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He Is Gone... and I don't know how to deal with these feelings.
19 Year Old Female
I met a guy in the beginning of the year of college. We started talking then at the end of the semester it kind of stopped out of nowhere. We came back the next semester and he had a girlfriend. Of course I was mad was mad, but eventually I got over it. I'm not going to lie it took a while but I did. He eventually broke up with her, and I was fine with where we were. Out of nowhere he sent me a text and we started back talking. Then one night he came over and he asked why we stopped talking. We found out that night that for some reason we both thought we did something wrong so we started back again. Trying to make a long story short (even though it really is) I was a virgin and I wanted to have sex with him. From the moment we started talking I knew he was the one. He was everything I wanted head, to toe, to personality. This happened the last month of us being in college. We had great times, and we had no label but we knew what we were. Nobody knew, and thats how we wanted it. But then he told me he wasn't coming back the next year and my heart sunk a little, but I pushed it to the side. But now it really happened and we said our goodbyes and I miss him like crazy. I'm tearing up while writing this. He was like my first everything and I knew this might happened but not this hard. I know long relationships really don't work, plus the temptation is a little more frequent when your apart. But I want to know is it because he was my first or can I really have feelings? I was use to waking up with him by me at least 5 times a weeks and now I probably won't ever see him again. How do I get over this? Do I let this ride out, or is there anything I can do? Any suggestions are appreciated. This is so hard. Thank You.
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Hey, you never know maybe after a while things will change and you can at least be friends again, but you both at a point in your lives where things change (and sometimes in ways that dont always feel good) but thats the beauty of life. It can take us all in a million different directions, and if the two of you are meant to be and your both still in each others hearts down the road, then whos to say you cant be together later on down the road?
I wouldnt chalk him off, just keep in touch, make sure he knows that you always care for him, and if he knows that, then if its possible, the two of you will be able to make it work somehow. ; )
good luck
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Yes,it is hard. He will probably always hold a special place in your heart and you will never forget him. If it is meant to be then he will come back into your life, if not then you have to move on and make a new life for yourself. It is so easy to lose yourself when you are in love and sometimes it takes a while to find yourself again when a relationship ends. You need to think about what you like and what is important to you and focus on those things. You need to bring things back into your life that are fun and enjoyable for you. Pamper yourself a little bit, you deserve it! If you don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself and dwelling on the pain it will ease up a lot faster. Get back out there, make some new friends and have the time of your life! You only get to live these tender years once so make the most of it!
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Although it really hurts right now honestly you should take this time to meet other people and discover life and who you are. There are so many other interesting people out there and places to visit don't settle and limit yourself to the first thing that seems right. I promise you will get over him as you b have before and you will feel you have met "the one" dozens of times before settling down. I understand he was your first but I think you will only end up hurt and stressed out trying to maintain a long distance relationship. Now don't get me wrong. You might still want to be friends with him and meet up every so often but don't commit yourself limiting your life experiences you deserve to explore. Relax and enjoy life. Tomorrow is another day. Your broken heart will mend and happiness will return with that exciting butterfly in your stomach feeling all over again. . . And again
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