could have reacted differently. Just need help please.
Thank goodness he's your boyfriend and not your husband it's not your responsibility to pay for lawyer fees to begin with. Please don't ever give your card to anyone again. Hes so young and already 2 dui's! You should really find someone more responsible who doesn't put the lives of himself and others at risk. I promise you this is just the beginning of a lifetime of shelling out money until you have nothing left. Trust me I've seen it time and again. Let this grown adult figure out his own way of paying his lawyer. He can get a job or two or three. You're not his Atm. Please stop while you're ahead. There is no such thing as overreacting when you are lied to. That's truly one of the worst feelings in the world.
Me and now ex, were together for 2 years. However, this past month we haven't been right, I wouldn't say we were even together, the amount of times we broke up in the month. A lot of arguing, I felt I was putting too much effort in and getting little back, I was the one chasing him after we broke up, begging to work things out and the way he were with me was clearly because I was putting effort in, so he felt he didn't need to as I put too much in. However, it's been 2 days since we last spoke, we had an argument and I told him I was going on a date and he told me to never text him again. I want to be in no contact as of today I would say, as I've been checking his profile so it doesn't count as no contact. I'm just wondering though, because I said I was going on a date, maybe he won't come back, he won't text/chase me because of that. I want to build my confidence and patience up, so I don't come off as needy anymore. I'm going to do 30 days of contact, but what happens if he never contacts me again? And what step do I take after the 30 days? Do I try with him after the period is over? My thoughts are luring in my head, I'm thinking if he does message me whilst I'm in no contact and I don't reply, he may think "forget her" and move on himself as I won't be replying. Has anyone got any experiences to share?
If you want to be in a relationship then work on being in an honest mature relationship. A 30 day no contact rule is non productive in building a relationship. You are simply prolonging the inevitable. If the scenario and 30 day rule you just described is typical for you there's no wonder he is distancing himself from you. It sounds like you are playing games and adding drama to your relationship. You need to keep it simple. Tell him how you feel and what you are looking for in a relationship. Then you need to allow him to show you how he feels and open up on what he is looking for. If you are both on the same page then wonderful. Put forth a sincere effort to be understanding compromising and put your differences aside limiting the disagreements and arguments. However, if he continues avoiding you or becomes increasingly distant it's time for you to move on.
I tried looking up fafsa student loans but got confused when it said I needed to know my "efc" but didn't say what that means. :( Can someone who has been to college already please help me?
That is asking how much money is your family going to put towards the cost of your school. Most people will just put $0 because the majority of families dont have extra money. However some families are able to put away a college fund. For example maybe they saved $4000 so you could say your family will provide $1000 a year for 4 years.
I hope this helps, and good luck in college!