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i messaged my ex's girlfriend to destroy their relationship?
Im 16. so my ex boyfriend is dating another girl and she believes in no sexual stuff before marriage and he was the one I lost my virginity to when I was 14 and he was 17. i wanted to ruin the relationship so I told her that we had sex. So anyway she got really insecure. I said " I hear you're dating my ex, how do I taste?" Every time they kiss I think it's funny cause his mouth was on my vagina before and how shes getting my leftovers. every time she kissed him my friends said its like her kissing my vagina. Was that mean? do you think it stopped them her from kissing him? i had a boyfriend after him so I have moved on I just want to make my ex mad because he deserves it cause he is my leftovers.
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No dear, you haven't moved on. Let's examine this shall we... you are still angry with him, you are contacting his girlfriend in a stalkerish sort of way and yes, you are being mean. I was your age once and remember feeling exactly the same way when my ex moved on. I hated every girl he dated (although I didn't know them)and I made sure to know what was going on with him and who he was dating (in a stalkerish sort of way)just like you are now. I hate to lay the truth on you because it's gonna hurt but you are NOT over him yet. Sometimes it takes a while but don't let it become an obsession. It only makes you sad and miserable and every one else will be whispering the word "cray" behind your back. My advice many years and much wisdom later, apologize to them both and get on with your life!
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Your question is was that mean?
Yeah, that was mean. The only reason you said that stuff is because you're jealous and wanted to be mean.
You're now tagged as the "crazy ex girlfriend".
I'm pretty sure it didn't stop her from kissing him. I'm sure they'll blow it off because a lot of people date different people.
I mean if he's your leftovers, then he can say the same thing about you and the next guy you're dating. I mean technically, you're his leftovers.
Anyways, when ex's do that kind of stuff like text the new girlfriend, everyone will think you're crazy. It just sounds like you're jealous. If you weren't, you wouldn't care about their relationship. But here you are, wasting your time trying to destroy their relationship.
Time to grow up honey.
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Clearly your NOT "over" him if you had sex with him when you were 14 and your not currently 16 because you had the time and energy to waste, to go and text or call his current lady and tell her some shit like that.
If being around him and his new lady in anyway (even because you have the same mutual friends still) you shouldnt be around him at all, and ask your mutual friends to stop bringing him up to you.
Hes an ex for a reason, stay away from him first off. Secondly, i dont even know why your over here asking us if you know whats wrong when im pretty sure you already know what you did wasnt right.
and i agree with the other posters that you need to stop this, i DO understand that your ARE doing what a 16 year old would best, cause i was that age at one point and i get the strong urge to do something that vengeful. this kind of thing also leads me to believe that not only are you not over him but you ended things with him on bad terms, because had you not, you wouldnt have felt the need to take the time to do something like this.
Save yourself the bullshit and just let it go. Let the relationship hes in with that girl (if its bad) go bad on its OWN, you dont have to intervene and "help it" any ok?
the world knows how to take care of people better then you do, so its only a matter of time if things are gonna go down hill for them.
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You are not trying to just make your ex mad you are jealous of his new relationship and being very mean and hateful because you are hurt. Although you may have hurt his new girlfriend you are making yourself seem mean and easy. Who ever hears what you did will start thinking very negatively of you. Eventually you will get ab reputation of being easy to have sex with while the other young lady will have a wonderful reputation. Guys will only want you for sex but her for a real relationship. They won't redirect you at all. I think you need to apologize and try to save your reputation before it's too late. Trust me, at this point you are just the laughing stalk of the group. The guys are most likely qualifying about who's going to have sex with you next and comparing notes. I don't think that's what you are going for here. Don't you want more for your self?
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Yes this is mean. Some question " Did you think the boy you dated after never had a girlfriend?" What if she were to say the same things to you when you were dating him? Yes its mean and it is not nice at all. I'm not sure if you are writing this because you feel sorry about it, or you wanted validation. Either way karma is a bitch, and I only hope that it doesn't hit you too hard. I would apologize, and ask for her forgiveness. Its up to you, but to answer your question you were not only mean but also being a vengeful. Good luck with whatever.
Lillian Garvin
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Of course it's mean. That's why you did it. That's the only reason you did it. You did it to be mean.
It's the kind of thing a crazy person does.
Maybe it did cause trouble in their relationship. Maybe, they are both strong enough, honest enough and sane enough to shrug off your little texting tantrum. No way for us to know. But I do know this: Everyone who knows what you did thinks you are a crazy person. A vengeful, petty, horrible human being, who might not be entirely mentally healthy.
That's what this behaviour makes you look like. It makes you look awful, and possibly a bit unhinged.
Stop this. It's full of hate and no one deserves what you are doing or what you are saying.
It is hateful to call someone 'leftovers', as though they have less value just because they made the choice to have sex with you. You are slut-shaming him, and insulting yourself by acting like someone who slept with you in the past is now trash.
If he was abusive to you, go talk to a therapist. This isn't the way to deal. If he's just a normal, sometimes screwed up, ex-boyfriend, smarten the fuck up and act like a decent human being. Everyone screws up sometimes, but make this your last some time, because if you keep down this road you might just turn into the awful person you are acting like you are.
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