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Hey, it's Ali...If you've got a question...go on and ask!!! Now here's some stuff about me....

The A-Z's about ME!

A~ Alina Langolf
B~ Birthday 11/26/90
C~ Cats~~~ Flik and Fidget
D~ Dead Poetic~ my favorite band!
E~ Emily~ my bff
F~ Family~ Dad Mom Me Bro
G~ God~ the most important person in my life
H~ High School~ I am a freshman this year
I~ I Love you!
J~ Jack my only brother
K~ kinda wierd....but it's ok
L~ Loving someone special
M~ Movie~ Alex & Emma, Chainsaw(lol)
N~ Nicknames~ Scubbbbaaa(hehe) Big AL
O~ Our Saviour Lutheran, my church
P~ Port Huron Michigan, where i live
Q~ quiet...sike!
R~ Right~ always do what is right
S~ Soccer, MY sport
T~ time, something i don't have alot of
U~ U Need to rate me
V~ Volleyball, MY other sport!
W~ Work? i am trying to get a job
X~ X-tra love...that's what i am ALL about lol
Y~ yesterday~ don't worry about it! it's a new day
Z~ Zodiac~ Saggitarius


Here to Help

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Hey, I've been using tampons for a little while now and it's kind of weird! Are you supposed to feel a little uncomfortable wearing them if there still new to you? Do you think they feel that way because it's not up far enough or something? I know I put it in right, but I still feel a little discomfort when there in! What's wrong?

If you put the tampon in right, than you should not feel anything. Possibly you are not putting it in far enough. If there is still discomfort, maybe you should go to a doctor.

Hope I Helped...Alina

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If a person is 14, do u think their 2 young 2 have sex?

Personally, I think that it is too young...but if you have found the "right" guy and you feel ready than go for it!
Just make sure that you use protection!

BE SAFE....Alina

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im 13 and a girl and i want to do alot of things like make out with guys and maybe in a year or so have sex with a guy. but 1. im scared im a bad kisser. 2. i dont wanna get pregnant and 3. i havent found the right guy to do any thing with...what should i do?

First of all I think that you need to aks yourself..Why do i want to do stuff with guys? I mean really why are you rushing it. If it is because you want to fit in or w/e that is NOT a good reason.

And you shoudl always wait for the right guy. And don't worry about being a good kisser, good kissing comes with expierence.

Hope I helped......Alina

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This guy that I really like, who likes me too is stationed in Iraq. I am just so worried for him! It scares me knowing he is out there. How can I calm my nerves and not think the worst will happen?

PRAY! ask God to protect him while he is over there.

There is not much else you can do!

Hope I Helped......Alina

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If you use a condom, can you still get an STD?

Yes, b/c condoms aren't 100% effective!

Hope I Helped........Alina

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ok so there is this guy that 15 and im only 13. I really like him alot and he said he liked me also. Thats not the problem. He is really experinced in doing stuff like kissing and he knows how to be sexy and romantic. i have nver kissed a guy and he thinks i have. he wants to do "stuff" with me like get a blow job an make out and stuff like. I want to but i dont know if its right i mean b/c im soo young. Do you think i should just like make out with him and not have sex or anything? what should i do??

You should do whatever you are comfortable with. And if you want to make-out than go ahead and od it. If you feel nervous tell him and if he is that expierenced he will be able to help you out a little. After you get the hang of it than it's a piece of cake. With the sex issue i say you wiat..just b/c of the age differnece.

But just do w/e you are comfortable with!

Hope I Helped........Alina

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Well theres this guy who i was friends with then we started dating. Me and him were the best of friends and when him and my friend were dating i was always there for him to talk to him and all that, now that we had broken up we really dont talk anymore, i love him alot but only as a friend and he loved me too as a friend until we broke up, when we were friends i cpuld talk to him about anything and he was always there for me but the whole dating each other didnt work and i am afraid i have lost a really really good friend, i have asked him if we could go back to how things were just being friends and helping each other but he just tells me no and he dont wanna talk about it. what should i do i want him back as my friend if nothing more?

This is the exact smae scenario that happened to me! So you can trust me on this. Give him time, you two were obviously close befrore you dated so eventually he will want to be able to talk to you. But when you date a friend it is a slow burning relationship. and after you break up it takes awhile for the pain to pass. And things will NEVER be the same between you two. Just know that.

I say that the best thing you can do right now is give him time. But don't push anything.

Hope I Helped.......Alina

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Ok, I'm wondering if ladies find me or people like me sexy! A little about me, I'm 5'10" 160 pounds, I'm a punk/sk8r, I'm a very random funny person(as known from other question), and I have been told that I am very sweet. I'm also starting a christian rock band, in which I will bethe singer. I've been told that I have a beautiful voice. so how many ladies would find me sexy?

AWWWW! i think that you sounds extremly cool and sweet. Whick in turn can make you extremly sexy. I personally love the skater type who are in bands...and humor is a good quality to have. Plus, the fact that it si a christian band you are in, just tops off your charm.

I would really like to know more about you! email me at notaperfectgir_99@hotmail.com or chat on aim at Scuba AL 123.

Hope I Helped.....Alina

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Hi she I met this gurl at a place called Teen Camp , but see we became really good friends practilly best friends, but she lives in TN. My other friend who used to be my best friend is made at me bc all I talk about is my other Best friend..... What doI do???
PLZ HELP

Well tell your "old" best friend that you are allowed to have more than one best friend. But make sure that you don't completly ditch your "old" best friend...after all she has been there for you.

Hope I Helped.....Alina

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i'm 12 and i started my 1st period june 15. i heard u were supposed to get it every 28 days and i'm about a week late if that's the case! could i be pregnant, i mean i havn't had sex, but could i be? plz help!

Well when you first get your period, you are not always reguler. Some girls get there period once, and than don't get it for another 6 monthes or so. It suxs to have it be so irregular but, eventually it will come every month.

Hope I Helped........Alina

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I have auburn/light brown hair and I want to temporarily dye it. I've been told Kool-aid will work on blonde hair.. but will it work on darker hair? My natural color is almost black... so that might have an effect too....

What color of kool-aid should I use on my hair.... and will the kool-aid wash out...

my parents wont let me dye my hair permanently again... so I need something that will wash out in the next day or two....

Please help me!

Well, I really don't reccomend kool-aid. B/c my hair person told me it dyes your scalp. So long after it comes out of your hair...your scalp will still be red, orange, purple, etc. So i suggest you get some hair spray on color or paint-on at the drugstore.

Hope I Helped........Alina

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hey..im 5'6" and 134 pounds is that to overweight?

Hey,no that is perfectly fine. You sound very healthy to me. I hope that you don't feel fat, b/c that is a waste of time. You should be confident and be sure of who you are. After-all there is only ONE of you!!!!!

Keep it real

Hope I Helped........Alina

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my best friend is really kewl and everything but she's stubborn and she wants to have sex but she just turned 14 and she doesn't even have a boy frined but how do i talk to her about the dangers and stuff?
signed,
confused

Well I went through the same thing with one of my friends. It isn't always a fun conversation to have. But you just need to tell her that it is a very special moment and that she wait untill she is absolutly sure that she is ready!
And let her know that there is a lot of pain involved....maybe that will cathc her attention. But if she is determined to have sex than she will do it, but don't worry there is nothing you can do about it after she has already had it.

Hope I Helped.......Alina

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Okay herr it goes.. My best friend is haveing a swimmin party at her house. On the same day i get my peroid. It would be my 2nd period ever so is therr a good chance i won't get it cause i'm not on a regualr cycle.. or ami most likely to get it? i'm a pad wearer.. i'm swichin to tampon in bout a year or so..so i really done wanan try 1 but i have to go kuz she's my best friend.. wut do u all think..
Signed,
Help!

Yeah, there is a chance that you might not get it. but the thing is that you might get it also. So i think since she is your best friend you may have to give tampons a try a little sooner than you want to. if you put them in right than there should be no problem at all.

Hope I Helped....Alina

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well im going to florida for a week and im leaving tommorow and i havent gotten my period when i was supposed to and i dont kno when it will come and i will be swimming a lot because it is florida and i cant wear tampons the whole time can i ? because i didnt think u were sposed to do that .What should i do?

You can wear tampons while you are swimming. But you need to change them alot so that they don't leak and you don't start smelling and stuff.

Hope i Helped....Alina

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What would you do if you found out when you and your boyfriend broke up that one of your good friends went over to his house and they ended having sex and when you asked both of them about it they said no...then the next time you asked they tell you that they did and how sorry they are and they wish they could take it back... Please help me im really hurt about this because it happend just 2weeks ago and i found when i was back together with him..?..

Well i say that you dump both the friend and the boyfriend. b/c it is really not right what they did. And if they did it once there is no saying that they couldn't do it again. or your boyfriend couldn't do it with another girl. Plus the fact that they lied about it, breaks all trust!

Hope I Helped......Alina

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here i go:
okay my best friend...."Nancy"....well we have been friends for about 3 years and well we have a lot of fights about stuff!! we just recently had a fight and she said "we have 2 many fights" and she hasn't been talkin 2 me a lot usually she is the one approachs me and says "hi" but now i'm sayin "hi" only she won't talk 2 me!! i said 2 her okay u wanna b like that fine so i haven't talked 2 her!!! what should i do?? she is gettin on my nerves and she is actin like a child, i am 2 mature for this kind of childish behavior!!! Lemme Kno!! :)

xoxo,
.*.BeSs.*.

It sounds like you maybe you two don't understand each other. Everything isn't simple anymore. i think that you should tell her that you are too mature to deal with this childish behavior and that you are willing to talk about the issue. But know that most people only have one good friend that they keep their whole life....maybe she is not that friend.

Hope I Helped........Alina

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My social life is like a roller coaster. Sometimes I won't have any plans for a month, and then other times I'm hanging out with people twice a day and then again at night, but every time I fall into a slump I find myself turning to drugs as a way back into the social scheme. This is how things go most of the time. I'll have more or less no friends. Then I'll buy some weed or something, talk to some folks and they'll want to go get high with me. Some of my other friends will see me hanging out with people again and want to go downtown or to a movie with me, then im done with the drugs. With my social life back on track I usually meet a girl and then I tend to get really caught up in that and the rest of my life suffers, when the relationship is over i find myself back at the start and thinking about doing drugs again. Even when I don't meet a girl something usually has the same effect, sports, school, something like that. Anyone have any ideas of how I can keep my social life on track without having to resort to drugs?

It sounds like maybe you over-do it some days. Maybe instead of hanging out with people all day long and then again at night...spend only a few hours with them. Then tehy will hang out with you on other day also. I think that maybe you wear out your welcome, even though you don't mean to.
About your girl problems. Just know when you date a girl, this is not the girl you are goign to marry. You are still young, and you should date differnet people untill you find "the one". Don't let them get you down b/c you are your own individual person and you shouldn't need the support of other people to keep you from being depressed.
About the drug thing, think about it this way. After you get high, you moe or less get friends. If you have to get high to get these people to hang out with you. What kind of friends are they? maybe you should try and find friends that will always be there for you, and that won't let you do drugs..they will help you stop doing them.

Hope I Helped........Alina

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Well I'm going withtwo guys at the same time!!I love both of them and they don't know bout each others presence.But the thing is that I don't want any of them to come to know!!Could u plez advice me on how I can go out with both of them at the same time??

don't go out with both of them at the same time. It's not fair to either one of them. I think that you should take a break from both of them and see who you miss more.

Hope I helped......Alina

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I've been really close with this guy, for a couple months now..we became best friends, without a doubt..He has a lot of girls that are friends, and that has always sort of pushed me away from gettin close to him, because i keep gettin hurt by him, soon I fell for him, head over heals, without a doubt.. I told him how I felt, he used to feel that way, but he moved on, he likes someone else..he LOVES someone else.. Me and him got into a fight, he was joking around, said something hurtful, I took it offensive.. very offensive.. And I fired back, I cussed him out..And he's the holy type, doesn't believe in swearing, he turned me into that too, but there's only so much I could take. I was sick of being his doormat, I was sick of taking crap from him.. I told him that (with a couple of swear words) ..I lost him for good, It's been a month with no talk, or anything..And he was my everything.. I would have given anything for him to be happy.. And I guess he is, but..im not... he was that guy that would cover me up if i was cold, or if my hair was in my face, he'd brush it to the side, and if i was crying, he was concerned.. I don't know what to do, im nothing without him..For a long time, i thought i wasnt good enough.. and i started throwing up bcuz i thouht i was too fat, but i stopped.. and i was depressed..but i need ur advice

Well let me say for the record that no guy shoudl ever make you feel self-conscience or depressed. They are jsut guys and there are plenty of them in the sea. BUT i know that love can hurt like HELL! And yes maybe it was good that you kept your distance to avoid getting hurt, but once you fall in love there is NO turning back. The swaring may nto have been the best thing, but it was a mistake and if he doesn't forgive you then it is his loss.

But about the fact that he loves someone else, you can not blame him for that. None of us can control what our heart feels. Just like you fell in love with him...he fell in love with her. Yeah, i know that is NOT the way it was supposed to work out. But eventually he may come around.

For right now though, i say that you work on getting the friendship back. b/c that is the most important thing. Many people will come in and out of your lives, so if you have just one true friend than you are very well off.

And the last thing is that....don't waste any time being self conscience!!! it is A BIG waste. Be yourself and be confident in who you are!!!

Hope I helped.....Alina

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